What bothers me the most about the “friendzone” interpretation of Snape, it’s not the mischaracterisation of Snape himself, but the complete lack of understanding what a “friendzone” guy is.
Do you think a friendzoned guy would accept the refusal, yet still be envolved in the well-being of the girl, endanger his life trying to save hers, and then watch over her kid until his very end? Nope, the friendzoned guy would have whined, used his pain to touch another girl, got rejected 4546th times until his tragedy becomes the consistency of rejection and not a particular rejection itself, and after her death, would have passed by her ravaged house, rise his fedora, said out loud “this is what you get when you marry assholes” and at the pub he’d have sighed deeply with his boys wondering : “why do women always prefer to get killed by Dark Lords instead of dating Nice Guys” and all the boys would have nodded because it happened to four of them so that’s the proof, women just prefer get killed in wars, how strange yet fascinating creatures, so mysterious, so killable.
Nice guys finish last. Lol but no they don’t. Remember middle school? When kissing was scandalous and dating was the coolest thing you could possibly do? Turns out it doesn’t end and people still think that. But it’s not. You should be nice to people because it’s nice, not because you want to date them.
Get all the women in this world their
reproductive rights, all of them, every last one. Protection from pregnancy,
access to safe abortion, full sexual rights and option to never ever have sex
with a man unless they feel like doing so due to their own desires, none of
them ever again to be forced to join to a man to ensure their own survival.
We all make a deal and refuse to give birth
to new babies until this world gets its shit together. I’m thinking around 20-30
years at least. Here’s the rough draft of the pros and cons:
1. Decline of female deaths, end of
problematic pregnancies and birth complications.
2. For the first time, women get to experience
life without crushing pressure of being obliged to put their body to a painful
and dangerous process of creating a baby, women get to be fulfilled and have
full lives without ever subjecting themselves to pregnancy, women leading safer
lives, building their careers more easily, stereotypes of female lives without pregnancy
being useless, unproductive, and without a purpose destroyed, females claiming
their rightful place in living as full humans and not baby creating mechanisms.
3. Decline in female poverty. No more children
means resources can be split among existing people, no more hungry families to
feed means less reasons to cater to capitalism, nuclear family slowly decaying,
more independant females lead free lives, having less to protect means focusing
on our own goals more easily, organization of female power is closer and easier
4. World decline in child abuse. Existing
children suddenly gain importance if nobody is making new ones. All homeless
children adopted. All child abusers prosecuted and jailed. Children’s lives
gaining more importance. More focus to what are we doing to future generations,
now that there’s a question if we’re even having another one. Leading up to
children not being seen as a property.
5. Fall of economy, complete fall of education
system, leaving space wide open to build it anew. Start of a new schooling
system that doesn’t make children want to commit suicide, and fails to
brainwash them to happily accept being exploited by capitalism for the sake of
6. Fall of patriarchal organized religion. I
mean, really, male gods? Hopefully this would make men realize that despite all
of their imaginary power and masculinity and whatnot, women are the only reason
why everyone on the earth exists.
7. Start of a female centered religion.
Doesn’t have to be organized. Credit for giving birth to everyone alive finally
given to females.
8. I wanna write everyone is angry at females
for not giving birth, but everyone is already angry at females for pretty much
everything females do or don’t do, so this part is pretty much just the same, actually, a bit better, now they can’t just hate females without any consequences, female hate should decline.
9. End of patriarchal family unit. As females
are proven to be their own humans, and keep their reproductive rights to
themselves, men have no longer anything to claim or take credit for so marriage
is no longer as benefiting their ego, perhaps they try to see women as humans
now? Maybe I’m making too big of a reach now.
10. We raise existing children without forcing
them into gender roles. It doesn’t matter any longer if they’re male or female,
there’s nobody they have to sacrifice their body for, there’s no role they need
to fulfill in order to be a part of society. When enough time passes and world
turns a bit more civil and humane, we let the new generation of females,
children who were raised in a changing world, to decide weather they want to
continue the humanity or not. We trust in their decision to
shape the future.
Con: men are not happy. but, hey, they could
also start the same revolution, you know, by refusing to- I can’t even write it
without laughing, refusing to have sex with women, oh my god, may I live to see
Be wary of a self-professed “nice guy”. Anyone who is always going around saying they are “just trying to be nice” are most often, anything but nice. -If you’re truly kind and loving, you don’t have to “try”. It comes naturally.
Miya Yamanouchi, Embrace Your Sexual Self: A Practical Guide for Women