the physical act of love


The Five Love Languages 

1. Words of Affirmation: Actions don’t always speak louder than words. If this is your love language, unsolicited compliments mean the world to you. Hearing the words, “I love you,” are important—hearing the reasons behind that love sends your spirits skyward. Insults can leave you shattered and are not easily forgotten.

2. Quality Time: In the vernacular of Quality Time, nothing says, “I love you,” like full, undivided attention. Being there for this type of person is critical, but really being there—with the TV off, fork and knife down, and all chores and tasks on standby—makes your significant other feel truly special and loved. Distractions, postponed dates, or the failure to listen can be especially hurtful.

3. Receiving Gifts: Don’t mistake this love language for materialism; the receiver of gifts thrives on the love, thoughtfulness, and effort behind the gift. If you speak this language, the perfect gift or gesture shows that you are known, you are cared for, and you are prized above whatever was sacrificed to bring the gift to you. A missed birthday, anniversary, or a hasty, thoughtless gift would be disastrous—so would the absence of everyday gestures.

4. Acts of Service: Can vacuuming the floors really be an expression of love? Absolutely! Anything you do to ease the burden of responsibilities weighing on an “Acts of Service” person will speak volumes. The words he or she most wants to hear: “Let me do that for you.” Laziness, broken commitments, and making more work for them tell speakers of this language their feelings don’t matter.

5. Physical Touch: This language isn’t all about the bedroom. A person whose primary language is Physical Touch is, not surprisingly, very touchy. Hugs, pats on the back, holding hands, and thoughtful touches on the arm, shoulder, or face—they can all be ways to show excitement, concern, care, and love. Physical presence and accessibility are crucial, while neglect or abuse can be unforgivable and destructive.

Tip for writers who struggle with writing fluff: think of the five languages of love (physical touch, acts of service, gifts, quality time, words of affirmation) and imagine what your character is most likely to use when showing love, is most likely to be receptive to (those two don’t have to be the same!). Imagine a situation where the two or more characters would use it, how they would perform it.

Let’s talk sex.

Let’s talk sex. It’s okay for a girl to choose to wait to have sex until she’s emotionally connected to someone. It’s okay for a girl to choose to be a virgin until she finds the right guy. It’s okay for these girls to love men who view sex differently than them. 

All people are different and view sex differently. There are girls who love one-night stands. There are girls who view sex as a physical act only, no love or emotions necessary. All of these girls exist in all of our novels. (*spoilers* Katya talks about this in Infini.) 

Another thing to all the twenty-and-thirty-something-year-old virgins. You’re allowed to maintain your virginity. You’re not weak or a doormat for choosing to be with a sexually experienced guy or waiting to be in love or waiting for them. You’re allowed to process your emotions, even if you’re hung up on one guy, and act accordingly. Just like guys are allowed to do the same. 

None of the heroes or heroines in our novels shames anyone for their choices concerning sex. But we see, all the time, people shaming them for their choices. 

You know what’s wrong? Believing a woman is weak for choosing to remain celibate just because a guy has chosen differently than her. 

She does not have to do what the guy does if she doesn’t feel like it. 

We see all sorts of criticism for our books, but the most prevalent are directed towards our female characters and their choices concerning sex. People view Lily Calloway – our sexually active character – as a slut and gross. People view our twenty-something virgin Rose Calloway as unbelievable (and in some cases weak, except her ice-cold personality makes up for it somehow). And now people view our female character who needs an emotional connection to have sex as a weak doormat. 

Here’s what we’ve deduced (*spoiler alert, we don’t agree*): 

So these girls can be all of these things, but the guy has to be these things too: the guy has to be a virgin if she’s a virgin. The guy has to remain celibate if she’s celibate. The guy has to be as sexually active (or more) than the sexually active girl? 

Likewise, if all of these guys are sexually active, then the girls better not be waiting around for emotional or personal reasons – any reason they give does not matter – they better be sexually active too. But just the right amount. 

We’re sorry; we don’t believe in this.

note: this isn’t directed at any specific review. This is 4 yrs of us processing what people have said in various places over the past four years. 

