the secret lives of intp's

“To an INTP, knowledge is like mind candy. Now imagine having a funnel shoved down your throat and being force fed candy. This is what high school feels like to many INTPs. If an INTP is "cooperative” and willing to grind away at the homework, they may become the teacher’s pet because of their love of learning. However, other INTPs earn their teachers’ dislike by questioning them in front of the class and arguing over their conclusions. Unhappily the “teacher’s adversary” scenario is apparently rather common. An INTP youth may argue that an assignment is unnecessary, debate the requirements, or insist on a creative reinterpretation of the parameters. They may also ask technical questions that their teachers cannot answer. If the teacher makes a spelling or math mistake on the board, the INTP will helpfully correct them. Teachers, for some strange reason, may come to see the INTP as antagonistic and may even believe that the INTP is deliberately trying to make them look bad. (They may not even be wrong.) Usually, however, the INTP just wants to establish truth.“
—  The Secret lives of INTP’s, What We Have Here is a Failure to Communicate, pg 178.

Unlike most people, INTPs do not come preprogrammed with acceptable social behavior patterns.

Rather, they learn to fit in through conscious observation and deliberate mimicry. While other people talk, the INTP watches and wonders, “Am I nodding too often? Should I speak up, or remain silent?Should I fold my arms, put my hands in my pockets, or try to gesture? Should I touch this person in afriendly, casual way? Where? How much are they smiling? Am I smiling too much? How long should I laugh? How close should I stand?” If it ever becomes possible to control one’s own muscles using computer programs installed in the brain, then INTPs will have onboard control programs such as big_smile.cpp and concern.py, allowing them to arrange their faces into appropriate shapes as required by the situation. They will be considered sociopaths.
Like actors on a stage set, INTPs are playing a role. They know that being true to themselves doesn’t fly too well with average people, and since they want to be liked and accepted just like everyone else does, they slowly accumulate a little store of acting knowledge to help them get by. (It would be interesting to find out if taking real acting courses could improve an INTP’s social standing.) James (2000) has noted that INTPs tend to be human chameleons, imitating the people they meet like a mirror. If a person is friendly, funny, boisterous, and waves their hands around a lot, the INTP will start gesticulating, speak in a louder voice, and smile and joke more to match the other’s behavior. Then, two hours later, the INTP will run into a tough, hurry-hurry-hurry-we’ve-got-work-to-do-snap coworker. Miraculously the INTP will now become brisk, businesslike, and speak in clipped tones.
Finally, they will bump into a cool, silent, terse person, and will themselves become cool, silent, and terse.
Most of the time this mimicry is unconscious and is basically the result of playing a role deeply enough that it becomes embedded. Chameleons don’t have to think about changing their skin color to match leaves and branches–it just happens. INTPs can maintain good relations with a diverse circle of acquaintances because they can mold their behavior to fit in with what is socially required in each one.
Not that INTPs are good actors. They only act because they have to, and only put forth as much effort as is required to get by. An INTP, for example, does not have a giant palette of varied emotional responses that seem totally genuine. Instead, they are controlling their bodies like a puppetmaster controls a puppet, and the resulting clumsy imitation of reality is just not lifelike. But it’s enough to get by, as long as there isn’t too much pressure. If the pressure increases or the situation warrants it,
however, an INTP will switch back to their regular selves for as long as necessary, perhaps stunning their acquaintances with a display of cool, clear, cogitant reasoning.

—  The Secret Lives of INTP’s
Most religious organizations are led by Extraverts, because being a pastor requires lot of people contact; Feelers, because pastoral work is a helping profession; and Judgers, because Judgers run everything anyway.15 In short, most pastoral staff is EFJ, and they naturally create an EFJ culture.16 I fear this approach does not naturally endear INTP churchgoers. For example, is an INTP likely to be enthusiastic when the EFJ pastor says cheerfully, “Okay, everybody! Stand up and give your neighbor a hug!”? (Your only hope is to sit at the far end of the pew, where your neighbors can’t reach you.) Or how about when the pastor suggests that members of the congregation stand up if they want prayer? How many INTPs are going to want to stand up in the middle of a crowded room to reveal that they need help with something and want prayer? INTPs do not deal with their problems by asking loved ones for help (in fact, they hate asking for help, period); how much less a roomful of strangers? Then too, EFJs express their emotions freely and loudly; this makes INTPs uncomfortable. (What? Cry? In public?) The net result of this is to produce INTPs who have faith, but prefer not to set foot in a church building.
—  The Secret Lives of INTP’s
Are INTPs cat people or dog people? Unscientific internet polls consistently indicate that internetusing INTPs prefer cats. INTPs are independent; cats are independent. INTPs are quiet; cats are quiet. INTPs are solitary; cats are solitary. INTPs are not emotionally needy; cats are not emotionally needy. INTPs are self-sufficient; cats are self-sufficient. As one person put it, “I think cats are INTPs reincarnated.”
Believe it or not, an actual scientific study has confirmed that cats are the INTP animal of choice. A Big Five study (the Big Five is an alternate personality inventory) measured the personality preferences of 4,565 cat and dog lovers.35 The Big Five is correlated to the MBTI, and you can translate somewhat 35 Gosling in Coren, 2010 35 between the results for each test.36 Gosling found that dog lovers were more extraverted (= E) more agreeable (= F) and more conscientious (= J). In short, dog lovers tend to be more EFJ than average. Cat lovers, by contrast, tended to have higher openness (= N) and higher neuroticism (= female IP). Cat lovers, then, are more likely than average to be INPs. Nonsurprisingly, the study also found that cat people were in the minority: 12% of people claimed to be cat lovers while 46% claimed to be dog lovers. (28% liked both, and 15% liked neither.) It makes good sense that cats are the INTP pet of choice.
—  The Secret Lives of INTP’s, Cats, pg 36.