Grounding is a technique that helps keep someone in the
present moment. It is only in the present moment that we can
fully live our lives. Grounding techniques can reduce anxiety, quiet the
mind, and connect you to your inner voice. These simple techniques can ground
you in your own truth and help you get to know your inner self. Grounding is
also essential for basic health and survival. Grounding enhances your ability
to function effectively on a day-to-day basis. When poorly grounded, your
spatial understanding is impaired. You may stumble around physically, mentally,
spiritually, and emotionally. Here are 10 effective ways to ground yourself:
1. Start With Your Breath. Breathe deeply through your
diaphragm and gently exhale any tension you might feel, clearing the energy
channels of your body. Breathe in through your nose and exhale through your
mouth. Let your abdomen rise and fall as you breathe. This deep breathing
signals the body to relax and helps calm your mind and spirit.
2. Meditate. Meditation is probably the most popular
grounding technique. Sit or lie comfortably, and then close your eyes. Simply
focus your attention on your breath without controlling its pace or intensity. Feel
yourself relaxing with each breath. Release all of your worldly concerns,
doubts, and fears, allowing them to drift off on the air of the wind, on the
breath of life. If your mind wanders, return your focus back to your breath.
Maintain this meditation practice for two to three minutes to start, and then
try it for longer periods.
3. Play a Drum. Drumming is perhaps the oldest form of
active meditation known to humanity. One of the paradoxes of rhythmic
stimulation is that it has not only the power to move your awareness out of the
confines of the conceptual mind into realms beyond time and space but also the
capacity to ground you firmly in the present moment. It allows you to maintain
a portion of ordinary awareness while experiencing non-ordinary awareness. This
permits full recall later of the visionary experience.
4. Touch the Earth. Just take off your shoes and socks and
get outside. Physically touching or sitting on the Earth has a calming and
grounding effect. Nature calms, helps you connect to something larger than yourself,
and provides a much-needed break from your busy life.
5. Focus on Your Root Chakra. Close your eyes and focus your
attention on the chakra at the base of the spine. The vibratory center located
at the base of the spine grounds spiritual forces in the body to the Earth and
the physical realm of reality. Visualize this energy center as a red disc of
light, about the size of a silver dollar, at the base of your spine.
6. Stand Like a Tree. Stand with your feet parallel, about
six inches apart, and your toes aimed straight ahead. Your knees should be
slightly bent, removing any strain on your lower back. Rest your hands at your
side or place them over your navel. Close your eyes and imagine that you are a
tree. Visualize your head as the crown, your body as the trunk, and your feet
as the roots. Imagine roots growing out the bottom of your feet, extending deep
into the ground beneath you.
7. Walk Mindfully. Mindful walking can be practiced anywhere
or anytime. Simply take a walk and be mindful of every sensation you feel.
Breathe naturally and fully, deeply filling your lungs with each inhalation,
but being careful not to strain in any way. When your attention drifts away
from the sensations of walking and breathing, take notice of those thoughts or
emotions without judgment and gently direct your awareness back to the present
moment, back to the walking.
8. Carry a Grounding Stone. A grounding stone is any small stone
that helps make you more reality-oriented and pulls you into the
current moment. Black obsidian is a good grounding stone to carry or
wear in your aura each day. Black tourmaline is one of the most effective
stones, as it works for both spiritual grounding and protection. These crystals
are easy to obtain as tumblestones, and easy to put one or more of the
grounding stones in your pocket every day.
9. Use Your Voice. Repeat a mantra, chant, or positive affirmation.
Hearing your own voice actively gets you out of your own head. Repeating a
soothing affirmation powerfully grounds you in reality, by reminding you what’s
most important to you.
10. Take a Shower. This is one of my favorite grounding
methods. Heat increases blood flow, slows your heart rate, and calms you down
gently. I personally find this technique to be very effective. The heat and
water pressure from a cleansing, hot shower always grounds me, bringing me back
to the here-and-now.
The screams. The screams woke the neighbors. Some would ignore it, others would bang on the walls, agitated.
No one would suspect a thing.
She smiled. She smiled often, and widely.
Yet inside, she was praying, begging for someone to realize how broken she was.
She wasn’t selfish. She didn’t ask for much. All she asked was for someone to hear her out.
She was always the go-to person for advice. If someone was sad, they would go to her. She talked to them as if she was the happiest person, as if she herself knew the answer to true happiness.
