the psychology of affection

jadapaige  asked:

What are some of your guilty pleasures when it comes to yaoi? Like what do you think is kind of bad or even problematic but also pretty hot to you?

I think the only 2 guilty pleasure I like when it comes to yaoi is when the uke is younger than the seme lmao ! its so frustrating cuz the relationship is so pure, but they can’t do anything cuz the uke is a minor. 

BEFORE ANYONE says shit yes I am aware that young dating is a crime that’s why im considering it problematic, but love is love bro you can’t let age affect that. 

also, i like psychological type genre. I understand that people are dragging Killing Stalking for the sole purpose of it being an abusive relationship and just other traumatizing situations, but *shurgs shoulders* that’s not the reason why people read it or at least that’s not why I’m reading it . The human brain is so fcking scary and seeing sangwoo go through his moments is interesting to me . 

What your birth chart will teach you
  • Sun: Why do I act and express myself the way I do
  • Moon: Why do I react and feel the way I do
  • Ascendent: Why do I see and meet the world the way I do
  • Mercury: Why do I think and communicate the way I do
  • Venus: Why do I express affection the way I do
  • Mars: Why do I express anger and passion the way I do
  • Jupiter: Where do I feel most confident and where do I push my luck
  • Saturn: Where do I feel most anxious and where do I need to realize authority
  • Uranus: Where do I rebel and innovate
  • Neptune: Where do I lose touch with reality and how do I escape it
  • Pluto: Where do I feel most powerless and how do I need to let go of ego to transform
  • Midheaven: What do I want to achieve and who do I want to become
  • Descendent: What do I project on other people
  • Immum Coeli: How has my upbringing affected my psychological roots
Truth or truth?

1. Are you good at apologizing?
2. Do you prefer your looks or personality?
3. Are you confident?
4. What are you most confident about yourself?
5. Name a few songs that reminds you of someone, and who it remind you of.
6. What is your favourite colour combination?
7. Define your “aesthetic”.
8. What is sex to you?
9. Do you have any kinks? What are they?
10. What are some of your biggest pet peeves?
11. What’s something that automatically turns you off of other people?
12. What song always makes you sad/emotional?
13. How many people have you dated? How many of them do you still have feelings for?
14. How are you with moving on?
15. What’s a philosophy you agree with, but fail to live by?
16. What’s something you don’t like about yourself?
17. What’s something positive happening in your life right now?
18. Are you truly able to admit your faults in relationships to yourself?
19. Is it important to you to be a good person?
20. Are you a good person?
21. How could you become a better person?
22. Would/have you ever pierced your genitalia?
23. Have you ever been in love? If so, with how many people?
24. Do you believe in love at first sight?
25. Which social science interests you more; psychology (how the mind effects a person), sociology (how society affects a people) or anthropology (learning about culture)? Why?
26. Have you ever orgasmed?
27. Have you ever made someone else orgasm?
28. During sexual interaction, what is the most important thing to you?
29. Are you comfortable being sexual with lots of people?
30. How do you usually get people to be interested in terms of romantic relationships? And sexual relationships? And platonic relationships?
31. What’s your favourite song to sing a long to?
32. What’s some “embarrassing” music you listen to?
33. What are you most snobby/pretentious about?
34. How do you express sad emotions? And happy emotions?
35. Do you use Skype? Facetime?
36. How do you feel about phone calls?
37. How do you feel about texting?
38. What are your thoughts on LDRs?
39. Have you ever cried over a piece of visual art? What was it of? Why do you think it made you cry?
40. When and why was the last time you cried?
41. What’s something you love that you never do anymore? Why don’t you do it?
42. Are you afraid to die?
43. If there were no limits; who and what would you be?
44. Are you more likely to be sub or dom during sex?
45. Describe your fashion sense.
46. Do you have stage fright?
47. Did/do you ever put your hand up in class?
48. Are you more of an open or closed person?
49. What’s the worst thing that ever happened to you? And the best?
50. Are you a theist? (Not necessarily in the way of “guy in the sky”, maybe just believing in any higher power)
51. What are your top three places you’d like to travel and why?
52. What’s something you thought would be really scary/bad, but was actually fine when it happened/you did it?
53. When you sleep at friends houses, how often do you sleep in their bed?
54. Can you sleep facing someone?
55. Do you ever get in slumps? If so; how often, and how long do they usually last for?
56. Do you like being alone?
57. Are you social?
58. How do you feel about parties?
59. Have you ever hosted a party? How did it go?
60. What question(s) do you love to ask people?
61. What question(s) do you love being asked?
62. Are you confrontational? Does it make you uncomfortable when others are?

