the younger one knows no flaws either

anonymous asked:

Since you been doing matches, if Stannis or Renly had been the eldest Baratheon brother do you think think Lyanna would still run? Stannis has no bastards, cold as the wall, but honorable to a fault. Renly you get all the courtly grace even if the bedding is infrequent but still no bastards. Both would have honored Lyanna.

There really has been lots of matchmaking lately! It’s fun.

This kind of touches on a topic that I’m interested in and have never quite felt like I had a good way into, so I’m going to give my kind of overarching theory for why I think Lyanna ran. (Note that all of this is IF Lyanna did elope with Rhaegar. I happen to think there’s a fair amount of evidence supporting that belief and very little suggesting otherwise, but I’m uncomfortable not acknowledging the possibility that she was abducted.) I really doubt that it was just about Robert.

“You have a wildness in you, child. ‘The wolf blood,’ my father used to call it. Lyanna had a touch of it, and my brother Brandon more than a touch…Lyanna might have carried a sword, if my lord father had allowed it. You remind me of her sometimes.” (AGOT, Arya II)

Now two children danced across the godswood, hooting at one another as they dueled with broken branches. The girl was the older and taller of the two. Arya! Bran thought eagerly, as he watched her leap up onto a rock and cut at the boy. But that couldn’t be right. If the girl was Arya, the boy was Bran himself, and he had never worn his hair so long. And Arya never beat me playing swords, the way that girl is beating him. She slashed the boy across his thigh, so hard that his leg went out from under him and he fell into the pool and began to splash and shout. “You be quiet, stupid,” the girl said, tossing her own branch aside. “It’s just water. Do you want Old Nan to hear and run tell Father?” (ADWD, Bran III)

She wasn’t just running away from Robert and his cheating. She was also rebelling, partly with the cause of resisting her father’s choice to break from what appears to be the venerated First Man tradition (still grossly patriarchal but with at least the autonomy to learn how to protect herself and not so much emphasis on conventional femininity) and box her into a southron ladyship so that she’s a valuable export to Storm’s End. I wouldn’t blame her if she wanted to rebel against that and she was going to want out of any marriage that would only have her on those terms. But I suspect there was more to it than that.

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a thought about the fist bump

okay guys…

I just want to point out that it’s not necessarily the first bump amourshippers are freaking out about, but it’s the way Ash looked at her beforehand. it’s the way he seemed to see her–like actually see her–as a person who wasn’t going to give up on him.

another thing I want to address.

When people say that fans focus too much on the shipping at this point, it’s a little sad to me. Though this fact may be true to some fans watching the show, the majority who follow generally understand that the relationship between Serena and Ash goes beyond the hope of them ending up together in the end. It should be understood that these moments are not only rare for the show (seeing as we’ve gone many years since a female, who has actually displayed clear feeling for Ash) but that this romantic development is crucial for character development.

Serena has gone from having a shallow crush on a person she hardly knew, to realizing he is absolutely flawed and imperfect, and loves him anyway! This is not only a relatable development, but it also could be seen as introducing the audience to what loving someone can actually look like.

It is not easy. It is not always requited. And yet Serena’s life is not ruled by the fact that Ash does not always seem to reciprocate. Her identity is not built around him, like it used to be at the beginning. She has begun to pursue her own dreams, and even make her own plans.

In fact, loving him has taught her that she needs to become her own person, with her own identity, apart from him.

This is the only way to love someone well. It happens when you cease to need them; when you realize you CAN make it through life without them, but you continually choose them; when you choose to love them, not because you have to, but because you want to. This is a lot more beautiful of a concept to me…

perhaps writers have incorporated an (for now) unrequited romance, for the sake of teaching younger kids a lesson; one the shows the difference between a shallow infatuation with a person you know nothing about, to the actual loving of a human who is flawed.

Either way, it will be interesting to see how Serena’s affections develop Ash’s character. The fist bump scene was perhaps just a first glimpse of him realizing that he really doesn’t have to go through the hard things on his own; that he can be vulnerable with people who care about him and perhaps let them in to his affections too. :)

but you never know.

As some of y'all know I take care of my younger brother and I have power of attorney for him and working towards guardianship.

I recently joined a local “full circle” adoption support group (for birth parents, adoptees, and adopted parents and all those with similar experiences) and went to the first meeting today. Today it was mostly birth moms and one grandmother who had legal guardianship of her grandkids. I know that the adoption and foster care system is hella flawed, but I was unprepared for how traumatizing the adoption experience was for them. They all became pregnant as teens and were pressured to give their baby up for adoption either by family, society, or because they needed the monetary support the adoption agencies would provide. Many of them talk about how they couldn’t get in touch with their children, even if they had open adoptions because all the power was given to the adopted parents. They also talked about how some of the adoptee members had the issue with paperwork being “lost” or falsified so that they couldn’t find their birth parents (especially those who originally where from non U.S. countries).

It made me realize that I need to focus more on the issues with adoption and fostering and also resources for pregnant people to get full support and education on adoption before they make any decisions and also about resources for them so they don’t get pressured into adoption or feel like that’s their only option or so they won’t get taken advantage of by the system. If anyone has any resources, please let me know! 

Book review: Carry On

Author: Rainbow Rowell

Pages: 522

Published: 2015

Genre: fantasy

There’s a million things I want to say about this book, but the most important is that I LOVED IT WITH MY WHOLE HEART AND I’M OBSESSED WITH THIS WORLD AND THESE CHARACTERS.

