the fat girls guide

ashleywinter  asked:

Hi! I am a big fattie, 300+ pounds and very out of shape, and while I'm starting to trying an accept my weight, I -am- still very unhappy being a noodle arm weakling who gets out of breath changing sheets. I have Health at Every Size checked out for a first time read (excited) and am also going to read The unapologetic fat girl's guide to exercise and other incendiary acts, but I was wondering if you had any recommendations for books, or your own advice for getting physically stronger while fat.

I think you are totally on the right track with those two books! And you can also check out my “exercise” tag for more info and resources.

On a purely personal note, I want to encourage you to be patient and kind with yourself as you work on your goals. As you know, you are moving a big body around and that takes a lot of effort! And that’s OK. It is normal for fat people to breath hard and work hard as we do physical tasks like housework or going up stairs, even when they are physically fit. Don’t forget that some people have to go to the gym and lug weights around to get the kind of workout you can get just doing your daily chores and living your life! Your body is it’s very own strength-training machine. Enjoy that!

For a long time now I’ve been defined as fat. It always really upset me but I’ve used that hurt and realised that there are worse things I could be called. Yes I’m overweight. Does that make me a better or worse person? No. My personality and traits are what define me.

No one can hurt you without your permission.

Self titled fat girl here hoping to give you a funny yet helpful look on the world and how to survive in it. So come with me as I stumble through the real world one heavy foot at a time.

xoxo - J


Favorite blog looks of 2013

Wow, what an amazing year it’s been!  It flew by so fast, and so much changed. I had a really amazing year, full of learning, lots of love, tons of hard work, and hair dye, apparently. I think this year I really solidified my style, all while branching out and trying new things. I feel more like myself now than ever. I think maybe becoming more comfortable in myself, and my own life has really started to become reflected in my clothing choices. Figuring out what you like out of trends and what works for you becomes much easier when you know what you truly love, and it also makes it a lot easier to push yourself into new territory when you have the confidence to know you love what you love, and can rock it with the best of them. This was definitely a year where I did not let my size hold me back from anything. And I never will again! 

My resolution for this blog is obviously, to blog more. I want to show a true variation in my style- the super casual and the cute dresses. I have a hard femme side that doesn’t make it on here often, along with a boho side and a super girly side. I want to showcase it all in a more frequent fashion. I also want to get more personal, and really take the time to answer reader’s questions and connect with you all! I would also like to add in make up and hair tutorials, and possibly add in a video channel. What do you think? What would you like to see on the blog in 2014?

Here’s to pushing further, experiencing new things, and lots of love in 2014!