Send me in two numbers, 1-62, and I’ll answer one!!


The Moon indicates our emotional style. But equally important, it indicates how we experienced our mother and our early environment and how that affected us psychologically. Our early environment and the type and degree of nurturing we received are critical in shaping our psychology and establishing a sense of security and trust. In this culture and in most others, the father teaches the ways of the world and how to function in it. The mother’s role, on the other hand, is to build the foundation of security, trust, and love necessary for healthy feelings about others and ourselves. If this foundation is cracked or insufficient, we will not have the emotional resources to face our task as an adult of providing for our own survival and that of others.

Our family and our early environment are selected by the soul before life and can, therefore, be read in the chart. The Moon and its aspects, the ruler of the fourth house and its aspects, and the planets in the fourth house and their aspects describe our early environment. They also describe the mother and her attention to us. More accurately, they describe our experience of her and our early environment. Although these aspects describe both the early environment and the mother, the planets within the fourth house seem to describe the environment more than they do the mother. And the houses of the fourth house ruler and the Moon describe the mother’s interests and where she puts her energy. If we have been more influenced in our early years by our father or another caretaker, the Moon and the fourth house will describe that individual.

Moon in Aries

The early environment of this Moon sign is likely to be colored by competition and conflict. The conflict may be between the parents, the siblings, or any combination of family members. This Moon sign also may signify animosity or anger on the part of the mother toward her family or spouse or in general. In any case, the home environment is often tense and competitive, and the individual who grows up in it may be tense and angry as well. On a more positive note, the mother may be strong, independent, assertive, and possibly athletic and encourages these traits in her child. Some with this Moon sign have families who are involved in the military or athletics. In general, the environment is more masculine and encourages the development of masculine traits even in its female children.

Moon in Taurus

Unless the Moon is afflicted, the Taurus Moon’s early environment is likely to be peaceful and stable and meet the child’s physical needs. The home is likely to be comfortable. The family may even be well-off financially. The mother is often affectionate, dependable, and a good cook. However, little attention may be given to emotional and intellectual needs. With this Moon sign, security and material comforts often supersede emotional needs. Consequently, many with this Moon sign repress or are unaware of their feelings. Children in such families often follow the model presented them by finding comfort and satisfaction in material things rather than in people. Love becomes equated with food and gifts. As a result, their relationships may be with toys, food, or television.

Moon in Gemini

Gemini Moons are likely to be bright and intellectually inclined, and the mother fosters this. The mother usually plays an educative role and happily meets the child’s intellectual needs. This is a home where education is valued and reading and schoolwork are emphasized. However, the child’s emotional and physical needs may not be attended to as enthusiastically. Although the mother may be an intellectual role model, she may be less helpful in modeling other skills, such as intimacy and managing in the world. She may not be very affectionate or emotionally demonstrative. In some cases, the mother feels more like a friend, a peer, or an aunt.

Moon in Cancer

This Moon sign is ideal for establishing a solid foundation for adulthood. Unless the Moon is afflicted, the mother probably enjoyed being mother and homemaker. She is likely to have met the child’s physical and emotional needs. When our physical needs are met, we feel valued and recognized; when our emotional needs are met, we learn to value and trust our feelings. Feelings are important because they point to our needs, and only by having our needs met can we grow physically, emotionally, intellectually, and spiritually. So, recognition of our feelings is crucial in our early years. It is how self-worth is built and tantamount to being validated as an individual. The Cancer Moon’s mother is someone who attends to her child’s feelings and makes herself available physically and emotionally, which supports the development of self-esteem. On the other hand, the ties with the mother can be too close. The mother is identified with her children and may be possessive, smothering, and overly protective. This may make it difficult for the child to grow up and establish an independent identity.

