Listen… Twitter is currently aflame with ace discourse the likes of which has only just finished burning its way through Tumblr, and I have absolutely no time for that reductive anti queer lib gatekeeping whatsoever, so to all my ace followers, firstly: you are cool and rad and you all have great hair, and secondly, here is are a few ace books that you can lob at the heads of acephobes (this is not an exhaustive list, just the best ones I know of):
Hearts Tolstoy - Kathryn Ormsbee. A YA novel about Tash, who, as the title suggests, loves Tolstoy. When her web series goes viral, one of her online heroes reaches out to her, but she’s not sure how he’ll deal with her asexuality. This book is hilarious and just great.
- Ace and Proud: An Asexual Anthology - A.K. Andrews. This is an anthology of 17 essays by asexual people, covering various facets of the ace experience. It’s a pretty short book at just over 100 pages so a good primer for anyone who wants to understand or feel less alone.
- Gender Queer - Maia Kobabe. A graphic novel memoir about the author growing into eir nonbinary ace identity. It brilliantly explores the reductive nature of binary thinking and is one of those books that’s expansive, illuminating and necessary (all the big words.)
- Let’s Talk About Love - Claire Kann. A YA novel about a girl whose gf dumps her when she comes out as ace, and how she tries to cope with her crush on a boy when she’s already been rejected for her sexuality. It illuminates so much of the ace experience and is just excellent.
The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality - Julie Decker. Essentially a primer on asexuality, this covers so many bases - misconceptions about what asexuality is, how acephobia/aphobia manifests, how the ace spectrum works. A great resource for further understanding.