the problem with our society and education

To people in favour  of banning fidgets/spinners in schools:

It’s detrimental to neurotypicals, you say? 

The non-ableist response is “then they should stop using it”, not “then we should ban them and keep them from kids who need them”. 

That’s like banning prescription glasses for everyone because it’s harmful to the vision of kids with 20-20 vision, without any regard for the impact on the health, well-being, and quality of education it would have on people who need glasses.

That’s like blaming prescription glasses for making the vision of kids with 20/20 vision blurry. 

They’re not meant for kids with 20-20 eyesight any more than fidgets are meant for neurotypical kids. 

I honestly wish I could live in ignorance and didn’t educate myself on the problems of the world, especially when it comes to problems we face. It feels like it’s harder to make friends because I’m too “woke” (dislike that word). I can literally hear every problematic thing everyone of every race is saying. It’s like I’m always reading between the lines. I’d love to find other black girls my age, (18), in real life that like to discuss things like being black, problems in our community, what they think about x,y & z. Not everyday talk about boys, sex & parties. Have a bit of depth like.

Understanding the AHCA (from a disability perspective)

I try to keep this blog pretty neutral on political issues, however I am also becoming increasingly aware of the general public’s gross misunderstanding of why ADAPT and other disability groups are protesting so prominently against the senate’s healthcare bill- and it’s a lot more complicated than preexisting conditions and losing insurance.

If you can make it through this, there are cute puppy photos of VSEPR at the end (from when he was an 8 week old ball of fluff). 

I will start by saying I, like everyone, am quite biased on this subject. I am disabled, I am involved with several disability advocacy groups, disability activism groups, and disability coalitions. I am close to people with all sorts of disabilities. And many of them are a part of the community doing wonderful work because of medicaid


There’s a perception that institutionalizing people with disabilities (physical and mental) is a thing of the past. And that institutions and nursing homes are significantly safer and more dignified than they were “way back when”. Neither of these are true, and a big part of whether someone who is disabled is a part of the community or is locked away in an institution has to do with where you live and your access to medicaid.

Medicaid is the primary insurer of low income individuals and individuals with disabilities, and almost half of children born in the US. Without the Affordable Care Act (ACA/Obamacare), it is often the only insurer for people with disabilities

On a federal level, medicaid must cover the cost of a nursing home, but individual states can elect to offer what are called waivers for home-care for “non-skilled” and “skilled” medical care. “Non-skilled” is typically an aide who helps an elderly person or person with a disability function in the community but not providing skilled nursing. This can look like anything from helping someone with a physical disability dress and feed themselves to transporting someone to community events to attending doctors appointments to simply using the bathroom. “Skilled” care might be an in home nurse for maintaining IVs and IV medication or nutrition, in home physical therapy, helping with feeding tubes, or any number of other things an individual may not be able to do effectively by themselves. These services are what allow many disabled people and elderly people to stay in their homes and a part of their community. Private insurers generally do not pay for these services long term. Disabilities, however, exist long term.

Without medicaid waivers, becoming significantly disabled and not having access to a very dedicated family or an enormous amount of money to pay for these services means you are sentenced to live in an institution, away from the community. 

The federal government is not saying “no” to waivers with the AHCA, they are restructuring the way they pay for medicaid. Rather than reimbursing states for how much medical care actually costs, the federal government would only pay a set amount per person (like a block grant). So, states that currently offer waivers would no longer be reimbursed for those waivers and often don’t have the budgetary means to offer them. This means that more and more people with disabilities will likely lose their access to the community and ability to live independent, dignified lives if the AHCA is passed. I, and most of the protesters, believe the right to get dressed and go to work, use the restroom, and be bathed without being institutionalized is a basic right that should be protected by the federal government. The AHCA deeply threatens that.

This is just one aspect of why this bill scares me and so many other people with disabilities. The bill and the issues surrounding it are complex and take years to understand. There are many problems with insurance and our healthcare system and medicaid is no exception, but in my opinion, gutting medicaid is not the right answer.

