the tough one

anonymous asked:

An embarrassed anon here, looking for fandom advice from a fandom dad. I left some feedback on a fic by one of my favorite authors . It was totally complimentary, really enthusiastic, specific, all round nice. They've replied to everyone's ao3 comments except for mine and now I'm worried I accidentally said something awful. Should I keep worrying about this? Should I try to contact them (we're low-key mutuals)? should I tell my anxiety to stfu? How would you respond to a reader like me?

It’s a tough one, Anon, especially since I’m not in the “normal” range when it comes to comments. 

One, I would say, it’s highly likely that if you’re the only person they haven’t responded to, either they lost your comment in the shuffle or they’re still working out how to reply – sometimes the comments I reply to the latest are the ones I should have replied to first but I was still figuring out how to respond. Especially comments that either inadvertently give me fic ideas or suggest really good ones.

Two, given that you are low-key mutuals, yeah, I would get in touch – not in a demanding way, just to say “Hey, I wanted to check if you saw my comment, I really loved your fic and just wanted to make sure I didn’t offend you or anything.” After which you gotta let it drop, because that’s the point at which it’s still just a friendly “Hey fellow fan good job!” whereas anything after that veers into RESPOND TO ME, PLEASE RESPOND TO ME territory. 

Three, it is very difficult to tell anxiety to stfu :) But I have had success toning down my anxiety by always assuming benevolence on the part of the other person, firstly because it’s much more likely since most of us go through life being basically benevolent messes, and secondly because if they are being malevolent, their malevolence is wasted on me, the person who assumes they have nothing but good intentions, and they are thwarted. It takes a while to train yourself to assume benevolence, it takes a bit of effort, but once you do it does make life a bit brighter. :) Good luck! 

anonymous asked:

Favourite season of pll ?

ooo that’s a tough one 

I don’t really have a favourite season but i have a favourite storyline/arc

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just-a-mod  asked:

raspberry, passion fruit, srawberry, tangelo, blueberry and cranberry :3

thank you!!! :D

raspberry: favorite flower?

aaaaa its hard to choose a favorite but ive always liked morning glories!

passion fruit: how would you describe your style?

she has no style she has no grace

strawberry: favorite desserts?

cheesecakes! and cream puffs! So Good

tangelo: if you could be any mythical creature, which would you be?

oooo thats a really tough one oh no. a centaur/satyr type thing would be cool! or a mermaid!

blueberry: what do you want to dress up as for halloween?

i have no plans for this year yet! (๑•̥̥̥́ω•̀ू๑)

cranberry: favorite time of the day; morning, afternoon, dusk, or night?

i really like the afternoon! if only the goddamn weather would warm up

anonymous asked:

how are you feeling today?

Today’s been a tough one. I’m so tired all the time now and I’m moving this week too, so all that excitement is making me lose sleep. But I’m getting by. Thank you for asking and checking on me. 🙂

anonymous asked:

Hey! How are you? Ik that you have a lot of asks right now, but hopefully it isn't too many. Anyway, what I wanted to say was; I'm finding that recently I want to be in a relationship more. And I've asked a couple people out over the years in hopes of it becoming something, but they've all said no. What I was wondering is, are there any ways you can think of to get rid of this want for a partner? Or effective ways to also someone out (and how to know when)? Thanks a bunch! You're great!

Hi! I’m doing well, but I’m very busy, which is why I’m getting to all these asks late. Oh goodness, this is a tough one. The feeling isn’t a weird one, I went through it and it kind of sucks especially when you don’t think anyone will ever want to be with you. I don’t think you should want to get rid of this feeling, it’ll either be fulfilled or fade away. Whichever happens, depends on complete randomness. I had literally given up all hope when someone finally found me. So, I wouldn’t try to force something, just let what happens happen. I wouldn’t give up on asking anyone either. But, before you ask I would make sure you build up some sort of base for the relationship. I know I find it so much easier to have a serious relationship when I am comfortable talking to the other person, which requires that you have a friendship, which takes a little time. So be patient. I don’t know any ways to ask someone out, I would just ask it, but I’m a very straightforward person, and some people don’t like that. So I can’t really help you there. I hope this helps! I tried my best, but I think the beginning is a little confusing…If you want to talk more I’m here!

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