“The biggest reason why I was inspired to write this book was because fandoms around the world are proof that we can all be united, despite our differences, by something that we love and not something that we hate or something that we fear. Fandoms and fan ships absolutely prove that.”
your fp loves you so much. they care about you, even though they may not be talking to you right this moment. they may be busy with class, or they may be feeding their pet, or maybe they fell asleep talking to you. their relationships with other people do not effect their relationship with you. they love having you around. they love talking to you. i bet they think about you more than a couple times a day.
they know you’re trying. they know you love them more than anyone else in this world. they know you will always be there for them, and they appreciate you.
i know that particularly on tumblr, there’s a culture of idealization, idolization, and elevation of other people - celebrities, people with popular posts, strangers, but just because a lot of people do something, and just because it’s common with the culture, doesn’t make it okay.
some people, when told off on their behavior to me as a trans man, tell me that i am suffering from toxic masculinity for wanting to be referred to as a regular average man the way you’d talk to any other dude you know and not a doll.
toxic masculinity is NOT wanting to be respected as a human being before being referred to using terminology you’d use for a dog or a stuffed animal ie being called a too pure precious baby/soft and smol and precious/too pure for your sinner eyes.
these things seem small, simple, and harmless, but things like this, idealizing strangers and painting images in your mind that you refuse to see in any other way, acting like it’s your right to use whatever language you want without being told off, structuring and labeling other people who you probably know little to nothing about without figuring out who they are as PEOPLE - that’s how you get fetishism, transphobia, and you can see this in a lot of marginalized groups, not just people who are LGBT.
with this mentality you create impossible standards and images in your mind of how these people (celebrities, trans people, many other marginalized people) ought to be to you, and anyone who doesn’t keep up with this image is outcasted or not seen with the same respect, seen as a buzzkill, as vicious, unapproachable, and just in general unappealing on the very basis that they don’t conform to the stereotypes YOU foster.
you create dehumanization (no dehumanization is good, whether you elevate them to godliness or tear them down to evil), melting down into stereotypes - all trans ‘boys’ are precious and small and pure and weak, whereas all trans women are merciless goddesses who should step on you and violently kill you?
reducing these people to the qualities that, regardless of whether they want to be associated with them, are labeled with anyway, qualities that are currently attached to the gender they do not feel comfortable aligning with?
to the point that many people start to believe that, rather than criticizing their wording and thinking for a good minute whether what they say might be massively uncomfortable, they are in the right and these other people are just ‘sensitive’.
stop immediately projecting your desires and your images on PEOPLE, who are PEOPLE first and not a gender, not a set of body parts, not an IDEA, and stop responding to someone’s discomfort with ‘oh you’re just one of those suffering from TOXIC MASCULINITY’ or other similar bullshit as if you know ANYTHING about the people you’re trying to create personas for against their will.
Hey NOVLers, it’s that time again—unboxing time! Today, we’re taking a peek into the February NOVLbox Chris Colfer curated in celebration of his newest novel. Stranger Than Fanfictionis a story about four fans that jokingly invite a famous actor from their favorite hit television show on a cross-country road trip and plot twist: he says yes! Pretty wild, right? Let’s take a peek at what items Chris put into the box…
Stranger Than Fanfiction.A funny, heartbreaking, unforgettable novel about friendship and fame.
Travel Notepad. “The world is a book and those who do not travel read only one page” —Saint Augustine
Luggage Tap. “Let’s go on a roadtrip”
Struck by Lightning. At once laugh-out-loud funny, deliciously dark, and remarkably smart, this story unearths the dirt that lies just below the surface of high school.
The Land of Stories. Alex and Conner find themselves in a foreign land full of wonder and magic where they come face-to-face with the fairy tale characters they grew up reading about.
Rapture Practice.A book recommendation from Chris. In this funny and heartfelt coming-of-age memoir, Aaron Hartzler recalls his teenage journey to find the person he is without losing the family that loves him.
NOVL tote bag. To carry all of the above.
Thanks for curating this awesome road-trip inspiring box, Chris!
Like what you see? The next one won’t be the same, but we promise it will be just as awesome. Don’t miss out and enter for a chance to win the March NOVLbox curated by Claudia Gray, author of the Evernight series, the Firebird Series, and the upcoming series starter, Defy the Stars.
Trimberly Fanfic where Kimberly has a podcast on Tumblr.
Kimberly was no stranger to popularity. She was the captain of the cheerleading squad, and had dated the second most popular guy at school, first of course being Jason Scott. Although, after the little stunt he pulled earlier this year, he seemed to have fallen from grace. As of lately though, Kimberly has been alienated by her own friends. She can’t blame them though, she deserves it, or so she thought. After what she did, of course she deserved it, right?