Help us be a part of society and contribute by educating yourself on this and expressing to your representatives how you think they need to vote to protect your community’s needs. 


And as promised, puppy pictures:

I commonly run into the misconception that men from some national or ethnic groups behave much more abusively toward women than those in the mainstream of the United States and Canada. Social workers sometimes say to me, for example, “The family I am working with right now comes from one of those cultures where domestic violence is considered normal and acceptable.” The reality, however, is that cultural approval for partner abuse is disturbingly high in our society, even among the privileged and educated, and our domestic-violence statistics, while not the worst in the world, are on the high end. The United States is the only industrialized nation that has failed to ratify the UN convention on eliminating discrimination against women, which specifically refers to violence against women as a form of discrimination. Pointing fingers at other countries can be a way to ignore the serious problems in our own.

In reality, abuse of women—and societal approval of it—is a widespread problem in the great majority of modern cultures. […]

Abusive men from some national backgrounds are very explicit and direct about their cultural or religious rules, which can make their attitudes appear to be unusually bad. A man might say, for example, “God ordained that the man chastise the woman,” or he might say threateningly to this partner, “Part of a wife’s job is to give the man sex when he wants it.” Do white American abusers think in these ways less than abusers of other cultures do? No. They do often hide their beliefs better and, by doing so, can create the impression of being more “enlightened.” But the directness of a cultural message is not the same thing as its strength. I have worked with hundreds of nonwhite abusers from a spectrum of cultures and religions, with more than twenty different countries of origin among them, and I can assure you that my white, middle-class clients feel every bit as justified as the others and have attitudes toward women that are just as superior and disrespectful.
—  Lundy Bancroft, Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Angry and Controlling Men

capitalism is the reason there are so many bullshit academic papers, and research, and journals and shit. you get paid to pump out whatever wants to be heard by whoever is in charge and shit. 

if you come up with a bunch of bad science, or statistics, that make entertaining news and fits a narrative capitalists want you to believe in order to sell something or create propaganda they’re going to pump that shit out and pay you well for it. 

it seals your security to continuously create more bullshit, instead of focusing on true questions and answers to real problems in society.

communism’s aim is to find truth, because truth is what betters our society, not falsities that better corporations or provide a paycheck.

People are able to work at their full potential when all their needs are met, and they can simply relax and study what interests them most.

i’m not meaning to start drama… but has everyone conveniently forgotten that emma watson was named in the panama papers??
this isn’t just a celebrity being “problematic” this is behaviour which perpetuates the problem of the unequal distribution of wealth in societies. by saying this is okay is then justifying and allowing tax avoidance to be carried out by thousands of others across the world, which directly causes under funding for some of the most vulnerable and neediest people in our societies. people who, as an ambassador for the UN, emma watson is supposedly championing and fighting for. when she speaks of gender equality in heforshe campaigns does she not think that by the rich not paying taxes, things like education will be affected and vulnerable women who already might not have access to education will be negatively impacted.
this is also a racism and white privilege issue because let’s face it - if it was an actress of colour who was named in the panama papers there’s no way she would be set to star in one of 2017’s most highly anticipated films

I’ve been seeing some discourse about straight people playing/streaming that Dream Daddy game (mostly bc there’s the recent stuff with two people from Polygon)

And a couple people have made comments along the lines of “Straight people shouldn’t play games made for gay people” etc

And while I definitely understand that sentiment as a lesbian myself, personally don’t think the problem is straight people consuming queer content. I mean, like it or not, we do need straight audiences to enjoy our content and enjoy stories about and involving us. Otherwise we have a much harder time showing large production companies (publishers, studios, game developers, etc) that our content and our stories are something people enjoy and want to see more of. Unfortunately society is still homophobic enough that if we want to make it to the big show, we need to prove that our work will bring in profits.