Moon in Leo

When it is not afflicted, the gift of this Moon sign is a firm sense of self and self-worth. Confidence can go a long way in life. This gift of confidence instilled by the mother establishes a foundation for the Leo Moon’s future successes. The mother’s warm, expressive nurturing style lends confidence to her child. She is likely to have showered her Leo Moon child with attention and affection, so the child comes to expect this from others. This may, in part, be a self-promoting act in that she views her child as an extension of her own ego and love flows from this place of pride. Her child can do no wrong because it is her child. She is likely to encourage her child’s creativity and self-expression and may be creative herself. She is dramatic, forceful, and a show-stealer. The child learns to get her attention by doing the same.

Moon in Virgo

The early nurturing that Virgo Moons receive may be dedicated but dry. The mother is likely to be efficient, orderly, hardworking, and responsible but emotionally inexpressive. She is educated and thorough in her approach to motherhood, studying all the latest manuals about raising children. This care and attention is noticed by the child and makes up in many ways for the mother’s lack of warmth and playfulness. Nevertheless, Virgo Moons may struggle with expressing their emotions, having not had a model for this. Although they may not learn to be emotionally expressive, the dedicated care given to them is often sufficient to build their self-esteem. They, in turn, make dedicated and efficient mothers. On the other hand, the child’s self-esteem might be undermined if the mother is hypercritical and fussy, as is often the case with this Moon sign. In that case, the individual is likely to become self-critical or critical of others too.

Moon in Libra

When not afflicted, this Moon sign represents a beneficial home environment. The early home life is likely to be harmonious and peaceful, and the mother takes pride in providing a home that is both aesthetically pleasing and emotionally supportive. The absence of conflict and argument in the home is often apparent with Libra Moons, for they mirror this non-confrontational style in their relationships. They are likely to have learned how to negotiate and compromise in this early atmosphere, which can later serve them well in their own family relationships and work. The mother might be artistically inclined, refined, and well-versed in social etiquette. Culture and the arts might be emphasized in the home.

Moon in Scorpio

The early environment of Scorpio Moons is often difficult and intensely emotional. Abuse or misuse of power and authority are a possibility, leaving the individual angry or repressed. The mother or another family member may be domineering, manipulative, possessive, or controlling. There is often an undercurrent of hostility and resentment in the home and a sense of deep, dark secrets that no one is allowed to speak about. The secrets could include such things as violence, sexual abuse, addiction, criminality, psychological problems, or illegitimate children. On the other hand, the mother may have been highly attentive to the child’s emotional needs and bonded deeply with him or her. This is fine for the infant, who needs this bonding, but as the child matures, this can feel overbearing and possessive. Since identification by both parent and child is so strong, Scorpio Moons often have difficulty breaking the tie with their mothers as adults. The emotional intensity of this relationship often continues over the years. This deep psychic connection between the mother and child may, in fact, originate in a former lifetime.

Moon in Sagittarius

This Moon sign often represents a less traditional nurturing experience. The mother’s nurturing style is easygoing and liberal. Freedom is important to her and this attitude is conveyed to the child by allowing him or her freedom to explore, ask questions, and investigate life. However, there may be too little responsibility expected from the child and too few rules to allow the child to develop the inner discipline necessary for adulthood. Or, the mother may be off having her own adventure. So, although the mother may be a model of independent action and adventure, she may not be available to provide the security and stability that a child needs. She might lack responsibility and behave more like a friend than a parent. It is common for those with this Moon sign to live in a foreign country or be influenced by foreigners when they are growing up, perhaps by traveling a lot. The military family is an example of this. The family values freedom more than they do stability. They often move or travel a lot.

