the youth group

anonymous asked:

I did a play with a local theatre youth group every year from when I was 7-18, and when I was 14 the director got drunk at the wrap party, and as he was leaving cornered me and just, put his hand on my face. He stroked my face for two moments too long, in front of everyone, but because he was "just Marty" it was ignored. I masturbated to that memory for a month. Please help me write a version of that memory where he really did what he (and I, in a dark corner of my teenaged mind) deeply wanted?

He asks you to stay back a little longer after everyone leaves to discuss the production just so he can get you alone. As soon as everyone leaves he grabs your face again and plants a kiss on your lips, you nervously kiss him back feeling his other hand grip your bum.

"Have fun" should not be a rule

A lot of summer camps, youth groups, and other activities have a “have fun” rule.

The implied message is usually: This is a fun place. If you’re not having fun, you’re doing something wrong. Fix your attitude and have fun doing the fun activities.

Sometimes “have fun” rules are explicit. Sometimes they’re more implicit, and come in forms like: making people sing a song every day about how much they love camp, announcements about “we’re all having so much fun!”, or whatever else.

The problem with this is: nothing is fun for everyone. People have the right to feel how they feel about things. It’s really degrading to tell an unhappy person that they should just feel some other way.

“Have fun” rules are especially problematic for many disabled people.

Because — most programs are not fully accessible, even when they think they are. Most of us expect to encounter activities that are inaccessible in ways that make participation impossible — or that make them no fun.

And often, initially fun activities are ruined when someone treats you in a degrading way or says something awful about disability.

Being left out when everyone else is having fun is bad enough. When there’s a “have fun” rule, it’s even worse. Not only are you hurt by the exclusion, you’re told that you’re violating the rules by being hurt and unhappy.

“Have fun” rules make it really hard to solve these problems, because they make it risky to admit that you’re not having a good time.

“Have fun” rules make problems harder to solve, even when the problem has a straightforward solution. All the more so when the problem is complicated. (Or only has a partial solution.)

“Have fun” rules actually make things a lot less fun.

anonymous asked:

I’m not trying to be inflammatory, I’m just curious. How do het ace/aro people face SYSTEMATIC oppression? Gay/bi/trans people face oppression like difficultly adopting children, finding housing, they may be fired from employment because of their gender or orientation. So they are bared from normal parts of live because of their gender/sexuality. Gay ace/aro people face this too, but what do het ace/aro people experience on a societal level?

If you’d been following my blog at all or even bothered to peruse it a little before dropping this message in my inbox, you’d probably already know the answer to your question. 

You’d ALSO probably know that there are bi and pan aspecs too (e.g., I’m panromantic demisexual) which isn’t “gay” (does this term also include lesbians?) so I feel like your ask erases part of my own identity and that of others in the community.

For these reasons and more, I’d bet money that you’re not here because you’re “curious”. You’re probably here because you figure this is how you’re gonna stop a “self-imposing” aspec from speaking up for herself. 

Well guess what: That’s just hateful & sad.

Regardless though of your intentions, I’m here to say that there is in fact SYSTEMATIC oppression against aspecs. For example, Dr Gordon Hodson wrote this about his 2012 study: 

In a recent investigation (MacInnis & Hodson, in press) we uncovered strikingly strong bias against asexuals in both university and community samples. Relative to heterosexuals, and even relative to homosexuals and bisexuals, heterosexuals: (a) expressed more negative attitudes toward asexuals (i.e., prejudice); (b) desired less contact with asexuals; and © were less willing to rent an apartment to (or hire) an asexual applicant (i.e., discrimination). Moreover, of all the sexual minority groups studied, asexuals were the most dehumanized (i.e., represented as “less human”). Intriguingly, heterosexuals dehumanized asexuals in two ways. Given their lack of sexual interest, widely considered a universal interest, it might not surprise you to learn that asexuals were characterized as “machine-like” (i.e., mechanistically dehumanized). But, oddly enough, asexuals were also seen as “animal-like” (i.e., animalistically dehumanized). Yes, asexuals were seen as relatively cold and emotionless and unrestrained, impulsive, and less sophisticated.

