the psychology of affection

“blah blah your post was just like if a nonbinary person wrote that they were disappointed to find out someone they like is cis or trans because they want to date nonbinary people! see how offensive that is now?”

that’s a fucking terrible analogy, why would you think that’s comparable? my post was about how other people’s preferences and perceptions directly affect my physical and psychological security - ‘if this person wants to date me, is it bad news?’ versus 'I want to date this person, but they don’t meet my preferences’.

also lmao I don’t see why it would be offensive to be disappointed to not want to date men, trans or cis, anyway

What your birth chart will teach you
  • Sun: Why do I act and express myself the way I do
  • Moon: Why do I react and feel the way I do
  • Ascendent: Why do I see and meet the world the way I do
  • Mercury: Why do I think and communicate the way I do
  • Venus: Why do I express affection the way I do
  • Mars: Why do I express anger and passion the way I do
  • Jupiter: Where do I feel most confident and where do I push my luck
  • Saturn: Where do I feel most anxious and where do I need to realize authority
  • Uranus: Where do I rebel and innovate
  • Neptune: Where do I lose touch with reality and how do I escape it
  • Pluto: Where do I feel most powerless and how do I need to let go of ego to transform
  • Midheaven: What do I want to achieve and who do I want to become
  • Descendent: What do I project on other people
  • Immum Coeli: How has my upbringing affected my psychological roots

“Most people really care about nothing that does not affect them personally. True and striking observations, fine, subtle and witty things are lost upon them: they cannot understand or feel them. But anything that disturbs their petty vanity in the most remote and indirect way, or reflects prejudicially upon their exceedingly precious selves - to that, they are most tenderly sensitive.”

- Arthur Schopenhauer, “Our Relation to Others” from Counsels and Maxims (1851)

To all those in fear

I don’t want to keep adding onto that really long post already, because that’s just not fun for ANYONE to scroll through. But if you want to read everything so you feel as if you are at least educated on what the whole matter is, that’s fine too.

But I saw some people who were stating that they had fears about not going to get a professional diagnosis via a doctor/therapist/psychiatrist/psychologist.

If you’re scared about professionals treating you different after you get a diagnosis, i.e. them no longer taking your physical ailments seriously due to you having a mental disorder, you have a bad doctor. That is a BAD doctor. A doctor needs to listen to their patients and needs to survey what a problem is before jumping on the “oh you have a disorder that alters your perception of reality, EHHH YOURE FINE.” That’s bad. You need a NEW doctor. It has nothing to do with you having a diagnosis on your medical history. That’s THEIR bad. That’s THEIR fault. You DESERVE to have that diagnosis.

If you’re scared about potential employers looking for your medical history and firing you for your mental disorder, that’s literally illegal. That is against Discrimination Laws. Your medical history is none of their concern and should never show up. If they go digging (your medical history is no where for them to find, it’s only for those with medical degrees to find, WHO actually require your consent to disclose that information between other medical professionals, you actually have to sign for them to do that) and they somehow find it, and they fire you, that is against the law. You don’t deserve some boss like that anyway. You deserve a better boss who won’t go snooping. That is not how the world should work. 

If you’re scared about now having a “label” slapped on you, as if that diagnosis is all you are, you aren’t. You will NEVER be Just Your Illness. That sort of encouragement is passed around on this site amongst hundreds of suggestion blogs, self care blogs, self love blogs. You are NOT suddenly just what is written on your medical history and you never will be.

Getting a professional diagnosis is meant to benefit you. You cannot, absolutely cannot get the proper treatment by getting over the counter medication because it will not be there for you to ask for. Those medications are carefully picked out for you. There are certain dosages required for each individual case and your case may not be the same as the next person (regardless if you both have the same diagnosis). It could damage you. It could worsen you. You may accidentally kill yourself if you do not follow the dosage given by a medical practitioner. 

Getting a professional diagnosis is meant to help you get better. Schizo- disorders require having both medication and talk therapy. It’s a hand in hand project. You don’t get to pick between one or the other. You have to put the effort needed into helping yourself. Getting a diagnosis helps the therapists or psychiatrists or psychologists to understand your needs from the get go, and after talking to you over a period of time, they understand you more and more. YOU also understand yourself more and more. None of this is an easy fix. It is a long and stressful and strenuous journey. But it will not be like this forever.

I absoluTELY had the same fears when I first started this whole experience. I thought “Shit shit Im going to be on medication all my life. im fucked. I hate this. I dont want this anymore.” And maybe you will be. But don’t begin to think for a moment that this means you are a lesser person anymore. You’re no different than the diabetic who needs insulin. You are lacking chemicals in your brain or in your body and you need extra help to obtain it. That’s all there is.

Yes. I am not denying there is an absolutely horrible stigma surrounding mental illness. And for schizophrenia/and others, it’s pretty bad too. I am not denying that there will be people out there who will discriminate against you.
And what you need to do is remove yourself from those people (if they are jobs, teachers, even family members) because you do not deserve that. You deserve help. Much like the amputee who may require prosthetic. Much like the diabetic who needs insulin. Much like the person who has a fever and needs some medication to ease the suffering. It boils down to you require some aid and you deserve it.