Moon in Capricorn

With this Moon sign, something may be lacking in the early environment. The mother may be ill and unable to care for the child, absent from the child’s life, depressed, repressed emotionally, over- worked, or unable to cope with the duties of motherhood. Sometimes the mother dies. Harshness is another possibility. The mother may be unloving, overbearing, strict, rigid, and restrictive, allowing little leeway for the child to act like a child or express his or her emotions. In any case, the child receives insufficient mothering. On the other hand, the early home life may be stable, secure, orderly, and attentive to responsibilities, supplying the child with the structure and discipline needed to function effectively in the world as an adult.

Moon in Aquarius

The Aquarius Moon’s early home life and mother are likely to be unique or unusual in some way. The individual may grow up in a household with progressive ideas about child rearing and considerably more freedom than most children. This free and tolerant atmosphere exposes the child to ideas that other children might not encounter. However, although this is an advantage intellectually, the child may have difficulty getting his or her need for closeness met. Aquarius, although tolerant and altruistic, is not known for its emotional warmth. Young children, however, do need close emotional interactions with adults to form a solid foundation of trust and a sturdy sense of self. As a result, Aquarius Moons may learn at an early age not to expect others to meet their emotional needs. Consequently, as adults, they may have trouble addressing the emotional needs of others. When afflicted, this Moon sign may indicate a chaotic home, inconsistent nurturing, divorce, or a disrupted home life, which can leave emotional scars and affect the individual’s ability to form intimate relationships later on. Several moves or changes in the early years are common. These can either cause insecurity or teach the individual to make the best of change.

Moon in Pisces

Pisces Moons may undergo some loss or hardship in relation to the mother. She may be psychologically incapable of caring for her child, mentally ill, addicted to drugs or alcohol, or neglectful. On the other hand, she may be artistic or musical. She is often religious, kind, and selfless. Religious or spiritual activities may be carried out in the home. In either case, Pisces Moons learn compassion, either through their own suffering or their mother’s compassionate care. When they are cared for lovingly, they learn to care lovingly for others. If they have been neglected, however, they may grow up with the same psychological damage as their mother and be prone to drug abuse and mental illness.

Shortly before Remus Lupin’s fifth birthday, as he slept peacefully in his bed, Fenrir Greyback forced open the boy’s window and attacked him.

Remus Lupin’s full bio, Pottermore.

This is a disturbing bit of information. A lot is said with so little, as is perhaps Jo’s hallmark, but imagine the implications here.

At this particular time, Remus is four years old. He is at the age where many children are sent to attend preschool, and he is able to finally play outside by himself, to eat his own food at the table without any help, and is highly intrigued by humor and makes “poo-poo” jokes just to be daring and self-confident–because he can, because he’s a big kid now. He’s at an age where he is less a toddler and more a true child. He’s more adventurous and daring, and begins to explore his own personality. Remus is a happy child who probably giggles a lot and jumps on the bed just because Daddy said no.

Many children do not remember things before their third or fourth birthday, but Remus is nearing five years old. Whether or not he would have remembered this event in it’s entirety, the event would have been lasting in his mind and Remus would be left with a glaring image that is neither complete truth nor total lie. For Remus, this event was almost surely the “beginning of his life.” In the strange way none of us remember anything before this breakaway point and “none of it happened,” Remus probably does not remember anything before this attack. This was both the literal and figurative birth of Remus Lupin, werewolf.

Moreover, the nature of the attack is clearly hinted at and the potential horror is astounding. Werewolves don’t force open windows. Paws cannot force open windows. This means that Fenrir Greyback had to have entered the Lupin household before moonrise, just prior to his transformation. He did it silently, because Remus fails to grasp at such a young age that the attack was purposeful. He wasn’t scared until the attack itself. But the noise level is irrelevant, because even if there was silence before once the moon rose it wouldn’t have mattered. Four-year-old Remus would be trapped in his  bedroom watching a man transform into a murderous beast right in front of him, and although he screams as loud as he can if Fenrir had time to pry open the window he probably had time to block the door. Lyall can’t get to his son in time, whatever happened. And that kind of trauma is lasting. Whenever Remus goes to sleep now, he is terrified of the memory. He is plagued with nightmares. He is so sick because he’s so small, and he can’t possibly understand why.

