the physical act of love

unusual truths about the signs

aries: can actually be super fearful. mask emotions by being rash and reckless because they fear, more than anything, messing something they care about up. they feel that their emotions get in the way of making good decisions. 

taurus: not lazy; picky where they spend their energy. taurus’ can be very passionate, being ruled by venus, and when it’s something they care about taurus will go to the ends of the earth to achieve what they want. 

gemini: feels extremely deeply. always trying to dissect why they feel the way they do instead of embracing it. mask pain with wittiness and sarcasm. never honest with themselves though they can be so brutally blunt with others. 

cancer: probably has anger issues or anxiety. because cancer’s feel so deeply, they look for an outlet to release these emotions. anger is the one i’ve seen the most - cancer’s are volatile and find a way to hurt the person they take their anger out on - they go for the kill shot. 

leo: way more insecure than they front. many leo’s are physically confident, as we all know, but, like gemini’s, leo’s couldn’t be more emotionally insecure. they love the idea of love, but they’re terrified of emotional intimacy. 

virgo: their controlling organization comes from a lack of control over their heart. virgo’s - much like gemini - can have flitting attraction. their interest is temporary, as they enjoy a mystery, but only for so long. it’s a very fine line to keep the affections of a virgo, as they’re extremely picky with who they settle. 

libra: can be completely cold-hearted. scorpio’s and cancer’s get angry, but usually out of emotion, and it’s evident that no matter what they say they still care. libra’s however, have a switch that completely detaches them from all feelings when they’re pissed. will make you question if they ever even cared. 

scorpio: common perception of scorpio’s is that they’re kinky and sexual bastards, when really they are one of the few signs who views sex as an act of love rather than of physical feelings. scorpio’s only have sex with people they love - it’s more their heart than body. 

sagittarius: that wanderlust spirit is rooted deeply in fear. sagittarius fear attachment to one place or person for too long; it’s why they tend to travel. either physically or emotionally, locking down a sagittarius is very difficult, but not because they just want to see the world, but because they are very distrustful in nature. 

capricorn: like gemini, capricorn are very emotional. however, capricorn tend to ignore feelings instead of trying to understand them. known as driven, they tend to focus all their energy on a single thing, and think that emotion is a distraction from their goals.  

aquarius: super loyal. even though aquarius are very opportunistic and tend to take the route they think is the best for themselves, they also have a very compassionate side to those they sympathize with. aquarius’ hearts are difficult to capture, but once you do they’re also difficult to lose.

pisces: much more manipulative than perceived. pisces may feel deeply - as a water sign - but they use this to their advantage. pisces have a wicked accurate gut feeling due to how deeply in tune their are with their own emotions. if a pisces thinks that you can benefit them, they will use you.

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The Five Love Languages 

1. Words of Affirmation: Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

2. Quality Time: In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

3. Receiving Gifts: Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

4. Acts of Service: Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

5. Physical Touch: This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Marvey and romantic tropes

Inspired by these awesome posts: x, x, here’s a list of ten (of many tbh) romance tropes played with in Mike and Harvey’s narrative, starting with ones that actually are on TVTropes, followed by ones that are just general narrative things (All gif credits at bottom of post):

1. Meet Cute (+Rescue Introduction)

Do I even need to explain this one? A sick grandmother, running from the cops, mistaken identity…Literally the first 20 minutes of this series is about these two and how they’re going to meet thanks to some crazy circumstances, and how a malfunctioning briefcase full of pot is going to change their lives (and they don’t even know it yet):

2. Forgotten First Meeting (Or Connected All Along if you want to be finicky):

Harvey passed Mike and Trevor on the street ‘five years ago’ when Mike was working as a bike messenger and Mike said ‘If I ever look like that shoot me’ which is ironic because he will work so hard to look like that in five years but also not that ironic because Mike probably said that to deflect Trevor’s attention from the fact that he is 100% checking Harvey out and very interested in what he sees (And it is what he sees, since the camera is Mike’s gaze and it does a full elevator scan. Interesting choice there, editors):

3. Disposable Fiancé, and the Break-Up/Make-Up Scenario:

I’d have to post the entirety of 3x02 to illustrate it all tbh? From the ‘We’re done but I’m still going to be pissy about your new relationship nvm that the trigger for you falling into the relationship was that you were upset from our “break-up”’:

to the ‘I’m going to get right in your face for maximum UST and heartbreak for when I tell you we’re done’:

to poor Louis becoming the disposable fiancé who sees an opportunity:

and woos Mike:

while Harvey denies to himself how much he loves misses him (while looking that heartbroken jesus gabriel):

And of course it doesn’t work because right as Mike and Louis are about to ‘make it official’:

Along comes Harvey like everyone knew he would with these faces and ‘You’re not going back on your word [to Louis], you’re going back where you belong [with me]’:

And then you get the Big Damn…High Five:

(with Louis looking on which is bittersweet because unlike the usual disposable fiancé scenario he is sympathetic).

