the knot garden

Not sure what to make of this cake, but it looks more like a square-shaped log cake with birch details and berries, than a wedding confection. That said, weddings these days are all about personalised touches, and less centred on perfection. So if there was a cake that encapsulates the zeitgeist of weddings today, this one’s one of them.

Cake: Palermo’s Bakery
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White Wedding

Featured: US , New York Times, Latina, People’s, Diva, TV magazines etc.

Headlined (On Home Page for more than a month): Eonline, EW, TVLine, TVguide, TVFanatic, After Ellen etc.

Ranking : Best TV Weddings : Rolling Stone (2011, 2013), EW, TVLine, Telegraph UK, IMDB, GLAAD etc.

Sandra Oh - (Calzona has always been one of her most favorite Grey’s Anatomy relationships)“We see two characters getting married and you know and love them. The more we see the characters and the people that we really love and respect expressing their story lines, however that unfolds, I think the easier it is for a society at whole or who ever is watching to metabolize relationships. These are characters you hang out with every week. You know them, you see them and good golly, after you see the musical episode and what they go through, why would you not want them to get married?”

US Magazine

Here comes the brides! On Grey’s Anatomy May 5th, Sara Ramirez and Jessica Capshaw- as new mom Callie Torres and love Arizona Robbins- tie the knot in an elaborate garden ceremony. And US had a first-row seat! ‘They look like beautiful cake-toppers,’ said costars Chyler Leigh from La Canada Flintridge, California, set.
Yet Ramirez and Capshaw, clad in designer gowns, treated the vent like any other day at the office: They even sipped cocoa and wore Ugg-type boots beneath their finery!

As 13 million devoted fans know, the happy ending didn’t come easy: ‘We’ve seen Callie and Arizona ebb and flow, get together, break up,’ Ramirez told Us. And baby Sofia had just arrived prematurely after Callie was injured in a car accident. But for this March shoot, joy reigned.
The same-sex wedding ‘sends a great message’ cast mate Kevin McKidd told Us. ‘It’s not forcing the agenda. It’s about two people who love each other’.
The evidence was a kiss that elicited shouts and applause on set for all for takes- a departure for Ramirez.
‘I personally always cry at weddings!’

AE - Part 1

Hot off the news that Callie and Arizona will say “I do” on Grey’s Anatomy, ABC has released the first photo from the May 5 wedding episode.

“[Grey’s creator] Shonda Rhimes loves nothing more than to plan a wedding,” episode writer Stacy McKee told AfterEllen.com between takes of the wedding scene. “We had a very big elaborate wedding planning meeting for this episode to make sure it would be the wedding of both our brides’ dreams. We wanted gowns, flowers; we wanted it to feel like the most traditional wedding you could think of and the fact that it happens to have two brides is ‘so what?’”

Both Sara Ramirez (Callie) and Jessica Capshaw (Arizona) are wearing in Amsale gowns specially designed for the scene, which was filmed on location at the woody and beautiful Descanso Gardens in La Canada Flintridge, Calif.

“The great thing about Shonda is that she puts so much heart and soul into every single detail,” Capshaw told AfterEllen.com between takes. “I knew the wedding was coming and we did it backwards: We did the wedding dress fittings then we got the script.”

“On the story level, it’s super exciting,” Capshaw said. “But as actors, you always wish you can get let out of school and we get to go on a field trip and come to a beautiful place and put on clothes that aren’t scrubs and have fun.”

“It’s been a long journey and I know the fans have been — starting last year at this time with the whole Arizona doesn’t want to have a baby thing — but look where we’ve ended up,” Capshaw said. “I think that this is sort of a nice place for them to have come to.”

As if surviving the car crash that triggered the musical episode wasn’t enough, Calzona’s journey to the altar also comes with complications: Arizona and Callie’s parents come to Seattle for the wedding, but not all make it to the ceremony.
“I think it’s wonderful that two people who are choosing to spend a life together are going forward with it and embracing the people who chose to show up and support them,” Ramirez told AfterEllen.com. “I feel like it says a lot about these two women.”

AE - Part 2

“It’s sort of a princess wedding with two brides in big white dresses and pink and white flowers everywhere. We wanted to infuse a little magic, happy and romance,” McKee told AfterEllen.com during filming of the wedding episode.

