“blah blah your post was just like if a nonbinary person wrote that they were disappointed to find out someone they like is cis or trans because they want to date nonbinary people! see how offensive that is now?”
that’s a fucking terrible analogy, why would you think that’s comparable? my post was about how other people’s preferences and perceptions directly affect my physical and psychological security - ‘if this person wants to date me, is it bad news?’ versus 'I want to date this person, but they don’t meet my preferences’.
also lmao I don’t see why it would be offensive to be disappointed to not want to date men, trans or cis, anyway