the thing about equality

anonymous asked:

I believe there are only two realistic ways for a Tomstar breakup in the future: Tom gets sloppy and slowly reverts to his older self, or Star and Tom having very different views about the Monster-equality thing.

I can also imagine other scenarios that would be less bad for Tom’s character. Like, could Star and or Tom (better if both of them) realize that they were in love with the idea of a relationship, more than with the other person? Tom put a lot of his self worth in being able to get back with Star, it was what first pushed him to change, and something he could never get over; Star was hurt by all the events with Marco and wanted to change her life as soon as possible, and might have seen more appeal in the idea of a relationship with Tom, something that would “occupy” her feelings, rather than in Tom himself?

Obviously I’m speculating hard here, the show is nowhere near to implying things like this yet, but Monster Bash did show that they’re not exactly on the same page, relationship wise: Tom is very focused on the physical aspect of dating, Star seems to just consider Tom as her boyfriend because that’s who he is. “Sorry feelings, I can’t think about Marco right now, I’m with Tom!”.

I don’t want to offend any Tomstar shipper with this, just saying what I think the show MIGHT be building up to.

This whole thing about gender equality is quickly turning into a competition about which gender has it worse. We can’t just pretend that only one gender is suffering.

I had this exact problem with one of my fellow scholar today when I asked why only girls get that button that screeches when someone tries to grab them forcefully. He was like, “Why? Can you rape guys?”.

I was honestly triggered at that cause I take gender equality seriously. I went, “there are people who rape guys you know” so he went with the typical “yeah but most of the time its girls that get raped”. Like how the heck could you even say that? Just because the majority are girls doesn’t mean that we shouldn’t protect guys too. It’s like there’s this thing that makes people feel like they have to choose which one to save. I hate it when people turn a blind eye to those who need their help just because they’re not the majority. I JUST FREAKIN HATE IT. LIKE, HELL I KNOW WE CAN’T PROTECT EVERYONE BUT THAT DOESN’T MEAN WE SHOULDN’T FREAKIN TRY.

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happy birthday, aaron taylor-johnson (13.06.1990)

“You never really know, until you’re immersed into something, how passionate you feel for it and how it unravels.”

  • Nobunaga: This date is boring.
  • MC: This isn't a date, Nobunaga. I said I was going to the castle town for an errand.
  • Nobunaga: Then why did you invite me?
  • MC: I specifically said, "Don't come with me." And you said, "You don't tell me what to do. I am the Devil King of the 6th Heaven. I will do whatever I please," and followed me here.

The thing that absolutely gets my goat about people campaigning against marriage equality in the name of ‘religious freedom’ is that. We. Are. Not. Talking. About. The. Religious. Definition. Of. Marriage.


We are talking about a legal institution. Everyone is owed the same rights under the law.


Your faith is your own business, and it has no place governing others.

The Real Godsend: Almond Oil

Coconut oil? Nah, man, fuck that. Okay, coconut oil is pretty great, especially for whitening teeth, but let’s talk almond oil.

Benefits and Uses:

This is a perfect face moisturizer if you have dry skin. Unlike coconut oil, this won’t clog your pores. It leaves your skin glowing and even makes it softer, since it contains vitamin E. It also lightens acne scarring.

Almond oil can be used to remove makeup, especially eye makeup and liquid lipsticks. No more rubbing your eyes!

Massage a bit under your eyes before bed. It will reduce dark circles, as well as fine lines.

Use it to treat chapped lips! Personally I prefer to use rosehips oil on my lips, but almond oil works well too.

Use it on your body! Moisturize your hands, feet, and elbows with it. It’s a light oil, so it won’t leave you feeling greasy and it absorbs easily. Almond oil can help prevent and lighten stretch marks too!

Almond oil also promotes hair growth! Use it on your lashes and brows. You can also use castor oil - castor oil is a little heavier than almond oil, so it’s just a preference thing, they work about equally well for me.

Use it in your hair! 1-2x per week, massage a bit into your scalp. It will make your hair more lustrous and it’ll look healthier! Replace any leave-in conditioners with this. Pro-Tip: Try mixing it with olive oil and castor oil in equal parts.

