the equality of all genders

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Rhodé Marshall-

“The late Karabo Mokoena’s beautiful smile has sparkled across my timeline for more than a week.

Her friends and family have been pleading for help finding her since her disappearance on April 28.

Then that smile was replaced by pictures of what’s believed to be the place where her body was burnt.

“The boyfriend confessed. He killed and burnt my daughter,” read a Facebook post by her father.

I can’t begin to imagine the rage her family and friends must be feeling.

Someone they trusted, who pretended not to know where she was, who “helped” look for her, had taken her life.

Here’s the reality: one in every four womxn in South Africa is physically abused by an intimate partner.

Every six hours a womxn is killed by a current or former intimate partner.

These numbers are shocking. These numbers aren’t dropping. South African womxn are under attack and they are afraid.

Battling to come to terms with Karabo’s story, womxn online began sharing their experiences of abuse and #MenAreTrash trended.

But of course, the louder womxn’s voices grow, the louder the challenge from men, and soon enough #WomenAreTrash was a thing.

Posts were shared where men schooled womxn on trusting too easily, on being more cautious, telling us how to live our lives.

Again, there was very little reflection by men on what womxn were saying when they uttered the words “men are trash”.

Will we ever get to the point where schooling aimed at men is as vigorous as the defence of them?

Men just aren’t being regulated the way women are.

It’s men who need the wake-up call.

It’s your sons, brothers and friends who need to be taught that they own no part of any womxn.

It’s your sons who need to be taught how to handle disappointment, jealousy, anger and manage their rage.

Is it our responsibility to make men feel more secure or masculine, to nurse their egos?

At the helm of the “not all men are trash” declarations were the most worrying of them all: the woke misogynist.

The woke misogynist is the guy who talks loudly about gender equality and whose vocabulary is made up of all the right words, he calls himself a feminist – but is the same one outed for assaulting and belittling his partner.

While we were basically being told that, as South African womxn, we should be grateful for the opportunity to see another day, there was this immense amount of shared pain for the Mokoena family, known and unknown families that have lost their daughters, the families who are still looking for their daughters and every womxn who has had their fear of being the next victim trampled on by the woke misogynists who rose up in defence of the brotherhood.

While you think that you’re one of the good guys and will never lift a hand against a womxn, there are so many ways in which you inflict pain on us.

Making us doubt ourselves, our beauty and our worth.

Take a moment and think about how you, as a man, picked at a womxn’s confidence with things you deem to be little mistakes and misunderstandings, how you violently broke her confidence down.

Guys, we don’t just fear that you’ll rape and kill us, we also fear that you’ll abuse our kindness and trample on the sparkle you once saw.

That’s why we’re saying #MenAreTrash, dear woke men.

Stop being defensive and listen… Listen carefully and hold each other accountable.

Womxn are afraid”

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Think there aren’t qualified women in tech? Here are 1,000 names that aren’t cis men. No more excuses.

  • In March, Goldman Sachs hosted a two-day technology conference in which 93% of the speakers were men.
  • In January 2016, the World Economic Forum hosted an all-male panel on women’s equality (the woman pictured was the moderator).
  • In April 2016, PayPal held another all-male panel on gender equality.
  • At Business Insider’s Ignition 2016 conference, a panel on smart bots included exclusively male panelists.
  • So this month, I set out to find these “elusive” figures in tech. I put out a call on Twitter, asking for people to send me their recommendations for cis women and others who aren’t normally asked to speak — including women (especially cis women of color and trans women), non-binary folks, and anyone else identifying as LGBTQ.
  • I got over 1,000 responses in under 24 hours. Read more (5/2/17)

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There is no "pro-life". There is just an elaborate misogynist long con to strip women of any rights or gains made in the 20th Century.

This statement is a response to the people who are continually shocked that “pro-life” doesn’t care about babies after they are born, the death penalty, making sure poor people don’t die b/c their health care has been stolen, etc.

Yes, of course “pro-life” doesn’t care about that. Because it’s not about lives and it never was.

They never cared about babies. The whole baby thing is part of the con. 

It’s a con. Stop believing in right wing lies.

It’s not about babies. It was never about babies. Stop arguing with them about babies. 

Never argue with a liar on their own liar terms.

This is why “pro-life” people are also coming after IUDs and the Pill and preventing people from getting life-saving miscarriage care.

So-called “pro-life” is a movement that murders doctors and bombs medical clinics. 


And we really need to talk about tactics here, b/c misogyny is winning the propaganda war and has been for decades.

If your personal stance is- I believe everyone should be able to get an abortion but… Just stop before the but.

Stop qualifying it with “but I never would” or I think it’s wrong" or whatever other “I’m a good person” signal you are trying to throw out.

B/c by doing that, you are ceding ground to misogynist violence. You are letting them win the “is abortion a bad thing” argument.

Abortion is not bad. And if you support abortion access- All you need to say is “I support abortion access for anyone who wants one”. 

We have to reframe the abortion fight as what it really is- a misogynist attack on gender equality. It’s not about babies at all. It never was.

If you understand that, you will understand why the so called “pro-life” movement behaves as it does.

The rhetoric and behavior does not match up at all. That should tell you something. 