And on top of that, straight people consuming our work will help normalize us and our lives and relationships. People are definitely impacted by fiction and pop culture, and if they can empathize with a fictional character, it can be easier to educate them and get them to empathize more with real people. So straight people consuming queer content in a respectful way is a good thing.

The problem is straight people who consume our media for jokes. Like playing a gay dating simulator and treating the concept as a joke and misgendering trans characters. Or the age old problem of fetishizing gay relationships and calling it “sinning” when they read gay fan fiction. That’s definitely something that should be called out.

But like, straight people respectfully engaging with our work and taking it seriously? Straight people laughing with us, and not at us? That’s fine and good.

I feel the need to explain why I haven’t followed up my excitement over SU Wanted with many posts. Shortly before I returned to being active on Tumblr, I sent out an internship application for the UN. It was a long-shot because they don’t really take undergrads, but I figure, I’m almost a senior so maybe they’d take me. 

And it was wonderful because I was shortlisted to the next stage of the application process, when I thought just seeing that I was still in uni on my resumé would be enough to turn me down immediately. I was told I had to report to their office though, even though it was a research gig and I was expecting the work to be take-home, since I’d done something similar before.

But I got my schedule for my (very few) summer classes, which are required for the two degrees I’m taking, and it was just physically impossible to make it to the office. So I had to politely tell them I couldn’t go through with the rest of the application. 

I understand that I am incredibly fortunate to even be given the opportunity and I am very lucky, the kind of lucky that allows me to even qualify for that kind of position. I was floored after that, though, and it hit me I couldn’t do everything I wanted to do. Choices are hard and I felt really mopey for a while. Again, I know that it’s a really shallow thing to worry about because I’m already so fortunate to even say that these are things I can be sad about, but I did feel really sad.

I did get another research job after that, also interdisciplinary and on a topic close to my heart. I’m learning a lot of new skills and I’m really happy. And I’m settling into working while studying. It’s really reinforced my decision to take the path I’ve taken now, in terms of my education. A lot of people tend to look at me confusedly and ask what I plan to do, and there’s really no one word for it like “doctor” or “lawyer” or “accountant.” But this whole experience has been reassuring and I’d like to advocate for more interdisciplinary thinking in the way we approach the problems our society faces.

anonymous asked:

I'm sorry if this is a dumb question but, how would communism work without at least a small form of government to distribute everything well? I can understand not needing laws n stuff but how would the actual distribution of things happen without some body to take care of that. This isn't an attack I'm just curious

The people know what they need, they don’t need a government to tell them what they need. When the people own the means of production, they need not worry about government approval or counting, they simply ask each other: do you need this, and others will answer back if they do or not.

When a government owns the means of production, despite potentially representing the people, they can never know what the people need as much as the people know what they need.

And again. No. I don’t think anarchocommunism can happen over night, it’s the end game, to eliminate all nation states, people can still organize under anarchy, that’s not a government in the same sense of what we have today. Today we have states of oppression and exploitation, and states that are exploited by these, elimination of nation states is a must for this to be possible, but theres so much more that needs to happen before we can get here.
This is why I’m a huge advocate for a massive education overhaul and greater access to it for all. We need people working on these problems.

The mathematicians of the past had no idea they would give the groundwork for the computers we have today, just as we have no idea what society we can build with all our work.

I choose anarchocommunism as my endgame, because I feel it is the best result for all people’s interests currently. Perhaps someone may come up with a system even better than this with enough people researching, and studying how to better the world, and working towards these goals. I just don’t know, that’s for tomorrow to decide.

All I can do today is help my community and provide resources, and work towards changing the society, of which i live, in any way possible: for the better.

You stifle the next great artist when you cut the arts from classrooms. You bury the engineer in these inner city public schools. And it’s killing them—slowly maybe, and not in the way we mourn over. But maybe that’s the problem.  Maybe we should. Maybe we should care more about how to create curiosity, and courage. Teach them passion until you can feel the fire in their eyes.