Love Languages
  • Aries: words of affirmation
  • Taurus: acts of service
  • Gemini: quality time
  • Cancer: physical touch
  • Leo: words of affirmation
  • Virgo: acts of service
  • Libra: gifts
  • Scorpio: quality time
  • Sagittarius: gifts
  • Capricorn: acts of service
  • Aquarius: physical touch
  • Pisces: gifts
Five love languages - Physical Touch

If you have not been introduced to The Five Love Languages, I would recommend you take a look. It is an interesting read, providing insight into how people give and receive affection, to and from others.

Have you ever had someone you love misunderstand the affection you were trying to convey? For example, perhaps you did them a service, and yet they are upset because you never TOLD them how you felt. You may be left deeply confused, as you just SHOWED them how you felt. How do they not see that?

If you do know all about The Five Love Languages, I wanted to zero in on one in particular, one I know personally well, Physical Touch.

The five types of love languages are acts of service, gifts, verbal affirmation, physical touch, and quality time. If you don’t know which order you utilize these, you can take a quick test online. I personally predominately utilize physical touch, then quality time, then acts of service, then gifts, then words of affirmation.

As an INFJ who is Physical Touch, I have grown to deeply understand why it is referenced as a language. Funnily enough, I do not enjoy hugs and yet, with certain loved ones, I am highly cuddly. When I understand that one of my family members or friends do not like to be touched, I deeply respect their boundaries. However with those who love touch as much as I do and I feel deeply towards, I unconsciously find myself telling them things with touch that I can’t seem to say in any other way.

My boyfriend and I in fact are both physical touch, and this results in us using it constantly. We enjoy holding hands when we are walking as a way to feel connected when we are running around doing errands. We will show a hundred small touches of affection through out a day, and yet rarely do we verbalize the things we are conveying. Its unnecessarily and superfluous.

He’ll say, ‘I am still paying attention to you’, when he is distracted, by rubbing my arm. He’ll say he loves me, by kissing my cheek. Ill tell him I am content and just reading, when I touch his knee. We love and apologize and connect and affirm, in each and every touch, our own silent language.

Others will have physical touch in their line up, and utilize it as well, but if you first convey affection through touch, you will understand the difficult contradiction of some you love, doubting your love because you can’t say it, and yet others you love never needing to hear it because they can feel it in your touch. You may still use quality time and other such languages, but one will usually reign supreme.

You will understand if you are Physical Touch, the particularly deeply painful experience, that while seemingly inconsequential, can pierce your heart. This being, when one you are trying to physically reach out to, physically pulls away from you. Others are not always aware of the depth of emotion that is behind a touch, and therefore that they have rejected you on a very personal level.

You will also relate to the need for control and choice in who and when you touch, as when someone you do not feel warmly towards tries to steal a hug from you, it can be highly offensive.

If you are one who uses Physical Touch mainly, you may at different turns appear cold and warm, as you won’t show your feelings in the way someone may want you to, and yet with another that uses touch, you will find words and other acts somewhat unnecessary to understanding your bond.

As always, there is never a wrong or right way to convey how you feel, we are all unique and simply trying to understand ourselves and each other. All the best in your never ending quest for knowledge.

How they kiss you:

1. Jin

Jin’s kisses will be slow and sensual. He wants you to feel everything he feels. His kisses are his way of communicating the feelings he can’t explain. These will usually take place after concerts, sex, anniversaries or on your birthday. He wants to show you just how much you mean to him and how he appreciates your constant support and love. For Jin a kiss is more than a physical act of love, it’s a promise and a reassurance.

2. Suga

Suga isn’t a very openly affectionate person. If he does kiss you, it will probably be because of pent up feelings. Whether he’s feeling frustrated about work, life or because he hasn’t seen you in a while or if he is still riding off the adrenaline from his concerts, the kisses are the same. They are rough, bouts of passion that leave you feeling breathless and needy. The kisses 9/10 times escalate to more graphic activities. Even his pecks are hard and take your breath away.

3. J-Hope

J-Hope kisses with his lips and hands. His hands are always moving, they are stroking, groping and pinching every part of you they touch. He gets very handsy, which is why your kisses can never remain PG and you have to find the nearest bedroom, bathroom or couch or anywhere really. On top of all that, J-Hope is actually very adventurous and this can lead to his kisses no longer being limited to your mouth. His lips will kiss every inch of you he can and will love the way you squeal when he spontaneously adds a bite or two.