4. Race for your Love:

Okay, literally, this is even more romantic here than in its usual use?? “Most commonly found in Romantic Comedies, Race For Your Love usually occurs five minutes or so before the credits roll.” “Someone is about to leave the city/state/country forever, but their lover runs to the train station/airport to convince them to stay.” 

Except Mike is not about to leave the city he’s about to turn himself in to make sure Harvey doesn’t do the same, to protect Harvey, and Harvey’s running to stop him?? And we get shots of Harvey running this long fucking run in slow mo (and it continues into the next episode lmao):

5. Odd couple:

“A friendly (sometimes romantic) relationship between completely different people, usually the main characters.”

Good lawyer, bad lawyer. Winning vs caring, etc., their contrasts would need a whole separate post:

6. [Saving the] Damsel in Distress:

Mike is literally Harvey’s damsel in distress lmao?? It’s always because of something happening with Mike that Harvey ends up doing his angry “I’m going to save my bb” power walk:

7. Act of True Love [Fight]:

“An act of sacrifice or high risk, motivated by love, which proves beyond a doubt that you put your loved one’s needs before your own.”

Not only do they both pull these, they fight about who gets to put the other’s safety above his own, multiple times:

This happens again for a whole half fucking season I’m not going to post gifs of all of it because it would be too many but it culminates in a downright physical fight because Harvey’s pissed Mike’s pulling the Act of True Love and has locked him out of doing it and so he throws a fucking glass and then goads him into hitting him because he’s in that much pain over what Mike’s doing for him what the fuck:

And then Mike goes to prison and Harvey gets him out because of course, and you’d think it’d be over now right? But nope.

Narrative things that aren’t really on tvtropes:

8. Protectiveness/Possessiveness:

They’re just very, very protective and territorial of each other. Not hard to interpret as a romance trope at all. Again, to illustrate, I’d have to post gifs from the whole show so just have two at random:

9. “Staring at the empty space you should fill”:

I mean, I guess there’s a platonic interpretation for standing outside someone’s empty office with your morning coffee, broodingly staring at the chair they used to sit in. I usually only see behavior like this in romantic contexts in other media though:

10. “At Your Door” parallels

Doorstep parallels are just an otp staple and they have the most in the show. Like, someone still has to make an updated version with the most recent examples lmao, so here’s another two at random:

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Let’s talk sex.

Let’s talk sex. It’s okay for a girl to choose to wait to have sex until she’s emotionally connected to someone. It’s okay for a girl to choose to be a virgin until she finds the right guy. It’s okay for these girls to love men who view sex differently than them. 

All people are different and view sex differently. There are girls who love one-night stands. There are girls who view sex as a physical act only, no love or emotions necessary. All of these girls exist in all of our novels. (*spoilers* Katya talks about this in Infini.) 

Another thing to all the twenty-and-thirty-something-year-old virgins. You’re allowed to maintain your virginity. You’re not weak or a doormat for choosing to be with a sexually experienced guy or waiting to be in love or waiting for them. You’re allowed to process your emotions, even if you’re hung up on one guy, and act accordingly. Just like guys are allowed to do the same. 

None of the heroes or heroines in our novels shames anyone for their choices concerning sex. But we see, all the time, people shaming them for their choices. 

You know what’s wrong? Believing a woman is weak for choosing to remain celibate just because a guy has chosen differently than her. 

She does not have to do what the guy does if she doesn’t feel like it. 

We see all sorts of criticism for our books, but the most prevalent are directed towards our female characters and their choices concerning sex. People view Lily Calloway – our sexually active character – as a slut and gross. People view our twenty-something virgin Rose Calloway as unbelievable (and in some cases weak, except her ice-cold personality makes up for it somehow). And now people view our female character who needs an emotional connection to have sex as a weak doormat. 