The scent is very light too, it doesn’t even smell like almonds, so don’t worry about the smell. It’s also super affordable. You can buy a 16oz bottle on Amazon for around $10.

Do NOT use if allergic to nuts.

Note: Make sure you are using sweet almond oil.

My Thoughts on Why the Hetalia Fandom is Failing

A lot of people, including myself before have claimed that this fandom is ‘dying’. My opinion has changed since joining tumblr.  I don’t think that things are that bad just yet because people are still very much in the fandom.

The problem is that we aren’t very active. This is what I’ve noticed so far.

1)      The Popular Blogs Aren’t Active: To have and keep your fans, you need to make consistent material, rather than posting occasionally. It’s what makes people excited and inspires them to create their own content. Even if it’s just one post a day, it’s still really important to post (if you can, of course), as it maintains people’s interest. Especially when you have such a large platform of followers!

Don’t get me wrong, there are some amazing Hetalia blogs that post several times everyday, and I’m always looking for new ones to follow!

2)      Not All Fanart Is Equal: Another thing about our fandom is that new artists aren’t given a chance to thrive. There are amazing new artists out there, but people only reblog the work from the popular blogs. Why not all?  If you see great content, reblog it regardless of how much attention that blog has received.

3)      Reblog Reblog Reblog: Reblog everything, friends. The more you reblog, the more people see content and want to get into it. Simple!

 4)      Fanfiction: The fanfiction community hardly has any responses nowadays, in comparison to what it used to be. Fanfic authors spend hours of their spare time for free to create stories for you to read and enjoy. It’s so important to follow, favourite, and review. Most of the time, authors reach out and post material to connect with their audience (as is with artists too). If there aren’t any responses, then they aren’t going to bother posting.  Good Fics have gotten a lot of people through some tough times, so I would hate to see that part of the community die out.

 If you have an account, support the stories you read. It makes no sense not to, and any comment, no matter how short, means the world to them. It doesn’t take you nearly as much time to support a story as it does to create one. Don’t be lazy if you’re a reader – the stories aren’t going to create themselves, they need encouragement and praise to continue :)

5)      SUPPORT ALL CONTENT: All art, stories, head canons, RPG’s, RPs, and anything else in this crazy fandom needs to be supported. If you love the fandom and want it to thrive, support is your greatest tool to make it happen.

I know some people are going to think I’m being melodramatic by writing this. Or perhaps I care too much. Still, I think the Hetalia fandom deserves better. Sure, there’s some really freaky content, but we’re a bunch of history nerds and weirdos anyways, so whatever, as long as you’re not being offensive.

This is the one fandom that I haven’t ever gotten bored with. The concept of countries being personified is just so ripe with creativity and potential. There is so much you can do with the large list of cast members, i.e. the mecca of ships and AUs. We’ve created a ton of content thus far, so why stop now?

We’re a community, so don’t you think we should start acting like it by becoming active again and supporting each other? The fact that we trended last week makes this even more possible!

Hasta la Pasta, let’s make Hetalia awesome again!

Reblog if you agree :)

seriously why people always wanna talk about how patriarchy affects men

like how do you hear something like “you throw like a girl!” and not realize that while one boy is being teased, literally the entire female sex is being told they suck at physical activity.

how can you look at that and just want to say “see! patriarchy hurts boys!!” No it doesn’t, not systemically. It tries to train them into actually being stronger than women, meaner to women. It teaches them that weak, and stupid are Girl things, and therefore all things girls do are stupid, inferior to things Boys do. How you want to look at that and say “yes, and look how that can hurt boys’ feelings!!” ???

Like no. i don’t wanna talk about boys. I don’t want to hear how their feelings got hurt when they got called a girl, as if their feelings getting hurt somehow overshadows the fact that being female is a shame, an insult, a curse. And I don’t understand why someone would want to make a boy’s feelings a priority in feminism. It’s a side effect, one that can be easily fixed if men wanted to fix it. They could start standing up for women, the women and girls in their life, they could teach their sons that women are not inferior, that the people who use ‘girl’ as an insult are in the wrong. 