No one would suspect that she would lock herself away into an unbearable pit of misery and despair.
Some would call her an attention seeker.
She wasn’t an attention seeker. In fact, she hated the attention.
Some would point to the parallel, almost perfectly spaced apart lines that drew across her forearm all the way up to her elbow and look at her questioningly, or with disgust. She grinned and said it was a long time ago.
They nodded and shrugged, no longer caring.
She felt ashamed for wanting someone so desperately for help. She knew others were suffering, so why should she have the right to want help?
People who knew her would whisper about her. “She isn’t really depressed. She has a nice house, nice clothes, an expensive phone and laptop. How could she be depressed?”
She knew they spoke of her. She didn’t know either. She didn’t know how she could be the way she was. She didn’t even have a clear reason.
She was just… Sad.
She was depressed.
Sometimes she would try to bring it up jokingly in a conversation, hoping someone would see passed the exterior and see how she was reaching out for help.
I don’t know why I’m doing this. I guess because this is the longest we’ve ever been apart and it doesn’t feel right. (hiccup).
I snuck into Becca’s liquor cabinet and I drank, well, most of it. It’s so sad and I hate it. I hate that there’s no chance of you finding me like you did in that cave. I hate that I’m alone. This goddamn radio is only thing I’ve had to talk to for over three months and I think I’m starting to go crazy. I wonder if you’re hearing these, the ramblings of a girl who misses you. I’ll be waiting for you. God, I miss you
Did you ever see the old tv series, Doctor Who? Cause right now I feel like I’m Rose, trapped in a parallel universe, apart from the person who makes me alive and I’m barely even living without you. I think I forget how. Or maybe, maybe the story of Rory and Amy might apply to us better. He waited for her while she was trapped for two centuries, two entire centuries and I’m going made without you after only three months. You know that the episode where they died made me cry. Amy was basically, “Together or not at all” and she described it as “it’s called being married.”
You know when we signed that list, when we basically made that deal to live for each other and die together, we basically embodied that quote. I think that means in the olden days, we’d be married. Becca has this massive library and I’ve been reading any and all the history books I can get my hands on. I’ve been saving the Greek Mythology books for when you get back, I need you to come back. But anyway, we’d be married in several different cultures by now and I think by grounder culture as well.
Should I be calling you husband? That’s weird since we never even kissed, god I never got to kiss you and somedays I don’t think I will. We’d be considered engaged in a lot more cultures than married, partly because we never had sex.
Do you know that Becca has no porn? What kind of self respecting woman in their 20s doesn’t have a secret porn stash? It’s weird, I tell you, really weird.
(giggling, sound of slurping) I just finished another bottle and god all I can think about is how badly I want someone to touch me right now. It should be you, it should have always been you. I don’t think you have any clue how many times I got myself off thinking about your fingers and your mouth and your cock and how well you know me already. I thought about you after you saved me in the cave, while I was in Polis, I thought about thanking you for saving me if Roan hadn’t existed, thanking you by kissing you and kissing you and kissing you.
Ugh, Bellamy, I want you so badly I ache everywhere. I’m so desperate for someone, but I’m so bloody desperate for you that I’m gagging for your touch. I want you here. I want you with me in every way possible but you’re not fucking here. (sound of glass shattering)
I think I’m going through all the stages of being drunk, I just threw a bottle.
It doesn’t feel right, it feels like my skin is crawling and my flesh is burning. It’s together or not all and you’re not here. Bellamy, why aren’t you here?
(sound of sobbing)
I need you, I need you, come back to me please. I’m still, you have my heart ok and I’m trying to use it in the way you would want me too. The only reason I’m living is because I’m using the echo of you.
Okay, so, Kung Fu Panda 2 is the greatest sequel of all time, or at least that I’ve ever seen. And I don’t mean it’s the best movie “despite” being a sequel, because films like Aliens exist. I’m also not saying it’s a great movie, even though it is good.
What I’m saying is that Kung Fu Panda 2 is the best sequel in terms of what it is and could be a sequel.