4. Rap Monster

Namjoon is a classy man. His kisses will be very gentlemanly in the beginning. As the two of you grow more comfortable with each other, his kisses will deepen and become more courageous. Namjoon is a very patient man and will gladly follow your lead and will only do things you are comfortable with. His kisses are very experienced and he takes his time tasting, feeling and having his fill of you.

5. Jimin

Jimin’s kisses are very sexy. He pays attention to detail, so it will be the little things like biting your lip, his hands stroking your arms or the way he will look into your eyes before kissing you. Little things like this make his kisses a lot more sensual and sexy. Jimin is also a tease and will hold back until you are whimpering for him to be more aggressive. He will brush his lips against yours or will shower your face and neck with small pecks purposefully missing your lips. Jimin however, does not have a lot of patience and at times when he is really needy will ravage you with no consideration. Not that you mind.

6. Taehyung

V has led a life filled with love and affection. He understands it’s value so, like a child, he will clutch onto any kind of love desperately. This shows in the way he kisses. His kisses seem more like he’s saying, ‘I love you, please don’t ever leave me’. This is how he feels but he doesn’t feel comfortable saying it out loud so he tries to tell you in his kisses. You have to be very attentive with V because the only way you will ever know anything about the way he feels or what he’s thinking is through his kisses.

7. Jungkook

Jungkook’s kisses lack finesse and experience, but he makes it up with passion and lack of inhibition. When it comes to kissing he is a bit of a coward so he relies on his instincts to give him the courage. He is someone you have to be patient with and make sure he is comfortable. Jungkook’s kisses are sweet and patient, he would love to explore this new action with full attention. Over time he will become more relaxed and take full control of the kisses.

Magickal Uses for Vanilla

Planetary Association: Venus
Gender: Feminine
Element: Water

Magickal Uses:  

Calming, Consoling, soothing, vitalizes energy, promotes a happy and healthy environment, attracts good fortune, enhances mental stimulation, used in spells to enhance physical energy.
A vanilla bean can also be carried to increase energy & strengthen mental abilities.  A vanilla bean placed in a bowl of sugar will infuse it with loving vibrations; the sugar can be used to sweeten love infusions.  The bean is used in a love charms, the oil is worn as an aphrodisiac.  In love, it acts on a more physical level - lowering the guard, lulling the senses and subtly seducing.  Vanilla incense is burned for love, lust, healing, luck and mental powers.

Oak Moon Ritual Mist

Use this mist for personal empowerment.
You will need half a cup of water, a misting bottle, one teaspoon of pure vanilla extract, five drops of chamomile (German ) essential oil, and five drops of lavender essential oil.
After dark, make this mist. Put the water in the bottle and add the vanilla extract to the essential oils. Cap the bottle and shake it. As you shake it, chant:

Oak Moon Ritual Mist
Empower me, blessed be!

Hold the bottle between your hands, and empower the magic mist by saying:

Oak Moon Ritual Mist
Empower me, blessed be!

Now, spray the mist upward above your head, close your eyes, and breathe in the fragrant mist. Each time you spray the mist, say:

Oak Moon Ritual Mist
Empower me, blessed be!

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i love when some abled people try to act like theyre so educated on your illness, they think they can offer you advice, talk about your issues and your limitations as if they know what those are, they think they can tell you how disabled you are, and what you can and cant do. thinking they know you better than you know yourself, and thinking they know your illness better than you do.

they think theyre so educated, that is, until you call them out on not actually being educated, until you tell them “stop that, youre being ignorant, you cant know this, so why act like you do?”

then they get all upset over it, and the usual thing i hear is “well you cant blame me for being ignorant on something i dont go through”

which is true, you cant help being ignorant on something you dont, have never and will never have to go through.

but for real, if youre ignorant on something and KNOW youre ignorant on it, why in the world are you talking about it as if you arent?

“The three hardest tasks in the world are neither physical feats nor intellectual achievements, but moral acts: to return love for hate, to include the excluded, and to say, “I was wrong.” 