We invest so much in our narrow definition of success, and focus our efforts only on those who can keep up. But there’s more to a person than the few opportunities they’ve been given, if you only let them show you.


A lot of the problems our society faces stem in many ways from problems in how we educate our youth. We don’t teach them to love themselves, and each other. We preach the economics of life rather than the joy of it. We continue to tell them they are wrong. And then we ask why they can’t solve these problems—problems we created.


And maybe it’s because we don’t know any better. Because it happened to us, too. And it’s hard to build from the bottom of a hole. But that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try. Them, their bright eyes and pounding hearts—they’re depending on it. And trust me, they’ll thank us for it later.

— 

d.e.m.

*I could write another billion pages on education reform, but for now, I’ll leave it at this.

luzando  asked:

Ever just feel overwhelmed? To the point where you feel like nothing can get any better..?

I’m assuming we all feel that at some point in our lives. I think it’s a natural part of development to experience the internal feeling of failure. It’s coming to terms with ones limitations, the realness of reality. Most people spend their lives escaping from reality, whether it’s through TV, drugs, alcohol, sex, illness, spiritual trances. They’re all the same thing. Facing reality means dealing with the hardships of life, learning to use the tools we have within ourselves to overcome them. However the more we escape from reality, whether physically or through our mind, the more less equipped we are to deal with it. This creates the feeling of being overwhelmed.

This is a problem for the microcosm and the macrocosm; for the individual and society at large. People are forced into the education system as early as 3 years old, to never really get a break from it. This is an issue. This is so unnatural for the human development it’s traumatic for everyone, hence the increase of stress, anxiety, depression and suicide. You go to school, go to college, get a job, then you have a family. You never get a chance to actually know yourself without the influence of other people. Your always focused on something outside of yourself. Yes, society tries to convince you that you’re getting a degree for your own sake, but you’re still depending on something outside of yourself for your survival worth as a human being. Society confirms that your worthy, for now.

Boys are no longer being initiated into manhood, so now we have men with the mind of an adolescent boy (this is actually fact, the percentage is something around 80% in America) The current president is an example of this. Boys were once taught how to become men, they would be given the tools, trained in how to use them, and then they would be sent off into the forests literally and metaphorically speaking. They do this in Scotland, boys are initiated into their manhood by going into the wild forest for 4 days completely by themselves and facing their own shadow aspects. That way they were prepared for life as a man. You can see this across cultures, there’s different initiation rituals. “We love girls for what they are, we love boys for what they become.” It’s actually done to balance the poles out; Masculine and Feminine. Females suffer naturally, we sacrifice our blood thrice. We get our period, sacrificing our innocence and naive self. We then bleed when we sacrifice our maidenhood, which is a sacrifice of the separate self for Union. Then we bleed we sacrifice ourselves, our whole body, to the child we give birth to. So women are naturally initiated by the laws of nature, although now it has become undoubtedly distorted in modern times, for many reasons. We have traditions for reasons the limited mind cannot understand, the more we become modern, the more our natural order of humanity is crumbling away.

Never has there been as many obstacles in life as there is in our time, and never have people been so unprepared to deal with life. It’s a large problem to deal with. I have no idea where one would begin. Each community and family had elders, the older women would prepare the girl for womanhood. The older men would prepare the boy for manhood. It’s a natural order. The girl learns wisdom from her grandma. The boy learns wisdom from his teacher or guru. The more family’s drift apart, the more roles in society become distorted, the more world shifts out of balance. Thankfully I spent quality time with my Grandma, many hours in deep conversation about life often, she taught me much about the meaning of being a woman.

I would definitely suggest spending time with ones own elders of the family, just to become grounded and rooted in life. It truly helps with stability and a deep anchored root, that way even the strongest wind cannot shake you. Getting in touch with ones reality may prove to be efficient and extremely helpful. That way when life does present you with challenges you’ll feel capable of dealing with them, instead of overwhelmed by it all. It’s about taking control of your life with careful thought. Strong foundations give us a powerful sense of survival. It is in solitude that we realise our one internal resources, which makes us extremely wise and competent over time. So that means taking a break from being influenced by the outside world, allowing oneself to go into the internal world, to connect ones roots from within.