Here’s what we’ve deduced (*spoiler alert, we don’t agree*): 

So these girls can be all of these things, but the guy has to be these things too: the guy has to be a virgin if she’s a virgin. The guy has to remain celibate if she’s celibate. The guy has to be as sexually active (or more) than the sexually active girl? 

Likewise, if all of these guys are sexually active, then the girls better not be waiting around for emotional or personal reasons – any reason they give does not matter – they better be sexually active too. But just the right amount. 

We’re sorry; we don’t believe in this.

note: this isn’t directed at any specific review. This is 4 yrs of us processing what people have said in various places over the past four years. 

Monsta X in Bed

a/n: Once again, this is all based off of my personal opinion and surface look at their natal charts!

Shownu: Ok, so for this guy, sex is more of a learning experience rather than a romantic one. He’d be a little more dominant than Kihyun, though. He’d love surprising you by switching things up right when you’re about to finish, so that you’d have to start all over again. Mostly, he’d be down for whatever. You want to be restrained? Alright, cool. He has the silk ties and fluffy handcuffs (he wants to make sure you’re as comfortable as possible) Want to restrain him? Ok, just be sure to use the silk because it feels the best. He’d honestly love it when you top him though. He’s such a BIG dude who often intimidates with just his presence, so having you control him would be a nice change for him. Expect lots of pillow talk afterwards and maybe a glass of wine for the real ‘love-making’.

Wonho: Ok, so if you want a F.R.E.A.K. call Hoseok. He naturally OOZES sex appeal, but especially so in the bedroom. When it comes to his lover, he switches between accommodating and demanding. It’s a good mix, though, don’t worry. He’d be quite the dominant and feisty fucker. I’m talking light BDSM (blind-folding, being tied up, soft humiliation, etc.) He would love to dirty talk you while in the act because he loves watching you squirm. He’d also be the king of aftercare because this guy, deep down, just loves making you feel amazing.

Minhyuk: We all know how lovable this guy is, but he is even more so within the confines of the bedroom. Deep inside of him, he has some pretty intense and even dark fantasies regarding sex. You would help bring out some of that darkness because everyone should embrace at least a little bit of their dark side. Once it’s out, it’s out. Once submissive, a flame would ignite within him, and he’d become the most dominant lover of them all. Lots of biting, smacking your ass, slight humiliation, and dirty, dirty, DIRTY things whispered in your ear. But then it’d be over and he’d bring you water and pinch your cheeks with that disarming ass smile of his. Like???

Kihyun: I’ve got one word for this dude: submissive. Literally, you can do whatever you want with him, and he’d be completely pliant beneath you. He’d love it when you were on top and dirty talking the hell out of him. He’s sensual creature who loves the physical pleasure of sex, and may even see the act as being strictly physical. The time afterward would be the ‘love-making’ part (drawing a bath for you both, sharing wine, cuddling, pillow talk, etc.) He’d love it when you brought him new ideas for sex positions, and would totally do them. He’d be the type to read up on it so he could make sure it was perfect (lol he’s too precious) Sex, for him, would be more of an intellectual experience, but certainly no less passionate or HOT.

Hyungwon: OK, SO LISTEN. IN MY OPINION, HE IS THE MOST DADDY OF THEM ALL, AND POSSIBLY THE ONLY ONE I WOULD ACTUALLY CALL DADDY. We only ever see like a total of three emotions out of this kid on television, and that’s because he’s a super private person. That one time he was asked if he’d ever seen porn, and he was like ‘nah’, he wasn’t lying. He was more than likely out there actually DOING it, so that he didn’t feel the need to watch it. He’s a conservative lover, though. He won’t do it with just anybody, but when he falls in love with you, and takes that next step…get ready for your mind and body to be B.L.O.W.N. Making love with Hyungwon would be earth shattering, so plan to not have a voice when it’s all done. I don’t foresee any particular kinks other than just dominating the hell out of you. He’d be super cuddly afterward, though, because he’s sated and in love omg.

