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“Here’s a pretty unbelievable story: Laurie Holden is an actress who plays Andrea on “The Walking Dead,” but she isn’t just an actress. Holden also works as a human rights activist with a group called Operation Underground Railroad. It’s an organization run by an ex-CIA agent named Tim Ballard that works to take down unsavory human traffickers and the like. So, Holden and the group went down to Colombia to try to take down a group of men who were trafficking in underage prostitutes. Ballard, Holden and co. ingratiated themselves into this group and set up an elaborate party in an effort to catch these men in the act….” Adam Pliskin, Elite Daily 

“For months, the group put together a massive sting operation in cooperation with Colombian authorities. They each had an elaborate cover story. Ballard’s story was that he was the best man in a wedding back in the U.S. and was looking to hire several underage prostitutes for a big bachelor party in Cartagena. The cover was meant to lure the sex traffickers into a setup so that Ballard and his team could rescue the girls, many of whom were under 18. … In order for Colombian officials to prosecute the sex traffickers, they have to catch them exchanging money for the girls on tape. … Holden’s job was to “keep [the traffickers] occupied by the pool area while Ballard and the undercover officers worked to catch the traffickers on tape exchanging money.” Candace Smith and Aristides Pinedo-Burns, ABC News 

“When the traffickers agree on camera to to pimp out the underage girls and the money is exchanged, the cops move in to make the arrests.  During the ordeal Holden works with social workers to comfort the girls, who fear they’re the ones who will be in trouble and that they won’t be paid. Holden is clearly heartbroken when interviewed after the fact. But she should also be extremely proud of her work.” Ian Cervantes, Complex

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There are no activist communities, only the desire for communities, or the convenient fiction of communities. A community is a material web that binds people together, for better and for worse, in interdependence. If its members move away every couple years because the next place seems cooler, it is not a community. If it is easier to kick someone out than to go through a difficult series of conversations with them, it is not a community. Among the societies that had real communities, exile was the most extreme sanction possible, tantamount to killing them. On many levels, losing the community and all the relationships it involved was the same as dying. Let’s not kid ourselves: we don’t have communities.
—  The Broken Teapot, Anonymous

So I know a lot of people headcanon Rami Malek as Kaz for physical similarities, but I think his portrayal of Elliot Alderson in the tv show Mr. Robot deserves him the position instead. 

Unable to stand touch? 

Leading a group of criminals to pull off the biggest heist of their time? 

Struggling with social relationships and suffering anxiety attacks? 

Haunted by the past? 

(also I highly recommend for everyone to watch Mr. Robot not only for Rami’s outstanding performances, but also for the sheer ingenuity of Sam Esmail [the show’s director], the show’s complex social commentary, and the unique lives of each character shown) 

Heightism: The "Socially Acceptable" Discrimination

Can we all, as a society, stop acting like shorter men are somehow inferior human beings to taller men?  This is something that has been annoying the crap out of me recently. 

I started getting angry about this topic about a year ago.  My best friend gave me an otherwise charming book called How to Walk in High Heels: A Girl’s Guide to Everything by Camilla Morton.  The gift was lovely and thoughtful, and I adore most of it.  The book has a lot of decent “girly” type advice for various situations, and it’s helped me several times.  

But there was just one little excerpt in there that I found horribly offensive:

If your escort is shorter than you in your highest heels, dump him immediately.  Pointless.  A pair of Manolos lasts a lifetime, and you shouldn’t compromise style for love." 

WHAT?? Firstly, a man being shorter than you, no matter how well he treats you, makes him suddenly unworthy of your time or attention? Secondly, what does his height have to do with how stylish you are?  Thirdly, if you dump him because you like your shoes better, it’s not love.  Just.  Saying. 

I hear this mentality from almost every girl I ever talk to about guy preferences: "He’s nice, but he’s shorter than me.”  "I like tall guys because I feel like they can protect me.“  Stuff like that.  All the time.  

What’s worse is that when I say something simple like, "I don’t really have a height preference, it doesn’t really matter to me if a guy is taller.”  The response is inevitably, “*SNORT* That’s easy for you to say – you’re short.”  

This is true.  I’m about 5 feet tall when barefoot.  Is it statistically likely that a majority of men are going to be taller than I am?  Sure.  But that’s not the point.  If I found a perfectly wonderful guy who was 4'8" tall, I would not like him any less than I would if he were 6’ tall.  In fact, I’d even still wear high heels, for two reasons: 1. Because I like wearing heels, and 2. Because I wouldn’t feel the need to alter my wardrobe choices for the sake of diminishing the fact that we have a height difference. 

What about feeling protected?  Well, I feel much safer walking around at night with a man, any man, than without one.   His height doesn’t make him unable to deliver a swift sock to the jaw should someone try to harm me.  

What about feeling all small and adorable?  Pff, I’m small and adorable no matter who I’m standing next to.  His height doesn’t change the fact that I’m totally small and adorable.  He can still wrap his arms around me, can’t he?  

