the heart of nonviolence

maddmusic reference

this is what i use, i’m only sharing what i experience as i experience it. it might me different for everyone, but i hope this helps 💙

COPING WITH BEING A MALADAPTIVE DAYDREAMER ITSELF + FEELINGS OF ISOLATION AND/OR LONELINESS
* paradise / coldplay
* oh ms believer / twenty one pilots
* soon / thumbelina
* astronaut / simple plan

LOST PARAS/MOURNING/GRIEVING/PARACOSMIC NOSTALGIA
* how does a moment last forever (montmartre)
* shouldn’t come back / demi lovato
* dark paradise / lana del rey [warning: this song tends to trigger extremely depressing daydreams, i only resort to this when i’m already feeling significantly sad)
* colors (stripped) / halsey
* the house that built me / miranda lambert
* danny boy / declan galbraith (can be interpreted as parent and child or separated sweethearts relationship)
* bottom of the ocean / miley cyrus
* talking to the moon / bruno mars
* never grow up / taylor swift
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SAD ROMANCE + BITTERSWEET LOVE + WORKING IT OUT
* sorry / halsey
* almost is never enough / ariana grande ft. nathan skyes
* just give me a reason / p!nk and nate ruess
* wildest dreams / taylor swift
* need you now / lady antebellum
* the heart wants what it wants / selena gomez
* she will be loved / maroon 5
* hey there delilah / plain white t’s
* what to do / demi lovato
* the last time / taylor swift ft. gary lightbody
* someone like you / adele
* back to december / taylor swift
* cosmic love / florence and the machine
* heart attack / demi lovato
* daylight / maroon 5

FALLING IN LOVE + HAPPY ROMANCE
* mirrors / justin timberlake
* summertime sadness / lana del rey
* look at me / carrie underwood
* love alone / katelyn tarver
* if you told me to / hunter hayes
* come on get higher / matt nathanson
* when i look at you / miley cyrus
* wanted / hunter hayes
* everything has changed / taylor swift ft. ed sheeran
* a thousand years / christina perri
* all of me / john legend
* catch me / demi lovato
* fearless / taylor swift
* marry you / bruno mars
* begin again / taylor swift
* i see the light / tangled
* young love / kip moore
* death of a bachelor / panic! at the disco
* ours / taylor swift
* let me be your wings / thumbelina
* more than miles / brantley gilbert
* a year without rain / selena gomez
* bright / echosmith
* state of grace / taylor swift
* without you / lana del rey [warning: comes with feelings of dependence on paras, may break the fourth wall]
* drive / halsey
* starlight / taylor swift
* if i lose myself / onerepublic
* salvatore / lana del rey
* can’t help falling in love / ingrid michaelson or twenty one pilots or céline dion or elvis (the original singer)
* malibu / miley cyrus

LUST + PASSION + NONVIOLENT SEXUAL VIBES + SEXUALLY CHARGED RELATIONSHIP
* treacherous / taylor swift
* pillowtalk / zayn
* take me to church / hozier (especially sinful vibes with this one, watch out)
* wildfire / demi lovato
* casual affair / panic! at the disco
* lust for life / lana del rey (seriously recommend this song, not only is it aesthetically pleasing and sexy but it’s also full of hope and general positive inspiration)
* miss jackson / panic! at the disco
* criminal / britney spears
* crazy in love / sofia karlburg or beyoncé
* stars dance / selena gomez
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HEARTBREAK + AFTERMATH/END OF A LOVE STORY + ROMANTIC REGRET (NONVIOLENT)
* already gone / kelly clarkson
* jar of hearts / christina perri
* paper doll / john mayer
* goodbye / miley cyrus
* mine would be you / blake shelton
* when i was your man / bruno mars

FEELING LOW/DIRTY/DEPRESSED + UNHEALTHY TEMPTATIONS
* hold me down / halsey
* ballad of mona lisa / panic! at the disco
* gasoline / halsey
* teen idle / marina and the diamonds
* SAIL / AWOLNATION
* habits / tove lo
* chandelier / sia