Jooheon: This one is a devious little thing. He’d be the type to turn sex into a competition (one that he’d definitely win lol) He’s definitely a naughty boy in bed. Sometimes things seem out of the blue, but he’s actually been planning it for days. Car sex? Yeah, he’d already thought of that a few days before. Sex in the practice room? He’d written out just how it’d go beforehand. He enjoys being in control in bed, so expect to never be on top (unless he asks you to be) I see him having a daddy kink or some kind of master kink. He’d love for you to call him daddy while you’re on your knees. Something about that kind of influence and power really turns him on. But don’t get him wrong – he’d never finish before you. Even though he loves power (and orgasm denial lol) he’d always let you finish before him because, ultimately, your pleasure matters the most to him.

Changkyun: Based on interviews, and just by looking at the dude, he doesn’t seem much like a sex fiend – this is correct (lmao). But don’t get me wrong, Changkyun loves sex, but it has to be with someone he feels completely comfortable with. It takes him a little while to open up to you sexually because he has a fantasy in his mind, and if you do not fit his fantasy then he shuts down. Eventually, you ground his daydreaming ass and get to business. The good thing about Changkyun is that he LOVES to experiment. He’s like a sex fairy or something (lol) Just tell him what you’d like to try, and he’ll be up for it. Don’t worry – whips and chains excite this one.

Love Languages
  • Aries: words of affirmation
  • Taurus: acts of service
  • Gemini: quality time
  • Cancer: physical touch
  • Leo: words of affirmation
  • Virgo: acts of service
  • Libra: gifts
  • Scorpio: quality time
  • Sagittarius: gifts
  • Capricorn: acts of service
  • Aquarius: physical touch
  • Pisces: gifts
Love Languages

Hi there! I love your blog! Have you heard of the 5 love languages? I know everyone is different but I was wondering generally where you would put each type. Thanks!

What are the 5 love languages?

  • Gift Giving (giving gifts from love)
  • Quality Time (spending time with those they love)
  • Words of Affirmation (affirming those they love)
  • Acts of Service (caring for those they love)
  • Physical Touch (self-explanatory)

Disclaimer: anyone of any type can have any of the five languages, but here’s how I correlate them to cognition, for fun.

Gift-Giving: Fi/Te types (TJ, FP) and sensors in general (SP, SJ), because giving a gift is often an act of silent devotion (Fi) intended to bring another person sensory pleasure (Se/Si); though if the gift is given and the giver gets an emotional rush off their delight, that’s Fe ;)

Quality Time: everyone, but extroverts may prioritize it; thinkers may prefer it

Words of Affirmation: Fe-users, especially the EXFJs, and the intuitive-feeling types (who can see ‘beyond’ the obvious and encourage others with their ideas and visions toward the future)

Acts of Service: STJs serve out of silent devotion, SFJs often want to serve for society’s betterment and take pleasure in the reactions (Fe)

Physical Touch: strong sensing types (SP, SJ)

(You should also remember you have a love language you use toward other people, and one you prefer to receive from other people, and they may not be the same. You may show love through gifts but crave words of affirmation, etc.)

For fun, my family ranks thus:

Dad: ENFJ - Gift Giving / Words of Affirmation

Mom: [E?]STJ - Acts of Service

Me: ENFP - Quality Time / Acts of Service

Brother: [E?]NTP - Quality Time

Magickal Uses for Vanilla

Planetary Association: Venus
Gender: Feminine
Element: Water

Magickal Uses:  

Calming, Consoling, soothing, vitalizes energy, promotes a happy and healthy environment, attracts good fortune, enhances mental stimulation, used in spells to enhance physical energy.
A vanilla bean can also be carried to increase energy & strengthen mental abilities.  A vanilla bean placed in a bowl of sugar will infuse it with loving vibrations; the sugar can be used to sweeten love infusions.  The bean is used in a love charms, the oil is worn as an aphrodisiac.  In love, it acts on a more physical level - lowering the guard, lulling the senses and subtly seducing.  Vanilla incense is burned for love, lust, healing, luck and mental powers.

Oak Moon Ritual Mist

Use this mist for personal empowerment.
You will need half a cup of water, a misting bottle, one teaspoon of pure vanilla extract, five drops of chamomile (German ) essential oil, and five drops of lavender essential oil.
After dark, make this mist. Put the water in the bottle and add the vanilla extract to the essential oils. Cap the bottle and shake it. As you shake it, chant:

Oak Moon Ritual Mist
Empower me, blessed be!

Hold the bottle between your hands, and empower the magic mist by saying:

Oak Moon Ritual Mist
Empower me, blessed be!

