the things you do for men

Here’s the thing: Grand gestures – especially financial ones – are very uncomfortable and even just plain crazy to people who aren’t used to it.

Don’t you hate being around the kind of asshole who’s always showing off that he has more money than you? How about the slimy turd who’s always paying the bill but leaves you feeling like he’s running some creepy agenda? Those guys are movie punchlines, villains, or Richard Gere. Don’t start off a relationship looking like a bag of money who’s saving the prostitute.

The gut reaction to this is: “I’ve spent a lifetime being told I should pay for dates and now you’re telling me that women hate men who pay for things? So, basically I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t?”

No, I’m saying your big, grand gestures might be self-sabotaging. You want to pick up the check? Then try asking the object of your affection if they’re cool with it. Or “Hey, I was thinking of booking something really fancy for our first date. Is that cool with you, or would you rather do something low key?” Remember, there are two of you in this thing. You’ve got to think about what’s not going to make it uncomfortable for her.

If your intention is to impress her with a fancy night out, and she’s on board with that idea, it’s going to be awesome. If your intention is to make her feel like she owes you something in return, you’re not actually a nice guy – you’re just a piece of shit.

You May Be A Good Dude, But Here’s Why You’re Single

Edge Of A Knife

Pairing: Arthur Ketch x Reader
Word count: 1,343
Warnings: Drinking.  Drunk sex.  Smut.  Unprotected sex.  Use of a gag.  Knife play.  Public Sex. Rough sex. Cussing. 
Written for my 2,000 Followers Celebration
Requested by @blackcoffeeandgreenteaforme Prompt: Baby (Impala)  / Quote: “You are sexy when you are mad.”
Challenge: This was written for @faith-in-dean‘s British Men of Letters Challenge. My prompts were “So….I’m bored….wanna fuck?” and “I’m not as think as you drunk.”

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beautiful cinematography: game of thrones, battle of the bastards (2016)

thousands of men don’t need to die. let’s end this the old way. you against me.

anonymous asked:

Dont you think people are overreacting to this Captain America thing? Friendly reminder that this is a fictional story with fictional characters.No one did or has died because of this so let's all just relax you can't force Nick Spencer to change the story so I don't see the point of crying over spilt milk.

Friendly reminder that making Captain America, the invention of two Jewish men who created the character because they thought America should be doing more in regards to WWII, a Hydra member and therefore having him both Nazi adjacent and an allegorical Nazi is beyond antisemitic and should not be tolerated, especially since antisemitism is on the rise.

Friendly reminder that antisemitism and other forms of racism should never be tolerated in media

Friendly reminder being vocal about our disgust at the storyline Spencer is writing and tanking the sells can show Spencer that he shouldn’t try this garbage shit again because it won’t make any money

Friendly reminder fuck you for trying to trivialize the justified anger and sadness people have about this new line of comics involving Hydra Cap.

mod v

anonymous asked:

This is probably more a political question than a military one but, here we go. Say you rule all of Westeros, your eldest daughter is considered to be one of the most beautiful women in all seven kingdoms, and an adapt political player who is able to use every shred of power that any position would afford to her. Every single day there are dozens of marriage offers for her, considering all the possible choices of men who need a wife, who do you marry her too?

This question requires more context. Is she the only child I have, is she the heir, are there other people outside of my children who have claims, and if so, how strong is their support, and what legal precedents exist regarding the gender of the ruler of Westeros? All of those things will factor into my choice.

When it comes to these big questions of politics, there are so many factors that go into the answer. You can’t ever have a general rule, because each factor will have a wealth of circumstances unique to them. All politics is subject to the times, and those sorts of questions would be no different.

I’m going to assume that you meant that she was a crown princess and that I desired her to succeed the Throne. In that case, I would probably marry her to a family that gives her a strong position, probably to a dynastic third son or someone who didn’t stand to inherit, so the future king-consort wouldn’t have been raised in an environment where he was expected to exert supreme political power in his prospective domain. However, I’d probably look to, more than finding her an ideal mate, constantly be assigning her tasks in which she has an active role the same I would if she was a crown prince instead of a crown princess, so that she can be an active presence in the political sphere. Ideally, I want her to be known to highborn and commoner alike and avoid the mistakes of Rhaenyra, who isolated herself on Dragonstone and focused power inwards rather than building a coalition.