When you repeatedly observe such findings it grabs your attention as a prejudice researcher. But let’s go back a minute and consider those discrimination effects. Really? You’d not rent an apartment to an asexual man, or hire an asexual woman? Even if you relied on stereotypes alone, presumably such people would make ideal tenants and employees. We pondered whether this bias actually represents bias against single people, a recently uncovered and very real bias in its own right (see Psychology Today column by Bella DePaulo). But our statistical analyses ruled out this this possibility. So what’s going on here?

If you’ve been following my column, you’ll recall that I wrote a recent article on what I called the “Bigotry Bigot-Tree” – what psychologists refer to as generalized prejudice. Specifically, those disliking one social group (e.g., women) also tend to dislike other social groups (e.g., homosexuals; Asians). In our recent paper (MacInnis & Hodson, in press), we found that those who disliked homosexuals also disliked bisexuals and asexuals. In other words, these prejudices are correlated. Heterosexuals who dislike one sexual minority, therefore, also dislike other sexual minorities, even though some of these groups are characterized by their sexual interest and activity and others by their lack of sexual interest and activity.

This anti-asexual bias, at its core, seems to boil down to what Herek (2010) refers to as the “differences as deficit” model of sexual orientation. By deviating from the typical, average, or normal sexual interests, sexual minorities are considered substandard and thus easy targets for disdain and prejudice. Contrary to conventional folk wisdom, prejudice against sexual minorities may not therefore have much to do with sexual activity at all. There is even evidence, for instance, that religious fundamentalists are prejudiced against homosexuals even when they are celibate (Fulton et al., 1999). Together, such findings point to a bias against “others”, especially different others, who are seen as substandard and deficient (and literally “less human”). “Group X” is targeted for its lack of sexual interest even more than homosexuals and bisexuals are targeted for their same-sex interests.

From news coverage of a recently published study (2016):

What should the average person take away from your study?

Since I first became interested in the issue, I have come to conclude that U.S. society is both “sex negative” and “sex positive.” In other words, there is stigma and marginalization that can come both from being “too sexual” and from being “not sexual enough.” In a theoretical paper, I argued that sexuality may be compulsory in contemporary U.S. society. In other words, our society assumes that (almost) everyone is, at their core, “sexual” and there exists a great deal of social pressure to experience sexual desire, engage in sexual activities, and adopt a sexual identity. At the same time, various types of “non-sexuality” (such as a lack of sexual desire or activity) are stigmatized.

For this particular study, I identified thirty individuals who identified as asexual and asked them first, if they had experienced stigma or marginalization as a result of their asexuality, and, second how they challenged this stigma or marginalization. I found that my interviewees had experienced the following forms of marginalization: pathologization (i.e. people calling them sick), social isolation, unwanted sex and relationship conflict, and the denial of epistemic authority (i.e. people not believing that they didn’t experience sexual attraction). I also found that my interviews resisted stigma and marginalization in five ways: describing asexuality as simply a different (but not inherently worse) form of sexuality; deemphasizing the importance of sexuality in human life; developing new types of nonsexual relationships; coming to see asexuality as a sexual orientation or identity; and engaging in community building and outreach.

I hope that average people would take away from this study the idea that some people can lead fulfilling lives without experiencing sexual attraction but can experience distress if others try to invalidate their identities.

Some of the social isolation we aspecs experience comes from religious communities. Indeed, the popular myth that religious people revere aspecs is very much NOT TRUE. For example, read “Myth 8″ from the VISION Catholic Religious Vocation Guide:

MYTH 8: Religious are asexual

Question: What do you call a person who is asexual? 

Answer: Not a person. Asexual people do not exist. Sexuality is a gift from God and thus a fundamental part of our human identity. Those who repress their sexuality are not living as God created them to be: fully alive and well. As such, they’re most likely unhappy.