We meet Arizona’s parents Barbara (Judith Ivey) and Colonel Robbins (Denis Arndt) and Callie’s father Carlos (Hector Elizondo), who originally struggled with his daughter’s sexual orientation, returns with her mother Lucia (Gina Gallego).

“Her father and her mother aren’t here for the wedding itself,” McKee noted. “Her father wants to be and her mother can’t be, and it’s for religious reasons that she can’t be here for Callie. We felt that it was a very true story.”

It’s a story that McKee noted was influenced by events her gay friends have had to contend with and what she notes is a very timely subject.

For Ramirez, the episode is about Callie learning to interpret her faith in a way that best serves her — which may not be in line with everyone in her family.

“Callie looks to her mother in this episode for some sense of encouragement, support, approval, acceptance and ultimately her mother — who has always been a particularly religious Catholic woman who very much knows who she is — is kind of surprised Callie is looking to her for some kind of acceptance,” Ramirez told AfterEllen.

“At the end of the day she says, ‘I can’t be that for you and I don’t want to keep getting pressured to be something for you that I’m not. In fact, I don’t think any of this is real, I don’t really accept this, my God doesn’t believe in this,’ ” Ramirez added. “As a result of that, along with a really beautiful scene between Callie and Bailey, Callie starts to understand and embrace the notion that God is everywhere and that you don’t have to be in a church to share God’s presence of love and acceptance and to have a union with someone and a wedding and a ceremony that means everything to you.”

At the end of the day, Mark (Eric Dane) gives Callie away, the brides say “I do” and walk down a pink aisle after sharing a kiss that took a few takes to capture because of imperfect makeup issues.

Joked Capshaw after a bad take: “No wife would let another wife walk down the aisle with f—ed up lips!”

OTHERS -

Lesbian visibility will take a center stage May 5 when Callie Torres (Sara Ramirez) and Arizona Robbins (Jessica Capshaw) walk down a pink-and-white decorated aisle and say their “I do’s” on ABC’s Grey’s Anatomy.

During a recent set visit on location at the woody and beautiful Descanso Gardens in La Canada Flitridge, Calif., Ramirez and Capshaw were joined by cast and crew to film the couple’s elaborate wedding, in which both actresses spent the cold and windy day in Amsale gowns specially designed for the scene.

“It seems like absolutely a natural next step [for Callie and Arizona], especially after everything they’ve been through this season,” said Grey’s writer Stacy McKee, who has penned several episodes of the medical drama, including the May 5 wedding. “They split apart, they got back together. Then in the musical episode, Callie has a near-death experience and it really solidifies Arizona’s feelings for Callie.

“By the end of [the music event] is when Callie says yes,” McKee said. “After that journey that they’ve been on — which has been magical and musical, we couldn’t not have an amazing wedding for them.”

Ramirez, who has long been a champion of LGBT rights, hopes the lesbian wedding gets people talking about gay marriage, whether they support it or not.

“Obviously the visibility is incredible,” Ramirez said between takes. “You can’t make everybody happy and I’m aware of that. But if people are passionate and [the episode] triggers civic dialogue and communication and compassion for one another, I’m thrilled. Not everyone is going to agree on everything all the time, and that’s OK. That’s what makes our world interesting and challenging and gives us the opportunity to grow with each other and alongside each other if we chose to.”

Capshaw hopes the equality message comes through in her work. “I feel like if you went about it another way — ‘I’m going to break that door down and make a difference’ — that would be great and all but you might get your eyes off the prize in doing the work the way that it should be done,” she said, joking that her only trepidation about the marriage was wearing a wedding dress “before I was ready after having a baby.” “I feel like if you focus on the work and it’s really great, it will gets work done in another way.”

Co-star Sandra Oh, who plays Cristina Yang and is among the wedding guests with Owen Hunt (Kevin McKidd)and Chief Richard Weber (James Pickens Jr.) feels the “Calzona” wedding will make it easier for society as a whole to accept gay marriage.

For McKee, the politics of gay marriage — it’s not legal in Washington, where Grey’s is set — was a “large factor.”