She had been walking the hallway alone, just like she’s done the past few weeks and then she sees her. Hair partially braided on one side and loose the rest of the way, yellow t-shirt, and ripped Jeans, Trini Gomez. She doesn’t quite know the girl but she knows of her. They have biology together and as much as she’d hate to admit it, you know pride and all, she’s been intrigued by the girl.
Trini always seemed to be in a bad mood and today was no different. Her stoic face gave away to absolutely nothing. She walked down the hall and past Kimberly clutching at her backpack. She watched the small girl almost fly past her and out of the school’s double doors. Kimberly wants to know more about the mysterious girl, and why she’s always either so angry, or so emotionless.
Kimberly doesn’t quite understand why she’s so intrigued by this girl. She has been ever since Trini transferred to Angel Grove high the beginning of the school year. As soon as Trini had walked in, she took a seat toward the back of the classroom several seats away from the rest of her classmates. She went home that day unable to take her mind off the new girl.
Kimberly turned on her computer mic and began to record. “Hey guys, today hasn’t been my day. Remember that girl I told you about? Well, she seemed upset today. It was only for a split second, but it was still there,” she leaned back on her computer desk and sighed. “I wish I had the guts to talk to her.” Kimberly had found comfort in podcasting after her friends cut her off. The first thing she did was talk about the horrible mistake she had made by sharing the picture her friend sent to her. She took responsibility for her actions and spoke about how at the time she didn’t.
“There is something about this girl, I know I keep talking about her, but I don’t know, I,” she paused trying to find the right words to describe what she was feeling. “I don’t know how to explain it. There is definitely this need to make sure she’s okay, though. I just wish I wasn’t such a chicken, You now?” Kimberly has always been straight forward, but with Trini, it’s not that simple.
“I wonder where she goes when she’s not at school. I mean, I don’t think she goes home. Do you think she knows who I am? I mean I’m not really popular anymore. I’m not trying to be self centered here, I just have this need to know if she knows who I am. Like I said, I don’t know how to describe it. Anyway, I have homework to do. I’ll check in with you guys later. Thanks for listening, and if you’re new to my podcast, welcome, and thank you for following.” Kimberly shut down her mic and uploaded the audio to Tumblr.
“Small but a mansion in her eyes”: All time favorite lady…as an actress & a profound gem to me since I was 16[Blue]. For me, her roles grasped the inconsistency that comes from being a teenager.
She’s gotten increasingly popular since Stranger Things and rightfully so. But my appreciation comes from a slew of characters she’s played & words she’s uttered that have stricken me with joy and sometimes even pain. By pain, I also mean empathy. She’s not Hollywood, she’s over that part. She just does her own thing, creates her own colorful life around her not giving two shits of how it can be perceived and I love that. She has been able show her sensitive soul & her fortitude shines through. In what she has shared about her struggles, I can parallel many accounts to my own experiences. She’s not shy of showing her frailty, which I myself have always struggled with how vulnerable to be with others. It can be frustrating for anyone.
“The things that make a woman beautiful - moving with grace, accepting yourself, the ability to enjoy life - are timeless” I believe the same thing, she appreciates the wisdom and serenity that comes with age. Most likely why she ages so gracefully, because she’s happy. People have asked me for years why I like her so much. Mermaids & Girl Interrupted pulls at my heart strings, Heathers kept me mesmerized & Night On Earth keeps me on my toes. (Well I could go on & on about so many of her roles but I won’t)
The health of your soul, your mind & your body is so important & she’s never been afraid to show that it’s ok to be sensitive, you don’t have to be this pillar of strength all of the time. It’s ok to fall down, go through stuff and learn to take care of yourself. All of the low points are what make a person stronger. That’s why I have held her in such high regard for so long, and why everything about her is so striking to me. I have amazing women in my own life, I always will. But she’s pretty awesome too. She’s just another strong beautiful woman who has made me realize that all you need perseverance and know what matters most in this life and stay true to it.
I really empathize with Eleven from Stranger Things because she uses her psychic powers to steal waffles and then eat them by the handful out in the woods alone which is exactly what I would do if I had psychic powers
A new study by the American Sociological Association, reveals that the most aggressive bullying among teens comes from friends vying for social status. The real bullies aren’t the coolest, most popular kids — they’re the ones on the edge of the inner circle trying to get in, and they’re using bullying as a tool for social mobility. Because of this, the term “cyberbullying” may be totally wrong.