Now, spray the mist upward above your head, close your eyes, and breathe in the fragrant mist. Each time you spray the mist, say:

Oak Moon Ritual Mist
Empower me, blessed be!

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Tip for writers who struggle with writing fluff: think of the five languages of love (physical touch, acts of service, gifts, quality time, words of affirmation) and imagine what your character is most likely to use when showing love, is most likely to be receptive to (those two don’t have to be the same!). Imagine a situation where the two or more characters would use it, how they would perform it.

Arrow Dodge Challenge

Request: This wasn’t requested.

Pairing: Tyler Scheid x Reader

Summary: You’re filming the ‘Arrow Dodge Challenge’ with the whole crew and things don’t go exactly as planned.

Warnings: Very mild injuries and swearing.

Word count: 779

A/N: I’ve been getting major Tyler feels because of @post-stripper-anon (all her writing is wonderful, even though they’re only headcanons, but that somehow makes me like it even more..? It’s mostly Tyler + nsfw, so if you like either I recommend you check her out; 10/10) and I was watching the arrow dodge challenge and after seeing Ethan being shot with the arrows I came up with this and I literally stopped mid-video to write this. Also, I got 2 ideas for this and I kinda want to do both so I split it into 2 endings whoops. So basically while you read this I’ll be writing the other 2 parts and will upload them as soon as I can.

(You can find the two alternate endings at the bottom of the post)

My Masterlist

Originally posted by everythingtythan

Arrow Dodge Challenge

“Hello everybody, my name is Markiplier, and welcome to the “Arrow Dodge Challenge”. I’m here with Bob, Wade, Ethan,” Mark said, going down the line of people set out in front of him. “ Tyler, and his lovely girlfriend, who you may or may not know from previous videos, Y/N.”

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Withering Away Innocence (Part 2)

Originally posted by thenorns-themoirai

Author: Wristic

Pairing: Hvitserk X Reader

Word Count: 3600 (Look out PLOT, here I come!)

Warnings: Some more sex training, as you do with a jealous wife

-Part 1-


Taking you back to Kattegat Hvitserk is only reminded of what he’s lost by marrying you, and its defiantly something you notice. But Ubbe comes to explain his odd behavior, only to throw you into deeper depths of confusion.


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Hamilton A.U. 3: SOUL EATER

Alexander Hamilton is the top student is the meister of Thomas Jefferson and Gilbert de Lafayette . He is a swords man.

Thomas Jefferson is a lazy know it all who is a rapier. A long thin sword with a beautiful designed handle.

Lafayette is a shield designed to be used as a throwing disk that can slice through things, his sharp blue like edges make him hard to very deadly. He’s also a gentle giant who is friends with almost everyone.

John Laurens is a meister who is overly energetic and gets in to a lot of fights. He’s a great marksman ins class however and gets average grades.

Aaron burr is another top student in class and is the weapon for John laurens. He is a crossbow that’s shoots energy blasts. He helps John study so he passes his classes.

Hercules Mulligan is a big guy who is very loud and yet likes to be in the sewing club. He is very physical strong and loves acting. He is the meister of james.

James Madison, a war hammer that teamed up with hercules. He is usury sick yet when he is in weapon form he is usury not as sickly.

George Washington is a teacher at the Academy as well as the meister of a death weapon.

George King is Washington shot gun, and is a flamboyant teacher as well at the Academy.

anonymous asked:

Hi! Your writing is, as usual, absolutely amazing and you post so much and you're absolutely amazing for it! If it's not too much to ask, could you do something where Bokuto, Nishinoya, Kenma and Tendou are reassuring their s/o who is very self conscious about their own appearance and have little confidence? It can be headcanons or scenarios I don't mind, whichever you prefer, dear~ thanks a bunch!!

I’ve come to discover through these that headcanons are, like, the best thing to do ever. Lol, but this was cute, Anon!

Hope you enjoy!

P.s. I just freaking figured out that other people add their own tags when they reblog my stuff and I literally spent about an hour and a half going through my notifications to see what those tags were. I love them. And I don’t know whether to be embarrassed by how much time I spent on it considering I have so many finals to work on! LOL.