― Sydney J. Harris

anonymous asked:

I like the thought of omega being a little but smaller than their alpha counterparts so Fives is like a few inches shorter than his brothers and a little bit lighter. His brothers take advantage of this as much as they can, randomly picking him up and carrying him around or pulling him into their laps. Fives acts annoyed but he really loves the physical contact and closeness with them, something he's never had before

So my first thought in response to this is just his brothers having a habit of carrying him across camp if he is needed on the other side. Like he’s resigned to the fact that “the General needs you” means he is going to be delivered to the General slung over the shoulder of one of his brothers (he isn’t actually complaining)

And, I mean, I know people who were/are in the military, this is exactly the sort of dicking around they would do.

But seriously, the difference between Fives and the others isn’t actually that massive, it’s noticeable, but not glaringly obvious. He probably is still considered by most to be tall for an Omega. His brothers do not care about these facts. At all. The small difference between him and the rest of them make him ideal for carrying around/playful manhandling.

TBH if we go with the idea that Fives felt he was in danger because of his status from the previous asks, I feel it would be especially nice for him because he’s being singled out for good reasons. It’s clearly mostly in jest (which, is probably a heavy bit of the Clones bonding) and they clearly don’t think he’s any less of a competent soldier because of it. So Fives plays along and does the appropriate amount of protesting, but really they all know he’s not being serious and that’s why they keep doing it.

all i want for christmas

is my favorite characters getting the respect they deserve

the signs and their love language

aries: physical touch
taurus: receiving gifts
gemini: acts of service
cancer: physical touch
leo: words of affirmation
virgo: quality time
libra: acts of service
scorpio: words of affirmation
sagittarius: physical touch
capricorn: acts of service
aquarius: quality time
pisces: quality time

check your venus sign too!

Skin - Natasha x Reader

Author’s Note: Hey! Decided to get this up tonight! Hope you enjoy some Nat loving and I apologize for the open ended ending of this. interpret it as you wish! And sorry for the crappy title. 

Request: Can you plz make female reader insert were the reader was brainwashed by hydra and cant remember anything. so her girlfriend natasha romanoff uses the pickup line that the reader used on natasha when they first met to try and get her to remember????

Warnings: Some mentions of the physical act of love, nothing explicit.

Words: 988

Natasha Romanoff was never nervous and she was always confident. She had been trained her entire life to be prepared for anything and everything, and she usually was. Until you came along. You were always catching her off guard. You were something so unexpected to her. When she first met you, when she first took you out on a date, when she first kissed you, when you had been intimate with each other for the first time. You were unpredictable to the assassin, unlike anyone else,  and she was completely in love with you.

The first thing Natasha noticed when she met you was how nervous you looked. The second thing she noticed was how nervous she felt. It was a feeling completely unfamiliar to her. She was the Black Widow. She didn’t feel nervous about anything. Let alone a tiny lady like you. You were tiny, even compared to her and she thought you were the most adorable thing she had seen in a long time.

You smiled shyly at her, your cheeks stained pink. “Hi, I’m (Y/N),” you said.

She smiled confidently at you. “Hi, (Y/N). Welcome to the team. I’m Natasha,” she had responded and you seemed to feel more at ease due to her friendliness.

You two quickly grew close and within a few days, Natasha had decided that she liked you. You were beautiful, smart, funny, and despite your size, you were almost as badass as she was. Almost. She enjoyed training with you. She managed to beat you every time, but she liked to see you improve your skills. She also secretly enjoyed sneaking subtle touches and the sexual tension building between you two was amazing, although a little annoying.

Eventually, Natasha had enough of the teasing and decided to tell you how she felt.

“(Y/N),” she said and panicked for a moment, not knowing how to exactly say what she felt.

“Yeah, Nat?” you answered, smiling at her.

“I like the parts of your face covered in skin,” she ended up saying, and she immediately regretted it once she realized how stupid it sounded and how confused you looked. She was supposed to be quick on her feet. She couldn’t even think rationally around you.

“…What?” you said, smiling a little in confusion.

“I’m trying to ask you out,” she said and you blushed and grinned at her. She thought you looked beautiful.

“Ok, then. In that case, I like the parts of your face with skin on it, too,” you answered and she smiled at you.