ABUSE + VIOLENCE + TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS + HURTS TO LOVE YOU
* set fire to the rain / adele
* trouble / halsey
* grenade / bruno mars
* wild one / i am harlequin
* nicotine / panic! at the disco
* dear john / taylor swift
* stay / rihanna ft. mikky ekko
* i’m low on gas and you need a jacket / pierce the veil (super emo, suicidal vibes, highly emotional and poetic lyrics)
* love the way you lie / rihanna (there are 2 parts, i personally prefer part 2)
* teddy bear / melanie martinez (her music generally tends to focus on children’s lifestyle which can be creepy and seem pedophilic and i have mixed feelings about her but this one is kinda okay. just warning you in case you’re sensitive to it)
* dollhouse / melanie martinez (same with this one, i actually really like this one)
* cold as you / taylor swift

RECOVERING FROM ABUSE/TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS + RECOVERING FROM GENERAL DEPRESSIVE STATE (can also work non-madd)
* clean / taylor swift
* i’m not a robot / marina and the diamonds
* if i die young / the band perry (it’s a reminder of the aftermath of suicide)
* warrior / demi locator
* human / cher lloyd
* human / christina perri (they’re different songs)
* fight song / rachel platten
* try / colbie caillat (on female body image and standards)
* scars to your beautiful / alessia cara (also female body image and standards)
* wide awake / katy perry
* saturn / sleeping at last
* lovely / twenty one pilots
* carry on / fun

YOU’RE MY HOME + FAMILY OF FRIENDS + PLATONIC ROMANCE + JUST HANGING OUT (with a hint of friends with benefits)
* sweater weather / the neighborhood
* love / lana del rey
* she looks so perfect / 5 seconds of summer
* team / lorde
* we are young / fun
* this is what makes us girls / lana del rey
* tennis court / lorde
* 22 / taylor swift
* LA devotee / panic! at the disco
* holy ground / taylor swift
* forest / twenty one pilots
* royals / lorde
* new romantics / taylor swift
* i’m yours / jason mraz
* house of gold / twenty one pilots
* castle on the hill / ed sheeran

ASCENDANCE + FEMME FATALE + FEELING POWERFUL/DANGEROUS
* castle / halsey
* how to be a heartbreaker / marina + the diamonds
* heathens / twenty one pilots
* blank space / taylor swift
* dangerous woman / ariana grande
* control / halsey
* can’t be tamed / miley cyrus
* national anthem / lana del rey
* primadonna girl / marina and the diamonds
* centuries / fall out boy
* emperor’s new clothes / panic at the disco
* circus / britney spears
* music to watch boys to / lana del rey
* defying gravity / idina menzel
* homewrecker / marina and the diamonds
* off to the races / lana del rey

an extra bit of advice:

-follow up a series of dark/sad themes with a few happier themes
-try not to engage in the violent/depressing themes, but i know sometimes it’s just too hard to resist, so when you just *have* to daydream violence and the like, if it gets too intense for your health, cut off the music, take a little break, put on a happier song even if you don’t feel like listening to one yet
-please turn the volume down, darling
-drink water!! take breaks
-if you cry, it’s okay

i hope this helps!! sorry to the boys, these are mostly directed @ girls cause i’m a girl and so is my parame :// if you’d like to request more themes, drop them in my inbox or leave a comment and i’ll see what i can do for you!!

Animal rights, at its heart, is the most unextreme philosophy I can imagine. It is about nonviolence. It is about compassion. It is about not harming and not causing suffering and not killing when we don’t have to.
—  Stephanie Ernst

They talk, they scream - but we don’t wanna hear it. They feel pain, they are scared - but we don’t care. But their death is OUR death. Our souls are sorrowful , our hearts are blocked, our bodies are destroyed.
OPEN EYES AND SAVE THEM AND US! STOP THIS MADNESS!
Do what your soul wants - go vegan! ♥

Iron John


Claiming that you’re a ‘lover not a fighter’ is just another way of saying that you’re a coward, because if you’ve ever loved anything in your life, you would fight for it.

I am so sick of people coming up with these convenient justifications for the fact that they live with fear in their hearts.

Over the last century it has rapidly become frowned upon to be a man of action, a trait that for the thousands of years prior, was considered to be one of the greatest a man could have.

Mahatma Gandhi had it right when he said:

“It is better to be violent, if there is violence in our hearts, than to put on the cloak of nonviolence to cover impotence.”

In my opinion, the entire fabric of what it means to be a man is falling apart in this day and age, and as we all struggle to find our place in this anti-masculine society, I wonder where a man like myself can ever really fit in without remaining an outlaw.

anonymous asked:

How do you explain the new kind of Civil Rights Movement that's happening right now with #blacklivesmatter?