“We felt it was very important on a show that will reach many, many viewers that we have for what all purposes for our characters is a very real marriage because we feel very strongly that that’s an important thing,” she said. “We didn’t want this to be a little affair, we wanted it to feel like a big grand wedding. The fact that it’s not legal is a story point in the episode to a certain degree in that a very important person in Callie’s life isn’t here.”

McKee noted that the episode will be a romantic and formal Catholic wedding and will feature both Callie and Arizona’s parents, who may struggle with acceptance for religious reasons — a story line that was inspired by a friend of hers.
“That’s part of why I wanted to write this episode — it just felt like it was a very timely and very important story to tell.”

Callie’s Catholic upbringing does take a toll her in the episode as she struggles to find a balance between her love life and religion. “Callie was raised Catholic and she loves her church and she loves her God, and that’s OK,” Capshaw said.

After consulting with Bailey (episode director Chandra Wilson) — who officiates the nuptials — Callie turns the corner and winds up getting the traditional wedding she’s always dreamed of. “Arizona in the beginning of the episode has been an empowered woman who knows exactly who she is and has known all her life,” Ramirez said. “Callie has been on a different journey; she’s investigating it and experiencing it and figuring it out as she goes, especially with her parents who are very Catholic — her mother in particular.

“Callie starts to understand and embrace the notion that God is everywhere and that you don’t have to be in a church to share God’s presence of love and acceptance and to have a union with someone and a wedding and ceremony that means everything to you,” Ramirez said.

Added Capshaw: “That’s what’s interesting: Arizona coming from a military family where the military isn’t exactly friendly with Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell and you have a father and a mother and there’s never a question of if they’re OK with it; it’s
literally a non-issue, which is really what we’re aiming for, right?”

As for the vows themselves — Bailey says, “I now pronounce you wife and wife” — McKee researched the language used in traditional Catholic weddings and incorporated the way the character would go about officiating.
“It’s a very traditional, classic way of pronouncing two people as a married couple,” McKee says.

“In the writers’ room, [that they’re gay] is such an afterthought. To us, they’re just our favorite romantic couple right now so they needed the most romantic wedding. … I don’t think of them in a gay or straight fashion; they’re the ones who are in love so they’re the ones who get married this season.”

As for what comes next for primetime’s leading lesbians, she has been pitching Arizona treating a patient with sexuality issues. “I got a letter from a young woman who came out to her parents when she was 19 and they decided that she was not going to be part of their family any longer,” Capshaw said. “Then 10 years later her mom, being an avid fan of the show, had watched the episode where Arizona has the ‘Good Man in a Storm’ speech where she says to Callie’s father, ‘I love your daughter and my parents raised me to be a good man in a storm.’ It’s a wonderful speech. The mother called her after 10 years. It wasn’t happy-go-lucky and she didn’t tell her to come home, but it was the opening of a dialogue.”

Capshaw ultimately hopes the Grey’s wedding has an impact similar to Portia and Ellen DeGeneres. “I feel like Portia and Ellen’s marriage must have done so much,” she said. “This has the potential to as well.”

For Ramirez, portraying Callie is the ultimate wedding gift. “This character has helped me so much,” she said. “Playing this character has really opened me up to understand the world and human condition a lot better. It’s been a real gift.”
McKee, meanwhile, hopes the fact that it’s a gay wedding is just a passing thought.
“I hope that people who are fans of the show and fans of these characters enjoy the magic and romance and shed a tear at a beautiful wedding,” McKee said. “And that it becomes an afterthought that it happens to be a wedding with two women. It’s just a beautiful love story at the end of the day.”

The Grey’s Anatomy wedding episode airs Thursday, May 5 at 9 p.m. Are you excited to see Callie and Arizona march down the aisle together to Cyndi Lauper’s “Girls Just Wanna Have Fun” after saying their vows?

Wedding Scrapbook

24 photos of this iconic and ground breaking wedding ceremony of Callie (Sara Ramirez) and Arizona (Jessica Capshaw) along with the rest of the Grey’s Antaomy has been released.

ABC has released a slew of photos from the big wedding between Dr. Calliope Torres and Dr. Arizona Robbins on Grey’s Anatomy. And when I say, “a slew of photos” I mean a whole scrapbook full from “I do” to “kiss the bride” and first dance.