First, it doesn’t erase anything from the first movie. You see this all the time: the hero breaks up and is chasing a new girl or chasing after the one he got last time. The guys who became famous aren’t famous any more and now have to redo their popularity. The orphanage they just saved is on the brink of bankruptcy and so on. This undercuts all of the development of the first film and usually is there so the audience can watch things play out in a similar fashion to the first movie. But if you do this, all the sudden the first movie is useless. Why would you bother making a sequel if you’re going to undo important parts of the original? KFP2 amazingly integrates pieces from the original. Along with the obvious of Po being the Dragon Warrior and him being, y'know, a Kung Fu Panda, it takes in a lot of details and things that you need to see the original to really take in; stuff like Po and Tigress’s differences, Po’s exact fighting style, and Shifu’s struggle to find peace.
And speaking of which, Secondly, the way they integrate the primary plotlines of both of the movies is nearly ingenious. Not everyone can spot this, but the first KFP did not have Po as the only protagonist, but also Shifu. Even though Po learned to go from ordinary to extraordinary, Shifu’s journey from extraordinary to master was the real driving plot. So in other words, the way Po ends up by the end of the first movie is the way Shifu started in the first: an expert at Kung Fu but in no control of their feelings. And with that, they set up this spectacular plot strand going across the two movies, and you can watch Po in KFP2 and link him to Shifu in the original. They have very similar themes but are so different, and the writing is good enough that you can tell some of it is the difference in characters and some of it is the difference in situation.
So here’s a third aspect, a big one, that makes sequels tough: most of the time, if the first movie was good enough to warrant a sequel, that means it was a complete and finished story (Or that they purposefully left in a dumb sequel hook that left the first movie unfinished, but never mind that). The first KFP left very little open, other than the aforementioned path to peace that Po was looking for. But what the creators were able to hone in on was Po’s origin story. Me and many others basically just let the duck dad slide, thinking “eh, maybe that’s how it works in this universe, Po’s dad can be a duck.” But the film takes that unanswered question, that nagging thought, and expands on it wholly. Believe it or not, even Mr. Ping’s arc in the first movie, just deciding to be a little more open-minded (making tofu) is expanded on in the sequel. He grows the confidence to tell his son he’s adopted, something he’d surely be too afraid to do by the start of KFP1. It also works off of how Po growing distant from his father in the first movie (giving up noodles for kung fu) culminates in the sequel as a potential to completely disconnect from him and find his biological parents. The story of Po’s biological parents is heartwarming and touching and the way he deals with it is great and all but not what this essay is about. Possibly the greatest use of a sequel, often the most powerful and easiest to mess up, is the delayed set up. This is especially potent in comedy films.
Earlier I mentioned that it’s a major flaw to erase something that happened in the first movie to do it again in the sequel, but the audience wants a sequel, and that means it wants what was in the last movie. Part of this is solved by building on developed story elements or character relationships but a lot of it is dependent on reusing the first movies assets in exciting ways. Dreamworks its the nail on the head in this respect. Po’s nerdy tendencies are brought in when they’re relevant, but never quite the same joke. The furious five’s various character bits are thrown in, but now with a 6th member. The perfectly timed, beautiful “Skadoosh” that seems to clarify once and for all to the audience the villain has been defeated. Even from a stylistic perspective, the use of 2d animation to represent a dream sequence is brought back and used to create a huge emotional moment. All these marked similarities in tone and writing style while still being fresh and clever make the movie feel thematically linked without it being a boring retread.
All I’m trying to say here is that Kung Fu Panda 2 does an amazing job at not only being a respectable sequel to a decent movie, but a perfect model of what a sequel should be. It builds upon developments made in the original rather than pulling them apart, it parallels the plot in a unique but comparable way, it answers questions that were left unanswered even if they didn’t particularly need an answer, and it took the pieces of the original and rearranged them in a way that was familiar but fresh.
Background :It’s been about a week and half since Rafe got Sam from prison. They are driving back to Rafe’s compound before going to search for Avery’s treasure, but because the world still needs to believe Sam is dead, their travel can’t be documented. Rafe buys an old car with cash and they begin their road trip, stopping in small towns for the night. While Rafe sleeps in the room, Sam goes to the nearest bars to find a cold drink and warm body. This is one such night.
EXACTLY. And what it would do to Touka’s character would be a whole other rant. Killing her would just mirror her parent’s downfall and how unoriginal and bland would that be? The whole point is to avoid the pitfalls her parents fell into. Ishida can be cruel, but there’s always a point to his tragedy. Touka’s death would just result in a rampaging, depressed Kaneki while throwing away all of her development and storyline to get a reaction from the main character. Plus, we’ve already seen his reactions to loss so it would be pointlessly repetitive.