I have to admit I had my doubts. In fact I wasn’t even planning on reading this, even though Rainbow Rowell is one of my favorite authors ever. I honestly thought I wasn’t going to like Carry On, because the Simon parts weren’t my favorite parts of Fangirl (I love Levi and Cath too much). But honestly being inside this world, seeing Simon and Baz trying to solve this mystery, reading all their shared story from all their years in Watford, I was completely sold.

In typical Rainbow Rowell fashion, this book is extremely hilarious, the drama is intense, you will fall in love with all the characters, and you will be immersed in the story head over heels. I dare you not to become obsessed with this book. It’s impossible not to, it’s THAT good.  

Its strongest quality was the world building. Watford is AMAZING! Though it’s obviously inspired by Hogwarts, it feels different, especially considering the magic system. In the World of Mages there’s an elected leader that guides a council of magical families. Also, to do spells, you access magic, like magic was actually an element or power inside you. There are places that were sucked or dried of magic, so you can’t access your magic there, you’re defenseless and weak. This definition of magic reminded of the ancient earth magic, that you accessed through the elements of nature. But it has its own twist, considering the Humdrum. Also, the spells are really cool, because they allow the characters to manipulate abilities and situations, depending on the words. They can be hilarious, as Queen songs, or eerie as children’s lullabies. It’s just a great system. Also Watford as a boarding school has a lot of unique, really interesting and cool elements of its own: the Anathema, the Crucible, the catacombs, the chapel, the nursery.

One of the things I liked the most was the multiple POVs. There were so many interesting characters and it was such a great idea to explore them all, not just Simon being the Chosen One. In the beginning I liked them because there were similar to many beloved characters in Harry Potter (Baz and Penelope especially since Draco and Hermione are my favorites, also Ebb being a Hagrid figure, the Mage being similar to Dumbledore, but darker, crazier, more power-hungry, which was, as we know, one of younger-Dumbledore’s biggest flaws). But then they started developing in their own way and they had their uniqueness and character growth completely aside from the similarities of any HP character. How much we got to know and see and understand these characters, their stories, their desires, their thoughts, and their pains, was one of the strongest parts of the book. You can’t help but love them, or hate them, either way you get attached to them and you crave more of their stories.

Take Agatha for example. At first I really disliked her for being so indecisive. Then I worried I was being too judgmental especially since it’s common in male-focused stories to make the girls indecisive or weak or whiny. So now I think she chose her own destiny, instead of the destiny it was chosen for her (Simon’s girlfriend, the golden sweet perfect beautiful girl, rich magical socialite). She made the best choice to achieve her happiness. Not choosing magic or Simon or her mom’s club it’s actually a great message, she became her own person with her own path, even if it wasn’t what the rest of the characters, or we as readers, liked. 

Baz. My dear, precious, arrogant, tortured Baz. How much I adored him, how much I felt his pain over his circumstances, his love for Simon, his self-hate, his need to understand what happened to his mom and to himself. He’s such a great character, because it’s undeniable he’s meant to be the antagonist, he’s a vampire, he’s arrogant and rich and old blood, and he’s fought with Simon since they first met. But throughout the book, and the discoveries they make, and his POV chapters, despite his “evil” nature and family’s pressure and his need to avenge his mom, he grows so much, and actually becomes the reassuring one, he helps Simon, he calms him down, he becomes a hero. I honestly could write an essay on how Rainbow Rowell took all Draco’s best and worst traits and created an incredible character that stands on its own, without being a carbon copy. He’s amazing. Also, him and Simon are completely adorable and amazing, and they gave me the biggest feels ever, I literally squealed when they got together.

I also loved how Rainbow Rowell took the Chosen One trope and turned it around. Simon is literally prophesied to be the greatest, most powerful magician ever and he’s meant to stop the greatest threat to magic ever known. But throughout the book we see the consequences of Simon’s power. It’s not like Harry’s, whose reason to sacrifice himself is bravery and love and caring, Simon’s is actually dangerous, his power is so unsurmountable he’s a threat to everyone around him and magic itself. That’s one of the greatest elements of this book, how explosive Simon is, the Chosen Ones are supposed to be good and sacrificial and steady, oh no, Simon is a bomb, and that poses a complication in his battle with the Humdrum and the saving of the World of Mages. Also the final battle and the resolution to the conflict? EPIC! That’s all I’m going to say, I didn’t see that coming, and it was as mind-blowing as the battle and ending in Deathly Hallows.

The mysteries and stories they uncover in the book were incredible. The complicated twists and tragedies they discovered were worthy of JK Rowling herself. The past before Baz and Simon was crazy good; Nicodemus, Lucy, Ebb, Davy, seeing their stories made me cry, made me gasp, that was probably one of the parts that reminded me the most of Harry Potter. Because it’s exactly the kind of tragic backstory Harry would have to uncover to understand what was happening with him. It not only helps Penny and Simon and Baz join all the pieces of the puzzle, but it shows how love is stronger that power.

I’m going to stop this essay now. Needlessly to say, I adore this book just as much as Fangirl, and I didn’t think that was possible, considering that’s my favorite book EVER. But Carry On is just as good.

5/5

“You have to pretend you get an endgame. You have to carry on like you will; otherwise, you can’t carry on at all.”