Am I building a navy to take out pirates in the Stepstones? My daughter is in charge of getting those ships built. Do I want to embark on a trade deal and alliance with the Sealord? She’s receiving the diplomat in the solar. A tournament in honor of my fiftieth nameday? She’s leading the opening ceremonies wearing a princess’s coronet. Was there a famine? She’s front-and-center distributing emergency grain rations to the starving smallfolk, flanked by two Kingsguard, to give her that sense of royal gravitas, naturally.

Some years of that, once she hits about 12 years of age (easy tasks with supervision, then work my way up as she gets older), gives her a powerful public presence, then get a betrothal as I’ve mentioned above, then keep her in the public sphere, more and more, until I’m dead or my health forces me to abdicate, and then she has the social capital she needs to (hopefully) keep the Iron Throne.

Thanks for the question, Anon.

SomethingLikeALawyer, Hand of the King

Honestly, if you eat and throw your plate in the sink expecting someone else to clean it, you literally have no true sense of responsibility and respect. If that issue seems petty to you, then you’ve missed the entire point of ‘loving’ or ‘respecting’ yourself and the person you expect to clean after you. Many Muslim men overlook the fact that whilst Islam made their work obligatory, the religion didn’t place any obligation upon women to carry out house chores. So when women do, it’s out of love and sense of respect nothing else. I don’t care if you come back home from building an entire skyscraper on your own, cleaning the dish after you won’t kill you. Unless someone else insists that they’d want to do it then it’s fine. But honestly you find some men barely moving an inch, the only thing left is for someone to feed them (but they won’t ask for that since they’ll look like the kids they mentally are). Imam Ali(a.s) (the greatest man after The Prophet(S)) literally helped his wife in the house. I’m pretty sure no Muslim man can claim to be more important or greater than such personality, so if Imam Ali(a.s) didnt hold a sense of entitlement to anything, I’m sure your sense of entitlement and superiority complex are unnecessary in any healthy family.

Is it weird to play otome if you have a SO?

I have been playing almost two years, lol. My SO never really asks about it or anything, at one point a couple months ago he goes, “You’re still playing that game?”

He doesn’t really pay much attention to anything anime or otome related (I have explained the whole plot of Kuroshitsuji to him and once when I was watching, he pointed to Ciel and asked who the girl was …lmao).

The only anime/otome thing we do together is go to cons and people watch (although I cosplay and he doesn’t). He holds my stuff when people get pics with me XD

Anyway, I was curious- anyone ever have issues over their fictional men?

Headcanons #1 The X-men reacting to your most embarrassing story

Requested by @fragcc​: Want to try writing a headcanon about some X-Men reacting at an embarrassing story you told him and asked to not laugh? It can be short and silly if you want to :3 I love your work and your whole blog ♥♥

 A/N: So, this is my first attempt at this headcanon-style-type-thing. I hope you like it! Also, I’m sorry, I haven’t uploaded a fic in awhile, I’m working on some thing, but I’m not really completely happy with any of them yet. So yeah. I’ll do my best to have something up in a few days! xoxo

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aleinia  asked:

For the Revs + Roman – what is their biggest pet peeve?

Roman- having his fucking MEMORY erased. 

One- people getting away with doing things they shouldn’t (i.e. Ten). 

Two- people who can’t take a joke, have no chill, or are incredibly oblivious to the suffering of others

Three- disorder. 

Four- fire extinguishers. 

Five- hates when men interrupt her. has and will kill you for it, so don’t do it.

Six- atheists. also, vegans. 

Seven- white people. 

Eight- feminists. and Two. 

Nine- fans. anything noisy or disruptive, which is pretty much everything. 

And Ten. 

Pet peeve? 

People forgetting his name

Originally posted by realitytvgifs

Seriously tho, try and think of the last time you saw a procedural (or like, anything tbh) where they were going out to catch the bad guy, and the group of people who were doing it were three women and one man? Because it’s always, always, three men and one woman. 

The unsub takedown scene in that episode featured 4 main cast members, 3 of whom were women, and that wasn’t even all the women in the main cast??? 

I’m still in shock tbh. 

Tagged by @sunlitthrone, thank you!!

