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Oils I reccomend and how to use them

Rosehip oil: It absorbs quickly, brightens and evens out skintone overtime. Can help heal (acne) scars and PIH. A source of trans-retinoic acid, vitamin A.
-Use: Fading undereye darkness, fading acne scarring, brightening the skin, evening out skintone, moisturising, fading the appearance of strech marks. Suitable for all skintypes.

Argan oil: High vitamin E and fatty acid conten. Smoothes out the skin, seriously you get baby soft skin and its noticeable after one use. A good source of oleic acid that wont clog your pores.
-Use: Moisturiser for dehydrated skin, as well as dry skin which is also acne prone. Also good for oily and combo skin as a moisturiser. Reducing the appearacne of strech marks. Light undereye moisturiser.

Hempseed oil: Its high in linoleic acid and its a drying oil, which means it absorbs quickly and hydrates the skin well. The linoleic and Alpha-linoleic acid percentages make it suitable for oily skins which are short in linoleic acids.
-Use: moisturiser for oily/combo and acne prone skin. (seriously this is the best oil for oily skin, i sometimes apply 2 layers of this)

Safflower oil: contains about 78% linoleic acid (which is very high), which makes it great for the oiliest of skins. Absorbs very well (drying oil).
-Use: oil cleanser, moisturiser for oily acne prone skin (you might need another oil to really moisturise)

Perilla oil: contains very high levels of n-3 linolenic acid (over 50%) an essential fatty acid that plays a major role in regulating inflammation in the body as well as the skin. contains high amounts of omega-3 essential fatty acid and alpha-linolenic acid. Is considered an antioxidant and great for acne prone skin. Again, a drying oil, you will need another moisturising layer.
-Use: a moisturising layer for acne prone skins, oil cleanser.

Neem oil: helps reduce redness and inflammation. Has antibacterial properties. The high fatty-acid content in Is said to prevent and treat scars. High in vitamin E (improves the elasticity of the skin) Be aware that this oil smells HORRIBLE.
-Use: Spot treatment for acne, reducing stretch marks.

Evening Primrose oil: It’s rich in omega-6 which helps produce anti-inflammatory prostaglandins (fatty acid compounds that have hormone-like effects).When used topically it can relieve cystic hormonal acne. Most people see immediate results. EPO supplements are used to treat the cause of hormonal acne and PMS.
-Use: Cystic acne treatment, PMS relief, oils cleansing.

Emu oil: Very thick and high in oleic acids. Does not Absorb fully, shouldnt be used on acne prone skin. Used to treat scabby, very dry, inflamed skin. Reduces the appearance of fine lines.
-Use: Undereye moisturiser, Moisturiser for very very dry skin, moisturiser on dry patches.

Candles: Color and Purpose

Candles are seen as the most powerful object for witches. If one lights a candle while reciting a chant or prayer for enlightenment, empowerment, and good health is one way to use a candle. One can also ward off negative energy and impart positive energy into one’s life using a candle also. 


Historical Uses

  • Birthdays were the first ritual with candles used. Many believe the practice of wishing and blowing out the candle brought this wish to the gods who would grant it via the smoke. 
  • Candles represent earth (wax), air (smoke), water (melted wax), and fire (flaming wick).

Magical Uses

  • Always be in the right frame of mind, or the spell will create an opposite effect intended
  • Allow candle to burn down on its own for most rituals 
  • When the candle has extinguished itself, the spell will be complete
  • Some rituals and spells may ask for the candle to be extinguished and then re-lit the next day
  • Never leave a candle unattended 
  • Give decent amounts of time for the candle to burn

Choosing a Candle 

  • Magickally disinfecting your candles before using them is very important, since the energy from those who shipped it may linger on the wax. It is good to make your own candles from scratch for this reason also. 
  • Avoid dipped candles such as white candles dipped into colored wax. Try to find ones solid color throughout  

