Since this is probably my last full week on this blue hellsite of pain and angst for a few months, I’m gonna put this out there.
If someone is a multishipper, let’s respect that shit and not call them out about it because we don’t like it. Scroll on by, blacklist it, and just ignore it. I’m not one to get multishipping but I don’t think it’s a bad thing either. It doesn’t mean you don’t love your couple/couples. Heck it means, that you are lucky to have some other option you can enjoy.
Robert and Aaron are broken up. They are. We don’t know how long for. People need some way to cope with that. So let them. Understand that and respect it.
If someone is a monoshipper, let’s respect that shit and not call them weak or mock them (now I’ve not seen this but I see people taking about this so I’m going to put it out there) for feeling hurt about seeing people they go to for love of their ship/solidarity not sharing their pain. Robert and Aaron broke up. Two weeks ago. It’s still really fresh for a lot of people. They are coping by trying to remember that love and couple. Finding fic and like-minded people and just holding on to hope. So let them. Understand that and respect it.
(This isn’t in reference to the bi-phobia issue, which does exist, but more about people’s coping mechanisms. That issue is entirely separate and one I’m not getting into.)
In other words, tl:dr, we should all just stay in our lanes. Ignore the content that bothers you. Go rewatch the story from the beginning. Blacklist ships that bother you. Ignore content you don’t like. Be kind to people who are really struggling. IGNORE CONTENT YOU DON’T LIKE. (See what I’m doing there…) Remember, that it’s a soap and while it is a coping mechanism for many of us, we have to not let it get too deep.
Breathe. Relax. Eat a snickers. Love each other. Make fic. Make gifsets. Make love not discourse. (I’m so sorry, Bess, lol, I had to!) Create videos. Go find something else for the next three months. Talk to your mutuals about it. Root for your OTP. Enjoy your multiple ships. Do whatever it takes to get by, and remember to afford others the same.
Reminder that the hurt party is not always in the right. Emotional abusers use hurt feelings to manipulate their victims. Sometimes people really do overreact. Sometimes the hurt one is wrong.
People do often belittle emotions and use them against people with legitimate and accurate complaints, but that doesn’t mean the all complaints from people who are upset, even deeply upset, are legitimate and accurate.
“All feelings are valid” should not mean “your feelings are always an accurate representation of what is really happening.”
As far as the Malec argument goes, I can understand both sides.
Alec thought he was doing the right thing by not telling Magnus and probably didn’t want to put that kind of strain on him because he’s still very vulnerable after what happened with Valentine. Also he is a shadow hunter and has a job to do so I can understand why it’s difficult. However Magnus is rightfully upset with Alec, he is still in a bad place mentally and clearly has trust issues in general (not surprisingly given his past) and he has just opened up to Alec about things he has told no one else so yer I’m not surprised he feels betrayed and hurt. Call his words a low blow all you want, he’s hurting and he lashed out verbally which is common in an argument. (and also something Alec has done previously.)
Anyways I think the argument may also not be a bad thing. It is healthy to argue and get everything out in the open and as both Matt and Harry said at the con, it can only make them stronger.
im so tired but saying ace ppl arent lgbt isn’t saying their identities aren’t valid. you can still support ace people and hope for them to have a productive community that has the resources needed for ace specific issues while acknowledging that being ace without experiencing same gender attraction doesn’t make you lgbt. the lgbt community isn’t a catch all for “outside of the norm” orientations, it’s always existed to combat transphobia and homophobia. the lgbt community’s resources and goals should used toward issues that impact trans people and people who experience same gender attraction. while obviously there are people who are both ace and lgbt, it’s okay to have different communities to serve different needs
So, our last voice project got a crazy good response and @lightsintheskye seemed really happy with our work, SO! WE DECIDED TO DO ANOTHER FOR FUN. This one was a little more difficult to complete, but it was worth the work! Hope you enjoy!
Warning: Gets a little loud at times and contains swearing, however, its best heard with headphones!
Voices: @taidatenshi as all Toon Links, @goat-boi-dubs as Ocarina of Time!Link and Breath of the Wild!Link, @vowgan as Twilight Princess!Link, and now introducing @actornoj as Skyward Sword!Link and A Link To The Past!Link!
venezuela’s problem isn’t socialism it’s the fact their social support systems were funded almost exclusively with national oil revenues during a period when oil prices are falling and iirc their currency exchange mechanisms being totally broken
tbh i’m sick of every lesbian or sapphic story in books and tv shows being like… two rich white lesbians from new york… especially when it’s presented as being relatable… there’s a shortage of lesbian and sapphic stories in general but in terms of the ones we do have, i can firmly say about 90% of them are based around white, able-bodied, rich, conventionally attractive, etc. lesbians. like…. there are lesbians in ukraine… in uruguay… in thailand… most of us don’t look like supermodels, we’re old and young, some of us still have acne, some of us are fat, some of us have disabilities. most of us are poor, or working class, or struggling to get by. even if our countries aren’t wholly (or aren’t at all) accepting of us, for some of us our family and culture is very important and for others not so much. but even if a country isn’t accepting of gay people or gay rights doesn’t mean that a story about women loving women set in that country can’t be interesting or empowering! i can tell you now as a black swedish lesbian the percentage of lesbian stories i can fully relate to: 0%. lesbians and wlw who don’t live in the usa, who aren’t white, who aren’t rich or totally able-bodied and healthy deserve representation just as much as like.. the niche of white american lesbians currently being catered to.