Men, especially cis straight white men, saying “what if it was the other way around huh?” with literally zero concept of power dynamics or historical context is one of the most boring things in existence
People sometimes send me Asks wanting writing advice. I suck at it. I don’t really know how I do the writing, or how one should do the writing, or what one should do to get better at the writing. All I can ever think to say is “write a lot of stuff and you will get better at the writing.” Which is true, but hardly a bolt from the sky.
Well, as it turns out, I do have one piece of Legit Writing Advice, and I am going to share it with you, right now. If you were in any of my writing workshop groups at a con, you’ve heard this advice already.
Warning: you’re going to fucking hate it. But if you do it, you will thank me.
If you have a piece of fiction you’re serious about, something you might want to actually shop around, or just something you really are into and want to make it as good as you can…do NOT edit it.
Repeat. DO NOT EDIT.
As in, print out the whole fucking thing and re-enter it, every word (or use two screens). Retype the whole thing. Recreate it from the ground up using your first draft as a template. Start with a blank page and re-enter every. single. word.
I hear you screaming. OH MY GOD THAT’S INSANE.
Yes. Yes, it is.
It is also the most powerful thing you will ever do for a piece of fiction that you are serious about.
Now, let’s get real. I don’t do this for most things. I don’t do it for my fanfiction. But if it’s something original, something I might like to get to a professional level - I do it. You absolutely COULD do it for fanfiction. It’s just up to you and how much time you want to sink into a piece.
You can edit, sure. But you WILL NOT get down to the level of change that needs to happen in a second draft. You will let things slide. Your eyes will miss things. You will say “eh, good enough.”
The first time I did this, on someone else’s advice, I was dubious. Within two pages, I was saying WHY HAVE I NOT BEEN DOING THIS ALL THE TIME. I was amazed at how much change was happening. By the time I got to the end, I had an entirely different novel than the one I’d started with. When you’re already re-entering every single word, it’s easy to make deep changes. You’ll reformat sentences, you’ll switch phrases around, you’ll massage your word choice. You’ll discover whole paragraphs that don’t need to be there at all because they became redundant. You’ll find dialogue exchanges that need reimagining. Whole plot points will suddenly be different, whole story arcs will reveal their flaws and get re-drawn.
You cannot get down to the fundamental level of change that’s required just by editing an existing document. You have to rebuild it if you really want your story to evolve. You will be AMAZED at the difference it will make.
It will take time. It will seem like a huge, Herculean task. I’m not saying it’s easy. It isn’t. But it is absolutely revolutionary.
Try it. I promise, you will see what I mean.
*PSA: Tipsy!Lori wrote this post. In case you couldn’t tell.
How to adult on a budget for the lazy and new adulting people (by a not-so-adulty-adult)
learn how to cut your own hair. If it’s something easy like an undercut or just trimming your ends every month, you’ll look clean and put together without shelling out $20 every month. (my hair cutting stuff cost like $20 total)
if you have to go to a laundromat, make your own detergent. Or just in general. It’s about $15 for everything you’ll need and it’ll make you a solid 6-10 batches depending on how many soap bars you get. 1 bar ivory soap or fels-naptha (ivory works just fine tbh. Cheaper and easier to find) Grate that shit. 1 cup borax and 1 cup washing powder. Mix that shit. 1 tablespoon in the wash. Boom. Add essential oils if you so choose.
On the topic of laundry, throw all your clothes in the same load. Use the cold-cold setting and you can put those red shirts in with your whites with no bleeding whatsoever. (read those tags tho. unless it needs special care, most shirts/pants/socks/underwear can all be thrown together)
When money is tight for food, rice, 2 pounds of chicken, some kind of stock or bouillon cubes, and frozen veggies make about 2-3 different meals.
Keep a few bouillon cubes handy tbh. Cook rice in it. Make soup. They’re so much cheaper than stock itself.
Coconut oil for everything from actual oil to chapstick to cracked skin.
Baby powder makes a fairly good dry shampoo. Put it on your roots, scrub around, brush out. Boom.
Make scripts for all phone calls you ever have to make to make them go smoother. (bills, doctors, work, etc)
Fill 1 side of the sink with water to do your dishes and then rinse with the smallest amount of water possible so you dont end up using a lot of water.
Gasbuddy.com helps you find the cheapest gas near you!
Aldi has great cheap groceries
If you live alone or with 1 roommate, you don’t really need more than 12 megabyte internet speed. By yourself? Don’t get more than 6 tbh. You won’t need it.