Well,  while things may not turn out as they envisioned, Sara Ramirez and Jessica Capshaw look like visions in their white wedding dresses. Seriously, could they look more beautiful? And, bonus, no silly Friends hats. Oh, how the lesbian wedding has evolved.

When people say a bride is glowing, I’m sometimes skeptical. But in this case I think it’s safe to say Callie and Arizona are glowing so much they’re visible from space.

I know. I had something in my eye right about then, too. Damn dust, always making you look all emotional.

At this point I feel we should take a small break from all this Calzona cuteness overload so as not to tax ourselves. Would you like to see some wedding guests? They’re not as glowy, but they’re still clean up nicely.
OK, but I’ve stalled enough. Who wants to see the first dance? I know, I know. Something’s in your eye again.

Stock up on dusters for May 5. And by “dusters,” I mean “Kleenex.”

Stacy McKee (@stacysmckee16), Writer, Grey’s Anatomy 07x20|

The day we filmed Callie and Arizona’s wedding was an amazingly beautiful day.  Beautiful for so many reasons.

First, after a week of forecasters predicting rain rain rain– the day was sunny. And breezy (which was fine for those of us bundled up under coats and hoodies watching from the side. Not so fine for, say, our cast members dressed in strapless gowns and floaty formal wear.) Still – things were beautiful.

We were shooting outdoors (already a bonus, since usually we’re on stage, in hospital rooms) at Descanso Gardens (if you are ever in the area, you should visit. Largest camellia forest in Southern California!) – There were roses and cherry blossom trees and lilacs everywhere – a feast for the senses.

There were a lot of reporters conducting interviews the day we filmed the ceremony, talking to Sara, Jessica, Chandra (she directed the episode!) – and even me. We were all so aglow with this beautiful setting, with these beautiful brides, with this beautiful wedding –- that it stopped me cold when the first question one of the reporters asked me was:

“So, a lesbian wedding.  Are you worried at all about making such a bold statement?”

I had absolutely no idea how to begin answering that question. 

Was I worried? Are you kidding me? NO. I wasn’t worried – About what?  About a wedding between two characters we’ve watched fall in love over the course of several seasons? Nothing bold about that.  If anything, it’s right out of Romance Storytelling 101 – They meet, they fall in love, they hit a few road blocks, one of them almost dies – all of which makes it so much sweeter when these two characters can finally ride off into the sunset and live happily ever after. Not exactly re-inventing the wheel here, people.  But, I guess, to some people, it is.

So I’ll say to you what I said to that reporter. This is not a bold statement. This is a love story.

Callie and Arizona have been our biggest, most sweeping romance all season. They are romance. Sweet, epic, fairy tale romance. Pure and simple.

It just makes sense that after everything they’ve been through this season – living together, breaking up, coming back together, starting a family, life and near death –  their story would culminate in a wedding. A big, beautiful wedding.

The fact that Callie and Arizona are both women is, frankly, irrelevant.

(Although, if you’re like me and you love weddings, then the fact that they are both women is actually a bonus ‘cause  – hello. Two stunning wedding dresses, people. TWO. WEDDING. DRESSES. Heaven.)

It goes right back to what Bailey says to Callie in the episode. These are two people willing to stand up and commit themselves to one another, forever. In good times and bad. For the rest of their lives.  THAT is the bold statement, legal or not.

Bolder, to me, is the fact that Meredith and Derek actually make their marriage legal.

We’ve also been on a journey with Meredith this season.  She and Derek have tried and tried and tried to start a family. When Meredith broke down in the elevator a couple of episodes ago, Derek reassured her. He promised her that they would have a baby.  Somehow, someday – it would happen.

And today, it has.  Or, at least, they hope it has.  As Derek says, he and Meredith have been trying so hard to start a family – and this baby needs one.  If making their Post-It vows legal will make it easier for them to adopt baby Zola, then they are willing to do what it takes.

And finally, I just have to say – there are few things I have ever enjoyed more than the Father/ Daughter dance sequence at the end of this episode. Seeing Callie’s dad come back to dance with her at her wedding.  Seeing Derek swaying back and forth with baby Zola… Maybe it’s from watching my own husband with our little girl, or maybe it’s because my dad was still alive for a dance at my own wedding…  But something about that final sequence gets me every time I watch the episode. And trust me, I’ve watched it a LOT of times by now. I just find it really, really beautiful.