Nicknames: Red.
Zodiac sign: Scorpio.
Height: 5′8″
Last thing I googled: ‘journey sunken city’.
Favorite music artists: EDEN, Kingsfoil, Sir Sly, AFTRHR.
Song stuck in my head: Of Monsters and Men - Little Talks.
Last movie I watched: Arrival.
What I’m wearing right now: Undies and a tank top with cute bunnies.
Why I chose my URL: Was excited for The Division game.
Do I have any other blogs: Yes.
What my last relationship taught me: Gotta be careful. Before you give your heart to someone, make sure the other party isn’t playing with you and your feelings. And fight only for people who fight for you.
Religious or spiritual: Not sure what spiritual means in this case exactly, gonna go with neither.
Favorite colors: Red and black.
Average amount of sleep: 6-8 hours.
Lucky number: Lucky? None. The ones sometimes I hope are lucky? 10, 25, 13.
Favorite characters: Altaïr Ibn-La'Ahad, Jason Todd, Parker, etc.
How many blankets I sleep with: One.
Dream job: Playing video games for a living or just working with video games or maybe singing/making music.

I tag: @theladyhawke, @sheparda, @buttcanine, @piratekingvaas, @pcklesthings, @inamorda, @chuckhansen

anonymous asked:

That dirty talk hc Sinpai did was 👌👀 good shit. Do you mind doing something like that with looker? (IDK why but lately I've been hella thirsty for him... IDK why I have a thing for older fictional men tbh. Don't mind me, I'm just ranting now and yes I'm 18 btw. Love you guys <3)

-He’s more of a romantic talker than a dirty talker.

-He likes tho say things Like “You’re so beautiful my love” or “Your body was made just for me”

~Mod Sinpai

Current State of the Gender: masc-leaning enough to feel longing jealousy towards the semi-feminine queer men of yore, not masc-leaning enough to be comfortable with people calling me “dude”

hey, shoutout to non-passing trans boys/mlm who:

-constantly have to deal with being misgendered

-have long hair!! (either bc theyre in the closet or by choice)

-have big hips/a large chest and feel like they can never pass

-are unable to transition currently (either because of financial or family situations)

-feel like they’ll never be seen as a man

-have high pitched “feminine” voices!

-get told theyre just straight girls

-feel like theyll never be accepted

-are scared theyll never find a boy who loves them

I promise that things will get better for you!! you’re just as much of a boy as any cis dude, and in time you will be able to transition and you will find a boy who loves you!!!

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People on Facebook are really going after and harassing the Ex-Girlfriend of Stephens. People are out here justifying that’s it’s okay to go out on a killing spree because a Black Woman ended the relationship. BLACK MEN are out tweeting saying “she shouldn’t have broken up with him and love makes you do crazy things” no. NO.

SHE IS IN NO WAY RESPONSIBLE FOR HIS MURDERS. If you think so you are scum. If he can go out and murder random people because someone ended a relationship with him there is a big chance he was abusive.

But people are so ready to blame and degrade any and every Black Woman. I’m not here for this. They need to find this man and end this.