Until it happens. Until Remus becomes the thing that haunted his dreams for a month, and nothing can fix that. Much of our personality is formed in these tender years, and the psychological impact of the attack would actually continue to affect Remus for the rest of his life. Not just physically, but psychologically, as well. More than nightmares and new fears, Remus must deal with the new reality of his parents constantly looking tired, constantly worrying, constantly moving around, constantly lying. And Remus can’t help but think it’s his fault, because he’s the sick one. If he wasn’t sick, everything would be better.

That one sentence in the expanse of Remus’ bio is as descriptive as much of the remaining text. And there’s something to be said in the end that Remus’ boggart was not Fenrir. It was not fear of the event that tormented him in childhood, but of his own lack of control during his loss of control. Whatever else the event could have continued to do to him, it didn’t dominate him. Being a werewolf was Remus’ life, of course. Everything he did came through that filter. But he did not hate Fenrir for what he was. He says that he pitied the man who bit him at first, knowing how it felt to transform. But Remus never openly hates Fenrir. He hates that he himself is a werewolf more than he hates the man who made him so, and that’s a huge sign of internal character. That’s who Remus really is when we cut through layers of stigma and self hate. 

stuff I appreciate on “Yuri on Ice”
  • Yuri is a character that struggles with his weight, and he is a professional athlete. This isn’t a one time comment or information from an interview, it is an actual character trait and something as simple as showing what Yuri eats maintains this consistently.
  • Yuri had a bit of a crush on Yuko when they were children, but the fact they never got together doesn’t mean they are no longer friends; they care for each other, for each other’s families, root for each other and are always happy when the other is happy
  • on top of that Yuko is married to Takeshi, and Takeshi is a good friend of Yuri’s as well. The Nishigori marriage are easily Yuri’s closest friends in Japan and their daughters are fans of him too.
  • Yuri doesn’t get on Yurio’s level whenever Yurio is mean to him, the only time Yuri competes against Yurio is on the rink when they are skating cause they are both professional skaters. Yuri, an adult, does not fight a teenager but doesn’t let him win either.
  • Yuri’s friends support Yurio as well. Even if Yurio is still pissed at Viktor, Yurio does communicate with Yuko and her family and doesn’t treat them badly for being Yuri’s friends.
  • this may seem like a small thing but, the main pairing in this show is made out of two adults. Yes it may not seem like much but if this was any type of Yaoi, a literal child would wind up portrayed as the one having a romance with his coach.
  • Yuri’s problems are stated as being psychological. Mental and emotional issues affect your life and it is ok to portray that.
  • Yuri’s previous coach still talks to him and is proud of him, same as his ballet teacher. Just because you changed careers or are trying something new, that doesn’t mean that all the people you knew before are gone from your life.
  • Yurio is not used to loosing, but upon loosing to someone else that he looked down on he changed strategies and stepped up his game.
  • Yuri is not afraid to be selfish anymore. People praise selflessness, but that shouldn’t come in the way of not moving forward. Yes you can want someone else’s affection, you deserve to win at what you are working on, you deserve to feel important and to not let others tell you otherwise.
  • you can be an adult and still decide to do something new with your life
  • Yuri’s parents don’t know anything about his career besides “he got a good rank we guess”. I actually relate to this a lot cause no one in my family has the same career as me, not even distant cousins, so there’s only so much of what I do that they can actually understand.
  • that said, just because they don’t get it, this doesn’t mean they don’t support it. Sometimes all your parents know to do with what you like is tell you “sure go ahead” and that’s a form of encouragement. They found a dance teacher for Yuri and let him ice skate (which is probably not cheap) and they always watch his competitions.
  • this is an international competition. And we have people from at least 3 continents representing that. A character from Thailand? can’t remember seeing that elsewhere, a dude from Switzerland? Azerbaijan too? the Chinese boy is not a kung fu stereotype? and the American one is Latino?!?!? yes please
  • Yuri is one of those people who downplay themselves so much, that they can’t imagine other people thinking that they are amazing. But yes, you are amazing, someone thinks so, and it is ok to not fully believe that yourself at first, but don’t discourage others from looking up to you as they have their reasons for doing so.
  • sum1: as a minor I was harassed by edgelords online for my art and it affected me psychologically, therefore I feel qualified to recommend adults avoid doing that so as to stop fucking up kids out of pure spite
  • plebcomics, already drawing them with an undercut: how DARE

