I love guys who can sing. I love guys who can dance. I love guys who can act. I love guys who model occasionally. I love nerdy guys. I love modest guys. I love guys with a sense of humor. I love guys who support the LGBT+ community.
I love French guys. I love guys with brown eyes. I love guys who take silly photos with their towel as a cape pretending they’re a superhero. I’m talking about Alexis Loizon. I love Alexis Loizon *cries in French*
“The first time I was in front of a camera that gave me the feeling of, this is where you belong, this is what you’re born for, and this is what you need to do.”
So when he heard that Aydian Dowling was a finalist for the Men’s Health cover contest in the United States last year, he decided to enter the same contest in Germany. He won an online audience vote to be one of the guys considered for the cover, and went on to a final casting where he got to meet 19 other guys who were up for the same gig. Eventually, he was chosen to be one of five guys to be on the cover of the magazine’s collector’s edition.
Melzer expressed a lot of satisfaction about being shown as just one among a group of guys. “That’s what I want [being trans] to be, just normal. We don’t have a choice, and it just is the way it is, and we can make the best of it,” he said.
Growing up in a family that didn’t force him to dress in a feminine way allowed Melzer to come to terms with being trans without a lot of turmoil. He was able to present himself as masculine in school, and ended up dating a woman he knew from college, after they met up five years ago, a month after his first T shot.
“But for her, I always looked and acted like a boy,” Melzer said. “It was just the body. And I was on my way to fix that.” His girlfriend, who identifies as straight and had only dated cisgender men before Melzer, told him that he didn’t have to go through the whole process and get bottom surgery, but it was Melzer’s choice to proceed. It’s an operation that the German government requires health insurance companies to cover.
Having transitioned to have a face and body that few people would be able to distinguish from cisgender men, Melzer remains open about being transgender, both in his career and with people he encounters in his day-to-day life. “There’s a trainer at the gym, a coach. We see each other when I’m at the gym, and she’s always talking to me, we’re good with each other. She’s like, ‘Hey what happened to your arm?’” Melzer has a large rectangular scar on his forearm from where skin was grafted for his surgery. “Sometimes I say ‘None of your business’ but this time I was so me, I really wanted to tell her. So I did, and her reaction was, ‘What? Really? Are you kidding me?’ And she’s so interested in it, and she’s so curious, and now she’s proud to know me.”
At the same time, Melzer is also aware that not everyone has the privilege of being able to choose when to come out to people as trans, or a body that’s celebrated in men’s magazines. “Not everybody has to look like me,” he said. “I think we all have beauty inside. That’s what counts at the end of the day.” Melzer also tries to motivate and give tips to other trans men through his social media channels.
“A lot of people say, you’re my hero, I look up to you, but at the end of the day you have to look in the mirror because the hero’s standing right in front of you,” he said.
Melzer’s goal is to be a full-time male model, and he has one specific fantasy job in mind. “My life goal would be to appear in a Calvin Klein commercial, not wearing anything but boxer shorts or briefs,” he said. Melzer got closer to that goal on his trip to New York, where he was shot by celebrity photographer Mark Saliger for an upcoming project. “He’s had almost everybody in front of his camera. I mean Charlize Theron, she’s one of the most beautiful women in the world. Brad Pitt, I love Brad Pitt. I wanna be Brad Pitt!”
“I feel so grateful,” Melzer concluded, “and I hope that I can open doors for other trans guys who would love to work in the modeling business.”
A good looking guy with a good paying job (and even a good sense of humor) doesn’t automatically produce good character. If you’re single and you desire to be in an intentional godly relationship, know that the “perfect guy” for you won’t come perfectly packaged and ready to go! Just like women, men are not perfect, so therefore, it’s impossible for the guy that’s perfect for you to be perfect. For women who follow Christ, the perfect guy is a guy who understands and embraces the perfect love of Christ. When you make the decision to make this the priority, it will make a difference in the relationship every moment forward.
But keep this in mind: the kind of guy that is in love in Jesus might not always be the most popular guy. He might not always be the guy who is perfectly in shape or has a good job that lets him travel around the world. Yes, there are guys like that who love and live for Jesus, but there are ALSO guys who love and live for Jesus that are school teachers. There are also guys who love and live for Jesus who don’t look like a model out of a GQ magazine on his Instagram. Of course there’s nothing wrong with physical attraction, but as women, we can’t all be held to the standard of what women look like on the cover of magazines, so we can’t hold guys to this standard either! As followers of Christ, we know that God looks at our hearts. No, it’s not wrong to be physically attracted to someone or find it interesting that they work in a certain line of work, but that’s not the foundation of a good relationship or good character. The foundation is Jesus!
Verses to read: 1 Samuel 16:7, 1 Corinthians 3:11, 2 Corinthians 10:12
Written by @itsmorganlife
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i do not like guys who say they love women but have photos of bikini models on their bedroom wall, only reblog nude models on their tumblr & like only half-naked baddie pics on instagram
like no you love sexualized & attractive women. which by itself isnt a bad thing, but when thats the only kind of image of women you acknowledge & praise thats a huge problem and shows that youve failed at seeing women as complex human beings