message for my fellow cb shippers
Ok, it feels like I haven’t posted anything CB related here for 100 years but there have been a few things in this shipdom that have been triggering me and I wanted to rant a bit about them here. So this is the issue: I have noticed that many people seem to have a, I call it “black and white thinking”, when it comes to CB. What I mean is that people immediately get anxious when they don’t interact, panic whenever they aren’t next to each other for a second or when one of them is going out with someone else, claiming that they fought/aren’t real etc. However, even when they do interact, when they get a bit bolder, a bit more open, I still see people doubting them because it’s suddenly “too much”, because this much PDA can only be fanservice in their eyes thus = not real. And this actually triggers me because I cannot believe how everyone claims to be such an expert when it comes to showbusiness and how SM creates ships and forces them to interact (basically things we cannot have any clue about because we are ordinary people) but when it comes to interpreting and understanding the basics of human relationships = something that is part of our every day life, nobody seems to see the many shades between black and white. People focus too much on single occurences that they turn blind to the whole picture. You cannot measure the relationship between two people on one incident. You cannot measure them by using fanfictions/movies as an example either (sadly, this is what I feel many people subconsciously do) as they mostly present a subjective and unrealistic idea of what being together is supposed to be like. Being together is not about being extremely clingy 24/7, it’s not about always kissing and hugging in public, nor is it about constantly screaming how much you love your partner either. Ofc there is nothing wrong with doing all these things I have mentioned above but what I am trying to say is that good relationships are so much more than that. Good relationships are about trust, support, about being in tune with each other, about minds that connect. And these are all aspects I can clearly see in CB. They have a good - no, a beautiful relationship - no matter if you see them as friends, lovers, soulmates or whatever. But this is only possible for you to see if you start seeing their (and generally all) relationship(s) as a whole instead of focusing on one incident. Try to get rid of this idea that they have to be showy 24/7 for them to be real but also refuse to believe this nonsense about every single step they take towards each other being “fanservice” (= avoid black and white -thinking). I generally feel like many fans are completely misinterpreting the word “fanservice” but I won’t elaborate on that now because this post has already become too long. Nevertheless I want to add that, even if CB gets bold - “fanservice” is not the only explanation I personally can think of. Try to think about the “grey zone”, that’s all I can say. Anyways, I am sorry for ranting but I hope I could get my point accross. Be positive!