Bokuto Koutarou

  • While this boy explodes with confidence, he does know what it’s like to fall into pits of insecurity, so he’d very much make sure to approach the situation very carefully.
  • He’d tell them the way they were feeling was valid - in the sense that society puts these insecurities on everyone - but that they should know that they’re better than anything society can produce.
    • And he’d be sure to tell them everything he loves that society perhaps wouldn’t - the birthmark on their cheek, their head to toe freckles, the beautiful dark kinks in their hair, their curvy figure that he looooves cuddling. And boy won’t stop until he names everything he loves: EVERYTHING.
  • They’ll probably laugh, tell him that they get it and that he has to say that because he’s dating them. Oh no, mistake.
  • It goes from 0 to 100 real fast, because he’s not finished.
    • Their laugh - like, the one where there is no control, where they’re crying and possibly snorting - is his favorite sound, their ability to take on the world so bravely, the way they love so fully, not holding anything back. There is so much about them that is so unique and grand and it kills him that they would even consider he didn’t mean every single word of it.
  • Cuddles, snuggles, and delicate kisses are to be expected afterward. And you better believe he’s spend HOURS just admiring every single part of their body - he’ll kiss every freckle, even the ones you didn’t know you had! - before he takes his time making love to the soul he cherishes to dearly.

Nishinoya Yuu

  • I actually think insecurity is something that might be a little hard for Noya to grasp right away. This kid has almost never been self-conscious about anything, it’s a very foreign concept to him, so catching on to the fact that something is wrong might take some time.
  • And he probably wouldn’t realize how much he’s not helping the situation when they come to him with these insecurities and he brushes them off initially with a, “you shouldn’t feel that way.”
  • That would start the trend of them just keeping things to themselves, because if he’s just gonna blow it off then what’s the point in telling him?
    • I can see it getting kinda bad. They’re fighting for no reason now and they finally snap one day saying how he can just go date someone who’s perfect then.
    • Oh. That’s when it hits him square across the face. And boy, does he feel like the worst boyfriend in the world.
  • From that moment on, this precious bean would try his best to understand what they were going through and be more aware of what they need from him when those moments come on. And he’s a quick learner, taking initiative in snuggle time and providing them with whatever will make them feel loved and wanted - words, physical contact, acts of service - they name it and he’ll do it because he never wants them for feel that way ever again.

Kozume Kenma

  • Really, just really, this kid would know that they’re insecure before they can even figure it out themselves. He had spent so much of his life trying to hide from the insecurities he faced while in middle school, there’s just no way that he wouldn’t see it as clear as day within his significant other.
  • But he wouldn’t bring it up directly, he’d wait for them to come to him when they really needed him. He’d watch them closely though, the last thing he’d want is for them to get too far deep into their own negative thoughts.
    • He’d probably be so wrapped up with making sure they were okay that he would just leave his PSP at home. Everyone is concerned for Kenma’s health - even them - but there are more important things to worry about.
  • Despite his subtle efforts to keep them from falling back into their insecurities, it’s bound to happen - sometimes you just in those moods, ya know? - and they’re breaking down in the middle of their dinner or homework or something just as random.
    • The first time in happened, Kenma panicked. He didn’t know how to handle such an outburst of intense emotion, but he figured it out slowly - and with a LITTLE help from Kuroo?
  • Now it’s just second nature, this boy will let it happen - because you can’t stop the inevitable - and gather up as many blankets he can find to wrap around the both of them where they’re stay burrowed for the rest of the night with Kenma whispered small reassurances and reasons why he loves them that are only heard by them and their surrounding covers.

Tendou Satori

  • I think that with Tendou he might actually be a little oblivious. The kids called ‘Guess Monster’, there are some things that he’s aware of and some that he misses and I feel like this is one of them.
    • Maybe it has something to do with his own past? Like, he knows what it’s like to be self-conscious about who he is and that he holds his significant other up so high that they could never feel that way because they’re amazing, there’s no one out there like them.
  • So when it does end up coming up that their self-conscious of their appearance he is totally floored. Because how can they say that? Don’t they know and see how pretty, no beautiful, no GORGEOUS they are?
  • For a couple days he’s not exactly sure what to do. He knew suggesting besting their enemies as he did when he was younger is not the way to go when the enemy is your own brain, right? But despite not knowing exactly what to do, he never left their side, choosing to console them with his presence at the very least.
    • Tons of forehead kisses and verbalization of his love is how they spend that time. He may not know exactly how to help them gain confidence in themselves, but he can give them all his love - which ends up being one of the main contributing factors to their attitude towards themselves becoming better.
  • Omg, I can just see this tol bean spending a morning in bed with his significant other just covering their face with kisses, smile wide, and every time they try to protest against something he says he just lays another kiss on their lips. Sweet thing will stop them with all his love from thinking less of themselves!