On the top of the door in Apollos temple it says “Know thyself” Socrates once said “To know thyself, think for thyself” Oscar Wilde said “Most people are other people. Their thoughts are someone else’s opinions, their lives a mimicry, their passions a quotation.” You must know yourself in order to know what kind of world you’re dealing with, that’s the only way to master life. Without knowing yourself truly, you will undoubtedly be overwhelmed because you won’t know the tools and abilities you posses within to be able to deal with life. If you just take a little time off, and really get connected with yourself and your place in reality, I think it will improve your quality of life. Start with giving yourself a routine, familiarity brings great comfort. Maybe spend more time with your family, that will give you love and belonging. Ask questions about your background, become interested in knowing your own roots. Things like that, it could possibly help you feel more connected to yourself 😊

The Fault In Our Learning

The first thing my Civics teacher told us to start the year’s classes was,“Everything that I teach is what is written in the legal documents and not what happens in real life. Understand that all questions relating to what is actually happening will be dismissed as we will have to separate them from what we are going to learn.”
My first thought was,“Then… what’s the point?”

Some of the biggest problems we are dealing with today are related to discrimination, bad mindsets, and, the root, society. But where do we get such ideas in our heads?
From our education. Or rather, our lack of education.
We are never taught in school how to be truly feminist: sure, we had a chapter on equal rights and who brought monumental changes for the good in society. But, we are never truly taught and, trust me, it shows.
Why do you think our English teacher, wanting our class to write a movie summary, discouraged horror or action movies because “the girls wouldn’t like it. They prefer more romantic movies, no?”
Or why in the play, there were only three female characters with meagre excuses for lines and all of them were identified either as a mother, a vain and stereotypical “girly girl”, or “that one asking where the milk and eggs had gone”?
Or why do you think when our P. E. Teacher asked the girls who wanted to play football, a guy exclaimed, “A girl playing football!?”
The school I go to is an international school mentioned even in the state newspaper. I could go on, I haven’t covered a minuscule fraction of casual sexism there.
Racism is aplenty.
Oh, and the LGBTQ+ community is spoken of like they’re living reincarnations of Voldemort. So, basically, ‘nobody speaks about that’.
All I’m asking is: TEACH US SOMETHING THAT WE CAN USE AND MAKE OUR MINDSETS BETTER.
Make us aware about everything: racism, sexism, homophobia, rape, police brutality, anti- abortion laws- everything. And tell us why they’re wrong. Make us understand. In the end, it is us who is going to make this world.
If we live together peacefully, the world will live together peacefully.
I wrote this in hopes that maybe it will bring a change. If you’re a teacher, a parent, or anyone that can teach something to someone: please talk about this and make sure what you’re teaching is the right thing- it is in your hands.
Reblog only if you want to bring a change, too.

anonymous asked:

I knew what sex was since I was 7, I asked my mo and she just flat out told me, and I was cool with it. Teaching your ids about sex keeps them safe and educated. It prevents real pedophiles from taking advantage of them for fucks sake there are girls who think drinking warm soda will prevent them from getting pregnant because guys told them that. educate your damn kids!

Thank you. Like, you don’t even have to tell them EVERYTHING at that age, but even just the idea of “no means no” goes a long way so people don’t take advantage of them. I swear half the problems our society has in terms of STDs and teen pregnancy and whatever the fuck could be solved by having a competent sex ed system in place 

anonymous asked:

hi! im making a presentation (1 hour) about gender to my class, im a nb trans boy (16) and im very experienced and am very educated about what imma talk about, i want to spread information because i experience problems at school regarding it, so if i could ask for your opinion and experience on the subject, could you link sources about surveys taken by trans people? discrimination, mental issues, things like that? (is it ok if i show this question and your reply in the presentation?)(1/2)

(2/2) nb trans boy here, and could you give suggestions to how we can change positively to make trans people feel more welcome in our society? Small things we can do in school and socially to improve? and what positive reactions could come from those improvements? (btw i really appreciate this and if you dont want your blog linked in the presentation just tell me cuz i wanna keep ur identity safe just in case if u get what i mean?)