Cleansing Your Candle

  • Depending upon your preference, you can do a few things to cleanse your candle, such as leaving it outside for a week in the garden to soak up the moon’s rays at night
  • For a less time-consuming cleansing, you may anoint your candle, using water and oils prior to the spell or ritual:
  1. Wipe clean with a paper towel, removing all dirt 
  2. Prepare a solution of spring water, one teaspoon of sea salt, and warm until the salt dissolves. Allow to cool, and then pour back into the bottle. Keep this in the refrigerator for about a month for use over time. 
  3. Intent. Stand in front of your sink, hold the candle in your left hand (nearer to your heart). Be very careful not to wet the wick, and pour a small amount of the sea salt spring water solution over the candle. If using a tea-light candle for quick burn time, remove the candle from its casing before cleansing with the water. Take a fresh paper towel and dry the candle very well and say the following: “This magickal water cleanses thee, with good intent and purity” (Robbins and Bedell, 2017).
  4. Inscribe the candle with a small, sharp knife or thick needle, and scratch your full name and your wish into the wax. It is not important that it be legible, nor the location where inscribed. The words will clout the spell more as the candle burns down. 
  5. To anoint your candle, pour some pure vegetable oil into a bowl. This oil is used for most anointing, but if using a spell for health and well-being, you may mix in a few drops of other oils if you wish. Lavender is common for health and well-being spells and will make the magick more intense. Hold the candle in your left hand again and dip the first finger of your right hand into the oil and run it down the candle from top to bottom in a line. If anointing a tea-light, place it back in its casing, dip your finger into the oil, and smear it in a clockwork motion around the top of the candle wax. Say this invocation: “This magickal oil anoints thee, with all things good, magickally” (Robbins and Bedell, 2017). The candle is now cleansed, charged, and ready to be placed in a suitable holder in preparation for the spell you choose. 
  6. Rhyming and repetition can help add punch to a spell. A lot of ancient and prewritten spells will rhyme with a poetic fluidity. Repeating the spell will give power to the message each time. The most magickal numbers that represent completion are 7, 9, and 12. 
  7. To end the spell, you will need to close the ritual. Choose one of the phrases such as “and so it is” or “the spell is cast” or “so mote it be” before looking upward and saying “thank you.” 

Colorful Uses

  • The correct color is the most important thing with candle use
  • Some spells are exact to the color needed, and others more flexible 
  • When in doubt, always use a white candle for it is neutral 