People show and recognize love in different ways: gift giving, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, and acts of service. These different ways are called love languages, and while everyone understands a little of each language, we all speak and understand one or two better than we do the others. Our love language is how we most feel loved.

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Mikado: You respond to quality words

Once your partner gives you their full attention, for you and only you, you feel fulfilled. You feel grateful when they listen to you all the way, without interrupting, trying to understand your thoughts and feelings, without necessarily giving you their point of view or ‘advice’. Another of your essential needs is the need to share time together. Whether for an activity: a short walk, a movie, a spot of shopping, a romantic dinner, a weekend away together, a meaningful discussion… even watching a TV programme that you will discuss afterwards. The main thing is that you share a quality moment together – and not with your partner’s attention elsewhere. During these moments, you feel loved and appreciated – ‘My partner is interested in me and is ready to spend time with me and for me to share something that I like doing’. Some advice: If your partner has understood your language of love, then you are happy. However, if this isn’t quite the case, then you can perhaps make a few suggestions that will help forge your couple even further (You can even show them these test results). While you are both talking, teach them the art of paying attention to you, doing nothing else during that time. Explain to them that you aren’t looking for answers, but more of a sympathetic ear and empathy, that can even been in silence. To be sure that they’ve understood you and that you’ve understood each other, ask them to paraphrase whatever it is you’ve told them and what they understood about your thoughts and feeling. Good listening comes from the desire of the listener to understand your thoughts, feelings and emotions. Finally, to make sure that you actually get time together, why not open your agendas and fix your common activities, at home or outside – at least once a fortnight?

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LOVE LANGUAGES TEST

People show and recognize love in different ways: gift giving, words of affirmation, quality time, physical touch, and acts of service. These different ways are called love languages, and while everyone understands a little of each language, we all speak and understand one or two better than we do the others. Our love language is how we most feel loved.

You respond to physical touch  

For you, love is as simple as a caress. Where ever it happens, how ever long it lasts or how it is: it could be just holding hands while walking about, having a quick cuddle once the kids are in bed, stealing a kiss here and there, exchanging touches while passing each other in the hallway, and of course making love, particularly in the warming up phase – body to body, skin against skin… Physical touch is security and reassurance for you and makes you sure that your partner loves you. On the contrary, the absence of physical contact hurts you deeply and you can feel ill treated or rejected and you close down emotionally. But when your partner communicates in your love language, it touches you deeply inside, creating strong emotional intimacy that opens you to yourself and to your partner. Some advice: Every person has his or her own geography when it comes to bodily touch. Don’t think that touching them in a way that pleases you will necessarily please them and vica-versa. It’s important to verbally confirm the touches and caresses that you like, ‘You know I love it when you hold my hand… ‘I like it when you brush against me while passing by’ or ‘I adore when you take me in your arms’. You can invent a couple’s game to make your partner guess which styles of caress you like and which zones of your body are more receptive (Getting hotter, getting colder… ) If you are seriously lacking contact, begin by explaining to your partner how you operate in sensorial terms and perhaps invited them to find 5 different ways of physical contact during the day.

charley-warlzz  asked:

What do you mean by love languages?

there are five love languages (gifts, words of affirmation, physical touch, acts of service, and quality time) and the basic rundown of it is everyone gives and receives love according to their love language.

like.. i receive love best when it’s physical touch. i love being hugged by people i trust and being physically close with me is the best way to show me you care. i SHOW love with gifts, i love getting birthday presents for people and just little random things (my mom usually is the recipient of my random gifts lol) but that’s how i like to show love.

my oc bane shows love with quality time. spending time one on one with people and letting them vent, or sitting quietly doing an activity together, or whatever. he receives love best when it’s words of affirmation; he needs to be told he’s doing a good job, or he’s on the right track, or just that he’s appreciated.

this doesn’t mean it’s their ONLY way of showing love. you can obviously show and receive love all five ways, it’s not some divergent type shit. but i knew my primary love languages right away and i think it’s pretty easy to figure yours out too. and it’s fun as hell to figure them out for your ocs lololol good luck!!