the same goes for your weight

unpopular opinions/facts
  • if your grandparents/parents are transphobic/homophobic, please be patient with them. They’ve been raised with values that we just don’t uphold anymore, and some of them are stuck in their old ways.
  • Women aren’t all innocent and good by default, the same is true with men
  • There have been many female pedophiles, as well as rapists, they just aren’t incarcerated at the same rates as their male counterparts.
  • If you refuse to have sex with someone because of their race, orientation, gender, appearance, weight, genitals, or anything of the sort, don’t feel guilty
  • you can, indeed, be racist to white people. Not called reverse racism, just racism.
  • please don’t force your fucking animals to be vegan with you. Dogs, cats, etc, they need meat!
  • if you are a trans guy that goes out looking like the opposite gender (long hair, makeup, female clothing, looking like society’s version of a female while actually being male), please don’t go off on someone if you get misgendered. Same goes with trans girls.
  • ‘you can cosplay whoever you want, regardless of the character’s race or gender
you know how when you go to the doctor complaining that something hurts, they ask you is it a sharp pain? a dull pain? does it come and go or is it always there? the missing you. it hurts. it’s like a dull pain in my heart that never goes away. it never leaves. and if it does it’s for a split second and then it’s a sharp pain. a pain that makes me remember every kiss, every hug, every coffee date, or morning spent burning pancakes. the pain of missing you never leaves. there is no medication. no magic fix. the dull pain in my chest never leaves. it’s like the weight of the world is sitting on my chest. in the same place you used to lay your head ever so lightly. the only cure for this is you. and therefore my pain in incurable.
—  the dull pain in my heart.

Okay I am really sick and tired of people complaining about how mean Lance is to Keith, and I’m here to remind you that Keith is just as willing of a participant in their banters! Not to mention, Keith says mean things to Lance without being provoked either! For example

  • “We could toss out some nonessential weight” said to Lance specifically in the first episode
  • purposely misleading Lance in the invisible maze. 
  • “I’M NOT SCARED!!!” as he does the same thing as Lance, and also goes faster because he wants in to the competition too
  • “What’s that? I-I can’t hear you, you’re cutting off!” aka Keith being a little shit for fun
  • “The amount of information in your brain could be stored in a paper airplane” Keith insults Lance without provocation. Hell, Lance didn’t even talk to Keith thus far in that scenario, it was Keith that initiated the banter
  • The entirety of the elevator/pool scene. Keith was rude to Lance when Lance didn’t do anything

Also have you guys seen teenage boys bantering? That’s what they do. There’s really no real venom to their words. Not to mention Keith and Lance have many instances of getting along well. Plus Keith is pretty rude to everyone at one point. He says a lot of mean things to Pidge as well.

Plus, Lance also engages in similar banter with Hunk and Pidge. Pidge makes waaay more cruel remarks to Lance and everyone else yet I don’t see y’all hating on her. Only being happy at how “sassy” she is. Stop right there. Enough with the colourism. If you’re gonna blame Lance for being mean to Keith, you also better blame Keith and Pidge for being mean to Lance as well.

Can you gain weight without going to the gym?

I get this question a lot! Yes, you can gain weight without going to the gym. You can gain weight simply by eating more, no lifting required. The reason that weight lifting is recommended is because you can not control where fat goes, but you can control where muscle goes.  If you want bigger thighs and you choose to gain just by eating, there is no guarantee that you’ll gain in your thighs. You might just get a gut. But when you lift weights, you can focus on your quads and build big thighs. Same goes for your butt and anything else that your are trying to make bigger. 

Also, If you choose to gain simply by eating you may end up with the perfect legs and butt, but you may not be feeling the extra stomach or arm fat that came with them. There is only one way to lose excess fat and that’s cardio, which is going to burn fat everywhere! That means that you’ll lose your legs and butt as you lose the extra fat around your stomach. However if you chose to gain mostly muscle weight, when you get to the point that you feel that maybe you need to lose some fat, the muscle you have gained will stay! So your thighs and butt will stay big and your belly will go.

