the one whose name i can't remember at all

Ugh. One of my least favourite tropes in fiction is Good Guy Gaslighting. 

You know the drill. Heroic Main Character is part of some Underground World (hidden society of vampires/clones/faerie etc) that needs to be kept Top Secret.

Then oblivious Side Character (most often love interest), who is kept in the dark for Their Own Safety starts to catch glimpses of the Secret World. Maybe they see someone survive an attack that should have killed them, maybe they see someone do magic. Whatever it is, they freak out, and go to The Main Character to tell them this crazy thing they’ve seen.

And of course, of course, the Main Character who Knows Best and is doing it For Their Own Safety, assures them that they were seeing things, and totally mistaken, and it’s OK, they’re not crazy, but maybe they just need to take it easy?

And so it continues for however many episodes the writers decide to drag out the ‘let’s watch this character believe they’re going mad as the main character deliberately encourage that perception for their own ends’.

I just hate it so much because it is, at the core of it, gaslighting. It’s deliberate, cruel gaslighting but because it’s done For Their Own Safety by the Heroic Main Character, it’s never condemned and is regularly used as a plot device.

advice to the signs (sun+moon+asc+venus)
  • Aries: letting people in is hard. you have to trust them enough to see all the rot and damage that may lay beneath that beautiful skin of yours. but don't forget, they will also see the gorgeous hidden parts of you, and while they're in, they may just fall in love with what everyone else deemed 'too messy.' let people in.
  • Taurus : you're strong. that's apparent. but make sure your strength is coming from a place of positivity, not one of bitterness. let you love yourself inspite of what others think, rather than to spite others.
  • Gemini: my little free spirit, you flit from one place to another so fast and then your heart is broken when your relationships are about as deep as a paper cut. take some more time, develop your relationships.
  • Cancer: sometimes, you gotta know when to stop relying on your friends, and stand on your own.
  • Leo: you look out for everybody, maybe it's time you look out for yourself. you don't have to be strong all the time.
  • Virgo: Don't give up. Please. I know it hurts, I know it feels like every breath takes your last drop of energy. But please, remember that no matter what happens, you have yourself. You can't give up on yourself, who will be there for you when no one else is? Take care.
  • Libra: You look for love in the mouths of people whose first names you barely know. All in hopes that you'll forget the hole in your heart. The only way you'll fill that hole, is by doing things that make your heart full, and right now, your heart is half empty and leaking.
  • Scorpio: You're not a vault. You're a person. It's okay to say no, you don't have to carry around the secret of every person you encounter. Say no.
  • Sagittarius: Every day that you fake that smile, your heart cracks a little more. Admit you're not okay, if they're your friends, they will still love you.
  • Capricorn: You're breaking hearts that dont deserve to be broken. what happens when you're all alone and there's no one to push away anymore?
  • Aquarius: your confusion, your pain, your misery will be there in the morning. but this time, there will be a hangover. you can only run from reality for so long.
  • Pisces: OPEN YOUR EYES. you deserve more than this. I know you know it, and everyone around you knows it. your love is beautiful, awe inspiring, but your love can't fix the broken. in fact, it's your love that may break you.