the extrovert

We are introverts.

You’ll never see me staring at a baby plant, but you’ll see me staring at an old tree.
You’ll never see me in a crowd with a bunch of people I occasionally talk to, but you’ll see me sitting in the corner going through my Tumblr dashboard.
You’ll never see me searching for that hot guy in the crowd with whom I just had an eye contact, but you’ll see me trying to get attention of a guy who’s sitting in the another corner of the room looking into his phone and laughing at memes.
You’ll never see me having a long talk with anyone, if you do then that person is probably my best friend.
If, you see me having a long talk with you, you must be pretty special, ‘cause I, not much of a speaker.
We are introverts, we don’t talk about everything with anyone.

anonymous asked:

You have helped me a lot to deal with my emotions by answering my anon asks. <3 Have you considered becoming a councillor/therapist? I don't know about California but in my jurisdiction it only requires a 2 year degree.

Thank you! I’m glad I’ve helped!

Being a councilor sounds like a GREAT job for me. Unfortunately, I’m sufficiently shit at going to college that I would not be surprised if getting that 2 year degree was The Worst. Much better to do emotional labour for friends and acquaintances and then have them pay me in free food.


Note: If anyone out there would like to have a councilor listen to (and help you through) your problems, you can literally just pay me for this with food. I will come to your house (or an eating location near you) and provide comfort and advice and (on request) cuddles, if you will feed me.

Things I don’t do enough of:

  • Talking to people
  • Eating

~~reblog to save a life~~

The Signs as Contradictions

Aries: bold but soft - the delicate fighter

Taurus: loves you, but also loves them - the finicky sweetheart 

Gemini: outspoken but awkward - the extrovert that chokes

Cancer: emotional but strong - the angry cryer

Leo: generous but manipulative - the circumstantial giver

Virgo: introvert but outgoing - the shy kid with many friends

Libra: peace maker but rebellious - the adventurer that calls their parents

Scorpio: stoic but loving - the straight faced responder

Sagittarius: hardworking but lackadaisical - the determined procrastinator

Capricorn: shy but show offy - the outspoken introvert

Aquarius: silly but responsible - the straight A’d class clown

Pisces: free spirited but orderly - the goal oriented wanderer

Extroverted Introverts: Ten things to know

Also known as an ambivert, an extroverted introvert is someone who exhibits qualities of both introversion and extroversion.

1. Their spot on the spectrum changes with their environment.

Your ambivert friend may be loud and gregarious around their family, but quiet and thoughtful at the office. Seeing them in both situations may feel like meeting two entirely different people.

2. Talking to strangers is fine – but don’t expect them to keep it to small talk.

Although an ambivert can hold up their end of a conversation, talking about the weather will not be enough to engage them. Their social energy is limited enough that they won’t want to waste it on meaningless chatter. They will likely push the conversation into deeper territory or bow out entirely.

3. They like to be alone – they don’t like to be lonely.

There is a big difference between the two. Choosing to sit at home with a tub of ice cream and a book feels fantastic. Sitting at home because nobody called them back feels sad and lame.

4. Getting them out of the house can be a challenge.

If you catch your friend on a highly introverted day, you may just be better off leaving them at home. They might manage to be social, but they’ll just be thinking about their books and their couch the whole time.

5. If they’re new, you can find them in the back of the room.

An introverted extrovert will approach new situations with cautious excitement. If they know someone in the group, they will likely cling to them a bit as they become comfortable. If they do not, they might waver on the edge of the crowd, slowly getting used to the water rather than jumping in all at once.

6. They’re selectively social.

They don’t mean to be snobs. They just have limited social energy and prefer interacting one-on-one or in small groups. For this reason, they can only afford to invest their social time and energy in those who they feel truly connected to.

7. Making friends is easy. Keeping them is hard.

They like talking to people, but they value their alone-time, as well. This can make maintaining a friendship tricky. If your ambivert friend makes an effort to consistently invest time and energy in your friendship, be glad. You are truly special to them.

8. Their social desires change with the breeze.

They might be desperate to hang out with you on Friday, but then not answer your call on Saturday. They’re not mad at you. They’re just super comfortable in bed watching films.

9. They can talk to you for hours.

If you manage to catch them in a one-on-one situation, an extroverted introvert will just not shut up. Once their interest is engaged, there’s no stopping them.