Gaining weight by lifting is what bodybuilders call bulking. After they bulk, they cut, which means they clean up their diet and incorporate more cardio. This is a process that can be and is often repeated more than once. You can gain muscle and fat, get to a point where you feel it’s time to lose some fat, and then repeat. So you can get bigger, lose the extra, get even bigger, lose the extra and repeat until your body looks how you want it. This is way more effective than just eating and hoping the fat goes where you’d like it to.

So yes, you can gain weight without going to the gym, but it’s not the most effective way. 

Losing weight isn’t just about the looks, it’s how you feel internally. When I lost weight, I was obviously loving the way I was looking, but I was loving the fact that I was loving myself more. I’m not saying that you should only love yourself if you’re making yourself look better, but you love yourself more because you’re taking care of yourself. You see yourself gettting up every morning to do something good for your body and that honestly makes you become closer to yourself.
When I lost the weight, I had a better relationship with myself. Because I actually was showing myself that I cared… think of it this way… when you’re boyfriend/girlfriend shows you how much they care… you fall more and more in love with them, and appreciate them and you want to spend more time with them… well guess what? That goes the same way for yourself. If your partner neglects you, doesn’t treat you very well… you resent them. It’s all the same with yourself!

It’s honestly imprtant for me to run a blog that doesn’t just promote weightloss, I want to promote self love and happiness.. cause in the long run looks fade and it’s important that as a generation we dont depend on looks to make us happy. The younger you learn this, the happier you’ll be!

 I want people to feel the love I have gained for myself for themselves, I never knew how important it was until I started to treat myself better, it was like a rude awakening. When I was overweight and when I didn’t care for my body or for myself for that matter it was all I had ever known… that was that and I didn’t feel like there was much more to love about myself, I was content with what was, even though that meant I wasn’t happy… I lost control over myself and I was in so much denial that I would sacrfice my own happiness if that meant not coming to terms with how badly I was treating my body.

I could honestly go on about this subject because I have learned so much and I could just talk about it all day, but this is me putting my story online to help others realize that you never lost control of yourself, you still have control and once you realize that you can become a happier, healthier version of yourself you take action and take all that control back and use it.

 My advice on my blog isn’t coming from a Nutritionist to a person.
It’s not coming from a personal trainer to a person.
It’s coming from a person who went through it first hand with no help from anything to a person.

I struggle with how losing weight has become something so commercial. Products are being sold, there are these teas you see everywhere telling you you can be happy and healthy and have the perfect body if you drink it… it’s all bull shit. You don’t need a easy way, you just need you to want to treat your body well. Worokout and eat healthy, yummy foods, be good to yourself, be positive, surround yourself with awesome people and do things you love. THAT’S IT!!! You don’t need body shapers, teas, pills, surgery, YOU can do it on your own and when you do it on your own it’s more rewarding.

I am here for every single one of you, and if you ever feel discouraged never hesitiate to contact me, I answer to everyone and take the time you deserve to give the best advice I could possibly give… we’re in this together, lets get you happy and healthy!


Could i request a Carlisle plus size piece where you are scared to go to him because he’s a doctor and will lecture you on your weight but of course he doesn’t and the visit goes smooth.

(requested by secretlittledelights)


You sat on the bed in the room, trying to steady your breathing as you waited for your doctor to come in; it was a new doctor and you were certain it would be the same routine you had grown accustomed to. The doctor would walk in, chastise you about your current weight before going into vaguely describing steps you should take to lower it. It had happened for as long as you could remember–the main reason you dreaded everything about the doctor, from the weigh-in at the beginning to the looks you would get from the doctors and nurses as you left.

The handle on the door turned and your pulse began to race, your mind racing through the possibilities of what could happen once the doctor walked in. However, you weren’t expecting him to walk over, a wide smile on his face, and reach out to shake your hand, introducing himself as Dr. Cullen. Despite your nerves, you couldn’t help but smile back as you shake his hand, stating your name.