Fun fact- traumatic experiences often cause the hippocampus to shrink, which also leads to memory issues and explains “repressed” memories. people with ptsd have to process their trauma in order for the hippocampus to regain its size, so anyway don’t let ppl brush off your reactions to trauma bc it’s not only psychological but also physiologically significant as well and affects your brain function

Here’s Some Shapes Ma Dudes

Now, shapes in the world of art has always been around. And even recently, has there been science put behind it as well. There is a psychological affect that shapes have on us that make us feel certain ways. Round, circular objects have a calming effect on most people. Sharp, diagonals have an intense or energetic feel to them. Flat, perpendicular lines give a sense of stability. Cinematography use these methods in there scenes. Photography, architecture, background design, aesthetics, many careers and basic hobbies use shape theory. Character design is an big advocate for this method as well.

Here, I’ll use Ell for an example.

Now here’s a fun, simple Ell

 With the theory in mind, you can already see where the shapes are. Good! But let me show you why they are effective.

Woah! There are probably some shapes you didn’t notice before or didn’t think were that shape. And that’s fine, shape theory in use is generally very subtle. Though many can use it to exaggerate certain things.

So Ell has a round head, a face that you can approach. You could easily have a chat with her and become fast friends. Chest and hips are round as well. Soft-hearted for compassion and mobile hips for movement.

Squares for the neck and torso. They provide stable platforms for each circular part. A strong neck to keep the head where it’s suppose to be. A strong torso to keep the top and bottom half of the body together. Especially when you see where she is most active.

Ell’s arms and legs are the most active of her entire body. As an artist she would use her arms and hands the most; to draw, write, cook, express, anything really. The same goes for her legs as she is always on some sort of adventure that requires a lot of walking, jumping, and running. And since there at the ends of her, she can stab you with those triangles.

To put simply, she is our active, friend. (who can be a real dick)

The same can be used for Edd. Though you can make subtle differences between the two. Like sqaures for the upper arms to better stab those triangles at you.

Now for the boys.

Tom is primarily squares. As much of a drunk as he can be, Tom is always certain of what he does or thinks. You can’t “move” him. But he can move himself, hence the round hips. The only triangle on him is on his head, which more so indicates his constant flow of thoughts. And also the fact that he is an asshole in his inability to move!

Tom, the friend who is always there. (stubborn as hell too)

Tord is primarily triangles. Though his face is round for the purpose of being seen as a friend. His entire torso is square however. Solid and unmoving. Whatever he takes to heart, stays there. All the triangles surround his body. Tord is an active man after all. But it also serves as thorns.

Tord, the asshole friend. (and red leader)

Matt, is pretty balance in retrospect. His lower half is squares though to keep his body up, as most of his weight is up. A round chest for a soft heart as well as cowardliness. His face is square, for the traditional Matt face, but also for face always being there for him. His pretty, pretty face. Triangles near his head as well to portray that that is where he wants attention. And triangle arms for using them the most. Holding up mirrors, taking selfies, decorating his room with more of him and other Matt things.

Matt, just wants you to look at his face. (can also be really sweet)

Now, these aren’t concentrate things for them. This is just something that I theorize for their bodies. So if you do something else, that’s completely fine! Just have fun with it. Heck, I do different things all the time to them.

But I do hope that this helped out in some way. Use this knowledge to further yourself my friend!

You know, Ryder is…a lot more gracious about Alec’s shit than I would be

Let’s start off with Alec wasn’t there to be a father or husband; I came from a military family, and while it’s not fun, it bleeds into their parenting style and they’re gone all the time, I could see Ryder handling that.

But Alec, forcing them to be Pathfinder, giving an AI unrestricted access to their physiology, all of that, without their consent? And because of that decision, you actually died and are stuck dealing with everything he left behind?