Don’t pay attention to what they say. Only to what they do.

10 ways you can take action and be an ally to trans people

1. Educate yourself. Find out how here

2. Use a person’s correct gender pronouns when referring to or speaking with them. If you aren’t sure what pronouns to use, it’s alright to politely ask. For example, you could say “what pronouns do you use?” or “Hi, my name is Shane and my pronouns are they/them. What about you?” Do not ask for a transgender person’s “real name.” You can also join this DoSomething.org campaign to challenge your classmates to not use masculine/feminine pronouns for a day.

3. Speak to transgender people like you would cisgender people, or people that are not transgender. Avoid comments that you wouldn’t say to cisgender people such as:

a. “He’s so hot. I’d date him even though he’s transgender.”

b. “You look like a real woman.”

c. “You look so pretty, I would have never known you weren’t a real woman.”

d. “What was it like being born a boy?”

e. “What surgeries have you had?”

f. “What’s it like to have sex as a transgender?

g. You’d pass so much better if you wore more/less make-up, had a better wig, etc.”

Read more here

#4: Seek out and listen to the stories of transgender people in your community. Speak out in solidarity when you read stories about transgender people facing violence or the startling number of transgender women who have been murdered because of who they are.

#5. Share positive things you’re seeing regarding why trans rights matter on social media using #goodlook and Laverne Cox’s #TransIsBeautiful

#6: Keep updated on what’s going on in the trans community by liking the TransAdvocate and National Center for Transgender Equality pages on Facebook. 

7. Call out gender policing that discriminates against a person’s level of masculinity or femininity when you see it. 

8. Advocate for all-gender bathrooms in your school or community. You can start a petition here to get gender neutral bathrooms on your campus.

9. Join a local Gay-Straight Alliance through GLSEN or the GSA Network, or learn how to take action on your college campus with Campus Pride.

10. Take part in Transgender Day of Remembrance, a day to honor those victims of anti-transgender violence, on Nov. 20.

For even more tips on how to be an ally to trans people, check out this list from our partners at GLAAD.

Some people ask, ‘Why the word feminist? Why not just say you are a believer in human rights, or something like that?’ Because that would be dishonest. Feminism is, of course, part of human rights in general - but to choose to use the vague expression human rights is to deny the specific and particular problem of gender. It would be a way of pretending that it was not women who have, for centuries, been excluded. It would be a way of denying that the problem of gender targets women. That the problem was not about being human, but specifically about being a female human. For centuries, the world divided human beings into two groups and then proceeded to exclude and oppress one group. It is only fair that the solution to the problem acknowledge that.

Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations.
—  Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie, We Should All Be Feminists
This is a Pride friendly blog.

That means every one of any sexuality,gender,or other is welcome.  And I mean EVERYONE. Not just heterosexuals. EVERYONE 

I’m talking Demisexual (To only be attracted to a person after forming a deep emotional bond)

Asexual ( People who are attacted to others romantically, but do not care for sex

Aromantic ( People who are attracted to others sexually, but do not care for Romance)

Pansexuals ( People who are attracted to others of all genders and sexualities)

Omnisexuals (People who are  equally to all , despite gender, sexuality or other. They just don’t see it as a big deal. They tend to go through phases of gender attraction that switch frequently and will eventually settle down with whoever wins their heart, regardless of said person’s gender.)

Nonbinary(people who feel they are neither male nor female)

Transgender, Transexual, Transvestite (Transvestite is a person who dresses in a style or manner traditionally associated with the opposite sex.  Transsexual means one who wishes to be considered by society as a member of the opposite biological sex. Some transsexuals undergo sex change operations, and some do not. Transgender is a more general term that includes transvestites, transsexuals, and anyone else who does not conform to typical gender roles.

Hermaphrodites (People who  have fully functioning sets of “male” AND “female” reproductive anatomy – either at the same time, or at different times during their life cycles)

Intersexual ( People have a mix of traits traditionally considered “male” or “female” – and sometimes, traits that are atypical for males or females – in the same body. )

Genderfluid ( People who experience their sense of gender identity shift around the spectrum. They may feel like a boy one day, a girl another, or neutral, or everything at once, or nothing, or something different entirely. This is a completely normal gender identity; being genderfluid is not a mental illness. Gender has nothing do with genitals.

Agender (people who find that they have no gender identity, although some define this more as having a gender identity that is neutral.)

Lesbians (women who are attracted to other women)

Bisexual (A person who is attracted to others of the same and opposite gender)

Gay ( Men who are attracted to Men)

Everyone. There is probably a lot more that I don’t know about, and that’s okay. They’re welcome too.

Rebolg if you are also open to everyone.

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Millennials are all for gender equality — but men, less so than women

  • When it comes to women’s place in the world, a new study says millennials men’s views may not be as progressive as we’d like to think.
  • Research from the Council on Contemporary Families shows that despite Americans’ overall “tremendous increase” in support for gender equality, men ages 18 to 25 have some antiquated ideas about women’s role in domestic life. Read more. (3/31/17, 4:55 PM)
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I’m celebrating marriage equality by with some Beach City Pride. These are all my gender and sexuality headcanons for the show right now. I got the flag colors off wikipedia so please tell me if I got anything wrong.