Doing a [google scholar search for ‘transgender surveys’] might bring up something useful?

You could also do your own surveys, using things like [google forms] or [surveymonkey] among others. I’d be happy to boost a link to your survey on this blog if you do create one.

As for things that can/should be done in order to improve the lives of trans people; there’s a lot. And it’s frankly too early for me to have the brain energy to write it all out. But some is covered (sometimes somewhat indirectly) in these articles: [link] / [link]. And I also have a tagged/for-allies that, among other things, has posts that talk about things that can be done to improve the lives of trans people.

I do recommend you try to answer your own questions that you sent here, too! It’s your presentation, after all. So be sure to include your own opinions and research and not just ask others to give you theirs. You say you experience problems at school, so if it’s safe for you to do so, those could be worth bringing up and discussing.

History of Feminism
  • 1st Wave: We want all the rights.
  • Government: Sure.
  • 1st Wave: And none of the responsibility. Dying in wars to earn the right to vote is a guy thing.
  • Government: Well, uh, okay.
  • 2nd Wave: We want all the opportunities.
  • Business: Sure, no problem.
  • 2nd Wave: But don't make it challenging. Give us quotas and extra benefits and education.
  • Business: Seriously? Uh, fine then.
  • 3rd Wave: We want respect.
  • Society: Done.
  • 3rd Wave: But we don't want to be subject to criticism at all.
  • Society: You're pulling our leg now, aren't you?
  • 3rd Wave: It's about equality, you misogynist.
Matty mouthing the N-word

Soooooo, about this whole situation that’s going on. Honestly I’m not so angry, or rather, I’m not as bothered by Matty mouthing the word from a song as I am with certain fans “feeling” the need to post that word on their twitter or instagram thinking it’s funny or okay or trying to make light of the situation.  Here’s the thing. Me personally, I trust Matty. He isn’t ignorant by any means. He is in no way disillusioned by our society and the problems that POC face on an everyday basis and he’s constantly educating himself about those issues and being as vocal about it as he can. And it is that reason why I personally am not offended by what happened. Not saying it’s ok that he did it nor does it make up for him doing it however, it means that I trust him to not be malicious with it and be sensitive to the situation. (I myself hardly ever use the N-word, if ever, and yet if its in a song I like I”ll mouth the words every now and then. Again, diff. situation completely as I am a POC but, it’s how I understand how it can happen.) But again that’s just my opinion and how I’ve taken it personally. But what I don’t like is certain fans feeling they have a right to go and use the word and say it’s not a big deal just to defend him. Like I get it, you love him, I love him, we all love him. But don’t be disillusioned by Matty either. He’s not perfect. He’s a little shit. And what he did made some people angry. Again, I’m not really one of those people but IF I WAS I HAVE EVERY DAMN RIGHT TO SAY WHETHER I’M OFFENDED OR NOT. Which goes to say that those who have a problem with it have every right to. And by THOSE I mean POC.  Very, very thankful for those of you who understand those who were offended by the word and that you feel the need to support them but you are not who the word is synonymous with therefore you don’t get to say whether someone needs to ‘calm down’ or not. Granted I DO NOT agree with the whole death threats and calling his phone or whatever happened either. That’s too far and it isn’t warranted the offense. Granted I understand that with Matty, some of you may have found a safe place and felt like, after this happened, it broke the image you had of him and may have even broken the trust you’d placed in him. But sending him death threats? Really? Call him out. Ask him for an apology. Let him know that what he did hurt you or offended you and that you’d really like him to apologize. This is our noodle for crying out loud. The same guy who buy extra luggage for fan mail when he could be like out buying weed or supporting his bad habits. And if that’s not love, from him, than I don’t know what is. (A little mild humor won’t hurt right?) Bottom line is, POC who were offended, you have every right to feel that way just…death threats…no. And white people, those of you who keep saying it’s just a word or it wasn’t that big a deal. Of course YOU feel that way, your culture wasn’t on the receiving end of it so of course you’re going to think it’s “just a word”. So just stop while you’re ahead, k? Good. Now can we all just be patient and wait for this little nugget to respond before we all slice each other’s head’s off. Thanks. 