Your relationship was amazing. You two were practically inseparable and would be constantly touching and kissing.

Until HYDRA kidnapped you. It was your first solo mission and it was supposed to be simple. Natasha was worried about you, but she knew you were able to handle yourself. There wasn’t much of a threat and all you had to do was collect some intel. Unfortunately, it wasn’t that simple. It was a setup that ended up with you captured.

Natasha was a wreck for weeks. She was constantly going on missions, trying to find you and any HYDRA agent that she met along the way would end up seriously hurt or dead. She wanted you back.

After ceaselessly going on missions, Fury ordered her to take a break. She threatened, begged and pleaded to keep going on missions, but no one would let her. She was too involved with the situation and everyone else was more than capable of rescuing you. She knew that and she knew that she was being unreasonable, but she loved you so damn much.

The days she had off, she would spend searching files and hacking into places. If she couldn’t physically be there, she would do anything in her power to help find you.

A few more weeks passed by with no word from you and leads that led nowhere and she was slowly losing hope. Until Steve and Tony found you. You had been brainwashed by HYDRA and couldn’t remember anything about joining the Avengers, and that broke Natasha’s heart, but you were safe. She didn’t care if you didn’t remember her. She would be your friend again, if that’s all you wanted this time around. Whether you were her friend, fellow coworker, or her girlfriend again she vowed to never let you out of her sight.

When the two men brought you in to meet the team again, you looked terrified. Your eyes were wide and alert, bags underneath them. There were fading bruises scattered on your skin and you were thinner. Natasha didn’t even want to imagine what those assholes had put you through, even though she had a fairly good idea.

She was the last one to be reintroduced to you and you were surprised at her familiarity. She looked lethal and gorgeous, a dangerous combination and you couldn’t help but feel attracted to her. That should’ve been the last thing on your mind, but you couldn’t help it. It was such a natural thought. as if you had known her before and always felt and thought this way about her.

She smiled confidently at you, but you could tell that the confidence didn’t her eyes.

“Hey, (Y/N), you probably don’t remember me, but I’m Natasha,” she said and reached for one of your hands. You slightly flinched at the contact, not used to another human’s touch.

There was an awkward silence for a few seconds, until Natasha took a deep breath and looked you straight in the eyes.

“I like the parts of your face covered in skin,” she said and hoped that some memory came to you. Anything. She said she could be just your friend until you got your memories back, but she couldn’t. Looking at you, all she wanted to do was hug you and kiss you and give you a proper welcome home.

You looked confused for a moment. “…Nat?”

Pisces Soul Blueprint

A soul here on earth to undertake the heavenly duties of
~ ~ Self protection and love, dissolving of all physical, emotional, psychic barriers, spreading of unconditional love, service, to act as a conscious conduit for the knowledge of heaven, to heal they who they lay their sacred hands on, to fuse the non material with the physical

Karmy thoughts...

as requested by @mcwithaminthetardis

Karma is looking in the wrong places for happiness because that’s the journey she has to go through. She knows somewhere in her subconscious that she wants to be with Amy and that’s why she has dreams. She has so many dreams and when she wakes up and has to ignore them because she loves Liam, right? She loves Amy too but not that way. Those are just dreams. Dreams in which she can feel every brush of Amy’s fingers and the insistent push of her tongue when Amy’s teasing her and she wants to show her that it isn’t going to work. She will possess Amy’s mouth. She will climb inside of her by touch and act on every physical manifestation of her love and lust that she can until she’s too exhausted to move. 

For #NoShameDay here is…. Well, not a selfie.

This is a raw jpeg from a headshot session!

I’m Toki and I’m an actor. I also have Fibromyalgia! Fibro makes my joints and muscles ache and causes chronic fatigue. Pair that with my depression/anxiety and being born with deformed lateral meniscus in both knees, sometimes it’s difficult to get out of bed - physically and mentally! I have Endometriosis, but last Tuesday I had a partial hysterectomy so hopefully that will help out with that side of things.

Some days it’s hard to do anything and getting out of bed is seriously a big deal, but I want to do what I love. Acting is a very physical and demanding job and it can be taxing. It’s never going to be easy, but I hope that one day I’ll be able to use my pain to inspire others.