Boned bodice with short puffed sleeve gathered into a wide band trimmed with ribbon and two rhinestone circles, open neck and back with rhinestone and bow details, full skirt with double scalloped hem, decorated with lace swags, medallions and floral sprays, lined in cream taffeta, back hook & eye closures
Someone else posted their Trindel wedding headcanons and I thought I’d share my own. There is some debate in Fandom over whether Trindel’s wedding took place in 1979 or 1980, but I’ve chosen to place it in 1979 since May 27th 1980 was a Tuesday and who gets married on a Tuesday night?
Mendel and Trina get married in the little courtyard in Trina’s building (I’ve always imagined Trina to be living in a first floor apartment since she mentions letting a dog out, although she could just be letting the dog out to go shit in the hallway) and have the reception in the apartment since there aren’t a ton of guests.
Mendel invites his parents (his aunts and uncles live mostly out of town or have passed away— that’s a headcanon I’ll save for another post), his four sisters and their children and significant others. Trina invites her parents, her sister, her brother-in-law, and her niece. Mendel feels bad that he invited so many more people than Trina did, but Trina doesn’t really care. Jason is allowed to invite two guests. He invites a friend from his school’s chess club but the friend isn’t allowed to go because it’s a school night. He also invites Whizzer. Trina feels a little weird about that because he and Marvin still have drama, but Jason points out that Marvin’s not going to the wedding so Trina lets Jason invite him.
Trina plans to just get married in her nicest dress since she isn’t having a big showy wedding that would require a big showy dress, and she obviously doesn’t want to wear her first wedding gown. She decides to wear her mother’s old wedding gown even though it’s a little too short for her and has been in a bag in her mother’s closet since 1942. Trina’s mother is delighted, and Trina looks great in the dress.
Mendel, in turn, borrows a tux from his own father since the last tux he wore was in the Great Weisenbachfeld Bar Mitzvah Fiasco of February 1958 (in which Mendel’s youngest sister Frances, then only about six months old, loudly passed gas throughout the entire service and everyone thought it was Mendel). Mendel’s father is not tall, but he’s taller than Mendel, and the tux is baggy. Mendel is mortified but Trina doesn’t care.
Only two of Mendel’s sisters end up showing up to the wedding (the younger ones). Naomi has a bazillion kids and doesn’t feel like wrangling them all onto the train, and Helen is one of those people who moved to the East Side and won’t go crosstown even for her own brother’s wedding. Deborah and Frances show up two hours early and hog the bathroom putting on inappropriate amounts of makeup (they’re 28 and 22 respectively in 1979). Jason goes into the bathroom for a last minute pee five minutes before the wedding and nearly chokes to death on his new step-aunts’ hairspray fumes. Needless to say, Deborah and Frances are EXTREMELY prepared for the 1980s.
Their “something old” is Trina’s wedding dress, their “something new” is their wedding officiant (the first female rabbi to be ordained in North America), their “something borrowed” is Mendel’s tux, and the official wedding yarmulkes are the “something blue.”
Trina’s niece has horrendous allergies to practically every flower on the planet so instead of flowers decorating the chuppah, Trina borrows Christmas lights from the neighbors.
Jason and Whizzer make the cake. Jason thinks he has it under control because he watches Trina bake all the time, and he kicks Whizzer out until it’s decorating time. What they have is an absolutely GORGEOUS cake that tastes like lukewarm garbage. The second Jason’s out of the house, Mendel disposes of the cake by tossing it in a dumpster near Riverside Park. Jason is none-the-wiser until a few days later when he sees a raccoon smearing itself with an oddly-familiar shade of frosting.
The rabbi is a Chaplain at Lenox Hill Hospital who Helen met during her husband’s appendectomy. Unlike Helen, however, Rabbi Sally IS willing to travel to the West Side.
Because Naomi and Helen (the only siblings of Mendel’s who have kids) don’t attend, Mendel and Trina are left high-and-dry in regards to the ring bearer and flower girl. Jason and Allison (Trina’s niece) pinch-hit, but they both feel way too old to be doing it despite the fact that neither of them have hit their teens and Jason won’t even be eleven until the summer.
Trina is neither Mendel’s first girlfriend nor his first sexual experience but she is his first serious long-term partner. Mendel’s parents adore her and they practically hold Mendel hostage over the phone for two hours the day before the wedding imploring him not to fuck it up. Mendel’s mother is less harsh than his father on this issue, but she practically gives him an aneurysm with the TMI on how to please a woman. After the phone call, Mendel prays for the first time since his bar mitzvah, imploring God to never let him hear his mother say the word “climax” again.
Trina and Mendel both get the giggles during their vows and make out for an uncomfortably long time after they are pronounced husband and wife. Trina gives a long-winded speech at the reception about how helpful Mendel has been with Jason, how wonderful it is to become part of his family, and how it all turned out for the best that they only had ten guests because that’s not enough people to lift them up on chairs and dance. Whizzer jokes that it will happen some day (spoiler alert: nope)
After the ceremony and reception, Trina’s family heads back to Westchester. Whizzer offers to let Jason stay with him overnight so that Mendel and Trina can have some alone time, but Whizzer lives too far from Jason’s school and has had a lot of champagne and Trina is concerned Whizzer won’t wake up in time to get Jason ready. Mendel’s parents decide to walk him to Marvin’s place and get cookies on the way because Jason feels rotten about ruining the cake. Mendel’s dad gives Jason “the talk” on the way there and Jason can’t look at Mendel for a week afterwards.
Mendel and Trina do not consummate their marriage on their wedding night because Mendel’s so overwhelmed with emotion (they’re happy tears, but still) and Trina feels weird about “schtupping” an openly sobbing man. They do enjoy a lovely cuddle though.
Trina’s mother and Mendel’s mother form an alliance at the wedding and take turns harassing their children for the next two years about the prospect of future grandchildren (despite the fact that Trina’s mother already has two and Mendel’s mother has a bazillion). They eventually get their wish in January 1982 with the birth of Elizabeth Taylor Weisenbachfeld (named after Whizzer’s favorite actress, and nicknamed “Whizzie” for short), after which they move uptown to a larger apartment in Marvin’s building, and the birth of Caroline Charlotte “CC” Weisenbachfeld and Marina Cordelia “Marnie” Weisenbachfeld in September 1983. Marnie is named after Marvin, who passes in the spring of 1983. I’ve always headcanoned Trina to be a few months along during “Holding To The Ground” as she contemplates bringing another life into an increasingly damaged world.
shorter high-necked and v-backed for a daytime spring or summer fête, or long and full and fancy, with a nipped waist and dropped back for drama in a ballroom or black tie affair, nelliuzun’s pink peony-printed dresses are to die for.