Color Correspondances 

  • White
    • Cleansing homes
    • Purifying spaces
    • Creating harmony
    • Invoking spirits
    • Improving communication with others
    • Summoning guides and angels
    • For use in every situation 
  • Blue 
    • Promoting restful sleep
    • Finding the truth
    • Gaining wisdom and knowledge
    • Invoking psychic visions
    • Calming emotions
    • Suppressing anger
    • Aiding meditation
    • Moving your house
    • Becoming more patient with others
    • Curing a fever
    • Having a better understanding
    • Protection 
  • Red
    • Promoting strength and vigor
    • Rejuvenating energy and stamina
    • Conjuring willpower
    • Summoning courage
    • Inciting passion and sexual love
    • Sparking enthusiasm
    • Prompting quick results
    • Warding off enemies
    • Becoming more attractive to others
  • Pink
    • Healing emotions
    • Attracting romance
    • Becoming more caring
    • Inviting peace and tranquility 
    • Healing rifts
    • Banishing selfish emotions
    • Protecting family and friendships
    • Invoking spiritual healing
    • Being more compassionate 
  • Green
    • Accumulating money and wealth
    • Promoting prosperity and abundance
    • Accomplishing goals
    • Growing plants
    • Attracting luck
    • Negotiating employment matters and finding new jobs
    • Hastening conception and solving fertility issues
    • Casting out greed and resentment 
  • Yellow
    • Increasing activity
    • Resolving health matters
    • Nurturing creativity and imagination
    • Passing exams and learning
    • Aiding concentration
    • Controlling mood swings
    • Protecting yourself when traveling
    • Persuading others
    • Healing problems associated with the head
  • Orange
    • Increasing energy and stamina 
    • Improving the mind and memory
    • Promoting success and luck
    • Developing business and career
    • Helping those with new jobs
    • Clarifying legal matters and justice 
    • Selling goods or houses
    • Capturing a thief or recovering lost property 
    • Removing fear
  • Purple
    • Summoning spirit help
    • Bringing peace, tranquility, and harmony
    • Improving psychic ability 
    • Aiding astral projection
    • Healing
    • Easing sadness
    • Improving male energy 
    • Summoning spiritual protection
  • Brown
    • Attuning with the trees and earth
    • Promoting concentration
    • Helping with decisiveness
    • Protecting animals
    • Amplifying assertiveness 
    • Aiding friendships
    • Bringing material gain
    • Gaining mental stability
    • Connecting with Mother Nature
    • Studying and learning
  • Silver
    • Summoning the Mother Goddess
    • Drawing down the moon
    • Connecting with lunar animals
    • Purifying female energy
    • Improving all psychic abilities
    • Aiding clairvoyance and the unconscious mind
    • Ridding negativity
    • Developing intuition 
    • Interpreting messages in dreams
    • Banishing bad habits
  • Gold
    • healing and enhancing well-being
    • Rejuvenating yourself
    • Improving intelligence
    • Bringing financial gain and wealth
    • Winning competitions
    • Attracting love and happiness
    • Maintaining peace in families
    • Cosmic ordering
  • Black
    • Protection
    • Strength
    • Banishing
    • Reversal
    • Hex-breaking 

Source

Robbins, Shawn, and Bedell, Charity. The Good Witch’s Guide. New York: Sterling Ethos, 2017. Print.

Amaram: “Old friend, it’s been too long.”
Dalinar: “Too long by far. I’m glad you finally made your way here, after years of promises. I heard you’ve even found yourself a Shardblade.”
Amaram: “Yes. Taken from an assassin who dared try to kill me on the field of battle.”
Kaladin:

My opinion about the signs

Okay… I know this is not really my type of content but I always find these interesting to read so I thought I’ll post one myself.

Aries: you can count on them, don’t take things too seriously, get mad at small things, much fun to hang out with, somewhat egoistic, as soon as they find someone more interesting than you they will hang out with them (though, they will not forget about you)

Taurus: I always become extremly good friends with them, so relaxing to hang out with them, weird humour, very determined and stubborn, talk a loooot, in a relationship they need a lot of physical interaction, they make me feel like home, laughs about every little thing, cute laugh

Gemini: fun people to hang out with, their humour is so… unexpected like they say things you would have never thought about, tend to hide their serious feelings/emotions, take the side of the person they want to impress, think too much about how they can impress someone rather than just beeing themselves (even through their personality is way more charming)

Cancer: a little too sensitive for my taste, can get very annoying but they are too cute to be mad at, need a lot of protection, very giggly, great story-tellers (but they tend to tell you the same story over and over again), materialistic, put you first, loves from the bottom of their heart, pretty smart but dumb at the same time

Leo: warmhearted people, try to be funny and cool all the time (but fail eventually lol too cute), buys you a lot of gifts, attention-lovers, likes to meet new people, very vain when it comes to their appearance, very nervous when having tests/exams, naturally intelligent (unfortunately this doesn’t help them much in school), enjoys good food

Virgo: stress themselves way too much, overthink everything, usually very good in school, gets mad and stressed when things don’t work out as they thought they would, sort of a boring personality, they can talk sooooo much, very sensitive (!!!), tend to be too harsh on themselves, high expectations of themselves

Libra: naturally flirty af, cute smile, scared to be alone, talks most of the time about themselves, makes sure everybody is getting enough attention, very lazy, does things in the last minute, usually the one studying for a test/exam the lesson before, clumsy, needs protection, don’t like confrontations/fights, not good at making decisions or being on time