Please do not give into the fear mongering of “Yeah its terrible out there….And you should hide from it.” Because that will only perpetuate the idea that you’re SUPPOSED to be ashamed of this. You’re SUPPOSED to be ashamed of yourself. I promise you, remaining quiet will never benefit you or others.

Please speak out. Please get the help you deserve. Please stand up and be an advocate for the people who feel they can’t be. It will ALWAYS be up to you and you alone on helping yourself. And you may be surprised that you are helping others simply by telling your story.

13 Impressive Psychology Tricks that Will Make Your Life Easier

Originally posted by thelucidnation

Every human being is a unique universe, but psychologists who have a keen eye for details keep discovering new behavioral patterns that are believed to be rooted in our childhood and can be applied to everyone.

We decided to share these useful psychology tricks; maybe they will positively affect your communication skills and make your life easier in some way.

  1. If you have the feeling that someone is watching you, just yawn and look around. If someone is really stalking you, he will yawn too, since yawing is highly contagious.

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Situational factors affecting obedience

Milgram investigated obedience in an electric shock experiment, which participants were told was a study to “see how punishment impacts learning”

  • 40 participants in total were used, with the participant always being the teacher and confederate always being the learner due to rigged  lot drawing
  • The learner would remember word pairs and be asked to give the correct word. If the wrong word was given, they would receive a shock that the teacher would have to administer
  • The shocks would vary from 15v to 450v
  • During the study, the confederate gave mainly wrong answers and did not complain at shocks until 300v
    • At 300v, the confederate would bang on the wall, then again at 315, then no response was given
  • If the teacher wanted to stop at any point, they were given a series of prods urging them to continue:
    • prod 1:Please continue
    • prod 2: the experiment requires you to continue
    • prod 3: it is absolutely essential that you continue
    • prod 4: you have no other choice, you must continue
  • 65% of partivipants continued to the maximum shock level even though this was marked “XXX”
  • All participants reached the 300v level, with only 5 refusing to go any further.

Situational factors


  • when in the same room, obedience was 40%
  • when the teacher had to physically uch the learners hand onto the plate, this dropped to 30%
  • when the experimenter gave instructions over the phone, 21% continued to highest shock level, but a lot gave consistently low shocks
  • When the participant was closer to the learner, obedience dropped, however when they were closer to the experimenter, the obedience levels increase


  • Milgrams study was conducted at Yale university, a prestigious location, which gave participants confidence in doing as they were told (65%)
  • When the experiment was moved to a run down office, obedience dropped to 48%


  • Uniforms lead to increased obedience as they are symbolic of power and authority
  • Bushman: female researcher asking strangers for change:
    • Uniform:72% 
    • Business executive:48%
    • Beggar:52%
      • Therefore, uniform does lead to obedience
      • In follow up interviews, people admitted thay they obeyed as they assumed the woman had authority as she was in a uniform


  • Ethics: Baumrind: Milgram showed a lack of concern for participants, with deception meaning that there was no fully informed consent, with the prods given to urge the participants to continue compromising their right to withdraw
  • Orne and Holland: people know that they may not be aware of everything when they are participating in an experiment:W
    • When the learner cries out in pain, the experimenter knows not the really be panicked and just to continue as no real harm will be caused to them
  • Perry: the participants in Milgrams experiment were skeptical:
    • Split into two groups: doubters, who obeyed, and believers who theought the shocks were real and displayed lower levels of obedience
  • Milgram underestimates the importance of individual differences: 
    • Eagly: women are more susceptible to social influence
      • Milgram: self reported tension of females in increased, but they have the same level of obedience
    • Blass: in 8/9 replications, there were no significant gender differences: consistent with Milgram’s findings.
  • External validity: obedience alibi
    • Mandel: challenges how relevant this research is to every day life
    • Reserve Police Battalion 101: Milgran says that when in close proximity to victims, obedience drops. However, most of these men carried out the order to kill the jews despite being within close proximity to them and being close to a few disobedient peers
  • Historical validity: would the same thing happen today?
    • Blass: statistical analysis, found no difference in levels of obedience across time
    • Burger: Found levels identical to those reported by Milgram 46 years after his study
      • Therefore, we can assume that Milgram’s findings still apply to today

anonymous asked:

My psychology class did a research project about how social media affects real life relationships and I found that the more selfies someone posts, the more jealous and insecure they in a relationship. HHHHMMMMM I just WONDER who that sounds like???

^^^ -N

Day 125

I have “operated” on myself before.
There was something half in my leg and I wanted it out. It is interesting how different the impact of one’s own blood can be in comparison to those of others.
It wasn’t as difficult to keep my pulse low, as it was to keep myself from stopping or speeding up the process because of the pain.
It did not take more than a comparably small hole, through which I could “pull it out”. Luckily, it has not left a scar, at least not an obvious one.