Harry's interview on Quotidien
  • I: Can you hear me?
  • H: Yes
  • I: Welcome to Paris!
  • H: Thank you
  • I: How are you? Can you answer in French?
  • H: Good! A little bit. A tiny bit. Très bien et toi ?(very good and you?)
  • I: Very good, thank you. We start our interviews with “can you give us your five favourites words in English or French. Or a French sentence”. Someone told me you knew a French sentence.
  • H: Comment vous faites un café si délicieux? (How do you make such a delicious coffee?)
  • I: OK, that’s good.
  • H: That’s all I have.
  • I: Do you say it very often?
  • H: No... Yes
  • I: What does France mean to you? Is it something, someone etc...?
  • H: Best people I’ve known... I think her, *shows a fan* I guess. Fabien Barthez.
  • I: Yes, Fabien Barthez. Harry, you’re 23 years old and you’re one of the best known pop-star in the world. Everybody has expectations with your new album and single Sign Of The Times. Why did you choose that song? This is not what people were expecting.
  • H: I think I wanted to.. I've always liked music that made me feel something. You know I think writing it I could feet something I wanted to bring it out. I think it's a good indicator for me of what the album is to me. That's why I wanted to go with that first.
  • I: Billboard wrote that the single was "one of the more ambitious opening statements in pop this decade". Not bad, isn't it?
  • H: Thanks!
  • I: Do you have friends working at Billboard?
  • H: I don't know anyone at Billboard.
  • I: When we listen to the song we think of David Bowie, Queen, who else did you think of?
  • H: I mean, I think everyone, anything, any song you've ever listened to growing up or throughout your life or you've enjoyed, inspired you. There are a lot of different things. I wanted to just write and see what came out. I didn't know what I sounded like to make an album. So this process was as interesting for me as I think it will be for people listening to the album for the first time.
  • I: Do you know French singers other than Serge Gainsbourg? That's a tricky question.
  • H: I know Woodkid. He directed my music video.
  • I: Why him?
  • H: I think his videos are amazing, he's a really talented guy and I love French people so I worked with him.
  • I: When you're in Spain, do you say that you love Spanish people?
  • H: No!
  • I: It seems like everything has been easy...
  • H: Great tie.
  • I: You think so? It's French.
  • H: It's not a Spanish tie, isn't it?
  • I: Can I see your loafer? Oh yes! What is the brand? That's not French, isn't it? It's Italian.
  • H: No.
  • I: That's from the European Union!
  • H: Probably yeah.
  • I: It seems like everything has been easy for you, is it true?
  • H: Was what simple?
  • I: Your life, everybody wants a life like yours, with One Direction...
  • H: I mean, I feel very lucky to be able to make music, I feel very lucky to be able to make this, I feel very lucky today being in France and performing my song. I love this song. I can't complain.
  • I: What were the unpleasant things?
  • H: *thinking*
  • I: I don't know, say only one thing.
  • H: I think when you care so much about something, it's hard to get to the point where you feel like it's finished and it feels like you're adding and it never ends and it adds up. So I think the hardest part was getting into that point and be like "ok that's finished."
  • I: You said to the Rolling Stone magazine that most of the album was inspired by a woman. Really?
  • H: No I think, honestly, the album is much more about me than it is about anyone else. I think if I said the album is about a woman it kind of feels like, I don't know, I put a lot of work into this. I don't feel like it revolves around woman. It's a lot about me and things I've never said before. It's more about me.
  • I: How did you start with a boy band and end with a solo career? Is it complicated?
  • H: It's been a lot of fun. You know we were very lucky to get to do some amazing things and at the moment in our lives, we're in a time where everyone is trying their own thing and have a good time. It's been amazing to see everyone doing their own thing as well. If I can do as well as the others, it'd be amazing.
  • I: Do you call them everyday or text them? Do you use What's app?
  • H: I don't have that.
  • I: Why?
  • H: Yes we talk, absolutely. And everyone is bringing stuff out. It's been a lot going on. It's been a good time.
  • I: This is the album cover! Can you describe it? Why did you choose this picture?
  • H: Yeah. So, I don't know. I worked with photographer Harley Weir, I'm a massive fan of her work. And that's amazing and I was lucky enough to work with her. I felt like this was what I wanted.
  • I: Why is it pink? Why the water? Why your back? Why? It's beautiful but why is it pink?
  • H: I don't know, man!
  • I: Really? You don't know?
  • H: I don't know. I don't think I want...
  • I: Apparently pink is Rock'n'roll's colour.
  • H: Apparently so. I don't know. I think it means something to me and if it means anything to anyone else, I wouldn't want to take away from that by explaining it. I think the cool thing about stuff like photos and art is you can just leave it. You don't have to explain it.
  • I: Everybody sees what they want to see.
  • H: Yes exactly.
  • I: Have you seen this?
  • *video of people reacting to Harry's single*
  • I: Your fans record themselves while listening to the song for the first time. You can hear relevant analysis and apparently they all really liked it. Do you read what people say about you on social media? On Youtube, Twitter, Instagram? Do you use Instagram?
  • H: Yes I use it a little bit.
  • *The public disagrees with Harry*
  • H: Yes I use it a little bit. I mean I wish everyone was having as good time as the girl who was like that with her hands. That's what I do when I listen to the song.
  • I: Are you the one using your Instagram? Do you use your own fingers or someone else does it for you?
  • H: Yes, I do mine.
  • I: Do you still vote in Redditch?
  • H: In?
  • I: Redditch!
  • H: That's where I was born?
  • I: Yes.
  • H: I don't live in Redditch.
  • I: So you don't vote there. Where did you vote?
  • H: London, yeah.
  • I: What do you think of the Brexit? Welcome to Europe!
  • H: Thank you very much, thanks. I mean, I don't really comment on politics. To me, anything that brings people together is better than things that pull people apart. That's ... yeah.
  • I: Yet, you are in favour of equality of rights, men, women, gay people, straight people... That's politics.
  • H: I don't know. It doesn't feel like politics. I think stuff like equality feels much more fundamental. I feel like everyone is equal. That doesn't feel like politics to me.
  • I: Your fans are fetishists. They know all of your tattoos, piece of jewellery, they have heart attacks when you cut your hair. Right now you're playing with their feelings. Do you know that?
  • H: Oh ok.
  • I: Yes! What is your favourite tattoo?
  • H: I think... I have a.. probably. I don't know, actually.
  • I: Which one is the latest?
  • H: The latest is this one there. *shows Arlo* And this one. *shows Jackson*
  • I: Jackson? All of them?
  • H: Yes.
  • I: What's the story behind your haircut? How much did you spend on hair products with One Direction?
  • H: Yeah, like a lot. I used a lot, yeah.
  • I: You're in Dunkirk, Christopher Nolan's new movie.
  • H: Yes.
  • I: How did you do?
  • H: I auditioned.
  • I: Look at you there.
  • H: I am, that's me.
  • I: Yes.
  • H: I auditioned and it was great. It's going to be a really cool movie.
  • I: Harry, it feels like we know you since you're a baby. The whole world discovered you in 2010 on X Factor.
  • *video of Harry's X Factor audition*
  • I: You auditioned alone but Simon Cowell had an idea... he put you in a band with Zayn, Louis, Liam and Niall. You became One Direction. You found the name One Direction and you sold millions of albums. One Direction are soon considered as the new Beattles and you filled the biggest stadiums. The whole world was talking about you. When you go out we prayed for your eardrums. You became UK's pride. David Cameron is in one of your music videos, your sang for the Queen. But in 2015... bang! Zayn left the band, fans couldn't get over it. But don't worry, their favourite is now on the cover of the Rolling Stone magazine, he's in Christopher Nolan's new movie, he's Mick Jagger on SNL... What you don't know is that we've met in 2012. You were in France to promote an album and now I have questions. First one! When you're in a car and fans are all around you, do you see that?
  • *video of fans around a car*
  • H: I think I've actually lost my shoe there. When I got in the car... I got in the car and I was like "how many shoes do I have?" Yes I lost my shoe.
  • I: I have another question! Do you still do that before going on stage?
  • *video of Harry and Lou*
  • I: Can we do it?
  • H: No.
  • *does it anyway*
  • I: What is the weirdest question someone asked you?
  • H: I think it was actually a French interview. I got asked if I would pee in a sink... Yeah.
  • I: Ok, that's weird!
  • H: It was the first question, the first question.
  • I: It puts you in the mood.
  • H: Yeah.
  • I: What is the question you never want to be asked ever again? Did I asked you that question?
  • *Harry asks the public*
  • H: Which one? Oh crush.
  • I: What?
  • H: Crush.
  • I: Oh ok. I didn't ask it! Did you know that a French author wrote a novel about you. It's called "Styles", it's about his obsession with you. It's in French. You can translate it.
  • H: Oh! Is that true?
  • I: Yes it's true. He dedicated to you. It's called "Styles" and it's a really good book. Read it!
  • H: Thank you.
  • I: Thank you very much Harry Styles for coming tonight. His first eponymous album comes out on the 12th May. Thank you Harry Styles.
  • H: Thank you.
  • I: Have a safe journey home.