All people are called by God to live chastely, meaning being respectful of the gift of their sexuality. Religious men and women vow celibate chastity, which means they live out their sexuality without engaging in sexual behavior. A vow of chastity does not mean one represses his manhood or her womanhood. Sexuality and the act of sex are two very different things. While people in religious life abstain from the act of sex, they do not become asexual beings, but rather need to be in touch with what it means to be a man or a woman. A vow of chastity also does not mean one will not have close, loving relationships with women and men. In fact, such relationships are a sign of living the vow in a healthy way. Living a religious vow of chastity is not always easy, but it can be a very beautiful expression of love for God and others.

Religious women and men aren’t oddities; they mirror the rest of the church they serve: there are introverts and extroverts, tall and short, old and young, straight and gay, obese and skinny, crass and pious, humorous and serious, and everything in between. They attempt to live the same primary vocation as all other Christians do: proclaiming and living the gospel. However, religious do this as members of an order that serve the church and world in a particular way. Like marriage and the single life, religious life can be wonderful, fulfilling, exciting, and, yes, normal. Yet, it also can be countercultural and positively challenging. It’s that for us and many others.

If you thought religious life was outdated, dysfunctional, or dead, we hope you can now look beyond the stereotypes and see the gift it is to the church and world.

NOTE: YOU CAN BE A GAY CATHOLIC PERSON BUT NOT ASEXUAL, BC ASEXUALITY DOESN’T EXIST (yet somehow we’re also “most likely unhappy” and “oddities”). I sincerely hope and believe that not all religions characterize us aspecs this way. But here are some personal accounts I found on a reddit site answering the question “Do any religions have a negative stance toward asexuals?”:

Please note that the Christian pastor in the last example was fearful (or something?) that an asexual was helping to lead a youth group and kicked them out of the church as a result.

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I’ll never forget the day my religious education teachers did purity class and had us all describe our ideal man and his virtues and wrote them out on the board then well-meaningly but condescendingly asked if we believed we currently deserved a man like that.

Like. Do good women deserve good husbands? Do bad women deserve bad husbands? What about mediocre women? Do they automatically get dispensed a bad one for not being good? Did anyone think this crap through before they made a lesson plan out of it??

hey let's talk about Bitty in church

Please reblog this edited version!!

Pretty much the only talk I see about Bitty and his probably-Christian-upbringing is in reference to homophobia and trauma.

It’s really easy to forget, especially for folks who weren’t raised heavily Christian, that if you’re raised Christian from a young age, you had a LOT of different experiences in the church before the whole homophobia thing reared its ugly head.

Let’s talk about Bitty in Sunday School. What stories stuck with him? Does he still have old dusty copies of Alice in Bibleland? Does he still get Veggie Tales songs stuck in his head? How many of his awkward teenage moments happened in Youth Group Camp? Did he ever try to learn guitar to help with Youth Group worship? Does he have nostalgic memories of Easter Egg Hunts? Was his church the type to have a special service for the kids/teens on Sundays or did his folks tell him in the normal sermon to “practice being bored”? What did his Sunday Best look like? When did his folks start letting him choose his own shirt and tie? Was he baptized as a baby or later? What was that like for him?

Let’s talk about Bitty’s Christian upbringing in a way that isn’t all about the homophobia. Thanks.