It isn’t a new kind of anything. It fits into the template of nonviolent resistance. But this time around there is a sickening twist. 

I’ll tell you a story:

Gandhi was probably the first person to realize that a war for independence could be won in newspapers instead of on battlefields. That is, Gandhi realized that if you could show the body of imperialism what the hands had to do in order to feed it then that body would recoil in a spasm of self-consciousness. 

To this end, Gandhi led peaceful protestors into the brutality and murder by which British colonialism sustained itself in India. He did this on such a scale and with so singleminded a purpose that it was covered by Western journalism. The reporting that carried this violence from the extremity of the British Empire into its heartland held a mirror up to the ogre’s face. And India, which had not been conquered on the order of some English popular referendum but instead by the rapacity and avarice of the British aristocracy, came to be seen for what it was: a victim of one of the greatest feats of greed ever carried out. 

On April 9th, 1950 Martin Luther King heard a black preacher named Mordecai Johnson (then the president of Howard University) speak in Philadelphia. Johnson had spent some time in India and spoke at length about the philosophical underpinnings of Gandhi’s method. 

To Gandhi, nonviolence was a matchless weapon. This is because it is founded on a concept called satyagraha. This word means something like ‘truth-force’ or ‘the persuasive power of love’ in Sanskrit. Nonviolent resistance could never be defeated because it was founded on love for one’s enemies. This love is the source of a protester’s refusal to physically attack his or her adversary. In Gandhi’s hands, and with the help of the international press, it had just been used to win the independence of 390 million people. 

King later said that this talk was so “electrifying that I left the meeting and went out and purchased half a dozen books on Gandhi’s life and works.” King was then still a student at Crozer Theological Seminary, just south of Philadelphia. That Sunday in 1950 was the beginning of nonviolent resistance in the American Civil Rights movement.

In reading about Gandhi’s philosophy and the strategy for Indian independence that it generated, Martin Luther King came to several realizations:

Nonviolent resistance refuses to participate in evil, but not in the same way that pacifism refuses. If pacifism simply refuses to participate in evil, nonviolent resistance is a passionate and relentless intervention in the lives of those who do participate in evil. In this way, King saw that the basic tension in any racial struggle was not between the races but instead within in the hearts of those who oppress. A tension between the basic desire of all human beings to be good and the racist conditioning by which life in America blunts this desire and bends their actions, instead, towards evil. King, like Gandhi before him, realized that nonviolent resistance was a way of untwisting the hearts of those who did this evil. Both saw nonviolent resistance as a kind of therapy that the oppressed performed on the oppressor: 

  • Imagine the unarmed crowd approaching the colonial police. 
  • The police draw their clubs and by their violent intent reveal the evil in their hearts. 
  • The unarmed crowd is beaten bloody. 
  • And in the pools of spilled blood the oppressors see themselves reflected, not as they are told they are, but as they really are. 
  • And this realization is carried to the four corners of the Earth by the journalists whom Gandhi invited to observe. 

Nonviolent resistance works by forcing the oppressor–whether he is a single colonial policeman or the most distant beneficiary of the British Empire–to see themselves as they really are.

King realized that American society was similarly twisted and ignorant of itself. American society thought itself good but night after night found itself throwing ropes over the branches of pecan trees, found itself refusing to see the oppression and savagery by which it had come to be, found itself in a three hundred and fifty year moral sleepwalk, and King realized that American society could be brought to self-consciousness, could finally find itself, by forcing the evil at its heart into broad daylight while television cameras watched. 

In this sense King’s project of national therapy was the opposite of Black Power. King sought to absolve every white heart with black blood. Malcolm X would happily have left America to stew in its richly deserved national guilt so long as black bodies were immune from attack. It’s not hard to feel Malcolm’s rage and it was not easy for King to explain himself to the militant wing of black liberation. It is difficult to claim that the Black answer to three hundred and fifty years of exploitation, rape, and murder should be a willingness–and even the desire–to have your jaw broken by a riot police. 

In the end, both leaders were assassinated. The Civil Rights Movement hit its high water mark and ran its course, without Martin Luther King or Malcolm X. And America settled into forty years of self-satisfied eulogy for one of them, backsliding all the while. 