Peace.

anonymous asked:

I always appreciate how much sanity you add to all those loaded discussions. It's like you've got x-ray vision and see right through bad arguments! And I feel encouraged to work on my own critical-thinking skills, especially because I'm always afraid of offending others and usually stay silent. Do you perhaps have advice for improving critical-thinking?

I’m flattered anon, thank you. I’m really glad you’re looking to get more critical! My advice is to ask questions, seek out different perspectives and gauge your emotions.

Okay so first, asking questions! There’s a good chart somewhere that I will find for you about asking questions, but the basics are always who, what, when, how and why. Who is affected, what is the topic/issue, when is it discussed, how is it discussed and why might that be. In feminist theory this basically translates into “always ask who benefits” and sometimes it can be easier to work backwards.

An example using abuse: who is affected? Primarily women. What is the issue? There may be several, such as abuse is unacceptable, abuse is physically, emotionally and financially harmful and/or abuse is not prosecuted effectively. When is it discussed? Primarily by women’s organizations. Also, men often bring it up in discussions of male abuse. How is it discussed and how is it such a problem? The terms “male violence” or “male violence against women” are basically censored on both sides. It affects a large percentage of girls and women, and men can get away with it easily. Now why is this the case? You may have several thoughts. Do all those reasons connect somehow? Some reasons could be 1) we do not properly educate our children, particularly girls, and this continues into adulthood, 2) men are making, interpreting and enforcing laws, 3) we romanticize and glorify violence as a society, 4) abusive men back other abusive men and abusive men go all the way up to the top of society, government, law, etc. 5) it is in all men’s interest to keep women subordinate, i.e. we live in a patriarchy.

One part of critical thinking that I think too often gets overlooked is seeking out different perspectives. There is no one person who will ever know everything there is to know even about only one topic. There will always be someone who will think of things you did not see. Especially when you are first learning about an issue or you are unaffected by it, it’s very important to read and listen to others. You don’t have to agree with everything they say, but you should try to understand where it is coming from. Also, while I think it is worthwhile to listen to or read up on what groups we oppose think, like mras, this by no means is a reason for you to continue submerging yourself in their bs once you understand their points. The idea is that if you want to effectively combat something you have to actually know what is going on first not that you must always engage.

Now with your emotions you need to be able watch, listen to and think about your feelings when you are thinking of whatever topic and when you are listening to or having a discussion with others. Often our first response when we just begin to critically think about something we hadn’t before is basically a knee jerk “wtf no” reaction. Pay attention to these because they are likely topics you need to work on. The goal is to be able to sit with that negative reaction and try to see why you are feeling it and how it fits in with the topic being discussed. The goal is not to not feel, but be able to remove your feelings from the discussion if necessary.

It can be hard to learn on the internet because of the hostility, but it really is a valuable place full of information and there will always be people there who want to help if you want to talk so don’t be discouraged. Keep in mind that you will make mistakes and you probably will hurt other people’s feelings. It’s my opinion that what matters is what you do afterwards. Oh, and one more thing, critical thinking takes a lot of work, it can be very tiring and depressing to see how things are 24/7. Make sure you give yourself a break, practice good self-care and stay connected.