Freeze all meats and veggies! Let’s be honest. You wont be eating carrots every day or that ground beef often enough for it to not go bad, Throw it in the freezer.
Dollar store cleaning supplies save the world. Everything there besides liquid soap is basically just as good. (glass cleaner, bleach, magic erasers, so on and so forth)
Dollar stores in general. Most things there will do in a pinch. (earbuds and most electronic/battery powered things are a no-no however)
Nail polish remover gets hair dye stains. Hydrogen peroxide gets up blood. Milk for ink. Chalk for oil.
Once you finish using a pot or pan, put hot water in it until you’re ready to clean it. Stuff will just wipe off.
The most important thing to realize is that we have no power over other people, events or even outcomes. But we absolutely have power over how we treat and talk to ourselves - which includes what we allow into our space.
WHEN RHYSAND REALIZES THAT THE BOY THE CARVER LOOKS LIKE TO FEYRE IS THEIR SON AND THEY LEAVE AND HE JUST QUIETLY ASKS IN THE DARK “WHAT DOES HE LOOK LIKE?”
LIKE HE CAN’T BEAR TO HOPE FOR THAT MUCH AND HE’S REALIZING HOW THERE WAS ONCE A POINT THAT HE THOUGHT FEYRE WOULD NEVER LOVE HIM AND NOW HE’S STARING DOWN THE BARREL OF A FUTURE THAT COULD NEVER HAPPEN IF THIS WAR GOES BADLY AND HE HEARS THAT THE CARVER WEARS THE FACE OF THEIR SON. HIS AND FEYRE’S AND HE JUST HAS TO CHOKE OUT THE WORDS IN THE STIFLING DARK
“WHAT DOES HE LOOK LIKE.”
AND THERE’S SO MUCH LOVE IN HER VOICE WHEN SHE, FEYRE, HIS MATE, THE MOST BEAUTIFUL AND POWERFUL THING IN HIS LONG LIFE, TAKES HIS HAND AND SQUEEZES AND SMILES SOFTLY AND THERE’S THAT HOPE IN HER TOO AND JUST REPLIES
“LET ME SHOW YOU.”
AND HE SEES THE FACE OF HIS SON AND HIS HEART CRACKS OPEN WITH ALL THE LOVE AND LIFE AND HOPE WITHIN IT HE THINKS HE MIGHT COLLAPSE WITH IT.
BUT FEYRE’S THERE- SO MUCH LOVE AND LIFE AND FIRE AND STEEL HOLDING HIM UP AND WALKING THEM BOTH TOWARDS THE LIGHT
HOW AM I SUPPOSED TO DEAL WITH THIS SHIT- I’M FUCKING NOT.
Some wants needs for the characters of Degrassi: Next Class in seasons five and six (don’t read this if you haven’t seen season four and don’t want any spoilers).
For us to see her take counselling sessions on her self esteem issues and finally dig deep within herself.
No boy drama. The only story line she’s had within this whole series that doesn’t revolve around her love life (off the top of my head) was when she got called out for being racist, and even that was intertwined with her Jonah plot in some ways. She needs something more to become likable.
Seeing her steps towards recovery.
Seeing her actually have a real friend for once. It’d be cool if she connected with a new student or someone we haven’t gotten to know enough (special shout outs to Rasha or Vijay) and they inspired her to work on herself and be kinder. She just needs someone in her corner.
Her academic life could be interesting, given her intelligence. Maybe if she joined a club of some sort and we saw her put time into that.
Watching how people outside of their immediate friend group react to their identity and pronouns. Family members, teachers, new students.
She and Saad need to stay together forever.
It’d be cool to see her maybe discover she’s pansexual while still with Saad. A story line like that could show how normal it is to realize different elements of your sexuality while in a relationship and how that doesn’t have to break it up.
Continuing to see her play the supportive role in her friendships with others. She’s amazing at that.
Only positive things are allowed to happen to her in the future.
A plot where she gets an injury that puts her track career in jeopardy would be interesting, since that seems to be her only plan and she hasn’t had many good story lines anyway.
She and Zoë need to stay together forever.
I’m satisfied seeing her play the supportive role, she just needs a new close friend or friends to take Goldi’s place (special shout outs to Lola, Saad, and Baaz). She could easily get along with almost everyone.
It’d be great to be properly introduced to her family or friends from back home (outside of the ex with bad breath).
Only positive things are allowed to happen to her in the future.