10. Listening is great too, though.

Sometimes they want to be a part of the action, but their social energy levels are too low for them to contribute in a meaningful way. Listening allows them to get to know you without burning up their social fuel. They also know its value from their chattier moments when they are desperate for an ear.

the two personality types of each sign
  • Capricorn A: Hardworking, doesn't know when to give themselves a break
  • Capricorn B: Tries to stay focused but gets distracted, wishes they were more organised
  • Aquarius A: Fashionable,spends too much of their money on clothes
  • Aquarius B: Prides themselves on having an eclectic style, doesn't follow conventional trends
  • Pisces A: Always in a relationship or being romantically/sexually pursued, rarely takes time to be single
  • Pisces B: Always thinking about love but generally unsuccessful in finding a partner
  • Aries A: Independent, hates people interfering in their business, prides themselves on the quality of their work
  • Aries B: Impulsive, craves adventure and excitement, hates working on things they don't enjoy
  • Taurus A: Knows they have excellent taste, loves when people follow their recommendations
  • Taurus B: Never has time to do the things that give them pleasure, wishes they could expand their horizons
  • Gemini A: Always surrounded by friends but never anyone they can share their deep secrets with
  • Gemini B: Has a few close friends that they wouldn't trade for anything, but wishes they could meet some new people
  • Cancer A: Hates confrontation, but if people cross them they will ignore them for long time
  • Cancer B: When in arguments they know exactly what to say, always stands their ground
  • Leo A: Creative, wants to make a serious career out of their passion even though people doubt them
  • Leo B: Wishes they could express themselves more but worried people will judge them
  • Virgo A: Organised and hardworking but very shy, introverted
  • Virgo B: Quite outgoing but sometimes gets shy around new people and those they have history with
  • Libra A: Loves luxury things but can't afford them, dreams of being rich
  • Libra B: Not concerned with wealth but will spend big on things they really want
  • Scorpio A: Very ambitious but is worried they won't fulfil the big expectations they have for themselves
  • Scorpio B: Is lazy but knows they have potential they aren't fulfilling
  • Sagittarius A: Open minded and concerned with getting justice and equality for everyone
  • Sagittarius B: Knows there are problems with society but doesn't have the resources or time to address them

IS IT JUST ME OR DOES ANYONE ELSE WANT A SIGNIFICANT OTHER SO YOU CAN LOVE THE HECK OUT OF THEM AND GIVE THEM GIFTS AND HUG THEM AND LISTEN TO THEM WHEN THEY ARE UPSET AND LISTEN WHEN THEY ARE HAPPY AND DO THINGS TO HELP THEM OUT IF THEY ARE STRESSED OR EVEN IF THEY ARE NOT ETC. because like having someone who loves you is absolutely dandy but i just really want someone to pour love into ya know?? is that too much to ask??

The extrovert's guide in dealing with introverted personalities

SUBMITTED by Steve

INxJs

-They can come off as … weird. Very subjective term because really, who’s to say what’s weird and what isn’t. But given that INxJs are arguably the rarest types and usually out of touch with the physical and concrete, it can definitely make the more down-to-earth extroverts out there feel as though they are alien in some way. But don’t be fooled, because behind those ambiguous stares there is a storm-load of activity going on in their minds. 

- Their hunches can be incredibly valid. Unlike what the stereotype will have you believe, Dom-Ni is NOT a future-predicting function. For one thing, it’s very personal and subjective to each Dom-Ni user and some of them would probably disagree with each other on their hunches. However, they do have an ability to see things that a lot of us will miss. Not through any kind of mystical gift, but rather well thought out speculation. Even if they’re off, chances are they were still very wise in their assessment of things.

- There are usually your typical law-abiding citizen. (Good advice for everyone, not just extroverts) In complete contrast to the first point, INxJs may be way harder to spot than the stereotypes say. INTJs are not scientists working on a cure for cancer or world domination (depending where their Fi is at) and INFJs are not the next coming of Jesus Christ. A lot of them probably work in everyday jobs and there’s a good chance you’ve mistaken them for their S counterparts. Get to know them personally and you’ll see the difference.