Sincerely,
A Queer Kid of a Pastor (so don’t come at me telling me I don’t know what it’s like being gay and raised in church)

i’m sketching out the finer points of a fic where dennis comes out and he and mac start dating but dennis is concerned that they’re not doing the whole “gay” thing properly and that they don’t have enough “status” in the “community” so he signs himself and mac up to volunteer with some lgbt youth, and i guess the community centre is just understaffed enough that they allow mac and dennis to run the tuesday night lgbt youth group all by themselves, and it goes about as well as you can imagine. one girl asks if mac and dennis can give her a ride to goodwill on the weekend to get some feminine clothes and dennis explains that goodwill is full of bedbugs and diseases and they take her on a shoplifting tour of forever 21 and claire’s instead. a boy comes in upset about his father refusing to let him see his boyfriend, and the very next morning that dad walks out to the curb to find his tires slashed and his windows shattered and a single log of poop sitting in the middle of the driver’s seat. one girl is sad because she doesn’t know where to find a girlfriend and mac and dennis take her to a sold-out tegan and sara concert (i.e., sneak her in through the stage door in an elaborate disguise) and proceed to wingman her all night by pretending to be her overenthusiastic gay dads.

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Egyptian Journalists Say The Government Blocked Websites To Silence Unfavorable Coverage
“The state simply wants to have full control over all the media until the elections are over.”
By Maged Atef

Egyptian authorities have blocked nearly two dozen news websites, targeting publications that have been critical of the government, a move local journalists say is aimed at controlling the coverage of the regime ahead of next year’s presidential elections.

The country’s state-run news agency MENA announced on Wednesday that 21 websites were being blocked in the country because they were “supporting terrorism and extremism” and “spreading lies.” Egypt’s independent news site Mada Masr, Qatar-run news channel Al Jazeera, HuffPost’s Arabic edition, and local Egyptian publications like Araby21, Rassd, and Egypt Window are among the websites that have been banned.

“This is not the typical Egyptian regime attitude,” Lina Attalah, the editor-in-chief of Mada Masr told BuzzFeed News in an interview in Cairo. “We are used to facing troubles with the regime since we have always chosen to write the stories they don’t like to hear. We are used to being arrested or have cases filed against us, but blocking us is a new thing.” Mada Masr, since its founding in 2013, has regularly published critical stories of the regime in both English and Arabic.

The blocking of the websites comes one day after the arrest of prominent human rights lawyer Khaled Ali, who had announced his intent to run as a candidate against President Abdel Fatah el-Sisi in the 2018 presidential elections. Authorities in Egypt have targeted activists from Ali’s Aish We Horreiya — “Bread and Liberty” — party, and arrested at least 36 people in 17 cities throughout the country from five opposition parties and political youth groups. Many of the arrested have been accused them of insulting Sisi on social media platforms.

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URGENT PRAYER REQUEST:
Tonight a teen walked up to me before youth group and I could tell he was new. He introduced himself and we started chatting.

It turns out that he is Muslim. He showed up to our youth night tonight after a friend invited him and I asked him what he was looking for? He simply said “community”. He went on to explain that he’s not sure what he believes in anymore but that he longs to be a part of something great and he sees how is best friend is so crazy for Christ and this boy longs for that.
After the night ended I asked him if he plans in coming back and he said “definitely”.

Pray for this teen! The Lord is doing something beautiful in his heart. Pray that he opens up a little more and let the Father do what He does best…love.

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Heath High School Shooting

On the 1st of December 1997 in Kentucky, Michael Carneal walked into Heath High School with a rifle and shotgun, which he passed of as an arts project. Carneal then shot at a youth prayer group, 3 people were killed whilst 5 were injured. After the shooting, Carneal surrendered his weapons and said, “kill me, now please. I cant believe i did that”

It’s believed Carneal was severely bullied, leading him to have paranoia. Months later he was diagnosed as a paranoid schizophrenic and was hospitalised.

The victims parents believed porn, The Basketball Diaries and Natural Born Killers had an influence. Also in Carneal’s locker was a copy of Rage, by Stephan King. A novel in which is about a school shooting.

In 1998, Michael Carneal was sentenced to life

idk what this is besides mostly crack (canon) that @skamforfaen and i discussed abt some things vilde might say, and do once she eventually!! becomes comfy with her sexuality. 