I say:

We are in the middle of a new campaign of nonviolent resistance. This campaign has no leader, no organizing committee, no controls, no satyagraha and no participants except the police and their victims. 

I say that Oscar Grant, Aiyana Jones, Tamir Rice, Walter Scott, Ezell Ford, Marlene Pinnock, Eric Garner, Sam DuBose, Alton Sterling, Philando Castille and every other person whose death and brutalization was captured by a camera for all to see are these participants. I say that each has been unwillingly drafted into a national demonstration of the contempt with which black bodies can be treated in America. 

I say that the ubiquitous presence of cameras has done this. 

These cameras record the nonviolence of black people and the lethal force with which this is met by police. 

Black life in America is lived so wholly on the edge of a knife that the most trivial interaction between a black person and the police has mortal consequences. 

I say that videos of these mortal consequences are drilling into the twisted American heart just as the televised brutality of Birmingham did in 1963. The manifest innocence and nonviolence of those brutalized and killed by police on camera are forcing the American heart to face itself, again. 

And though this new campaign drills into the same old heart and sparks the same self-consciousness that Martin Luther King sought to kindle there, it bears a critical difference from hierarchical campaigns for civil rights. The new campaign is emergent: It is generated by the friction of circumstance and not by the labor of an organization. 

This means that the present campaign of nonviolent resistance cannot be stopped. 

Martin Luther King could be shot and America could fall asleep when he ceased to breathe. But these police murders will continue to occur as a matter of circumstance and as matters of circumstance they will continue to be recorded by cameras. 

Whatever activism is bred on the outrage, or handwringing, or excuses that these recordings produce, this activism is secondary to the campaign. The campaign and its draft of circumstance will continue to select innocent and unresisting black people to join in death those whose murders have been recorded. This is quite unlike the extraordinary situations that Gandhi and Martin Luther King created, the situations by which the oppressor was forced to see his own face and forced to feel the evil in his own heart when his police beat defenceless crowds. 

The new campaign is not created because the new campaign, like racism itself, is happening everywhere and at all times. 

I say America is now a society that–from this angle–can no longer avoid the mirror. 

The Nonviolent Palestinian Activists Working for Peace in the West Bank

It was pitch-black in the graveyard. I was struggling to keep up with my guide, a 15-year-old boy named Ahmed who had jumped into my car ten minutes earlier and proceeded to guide me to the secluded spot. He made his way easily between the olive trees along a ridge in the choppy terrain, his thin body navigating the uneven ground. Over the lip of the hill on which the graveyard sat, the lights of Hebron flickered in the valley below.

My silent guide was taking me to meet Issa Amro, his longtime mentor and the founder of Youth Against Settlements, a nonviolent movement in the heart of the West Bank city of Hebron.

I asked Ahmed what it was like to be Palestinian in Hebron. He told me how he was beaten up by Israeli soldiers on the way home from school not once but many times, how they would take his backpack and dump its contents out on the street. “Are these books?” they would ask. “These aren’t books.”

Still, Ahmed said he doesn’t throw rocks during protests like some Palestinian youth. “Why should I give them an excuse to kill me?” he said. “It’s not our way. We at Youth Against Settlements don’t throw stones. Not for them. For us.”

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“Humans - who enslave, castrate, experiment on, and fillet other animals - have had an understandable penchant for pretending animals do not feel pain. A sharp distinction between humans and “animals” is essential if we are to bend them to our will, make them work for us, wear them, eat them - without any disquieting tinges of guilt or regret. It is unseemly of us, who often behave so unfeelingly toward other animals, to contend that only humans can suffer. The behavior of other animals renders such pretensions specious. They are just too much like us.
- Dr. Carl Sagan & Ann Druyan

I made the choice to be vegan because I will not eat (or wear, or use) anything that could have an emotional response to its death or captivity. I can well imagine what that must feel like for our non-human friends - the fear, the terror, the pain - and I will not cause such suffering to a fellow living being.
—  Rai Aren

The bond between mothers and babies, brothers and sisters, mates and friends is strong in many species, including those often used for food. Raising animals for their flesh, milk, and eggs tears these bonds apart, valuing profit over animal well-being. This is traumatic for all involved and can leave deep emotional scarring. By eliminating animal products from our diets we can strive to end the industrial practices that break apart animal families.