(EDIT: this paragraph was left out the first time I published it, but I wanted to add it in, because it has to do with the topic)  Furthermore, when I happen to find myself interested in a man much taller than me, some of my taller female friends disgustedly say stuff like, “Why do short girls always steal the tall guys?”  As if tall guys are the only acceptable ones, and short girls should only choose guys who are height-proportional to them in some way.  As if we should pay attention to height at all, instead of getting to know them as human beings. It takes all within my power to testily point out that just because they’re heightist, they don’t need to accuse me of being so as well.  When I like a guy who is 6'3", as I already said, I’d like him just the same if he were 4'7". 

Now, I’m not going to lie.  Am I terrified that some of my female friends might be offended by this blog post?  Yes.  But this is something I find important, and I’ll explain why a couple paragraphs from now. 

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with having personal preferences regarding the type of person you would date.  For example, I prefer men with whom I can have an intelligent conversation.  This doesn’t mean that if we can’t have an intelligent conversation, he’s stupid.  It may be that he and I are intelligent about different subjects.  But I have a preference toward men with whom I can have an interesting, thoughtful discussion about something we have in common.  I also have physical preferences.  I don’t happen to find especially muscular men physically attractive.  I wouldn’t reject one if I felt an emotional and mental connection to him and he happened to be pretty buff, but as far as what I find physically appealing, personally, I am more drawn to men who don’t have “washboard abs.”  

People have preferences.  I get it.  What I don’t like is that so many women act  like shorter men are defective in some way – as I said before, they say stuff like, “He’s cute/nice/funny/smart/&c., but he’s short.”  As if being shorter than her is so egregious, it cancels out every single admirable quality he may possess.  I also hear stuff like, “He’s a great guy, but he’s shorter than me – he’d be great for a short girl.”  What that says to me is, “He’s a great guy, but not good enough for ME to consider…he can find someone on his level." 

Now, here’s why this is important to me.  Girls complain about guys doing this same thing all the time.  "Why do guys only like blondes with big boobs?”  I hear frequently (and sometimes feel, because I’m human and sometimes have thoughts that aren’t perfect).  "Why do guys only like girls with long hair?  Who are skinny?  Who are tan?  Girls who play sports?  Girls who wear dresses?  &c. &c. &c.“  

I am a women, and I hear other women’s complaints about men’s perceived preferences daily.  I feel those same things that these other women feel – that I am somehow inferior to other women who have x quality, and I only have y quality.  But women, if we feel that men always reject us for some physical quality, why do we feel totally OK with treating short men as if they aren’t worthy of our consideration as romantic possibilities?  As if him being shorter than you makes him unworthy of your consideration, or worse, that it negates all of the good things about him as a person?  

If you think the discrimination against short men isn’t a problem in society, you should probably see this video.  Everyone should, in my opinion. 

Food for thought.  

If you want me to talk about heightism toward any other group, let me know. (I know tall women, for just one example, feel it too). 

For more information about heightism toward short men, check out The Social Complex.

 

@Privileged groups: stop telling marginalized groups that they “owe you” shit

I see this all the time and I’m fucking sick of it. 

LGBTQIA+ people get told that we “owe” cishet people because most of us have parents who are cis and straight, despite the amount of us that are killed and hated by cishet people.

Women (in first world countries) “owe” men, because men agreed to giving them the right to vote and we should just be grateful that we aren’t getting acid poured on us and shut the fuck up about sexism.

Disabled people “owe” abled people, because we’re such burdens, and abled people are such saints for allowing us to live.

Racial minorities “owe” white people because white people fought to free slaves, despite all the horrible treatment we were forced through after slavery.

No one “owes you” for giving you their rights, when you should have never taken away their rights in the first place.

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Jägers and Charity

I was wondering this mostly as a result of reading Almighty Hat’s fics (which are very good and anyone who doesn’t hate a Jorgi/Agatha pairing should definitely read them). But Agatha in that feels indignant that people don’t see how careworn the wild Jägers are, that no one wants to help them, and it left me wondering how Jägers would react if people tried to give them charity.

For one thing they’re very proud.

For another they have complex social rules about how to get clothes. Less so for food, I think, although they do steal any food in the vicinity as a matter of course.

For a third they have a reasonable wariness of non-Mechanicsburg humans and would probably be deeply suspicious of any food people seemed to want them to eat.

They get along with the Corbettites which is an interesting case. By long custom they seem to accept that the Corbettites general charitable actions also apply to them. Especially in Othar’s twitter where a Jäger gets invited to dinner with the monks and mostly behaves (he did drink the gravy), and also shovels coal for them at the station without being asked.

Come to think of it they’re also eager to help the circus get through Sturmhalten. Even if that’s partly because they sympathise with Moxana, it seems to indicate that if Jägers do accept charity, or even kindness, they’ll at least try to pay it back.