But for some reason it has become feminism’s job, women’s job, to take care of boys’ and men’s feelings and comfort them. Just like always. Color me shocked.

 gay and straight relationships are just as capable of being deep and loving or distant and abusive & perpetuating the idea that gay relationships are always more pure or good kind of raises problems when talking about abuse in gay relationships (and can be very harmful to bisexual people who have gotten out of an abusive relationship w someone of the same gender, and entered a healthier one that happens to be straight) 

RFA Yandere Headcanons

Warning: The following might contain dark content which can either make you uncomfortable or trigger you. Read at your own risk. And semi-long post, I suppose?

Yoosung:

Yoosung’s source of inspiration to do anything productive in life always came from a person. Prior to her passing, Rika was this source. However, later, you replaced her. You showed him the kindness that he needed, you believed in him far more than he ever believed in himself, and you gave him the sincerest love that he could ever wanted.

He became addicted.

Your kindness, your smiles, your love; he wanted it all directed at him, and he did not want to share it with anyone. This obsession caused him to become a tyrant who was controlled by his jealousy. His detrimental actions began with small things. First, he expressed his distaste about how you treated everyone equally, and that as your love, he deserves to be your top priority. Then, when his desire for your time and attention began to increase, it escalated to the point where he cut off your contact from everyone else but himself; so that he was would be sole person in your life.

He would be the only person who deserved your love and time.


Zen:

It was no new news to anyone that whatever Zen did, or pursued, he did it with passion, and he dedicated himself entirely to it. So, when he began his relationship with you, he was extremely dedicated and loyal to you. He wanted to spoil you and treat you like the princess he believed you to be.

And so, he became extremely overprotective.

You were not exactly super popular amongst men per se. However, you did receive your fair share of flirtatious remarks; and they would walk up to you in order to receive your phone number and such. The only issue was that this only happened when you were out with Zen. The actor did not take this nicely. If so many filthy beasts approached you when you were with him, then how bad was it when you were out in public a l o n e? This led him to become extremely protective of you, to the point where he would not allow you to be alone with another male, much less go out anywhere without him.

He was just protecting you from the filth out there. After all, he was the only beast whose wild side you would ever need to see.


Jaehee:

Baehee Jaehee absolutely adored you and treasured her friendship with you. You gave her the courage to pursue her dreams and selflessly supported her without asking for anything in return. This made her feel somewhat insecure because in this relationship, for her, you were the only one who was giving and she was the one taking. She began to fear that if she did not reciprocate the giving part in your ‘friendship’ then you would leave her.

You were the only person that she had. She could not possibly let that happen.

And so, she began to go to extra miles to pay back your kindness. You have too much work? Don’t worry, she’ll do it for you. You do not feel like doing something that you need to? Don’t worry, she’ll take over and finish it for you. Her ‘helping’ got to the point where all together, she would do everything for you. As a result, you came to have all the time in the world, and she was always busy. Too busy to even share a small “hi, how are you” with you. This led you seek the company of other RFA’s members, which she did not like. She became possessive to the point where she began to emotionally blackmail you. She threatened to hurt herself if you ever left her behind for others.

“Is my best not enough for you? Would you like my life itself too?


Jumin:

Jumin loved you. He loved you so much, he was unable to express it with words. And so, he began to express it with actions. He wanted to do everything for you and in order to do everything for you, he needed to know everything about you. This led him to conduct his own entire research of you. He took notes about everything: from your lifestyle to all of your small and adoring perks. And it was unfortunate that there were things about your lifestyle that he did not like.

And so, he took control.

First, he persuaded you to move out from your place due to it’s ‘poor and unsatisfactory conditions’ and move in with him. Once that was accomplished and you were in a place where he could keep a track of you constantly, slowly but surely, he forced you to cut ties with people that he deemed to be unworthy for someone of your class. And that was like pretty much everyone you knew except for him. From that point on, his control increased to the point where what you wanted and what he wanted for you became two different things. And your control over your own needs and wants ceased and his order became obligatory.

He became the authority; your caretaker, your lover.  You saved him from his loneliness but instead, you became the slave to his crazy love. 