Scorpio: just like libras they talk a lot about themselves, get veeeeery obsessive over things and people, their staring is so intense that it makes me feel uncomfortable, cares a lot about their loved ones, scared to show feelings, makes very weird but cute compliments you would have never gotten from anybody else, sporty, try to flirt but that’s just a little… cringe-worthy lol

Sagittarius: now… these people are the absolut oppostie of me, always awkward when we hang out together, not the most loyal boyfriend/girlfriend/friend, always wearing top outfits, always looking good, cares a lot about their hair or in general their appearance, not the best in school, party every weekend, straightforward

Capricorn: makes sooo many cute compliments, I have this weird attraction towards them, extremly sexy, intelligent, can’t sit still, they are very weird people, humour consists of sarcasm and dad jokes and can be very dry, know way too well how to seduce people, not the best in expressing their feeling but they try, ABSOLUT SWEETHEARTS, gets shy when being complimented, very sensitive, never forget their mistakes and always regret them (no matter how small it was)

Aquarius: makes me feel like home at the very first meeting, either pretty chill or being pissed off at silly things, don’t like stubborn people, tendency to be very religious, very good friends, will do everything for and with you, works hard to reach their goals, plans everything weeks/months before

Pisces: I either like or can’t stand them, actually quite egoistic, not the best in using the right words, sensitive af 24/7, dark humour, cries a lot, scared to hurt someones feelings (even if they don’t like the person), avoids confrontations/fights by not saying what’s really on their mind, in a fight they will say the most hurtful things (and will regret them their whole life), using the victim-card way too often, most of the time smiling

How to look well put together on a BUDGET !

You don’t need to have $100 blouses to look good and put together. It’s the small details that people will notice. (Nails that aren’t chipped, understated jewelry, and freshly pressed clothes.)

On a budget, one of my #1 recommendations is a GARMET STEAMER. They range from $20 to $100+. They will take the wrinkles out of ANY piece of clothing.

One of the worst things you can do is think you look cute in all of your expensive ~hand selected~ pieces, and have wrinkles everywhere. Oo, just thinking about it irritates me.

Depending on what material you’re steaming, you can also add a few drops of an essential oil/burning oil to infuse your favourite scent into the fabric.

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Self care is not selfish or self indulgent. We cannot nurture others from a dry well. We need to take care of our own needs first, then we can give from our surplus, our abundance.
—  Jennifer Loudon
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FAQ: Gentle cleansers I reccomend for every skin type.

First of all, let’s break down the notion that if your skin feels “squeeky clean” after cleansing it means it’s done a good job. Thats extremely false, if your cleanser makes your skin feel tight, shiny and dry as hell it’s damaging your moisture barrier and dehydrating your skin. This is why you should always use a gentle cleanser with mild surfectants.

Second of all, cleansing IS the most damaging part of your routine. It takes off all the oils and damages the lipid barrier of your skin. This is also why you should use a gentle cleanser and only cleanse with the soap at night. It’s also why your skin may look red and “worse than before” after you cleanse in the morning, it’s from irritation caused by removing the moisture and disrupting the lipid barrier.

A gentle cleanser is also definitely reccomended for acne prone, oily skin. If youre acne prone you DO NOT want to be harsh to your skin!!! Thats the most damaging myth to acne prone folks. You should especially then be gentle to your skin as more irritation WILL cause you more acne. (Nodular) acne is also often caused by a wrong cleanser, one with soudium lauryl sulfate, which you should avoid at all cost.

There ofourse are great cleasers that aren’t on this list. I tried to only metion the most accessible ones that will fit most budgets.

