‘’The loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people smile the brightest. The most damaged people are the wisest. All because they don’t wish to see anyone else suffer the way they did‘’ - Jellal Fernandes
i can’t even explain how happy it makes me that alec and magnus can talk about everything without it being weird, how they worry about each other,
support each other,
seek comfort in each other and how they’re slowly becoming each other’s safe place.i live for this healthy relationship that is developing in the most natural and beautiful way possible between these two damaged but amazing people who deserve all the love in this world.
Abusers can’t change for
one big obvious reason: they would have to experience guilt in order to change.
they would have to actually go through the pain of acknowledging that they’ve
caused mountains of suffering and pain to others, that they’ve been selfish,
lying, manipulative, cruel, despicable, sadistic, monstrous and horrible human
being, that they’ve destroyed the ones who loved them the most, they’ve
exploited and damaged the most vulnerable and defenseless people in their life,
they’ve taken choice and well being from fellow human beings who did nothing to
deserve it, and then on top of it they convinced those humans they did deserve
it, and invalidated them on top of that so they would carry the pain of guilt
Abusers will do literally anything to avoid
carrying this heavy burden of guilt and shame, they don’t see anything they
could gain from admitting fault and taking responsibility for their actions,
they prefer having the victims carry that burden for them, because abusers are
weak, they couldn’t even carry a burden they themselves created.
If abuser can’t even admit to him/herself they’ve
done something wrong, if they refuse to experience guilt and insist they’ve
been right and only pretend-apologize when it’s necessary to regain control of
the victims, they have no way of changing. If they don’t truly feel remorse
they will repeat the actions. Why wouldn’t they? They benefit from it!
Changing, for them would mean giving up everything they’ve gained in their
entire life, admitting it wasn’t theirs to gain in the first place, feeling the
worst shame, guilt and remorse they could imagine, giving up any future
benefits and having to change their life completely in hope of making up at
least slightly for what they did, even as they have no way of making up
for it all. They would have to submit themselves to a life of pain, regret,
self hatred, guilt and shame, all of which they caused by themselves. What
abuser would ever submit to this? And for what reasons. To gain humanity? They
already believe themselves to be above humans. To keep in good relations with
their loved ones? They already proved they could completely destroy their loved
ones without giving a shit and gain a lot in return, there never was any real
relations with their “loved ones” they never even truly got to know
those people, only the ways to control and harm them.
An abuser will never ever allow him/herself to
experience guilt and responsibility for their actions, they may act it out for
a bit in order to get what they want but you can count on them to go back to
their old ways because they don’t change. An abuser would only change thru the
extreme pain of remorse and they will refuse to go thru with it, because all
their lives they’ve been running away from pain, and they see no gain in
experiencing any of it. And they are weak, they can’t even handle pain, unlike
their victims, the burden would most likely crush them to death. They’re a
person living off of sucking the life out of others, incapable of humanity,
incapable of change, incapable of love, incapable of anything but demanding
more and more and never having enough, and this is not something that can
change or be reversed anymore. There’s nothing valuable in them anymore,
they’re just an empty shell filled with knives, who paint themselves with
kindness to lure as many people as possible to cut themselves.
It kills me how greg is nice but stupit as fuck like if IIIIII was fathering an ALIEN HYBRID with aN ALIEN who was going to DIE BEFORE MOTHERING HER CHILD w only ALIENS WHO HAVR LIVED ON THIS EARTH FOR THOUSANDS OF YEARS WHILE STILL NOT KNOWING HOW HUMANS WORKED, i, personally, would say “i am going to be fathering your fucking child leave me some sort of idea of how gems work and maybe tell me about a history our CHILD IS GOING TO BE CURIOUS ABOUT BECAUSE HE IS AN,ALIEN HYBRID AND GEMS CANNOT FULLY GRASP THE CONCEPT OF LEARNING AND,CHANGE”
like the more i learn about rose/greg or rose/anyone im just like. Wheres the communication. PEARL shouldnt be this confused and feel this bad if i was rose,id damage control between the two people i love the most because????? It good??
The truth is the world is wrong,
And society is turned upside down. And what you’ve been taught as a child is not always true.
Because human hearts hold more scars and damage than the skin ever could,
And brains and souls bury secrets unimaginable to any one else.
Because hospitals hold more Prayers than a church,
And more “I love you"s than any other place.
Because the darkest places can hold the most light,
And the ugliest and cruelest places can be the most beautiful.
Because the most damaged people can shine brighter than the happiest.
Because the world is not how you think it is, it’s not all smiles and its not the stereotypes we put on it,
and it’s real.
“The loneliest people are the kindest. The saddest people smile the brightest. The most damaged people are the wisest. All because they do not wish to see anyone else suffer the way they do.” - Anonymous