Seven:

It was love at first sight. As soon as he had opened the materials in order to conduct a background search on you, he had noticed how his heart beat felt faster by just a second. Dare he say, he was almost smitten. Originally, Seven had no plans to do act on the feelings he had developed for you because he was ‘too dangerous.’ However, that changed, when your life was put in danger.

In that instance, he realized, that he was only one who could protect you.

And so, this led him to act on his feelings and confess to you. It was fortunate that you reciprocated his feelings and everything was well. That was until he began to become paranoid which led him to install tracking applications in your electronic devices. He was aware of your whereabouts and your every actions. You felt watched at every second of the day. His reasoning for this was that he needed to protect you. However, when all this watching became too overwhelming and you asked him to decrease it, he didn’t. As a result, you threatened to leave him if he did not abide by your wishes. This did nothing but add fuel to the fire because it resulted him in tying tracking wires around your wrists that could only be removed by him. 

Everything is for your own good.


Masterpost | V + Saeran Yandere! Headcanons

If there is one thing I’ve learned about you it’s that you are equally as self destructive as I am.
You didn’t want to fall in love with me, infact I’m positive you didn’t want to fall in love at all. Between the two of us we managed to sabotage something beautiful and now your name burns in my throat like a shot of cheap vodka. Leaving a taste so vile I can’t help but spit you out. We really were just two shitty people trying to destroy each other before we destroyed ourselves.
—  You’re just another poem.

my favourite thing about the 100 is that women are held at equal, and sometimes higher, standards to men.

like oh you wanna be an engineer? awesome! you wanna be a doctor? hell yeah! you wanna be a leader of all your people? coolio my dude you do you, equality, fuck yeah! the future looks bright ya’ll

Old man customer, a regular, came in and gruffly greeted the 19-year-old girl behind the counter with “hey good-lookin’” and I was like, grr, though she seemed okay with it. Then the store manager, a 48-year-old man (the young woman’s father) came out from the back room, and the old man greeted him with “hey handsome!” so I felt a lot better about the whole thing really. 

Impulse With Control (a very very brief exploration of keith exhibiting the ability to think before making decisions) 

/ this is really brief because oHHH BOY i have so much to say about this and planned. but this is actually an impulsive (HAHHA) meta bc i realised something and got so excited!!! basically, i was just thinking about a particular few seconds of a moment in 1x04. we’ll come to what exactly that is in a moment. but just to recap where we’re At in this situation: it’s highly distressing, pressing and tense. 

allura and keith have just been locked out the castle and there’s no telling if they can get back in. the sheer break and intensity of keith’s voice as he yells “no!” and bangs his fist against the barrier just demonstrates how genuinely invested and frustrated he is with what’s going on: 

he’s determined to continue, asking allura is they can break through the barrier to which the response just makes clear how truly terrible and serious this situation is. 

BUT SOMETHING HAPPENS I JUST WANT TO YELL ABOUT AND ANALYSE DEAR GOD.

now what we should think about is that what im going to bring up comes after allura has delivered some Pretty Bad News: 

And whoever has taken the Castle has a crystal, which means they’ll be able to fly the ship. We have to stop them.

now after she says that you see Keith turns his head and blinks pretty rapidly as he does so before asking a question:  

How are we going to do that?

and it’s here where something interesting happens. i’ve noticed this screenshot before and always thought it was pretty precious tbh but now im actually sat here thinking more about it i’ve come to a cool interpretation and realisation i just have to share!!!! 

so…. guys. this is a really hard blink. like you can see it’s scrunching not just his eyes but his nose a little and there are deliberate crinkles drawn in to demonstrate that this motion is not a natural blink this is a forceful blink. we can see this just by comparing the blink a few seconds before:

you can see this is a natural blink on the frame, and it’s also pretty fast. the hard blink that is significant is actually substantially longer in frames and it’s visibly so. 

it feels to me like keith is doing this for a few potential reasons: 