I am not sure if the ability to do this without being “psychologically affected” is in any way connected to “psychopathy”, but if it is, it might actually be a more “useful” trait.

(-confession/lie 61)

Since I wrote my last post i had some time to think it over and i really wanted to get into the Azula type Prince Lotor everybody wants. Because neither Haggar nor Zarkon really affected the team psychologically.  With Lotor’s addition and Shiro’s disappearance, its the perfect time to make a character like that. But instead of putting Lotor in all guns blazing, I feel that he would try to infiltrate the team? Just so he could get the most information he could before using it to dismantle the team. Haggar invading a planet and Lotor waiting there, pretending to be one of the wounded survivors. And the team has no idea who this person is, so he makes up a complete lie of how his family were killed for rebelling against the Galra when Zarkon still ruled, and they believe him. 

As he spends time at the castle “healing” from Haggar’s invasion he spend his time learning about the paladins as much as he can. He trades false stories with Pidge about how his family used to be and how devastated he felt when they had died, which provokes Pidge to tell him about her search for Matt and her father. Lotor, of course offers his help because he claims to know who the rebels that helped Matt escape were (which isn’t a total lie, because he and Haggar are currently working on tracking down their base) and Pidge accepts, thus to two grow closer. 

While this is happening, Lotor spends time around the Lions , specifically Blue, checking for weaknesses they could exploit in battle. When Lance finds him he’s apprehensive at first but then Lotor states “I was simply admiring her, she looks to be a complicated robot to pilot. You must be considered very talented back on Earth”. Which stuns Lance for a second, because nobody else on team Voltron has praised him for being able to fly a fucking space lion. Lance goes on a spiel about how him and Blue are best friends and that what Lotor said was totally true. The two hang around Blue for hours talking about Lance’s contributions to the team. 

Keith is most likely the easiest one he won over. Lotor would simply mention the Galra he’s seen over the years and Keith would ask him a million questions about them. Lotor would answer whatever he asked but wouldn’t give him a straight answer about more touchy subjects like their military operations. Whenever Keith had a question about his heritage and what it was like before Zarkon destroyed everything he would go to Lotor, he is one of the few connections to his past left. Eventually Keith starts asking his opinion on other things, like which planets they should liberate first or who would work better with who because Keith was put into the leader role way too early. 

Hunk is one of the harder one’s to win over, since he was the first Paladin to have suspicions about Rolo and Nyma after all. Lotor would have to work harder to gain his trust than he did with any other Paladin. He would be working his ass off trying to figure out what would make this cinnamon roll trust him. Hunk would keep a trained eye on Lotor and start noticing how everyone is so pleased wiith him. Lotor helps comfort Pidge about her family, he encourages Keith to learn more about himself and improve as a leader and reassures Lance about his worth to Voltron. Because the way to Hunk’s heart is through his friends, so maybe he questions Lotor about life back home, and all of his traditions. They compare how life on Lotor’s planet is different from Earth. 

Coran is too easy to win over, he simply helps around with maintenance and pretend to listen to all of his wack stories. Allura wouldn’t trust him upfront, but she would see how much he’s helped the Paladins and would learn to trust him somewhat.

I have a lot more to write about Prince Lotor’s character and his arc with the team, but it would take up everybody’s dash, so I’m going to separate it into different posts? So i’ll write one tomorrow about how he betrayed them and another one on how they overcame it maybe??? Idk i just really wanted to yell about him

steffsoldseashellsbytheseashore  asked:

What is the best college for Psychology majors? and how does your GPA affect your chances of getting into graduate school

Your GPA is pretty important when applying to grad school.

 Some grad schools only look at the last 60 hours, which can help or hurt your chances.

Graduate programs also look at GRE scores,your application essay, and letters of recommendation.

My best advice is to go to the websites of the schools you want to apply to and look at the grad school admissions requirements. Then look up the schools on the Princeton Review or BigFuture to get a better idea of their acceptance rates.

Check out these links:

 A lot of schools have good psychology programs. Here’s a list of schools for you to look into:

  • Arizona State University
  • Columbia University
  • Cornell University
  • Florida State University
  • Harvard
  • Indiana University
  • Louisiana State University—Baton Rouge
  • Massachusetts Institute of Technology
  • Michigan State University
  • Princeton University
  • Purdue University—West Lafayette
  • Stanford University
  • Texas A&M University
  • Ohio State University
  • The University of Texas at Austin
  • University of Arkansas
  • Berkeley
  • University of California—Los Angeles
  • University of California—San Diego
  • University of Central Florida
  • University of Chicago
  • University of Colorado
  • University of Florida
  • University of Houston
  • University of Michigan—Ann Arbor
  • University of Minnesota—Twin Cities
  • University of North Texas
  • University of Pennsylvania
  • University of South Florida
  • University of Washington
  • Yale University