  • isak and vilde!!! yes gay pals!!! they’re going to be like “that’s homophobic” whenever something minorly inconveniences them and laugh so hard and everyone else is just “?????”
  •  i can imagine vilde sayin that first with the squads and then everyone’s “ …???…” and then isak goes all mock serious and “didn’t u hear her??? that IS homophobic smh”
  • *water bottle falls down on the floor* “well, THAT’S homophobic”
  • *gets bad grade on a test* my teacher is homophobic”
  • imagine sometimes how it just slips out at the worst of times bc vilde suddenly gets really into lgbt history/negative stereotypes and suddenly becomes really educated and she just, thinks everything is homophobic and oppressive (is she wrong tho)
  • “can that server tell i kissed my gf today??? Is that why my meals late? This is blatant rude homophobia im going to talk to the manager!“ 
  • and eva’s there like “vilde, we just kissed 2 minutes ago.” - “i know that eva! but our food is late! she’s homophobic!”
  • “vilde, you cant blame everything on homophobia.” - “and why not eva???” - eva gives her a look. - “well, you might not see the blatant disregard heterosexuals shoot our way because we are a same-sex couple eva, but i do! would a straight girl have to wait 10 extra minutes for her salad if she was with a boy?? i don’t think so!”
  •  "vilde it was one time and she gave u a valid reason.“ - “well we’ll see abt next time hmm." 
  • next time ends up being 2 days later and this time vilde ends up with no cutlery. "see eva, what did i tell you? homophobia.”
  • one time vilde says “as a gay,,” in isak’s presence and he chokes on air
  • “vilde,,,, you cant just- you cant just say that!” 
  • “and why not, isak?”
  • “you- cant-you- just- you just cant!?”
  • "i don’t have a problem with it isak. i’m gay. you know,,,, the stigma attached to the label can be very dehumanizing and hurtful but the more we use it the more it becomes ours and the less people can hurt us with it bc there’s nothing wrong it, is there isak? i like girls and you like boys and people just have to accept that.”
  • just give me isak and vilde learning from each other and gradually becoming friends and supporting one another (even tho it takes time to get there, vilde is forever thankful that she’s got isak and vice versa tbh)
  • just imagine vilde getting all philosophical and progressive once shes really comfy with herself.
  • just imagine vilde, isak, even and eva bonding over their sexuality and forming a group within their group!
  • pls vilde would so join “skeiv ungdom” (lgbtqia+ youth group), she’d be the fucking LEADER of skeiv ungdom oslo and organize all these pre-games and parties and demonstrations .  
  • she’d make sure its the safest place for everyone and just like with her first kosegruppa meeting, she’d make everyone do exercises and get to know each other and have introductions and make sure people use each others correct pronouns. 
  • and sometimes they play games or talk about their experiences and also the joys of being gay and how it gets better and how these groups are supposed to create a supportive place to talk and relate to one another but to also have fun and Hope.
  • some days they talk about certain lgbt topics and they vote on which one to dicuss first. e.g. compulsory heterosexuality, coming out, links between being lgbt and mental health, support networks, history, icons, songs, etc. 
  • and sometimes new members come in so they do this thing where every week they introduce each other again by their name, sexuality (if they want) and something good they want to share with each other that happened to them in the last week
  • sometimes people who’ve been coming to the meetings from the beginning end up introducing themselves one day but for the first time, actually coming out as well. so the constant introductions give all the members the option to come out when they feel comfortable or sure, bc not everyone in the group is out or labels themselves.
  • even is definitely co-leader along with vilde, she asked him specifically bc she loves the way he talks to people and the two of them have had numerous educational and supportive talks and have become pretty close. 
  • even “you don’t think that’s a bit of a superficial generalization?” bech næsheim.
  • i bet vilde would bake sweet buns (boller, like she did for kosegruppa) and pride cupcakes for the meetings too.
  • now pride: she’d make everyone bring at least one thing to pride (they’d make a day of it at isak’s place and get everything ready there and leave together) but she’d make sure she bakes and has a hell of a fun time frosting with her friends and gf eva. the frosting would be rainbow ofc and everyone ends up leaving the house with frosting smeared on their cheeks, cue a lot of kisses from everyones significant other.
  • just. concept: proud lesbian vilde, along with her fellow gay isak, his pansexual boyfriend even and her bisexual gf eva!
My Mother Said No One Would Love Me

(warning: long story)

Ever, she said.