ISxJs

- They are hard to get excited. Inferior Ne can be a bitch sometimes. Throwing fun suggestions at an ISxJ may often result in “Meh…” or “I don’t know…” Of all types, they are usually the hardest to pull out of their comfort zone. If you suggest something to them and they start bombarding you with questions such as ’‘What time? Who will be there? How does it work?”  etc. don’t get irritated because that actually means you’ve tickled their interest and now they’re just trying to cover all their bases. 

- They are experts in their fields. Si-Doms tend to have very few interests in life, but what does interest them, they probably know the insides and outs of it, like no other. They love to study at length what peaks their interest and in this case, their factual knowledge about things is usually second to none. They are the definition of “vested interest”. Also note that they are geeks in disguise, so just like NP types, do not criticize old stuff they have an attachment to. They still like something from the 80’s? Then so shall it be. Telling them it’s stupid for them not to move on is actually much more hurtful than it looks.

- Their loyalty and commitment cannot be doubted. If an ISxJ say they’ll do something, they’ll do it, ‘nuff said. Hell, even if it turns out that it’s actually an inconvenience to them. They just cannot back out of commitment. Of course, stuff can always come up at the last second, in this case, you’ll receive a rain check or heart-felt apology. If an ISxJ actually does flake out, that’s … not okay, but they were probably hesitant about it from the start. 

IxTPs

They are blunt. You want an honest and direct opinion? IxTPs will give you that faster than any other type. In many cases, it can actually feel brutally honest, so more sensitive types may wanna steer clear. Of course, if their opinion is splattered with insults and an impatient tone, then you’re dealing with an unhealthy type and that’s not okay. 

- They are “dispassionate.” Sounds like a really negative trait but what it really means is they are the embodiment of “objective.” IXTPs very rarely take things too seriously with a burning passion flowing through their veins. As of such, cynicism and sarcasm is very likely. Don’t take it the wrong way though, because underneath that, they can offer the most practical advice or at least see things as they are, with no bias and emotional tones tainting their view. And while that can definitely be off-putting, and it can also be extremely useful. 

Don’t try to turn a frog into a prince. I’m sure there is a better way to say this? What I mean is that Inferior Fe, even if healthy and mature, will always find it draining to keep up social appearances. You either appreciate this trait of theirs or keep looking elsewhere. But don’t expect to turn your IXTP love interest into a social butterfly overnight. 

IxFPs

- They march to the beat of their own drum. If Dom-Ni can be hard to decode, prepare yourself for Dom-Fi. Like a fire, it is burning, passionate and unpredictable. Sometimes, even IxFPs themselves can’t pin-point the reason they feel so passionate about a given subject. Don’t try to constantly size up a Fi-Dom, you’ll get exhausted. Even their closest friends and family often have a hard time reading what’s going on in their mind. Respect their privacy and their inner world and don’t force them to lay out how they feel on the table. 

- Support their causes. If an IxFP feels strongly about something, then this is unwavering to them. They will fight for what they believe in to the bone. You either support it or stay clear but telling them they’re wrong or it’s a waste of time may turn you into an “enemy” in their eyes. 

- Do NOT attempt to control them. Offering sound advice? Sure. But any shade of “You should do this…” not only falls on deaf ears but may actually cause them to do the exact opposite out of spite. Dom-Fi is the ultimate free spirit who wants to experience life on its own terms and Inferior Te does NOT want to be told what to do. This can be pretty hard at times though. You see an IXFP loved one acting recklessly (ISFP) or acting on a crazy idea (INFP) it’s only normal for you to want to steer them on a straight path, but in actuality it will be counter-productive. Just stay clear and let them learn from their mistakes, IF it’s actually a mistake to begin with. You’d be surprised how many times acting on one’s own accord can pay off in the long run. There’s many world-renowned musicians and artists who could probably vouch for that. 

How to Care for an Extrovert

1. Respect their need for independence and autonomy.

2. Praise and compliment them in front of others.

3. Affirm their passion and enthusiasm.

4. Encourage them to talk things through as a way of processing problems and challenges.

5. Encourage and affirm their spontaneity. Surprise them from time to time.

6. Recognise that they’re likely to be super busy and, possibly, over committed, too.

7. Allow them to try new things right away, while their enthusiasm is high.

8. Give them lots of choices and options.

9. Demonstrate your love and affection. Tell them and show them how much they mean to you.

10. Give them the opportunity to shine.