“Well, [Y/N], what seems to be the issue today?” He asks, his back turned to you as he pulls up your file on the computer. You explain your issue and go through the necessary procedures he needs to do to properly diagnose you, just waiting for the lecture to begin. However, the visit ends with no issues, him handing you a prescription as you stand up.

“Thank you, Dr. Cullen…Thank you.” You state, smiling as you leave the room and head to your car. As with all your appointments, you were again holding back tears, this time tears of joy as you had finally, finally found a doctor worth visiting.

thank you for requesting! i hope you like it

Real Talk:

Unless you are somebody’s personal physician or trainer, it is not your job to comment on their weight.
Stop telling people “you’d be so much better looking if you dropped a few pounds!”
“Your life would be so much easier without that extra weight!”
“You need to lose weight, this current weight is unhealthy.”
“You shouldn’t wear that until you lose more weight.”
It ain’t your business. You are not a licensed medical professional, and if you are, you are likely not THEIR doctor. And at the very least, No one asked for your opinion.
People do not all fit into the same mold of what is “attractive” or even what is healthy. And the same goes for telling a thinner person to gain weight.
If a person is not asking for your opinion on how their body looks, don’t take it upon yourself to tell them that you don’t think they look good or that you think their body isn’t healthy.
That being said, the only time anyone should ever take comments like this seriously, is if a Medical Doctor tells them they need to lose weight for the benefit of their health. I’m very wary about the “Body Positivity Movement”, because as much as we like to say “Big Is Beautiful” (And it certainly can be), there does reach a point where it’s dangerous. And if it’s affecting your well being, listen to your doctor and do something about it. Your doctor isn’t fat shaming, they are doing their job (as long as they don’t say it in an offensive or inappropriate manner of course, but that’s a whole different rant).
If YOU PERSONALLY are unhappy with the way you look or feel, by all means find a healthy way to get to where you can be happy and comfortable in your own body. But friends, PLEASE DON’T LET OTHER PEOPLE TELL YOU THAT YOU SHOULD CHANGE YOUR BODY SIMPLY BECAUSE OF THEIR SHITTY UNWARRANTED OPINION.
My friends are all beautiful.
Wear what you want.
Cosplay who you want.
Eat what you want.
Stay healthy and happy and make sure you’re looking out for the #1 person in your life: YOU.

Bambam and Yugyeom don’t deserve all this hate and negativity. They are beautiful inside and out. They are still young. Yugyeom is beautiful. He does not need to change. He is amazing just the way he is. Bambam is young. He doesn’t know what is offensive in the United States. Jus tell him politely that it id wrong. Please protect our babies. It really hurts me to see all these nasty comments on their sns. 😢 Bambam checks his Twitter frequently. So Iy hurts me know that he will see these comments and start being upset. Same goes for Yugyeom. He does not have to lose weight to fit your beauty standards. He is perfect. I am really getting sick of those comments. You did to Youngjae and Jackson. And now Yugyeom! 😡 Youngjae is super self conscious about his body now and Jackson is on a strict diet. (Yes, I know he doing it because he wants to. But another part of that was the comments that were made on his sns) Just thinking about what this can do to Yugyeom kills me. Please, I begging you, flood Bambam’s and Yugyeom’s sns with positive and loving comments. Let them know we love them and will be with them. Thank you


The Dr walks into the office and starts by saying I am down 14 lbs since my last visit and that he can tell I am looking so much healthier!

Then he goes onto ask how I am doing and I pull out my charts and photos and all of that and go over all the updates - which he loves btw!

Blood pressure was spot on, he is very pleased with the rate the A1C is dropping, the weight loss etc…

After he leaves you have to wait for the nurse to come in with the follow up details etc.  Its usually the same nurse and she walks in and says I need to shake your hand.  The Dr was just showing her the printouts (as he always asks to keep them for the file) and she was so proud (her words) of all of the progress I am making.