That’s why when Tom came along, I was so happy to prove her wrong for once.

No one will ever love you, she said. My “peculiarities” were too much to handle. That’s what she called them, my peculiarities. She didn’t want to acknowledge that it might be something real–not her daughter, not the daughter of Miss Orange County, 1980.

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Gay and Lesbian Only Ask Meme
  • 1. When did you realize you were gay/lesbian?
  • 2. When did you first come out?
  • 3. Who was the first person you came out to?
  • 4. When do you first remember learning what gay and lesbian meant?
  • 5. Who was the first gay person you met?
  • 6. How old were you when you had your first gf/bf?
  • 7. How old were you when you had your first kiss?
  • 8. What are your favorite G words?
  • 9. What are your favourite L words?
  • 10. What’s your favorite color?
  • 11. Gay guys- what do you like about guys? Lesbians- what do you like about girls?
  • 12. What is your favorite gay or lesbian tv/movie character?
  • 13. What is your favorite gay book/book character?
  • 14. Who was your first celebrity crush?
  • 15. Who is your favorite gay or lesbian actor?
  • 16. Who/what is your favorite gay or lesbian singer/song?
  • 17. Who is your favorite gay or lesbian politician?
  • 18. Describe your ideal gf/bf
  • 19. Describe your dream date
  • 20. Describe a dream domestic situation with your dream gay significant other
  • 21. Describe your current or last bf/husband/gf/wife
  • 22. How many objects do you own with the pride flag on them? Describe them each
  • 23. How many gay friends do you have? Describe them!
  • 24. Have you ever had the opportunity to talk with a gay elder?
  • 25. If you could talk to any gay person through history who would you talk to and what would you say/ask?
  • 26. Have you ever had the chance to be in a gays only space, if so how did you feel? (gay club, library, youth center, etc.)
  • 27. Have you ever been involved in any gay groups? (GSA, youth group, activist group, etc.)
  • 28. What gay or lesbian stereotype(s) do you fit?
  • 29. Are you femme/fem, butch/masc, or something else?
  • 30. How many years have you attended pride? In which cities? With whom? How was it?
[TRANS] NCT DREAM’s comeback song ‘My First and Last’, a confession love song!

NCT DREAM, SM youngest, confession song

NCT DREAM, who will make a comeback with their first single album ‘The First’, will hit the music industry in 2017 with confidence.

Teen youth group NCT DREAM which consists of teens in their 10s will release the whole song of the first single album 'The First’ on February 9th at 12AM KST. They will attend to their activities with their title song 'My First and Last’, which has a funky-like feeling.

The title song 'My First and Last’ is an impressive pop song with a catchy melody, the lyrics are about a teenage boy who will confess his feelings to make his love his first and his last love. Anticipate SM’s youngest group NCT DREAM exciting confession song.

In addition, NCT DREAM will have their first comeback stage on MNET M!Countdown and will start their full-scale comeback schedule on February the 9th. The debut song 'Chewing Gum’ had an impressive hoverboard performance. After capturing the audience’s eyes, this time, there will be a more powerful and intense performance and it is expected to catch the attention of the music fans, including the viewer watching.

Translation: Esmee | Source: tenasia

— Please take out with full credits

Thayne Jasperson can currently be seen in the ensemble of the Broadway cast of Hamilton. He plays Samuel Seabury and understudies the roles of Laurens/Philip and King George III. He is also a member of the original cast and has been with the show since its 2014 pre-off Broadway Workshop. Thayne made his Broadway debut as Darcy in Newsies in 2012. He also appeared in Matilda on Broadway and in the touring production of West Side Story. He has also appeared in several movies and tv shows including High School Musical 1 and 2. He was also a finalist on season 4 of So You Think You Can Dance. He is also in the film American Mall with former SYTYCD and Hamilton castmate, Neil Haskell.