That would be grounds for me to hate him for life, or at least heavily resent him, because a lot people ask “why are you Pathfinder” and there’s no option to reply “I don’t know, because he didn’t god damn ask me.”

And if that’s not enough, you find out Alec was keeping secrets, and lied about smart SAM really is, and he encrypted SAM’s memories because you “weren’t ready” when he didn’t give a damn if you were ready for a job that he didn’t train you for, because he had time for Cora and Raeka and everyone who didn’t seem to be his own children.

Then you figure out what this whole Andromeda thing was really about; saving Ellen. You find out he looked you in the face, told you your mother was dead, and let you grieve, and he just couldn’t let Ellen go, despite her being ready to die, and he brought her into a new galaxy against her will. Alec really had a thing for forcing his family into things, didn’t he?

And oh yeah, he decided it was imperative that you know about the Reaper War. Your friends, colleagues, anyone and everything you ever cared about? Yeah, they didn’t peacefully live out their lives, they got wiped out.

And discovering that Alec took away your future, brought you into a different galaxy, lied to you about your mother being dead, dropped a massive responsibility on you that you weren’t ready for, and added the Reaper War, and didn’t consider how any of that might affect you psychology?

Ryder is a lot nicer about all of that than I would be.

Venus in Scorpio - Murderotic

Venus in Scorpio people wield the majestic wealth of the soul into anything that ignites emotion and heart. She is sultry, magnetic, spiritual, enriching, fiercely loyal, and admirably devoted. She is seclusive and selective about who and what is important, tending to resist superficial relationships or action without passion. In love she seeks ultimate, soul shaking intimacy, like souls fusing into each other and transporting her in ecstasy. The bonds she searches for with other people transcend anything physical or material, and sex with steaming devotion, hunger, and connection is an important aspect of relationships. She can flourish her goddess during sex, as she draws in and out every mineral of creative source energy into her spirit and rising into oblivion. 

Venus in Scorpio people are hidden surveillance cameras. Her sonar for intercepting invisible thought, emotion, and psychic activity gives her headphones into the mind and desires of everybody around her. The individual is a natural expert at psychoanalysis, it is next to impossible to deceive or mislead her. If she could, she would diagnose everybody. She can certainly have an insatiable appetite for love, romance, and intimacy. In her pursuit of angels she can find demons, she can be the victim of hostile projection or aggression. And she can really find it difficult to get away from people once they have attracted to her, she has an addictive quality that lovers find hard to let go of. The imprint and energy she leaves behind is intense, smouldering, and unforgettable. The individual demands honesty and respect in relationships. She will be easily agitated by vague responses or ambivalence. 

Venus is at fall in Scorpio and she is not provided with a comfortable life. The energy is explosive and volatile, too chaotic for the Goddess of Love. The individual is forced to integrate her own shadows through the darkness imposed on her by other people. Venus in Scorpio relationships plunge the heart into treacherous depths. Her and her lover become tugged through crashing waves of conflicting desire, duelling demons, and uncontrollable longing for one another. Control, possessiveness, and envy can become relationship themes, expressed and suffered by both parties. But this bond also generates carnal, profound sensuality, sensitivity for one another, unbreakable loyalty, and respect. Lacerations from old wounds in the heart seem to remain gaping for years. Memories are easily inflamed by a similar touch, smell, or sensation. Intrusive thoughts about partners, obsessions with people, and their intentions can become tormenting. Any threat, real or otherwise, to her relationship triggers formidable aggression and reactivity. Her love is a sea storm that moves for nobody, she will raise you or drown you. 


(art: Natalie Shau)

“Saying yes to life, even in its strangest and harshest problems, is what I call Dionysian. That is the bridge I found to the psychology of the tragic poet. Not to escape horror and pity or cleanse yourself of a dangerous affect by violent discharge, as Aristotle thought, but rather so that you yourself may be the eternal joy in becoming.”

—F. Nietzsche, Twilight of the Idols, “What I Owe The Ancients,” §5 (edited excerpt).