He and Lola need to stay together forever. Yes, twice.
Like Rasha, more on his family life would be great.
Seeing him continue to recover from trauma back home in counselling sessions, how his photography evolves, those sorts of things.
Only positive things are allowed to happen to him in the future. The boy has had enough.
How his friendship with Yael progresses.
Someone to read him for filth the way Santana did with Kurt, just for the fun of it.
Something needs to happen for this boy.
He has the least to work with.
Okay, maybe seeing him get a job or get into a relationship with a really interesting, new character.
It would be cool to see him more as a brother if it weren’t for Goldi being gone. So Baaz doing some babysitting work wouldn’t be terrible.
Aside from seeing him as a supportive friend, it could be cool to see him join student council. Maybe even as president?
Seeing him in a relationship that’s not pointless like the one he was in with Tristan would be nice.
The ideas fans have had based around her pursuing modeling are brilliant. Nothing to add.
Future Characters (not confirmed or implied; they’d just be interesting to see)
A main character with one of their senses lost, since that’s not too common on television.
A transgender character who, unlike Adam, transitions after being introduced to the show (maybe beginning it a season after we first meet them).
An asexual character.
A healthy polyamorous relationship that’s not what they did with Esme/Frankie/Zig or what they tried to do with Jack and Imogen.
I think the most powerful thing about nessian in Acowar was that they refused to leave each other. Cassian climbed up to the House of Wind every day when his wings healed. Just to see Nesta, to make sure she was okay, because he couldn’t stay away.
During Feyre’s dinner with them all, Nesta looked only at Cassian when she spoke.
When she was attacked in the library, and Cassian came for her, she ran to him and he couldn’t help but hold her. Because this woman everyone called a viper was someone he couldn’t help but protect.
Nesta worried for him when he didn’t come back from the Summer Court. She feared him dead.
When they winnowed for the High Lord meeting she was hurt that he didn’t say hello. Because she worried that he was hurt.
When Cassian was insulted she defended him without a second thought.
When he came back from the first battle she looked for him. She worried Iver his sprained wrist, she tended to it. She let him run that thumb along her hand. She let her softness how that people forgot that she had.
When she felt the Cauldron begin to work she screamed his name and and he heard her. Across a battlefield, across shouts and screams of the dying he heard her and flew to her quicker than he could think.
When his wings were broken she refused to leave his side.
When he kissed her she didn’t reject him.
When the King almost killed him, Nesta wouldn’t leave his side. Cassian who she seemed to hate, who she always kept guessing, she knew that if he died, she wanted to die too. She would leave this world with him and no one else.
Nesta who was proud. Cassian who was stubborn. Nesta who felt too much. Cassian who saw everything. Nesta who was forced to change and Cassian who was forced to his knees, wings broken and unable to reach her.
They wouldn’t leave each other. They would bicker, they would tease, and yet in the months they knew each other, Cassian wouldn’t let her die when she could live, and yet Nesta felt like she couldn’t live if he died.
Say what you will, about the lack of Nessian we got. That it wasn’t what we expected. But we got so much more than we thought. Because we got to see that you do not need to have fucked someone, you don’t need to exchange any major words of love with someone, to know when have have found someone you can’t live without.
So, I just thought to make the list of the cheek symbols of the Queens of Mewni for my next analysis (the significance of these cheek symbols). The first column were the image of the queens, second is their cheek symbols, third is symbolism’s meaning I got from the internet, and fourth is what traits I think you needed to get that symbol in the SVTFOE universe (in short, what the symbol signifies).
SVTFOE Card Suite Symbolism speculation:
Heart - people with this symbol are very lovable and has a distinguishing “charm” that naturally attracts people and come to her side. They prioritize their relationship with others compared to anything else and usually let their heart dictates their action (emotional). They are often found as center of the group
Spade - people with this symbol wields strong and fearsome power, even more powerful than normal and typical queens.
Diamond - people with this symbol have the tendency to take the center of command and shoulder the burden and responsibility by their selves. They dress in jewelry and finery, conducting their selves as befitting of nobility.
Club - people with this symbol have the “common” mindset. They appreciate the values that works for the greater whole of society and hates anything that could destroy the social order they are comfortable and grew up in already.
Color symbolism speculation:
Shades of purple - elegance, nobility, regal
Yellow - bright, lively
Pink - lovely, feminine,
White - harmony, power, everything (as it is combination of all colors of light. That’s why Moon said you must give everything if you want to “dip down”)