Thayne Jasperson is a talented dancer, but he actually did not start dancing until he was 22 years old. He started taking classes after joining a local dance troupe and is trained in ballet, jazz, modern tap, and hip hop.

Thayne frequently teaches acting, dance, singing, and audition skills at seminars, workshops, and master classes in New York and across the country and often works with high schools and youth groups.

Thayne is also a choreographer.

Thayne works with Music For Autism, an organization aimed at providing sensory friendly concerts and music education opportunities for children with autism.

Thayne is known among fans for his quirky personality and strange antics. He loves candy and cookies, often makes strange videos for the cast, raps in Spanish, and can sometimes be found napping upside down on the stairs. His sense of humor is delightfully infectious.

Thayne’s Tony Nom Rap: https://instagram.com/p/BFANQDARPBZ/

My brother’s high school has a full on faction war between two youth groups, who often beat each other up and fight over seats in the schoolyard (my brother isn’t in any one of them, don’t worry).

It got so bad kids have been hospitalized and the police got involved numerous times. The principal had to intervene and she made the leaders of the two youth groups sign a peace treaty to end the conflict.

They made it to the newspaper:

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53. Veronica Lodge x Fem!Reader

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Summary: You meet Veronica at school. She’s rather intrigued by you because she can’t quite pin you down.

Note: If you want, listen to Paul Anka’s put your head on my shoulder, and you are my destiny. It’ll make the imagine ten times better ;)

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getting out of an abusive household - a household where you don’t feel safe - is difficult as all hell. you can’t do it at once, can’t pack a day’s bag in half an hour and leave. trust me, i’ve tried, you gotta plan in little steps

  • break belongings down into chunks. clothes, toiletries, valuables, essentials, others. whatever you absolutely need. figure out how to pack a bag to take
  • you need housing or other shelter. organise with friends and safe family, look up safe shelters, youth groups etc. too
  • look up transport fares. can you catch the bus? can you afford a travel card? if you’re like me and you have a school opal/other card (free travel on mondays to fridays), it’s your greatest asset. even $10 on an adult card gets you a ride or two somewhere
  • make a plan. accrue evidence, bide your time, whatever. keeping your head down is the best way to go about it; you want to be stealthy. be patient. hold onto your determination
  • have multiple options up your sleeve. if you only have one plan that hinges on a specific set of circumstances, you’re fucked. if something falls through, don’t get hung up on it. as long as there’s a sliver of hope, there’s a way. find another way. if there’s only one option, study it as much as possible, run it through your mind; if you can practice it, practice it (but remember to be stealthy). you want the final result to be as smooth as possible
  • in everything: organisation is key. make checklists. wherever you need to, break it into little chunks. smaller chunks are easier to run through your mind and link together later. that’s a tip from your friendly autistic pal
  • what kind of bag do you have? I’ve got the luxury of a once-used 70L hiking pack so I can pack heaps of stuff, but get the best bag you have. someone close to me has just a school backpack, and they can fit two changes of clothes and a few other necessities. I’d imagine it’s more likely you’ll have a backpack, so learn how to pack your bag best
  • income is super important; can you apply for welfare? are you on welfare? can you keep up a job, or get money from somewhere else?

hrgjgh I’m out of spoons, I can’t think of anything else. the main point I”m trying to get across is that time is most important; practice practice practice, get used to minor independence things, contact as many people as you trust to help, and keep your head down, and bide your time. you want to leave as smoothly as possible. don’t have a half-plan that hinges on maybes - of course sometimes it can’t be helped but as much as you can make sure you have a solid plan of action with safety nets

does anyone want to add anything???