should have realized im a huge lesbian when i was like 14 and thought girls only wanted boyfriends for the title of having a boyfriend and being a guy’s girlfriend because the concept of actually liking a man and wanting to spend quality time with him in any intimate context was so unbelievable to me
listen you guys dont understand how overwhelming it is to see a predominantly black cast in a movie that isn’t involving slavery. how absolutely thrilling it is to know that a kid is going to see black panther and realize that heroes can look just like them. it is an experience that many of us were deprived of as children and i can almost feel a sense of my childhood coming back thinking about how i always wanted someone that could represent my culture and having that now is something i can’t quite put into words.
When you fuck up, and someone points out how you fucked up, no matter how upset you feel about it, take a step back and deal with your fuckup and your feelings separately.
Your apology should be about what you did wrong and how you plan to be better in the future. Thank them for telling you and giving you the chance to realize how messed up it was. You can say you regret your choice.
Your feelings of guilt/embarrassment/etc need to be handled s e p a r a t e l y.
Don’t demand that a person you just hurt comfort you through your feelings about the situation. Don’t expect them to immediately look past what you did - and the hurt it caused them - to reassure you and make you feel less bad about it. Definitely don’t give a half-assed or nonexistent apology and then attack them for causing you to experience a negative emotion.
Just apologize. Process your feelings about the situation separately with someone who agrees to that, who’s not involved in the situation.
And when you do, don’t make yourself out to be a victim there, either. It’s okay to say “What I did was wrong. Being told I was wrong brought up all these feelings I need to process and understand so I can be better.” You don’t have to make the people you hurt sound like bullies to justify being upset.
k so jeremy knox and andrew minyard couldn’t possibly be any more different as people as they are now, and don’t think for a second that i think the way they love their respective boys are similar in any way, but u cannot tell me that there isn’t a quiet understanding between the two of them about loving boys who r always just an inch away from death