i watch it play out on my facebook feed. a cutesy video plays about a wife and a husband texting each other. she bothers him with messages, he almost types “fuck off bitch” but says something nice instead. in this video, the wife is at fault. he doesn’t listen to her, he doesn’t come home, he ignores her messages. she’s a crazy bitch for getting mad at him. 

my teacher asked us why marriage rates are going down. what do i know. i see instagram posts where a girl makes a joke about chloroforming a boy and i don’t find it funny. i see plenty of people who are perfectly happy and i see just as many who are broken, deeply. i see boys all the time unable to meet their girlfriend halfway - stuck, somehow, wanting to be open but knowing he can’t be. there’s a theory that the reason so many women are unhappy is that women have multiple deeply intimate relationships in their friend groups while men only have a partner. isn’t that sad. isn’t it strange. 

the girl i knew in high school says “omfg this is me and u dan”. she’s talking about a post where married couples want to kill each other. my mother once asked me why i am so scared of touching. why the first time people show affection is the same time i start running. the comedian onstage uses his wife as a trampoline. all around me, people are laughing. the trouble is that jokes always have a bit of truth in them. i almost text him “haven’t heard from you in a while” but instead i turn off my phone. 

there’s a lot of things i don’t understand, i guess. bachelor parties where everyone gets wrecked to celebrate his last days of “freedom”. the idea men are giving up so much to be with just one woman. the idea that a woman who is showing toxic behavior is just a bitch, and not a serious threat. what do i know. sometimes it makes me sick. when i was little i believed in love. 

but why do people constantly equate nightmares with marriage?

