would you ever consider a certain age too young to discover your sexuality?
When we use the word ‘sexuality’ we immediately link it to, well, sex. And obviously you should never think about kids in a sexual content.
But ‘sexuality’ really encompasses things like romantic attraction, or also physical attraction/idk physical appreciation? Like when you look at someone and you’re like 'that’s a spicy meatball’ but it’s more appreciative than anything. Lmfao I’m ace man I don’t know how I fit with everyone else.
My point was… Little kids have crushes all the time. And these are fleeting things, mostly based on a shallow concept of emotion, but as a society we accept the idea of puppy love because it’s usually straight. I’d argue that if society wasn’t so heteronormative, little kids would in fact start expressing their orientation through the form of innocent crushes from a young age.
I think it’s really telling that we assume a kid is too young to know if they’re LGBT+ while we simultaneously accept and encourage straight puppy love in our kids. If something is heteronormative, we consider it fact. If someone tries to exist outside of that norm, we consider them uninformed and inexperienced. Essentially, we act like LGBT+ kids don’t know themselves or understand the world.
Like, what’s the worst case scenario? Your eight-year-old sister says she likes girls, but in ten years maybe she realizes she’s bi. That doesn’t make her any less valid. It’s better to accept someone and support their growth than to immediately shut them down and refuse to listen to them. If you discredit a kid, they’re not going to trust you with anymore personal things. They’ll internalize what you said. They’ll doubt their own judgement. I know I did.
So yeah. Support kids.