To every “egalitarian” or “pro equality” blogger on this site

How come I don’t hear you talking about:

  • the hyper criminalization of men of color?
  • boys of color being demonized for expressing age appropriate affection towards teachers?
  • the poverty rate of men of color?
  • lower rates of latinx and black men going to college?
  • that black men, latinx men, and native american men being shot up and killed unarmed by police?
  • hyper masculinization of men of color?
  • veterans access to decent healthcare (who tend to be mostly male)?
  • starting petitions to end the draft?
  • disproportionate discipline against men, especially men of color?
  • ridiculously high rates of incarceration for men of color?
  • racism in and of itself?
  • the fact that black preschoolers are 48% of suspensions?
  • the fact that Native Americans experience rates of police brutality and similar rates to African Americans?
  • the fact that black girls are 6 times more likely to get suspended than white girls?
  • the prison industrial complex?
  • talking about Islamophobia?
  • calling out the capitalist system we have?
  • intersectional inequalities that women face (not just misogyny in a vacuum)?
  • the unequal access to education?
  • the fact that there is unequal access to markets and grocery stores?
  • achievement gaps between the races?
  • racial disparities in income


There are so many other concepts that I could have included, but I don’t see you guys talking about any of these things. Before you label yourselves egalitarian and pro equality, take a moment to educate yourselves about widespread inequalities in this country and throughout our world. Understand that bashing feminism doesn’t get things done. Recognize that dictionary definitions aren’t always useful in solving problems deep within our society. Recognize the privileges you have and how they manifest themselves. Listen to people who experience widespread discrimination and are part of groups that experience the inequalities.

I don’t see you guys acknowledging any of these problems, and instead focusing on trivial things. And that is a problem.

Neoliberalism sees competition as the defining characteristic of human relations. It redefines citizens as consumers, whose democratic choices are best exercised by buying and selling, a process that rewards merit and punishes inefficiency. It maintains that “the market” delivers benefits that could never be achieved by planning.

Attempts to limit competition are treated as inimical to liberty. Tax and regulation should be minimised, public services should be privatised. The organisation of labour and collective bargaining by trade unions are portrayed as market distortions that impede the formation of a natural hierarchy of winners and losers. Inequality is recast as virtuous: a reward for utility and a generator of wealth, which trickles down to enrich everyone. Efforts to create a more equal society are both counterproductive and morally corrosive. The market ensures that everyone gets what they deserve.

We internalise and reproduce its creeds. The rich persuade themselves that they acquired their wealth through merit, ignoring the advantages – such as education, inheritance and class – that may have helped to secure it. The poor begin to blame themselves for their failures, even when they can do little to change their circumstances.
how society treats sports fans vs how they treat nerd fans

sports fan: i’ve been to all of this team’s games in the last year 

society: wow !! you are so dedicated

vs

nerd fan: i drove two hours to get my favourite book signed by the author

society: do you work? who has the time for that??


sports fan: the player i idolise tweeted he had oatmeal for breakfast this morning, i think i will too

society: it’s so good to see you have a positive role model!

vs

nerd fan: i like to keep track of my favourite actors’ social medias, their lifestyle fascinates me

society: !! stalker alert !!


sports fan: this sport is gender inclusive, look at this tiny newspaper article about the womens’ sports team

society: wow this is exactly the kind of thing that makes us a superior species

vs

nerd fan: umm quiditch has teams filled with both girls and boys, and they play on the same pitch. this applies in the real world because quidditch is technically a sport

society: lol it’s not a real sport it’s just a bunch of geeky freaks dressing up and running around on brooms how about you join the real world


sports fan: i watched a documentary on my favourite sport!

society: sports is so educational !! 

vs

nerd fan: i read a lengthy article about my idol author/artist, they’re life story is so complex and interesting

society: how about you channel that energy into doing something more worthwhile


the issue that a lot of the nerd fanbase community has with sports lies in the general attitude toward sports compared to the attitude towards “geeky” interests. we don’t have a problem with sports, we do however have a problem with society not treating our interests the same as an athlete/sports fan’s interests.