Voltron characters as things I've said
  • Allura: "Why marry rich when you can be rich? Scam those men, wear those heels and be a boss ass bitch"
  • Coran: "My secret ingredient for delicious food is love...just kidding, it's MSG"
  • Lotor having a mildly okay hair day: "They were right, I am worth it. L'Oreal, where my sponsor at?!?!?"
  • Shiro: "I've been playing hide and seek with happiness for quite awhile now"
  • Lance: "This dude really thought he could get me! like, how can you treat me right if you can't get 3 stars in Mario Kart 8"
  • Keith: "What do you mean 'in a committed relationship with anger' isn't valid?"
  • Pidge: "They said what you love the most will destroy you. False. My computer would never betray me"
  • Hunk, talking about chicken nuggets: "And I swear... it was love at first bite"
  • bonus
  • Matt, holding up a bottle of sodium hydroxide: "you could say i'm pretty basic!" *badum tss*
  • Shay: "No don't eat so many sweets, you already have me"

wordmage-girl  asked:

Why do you want to fight Nicholas Sparks? And how would you challenge him (thrown glove, e-vite, etc)?

Thrown glove, definitely. This has to be PERSONAL, even though my problem with him is really everything he represents.

I have talked before about how his brand of dreck has basically killed the romcom, but I don’t think I’ve talked about why I hate his brand of dreck, so gather around, chickadees, for “How do I hate thee, Nicholas Sparks? Let me count the ways.”

1. Tragedy porn. Look, honestly, I liked “A Walk to Remember.” Mostly because of “Only Hope” and Shane West’s face, but I liked it (if I watched it today, even divorced from the whole of Sparks’s canon, I would hate it, but that’s a separate issue). But as time went on and I watched a couple more of his movies and then heard about the others, it’s just … look. I know that we make stories to make people feel a certain way. We want to elicit an emotional response. And that’s a good thing, you know? And I know I rail about darkness and sadness a lot, but I’m not even saying that stories should only try to elicit good emotions. That feels shallow.

But with Nicholas Sparks and other tear-jerker-type stories (see: reasons I never got into Grey’s Anatomy, reasons I’m more likely to read straight-up darkfic than what people call “sads”), the emotional manipulation is incredibly blatant and formulaic and … I don’t know, is “cheap” the word I want? I don’t see the point in a story that says “Here’s a thing you love. Fate is going to take that thing you love from you. The main character is going to lift their chin like Scarlett O’Hara and say ‘tomorrow is another day!’“ I don’t feel like it’s something the creator is sharing with me, I feel like it’s something they’re trying to do to me, and I don’t take kindly to that.

2. White Cis Hets Touching Foreheads.

3. His whole brand is marketed to women, books and movies both, they’re chick flicks, date movies, stuff For the Women, but he sure is a dude. Not that men aren’t allowed to write romances, but it’s just that slimy feeling of “a wise man making money off all those silly weepy romantic women” rather than “a wise man showing that it’s okay for both women and men to cry over a love story where tragic things happen.” Like. Nora Roberts sure doesn’t have this kind of franchise. And I can’t say I enjoy reading Nora Roberts, but one could excise the sex from her books and make movies and market them to women, but somehow nobody got to be a romantic-book-adaptation juggernaut until Sparks. Partly because he’s a man and partly because

4. Happiness Isn’t Art. There seems to be this implication that because things end badly, because they’re sad, because they make you cry, it’s okay that they’re romantic. The sadness makes sure that they’re art. And fuck that, honestly? Tearjerkers are fine, whatever, they can (and should, I don’t want to stop people writing for the genres that appeal to them) exist in the world even if I don’t want to consume them, but nobody in this world gets to tell me that the unhappiness elevates them higher than the romcom. That it’s better than Nora Roberts not because he’s a man but because the sadness makes it somehow more worthy.

5. Look at that face. Tell me you don’t want to punch that smug face.

6. Sometimes you just read a book or watch a movie and know that the person behind the story is ideologically opposed to you in pretty much every possible way.

Just to sum up, I guess … I’m a person who loves reading and writing love stories. I always have been, since I was a little kid. If there’s tragedy and difficulty along the way, sure, I’m willing to go along with that, but when there’s someone who consistently says “no, this is only worthy if I take happiness away from you, because happiness isn’t art, because romance is only worth of attention if tragedy interrupts it,” then I get ready for a fight. And since he’s very much the trend leader there, I am pretty much ready to meet him in the pit at all times.