  • to bring himself back to the sharp focus he endeavours to maintain. 
  • you can see throughout this scene how worked up he is about the lack of control of this situation and knowing that shiro and lance (not knowing about pidge’s whereabouts at this stage) are in there, and one of them is also severely injured. this is his team trapped with the Galra, not to mention shiro and keith proves time and time again he is highly aware of the fact that shiro needs support just like everybody else.
  • so i think personally that this hard blink is kind of like a quicker, more Keith-esque version of ‘patience yields focus’ (abbreviation bc i dont have patience lmao: PYF). it makes sense. keith is quick on the uptake, he’s very direct and his body language is also often very open.
  • keith employs that mantra often with closing his eyes and taking a deep breath. it’s clear that the closed eyes is paired with PYF bc we see that happening as much each time Keith says PYF. these moments (below) all correlate to moments where keith needs to take time to realign himself and regain focus, it reveals when he may be turbulent inside and grappling with very intense emotions (he’s so passionate) 
  • so building on that there’s also a lot of evidence in canon to suggest keith eternalises this saying and doesn’t always voice it but still applies it (i’ve compiled a few example scenes - but this is something i mentioned briefly here and would love to talk more about! these are all what i would consider either Substantial Blinks or prolonged eye closing that is linked to PYF and what that entails) 
  • here, that’s not really the time or place for this. 
  • allura is also there and probably equally as distressed. one thing about keith is that he’s actually pretty self-aware and aware of his surroundings too. he knows that there isn’t really a moment to fall back to the method of PYF (which notably he only ever seems to really do in private when nobody can see him anyway - bar one exception im sure you’ve noticed above, but that ties more into the Hard Blink kind of thing rather than the Classic PYF, either way we are definitely going to talk about that some more bc i have an entire Mindscape Meta planned). 
  • a full PYF moment would potentially draw allura’s attention and cause more concern they just don’t have time to deal with. 
  • keith is so deeply rooted in the present and this is an unfolding situation where the safety of the rest of the team are at risk he can’t afford to lose concentration or succumb to something irrational because of the stakes. 
  • so the hard blink is snappy, fast. and it engages him again (just doing a hard blink myself it definitely makes you feel more aware and you can feel it in your face). 

so basically, keith realises that he needs to take a moment because he wants to make the right choices and not compromise the team, he takes a very brief moment to do what he has to privately. 

following that all the blinks go back to the usual natural smooth blinks:

Pidge also starts talking which captures allura and keith’s attention and moves the scene along ect. 

TLDR: this is just one example i wanted to talk about bc it’s v subtle but interesting. but the fact that keith is shown many times to take time before making a decision (we also should talk about keith and questioning/challenging things and speaking up about group plans, but that’s for another time) to try and keep himself grounded and level-headed just proves he is not as rash or impulsive as immediately assumed. 

instinctive and decisive, definitely. but i don’t believe impulsive and instinctive are entirely synonymous. they both are highly contextual based on the situation (im planning to write up some comparisons of when he’s actually 100% impulsive) - and whilst keith demonstrates he can be impulsive, the times he can take a moment to process a situation, be rational and logical, or take a private moment to get his head in the right place actually outweighs that way more than may be expected. 

the-black-queen-march  asked:

Assuming Howl proposed to Sophie, do you think Howl took Sophie on a romantic candlelit dinner before asking or he was hungover from last night before saying "Ay yo Sophie ya wanna get married" before passing out?

the best thing about this is that both of these options are so equally possible that I can’t even decide which way it happened

it’s like,,

the most exaggerated, overly romantic proposal ever

the most casual, informal & subtle proposal known to mankind

What’s the Deal with God?
  • Theism: belief in the existence of god/gods 
  • Atheism: a lack of a belief in the existence of god/gods
  • Agnosticism: the attitude that there is not enough evidence for or against the existence of god. I’m on the fence about the whole God thing. Equally compelling evidence from both sides
  • Ignosticism: a refusal to participate in the discussion of god’s existence until the terms have been defined. What do you even mean when you say ‘God’? 
  • Pantheism: the belief that god is expressed in all things, everywhere and always. Oh, would you look at that. God is in my snot and farts. Fun.
  • Apatheism: an attitude of apathy regarding the existence of god. Who cares about God? I’ve got Netflix to watch
  • Spiritual but not religious: a comforting catch-all for college freshman. Trees and sunsets give me a sense of awe but science kinda scares me