Avène extremely gentle cleanser lotion: definitely a great choice for those with dry sensitive skin. Will also take off your makeup well. It does contain some potential acne triggers, cetearyl alcohol and coco-glucoside. Not everyone who’s acne prone is also prone to this (in fact, a lot of people aren’t), but its worth mentioning before you make a mistake.
ingredients: AVÈNE THERMAL SPRING WATER, CETEARYL ALCOHOL, SERINE, CETRIMONIUM BROMIDE, COCO-GLUCOSIDE, DIPOTASSIUM PHOSPHATE, DISODIUM EDTA, DISODIUM PHOSPHATE, o-PHENYLPHENOL, SODIUM CETEARYL SULFATE, WATER.

La Roche Posay hydrating gentle cleanser: contains beneficial ingredients; a ceramide, niacinamide and panthenol. Wont strip your skin of moisture and contains glycerin as the second ingredient, which will rather attract water to your skin.
ingredients:  AQUA / WATER / EAU (LA ROCHE-POSAY PREBIOTIC THERMAL WATER), GLYCERIN, PENTAERYTHRITYL TETRAETHYLHEXANOATE, PROPYLENE GLYCOL, AMMONIUM POLYACRYLOYLDIMETHYL TAURATE, POLYSORBATE 60, CERAMIDE NP, NIACINAMIDE, SODIUM CHLORIDE, COCO-BETAINE, DISODIUM EDTA, CAPRYLYL GLYCOL, PANTHENOL, T-BUTYL ALCOHOL, TOCOPHEROL

Garnier micellar water: Has been approved by many people with acne prone skin. It’s a very gentle cleanser that will also remove your makeup and wont dry you out at all.
Ingredients: AQUA/WATER, HEXYLENE GLYCOL, GLYCERIN, DISODIUM COCOAMPHODIACETATE, DISODIUM EDTA, POLOXAMER 184, BIGUANIDE

CeraVe hydrating cleanser: An absolute cult favourite. Known for the beneficial ingredient list and the right Ph to be used on the skin. Might break you out if youre acne prone and sensitive.
ingredients: Water, Glycerin, Behentrimonium Methosulfate/Cetearyl Alcohol, Ceramide 3, Ceramide 6-11, Ceramide 1, Hyaluronic Acid, Cholesterol, Polyoxyl 40 Stearate, Glyceryl Monostearate, Stearyl Alcohol, Polysorbate 20, Potassium Phosphate, Dipotassium Phosphate, Sodium Lauroyl Lactylate, Cetyl Alcohol, Disodium EDTA, Phytosphingosine, Methylparaben, Propylparaben, Carbomer, Xanthan Gum

Netrogena ultra gentle hydrating cleanser: Great for dry skin as well because it only contains a very weak surfectant. Will remove your makeup well. Might break you out: cetearyl alcohol.
ingredients: Water, Glycerin, Cetearyl Alcohol, Polyglyceryl-10 Laurate, Ethlhexylglycerin, Cetearyl Glucoside, Caprylyl Glycol, Carbomer, Sodium Hydroxide, Phenoxyethanol

Sylveco Chamomile sensitive facial wash gel: The one im currently using and the only one that doesnt break my ultra acne prone ass out. Contains salicylic acid, which mildly exfoliates and removes whiteheads and sebum plugs while cleansing. Very minimal ingredient list and also probably the cheapest one on here ($5, 18zł)
Ingredients: Aqua, Glycerin, Lauryl Glucoside, Salicylic acid, Panthenol, Sodium bicarbonate, Sodium benzoate, Chamomila Recutita Oil

Mean Astrology: The Venus Signs

Aries: You fall too hard and are reckless and unthinking. You’re aggressive with what you want and all you do is build yourself up until the other persons annoyed and has no choice but to tear you down. You corner people so they have no moves besides committing or running, and all the while; you probably have people on the side loyal and good who YOU will never do shit for! You need constant attention and reassurance and you’re not half the shit you brag about being. Sometimes you just have to listen and you can’t expect everyone to fall in love with you, or no ones going to.

Taurus: You can’t tailor people into being what you want, people aren’t the clothes you wear to impress the town. People are people and you don’t get to choose how they are and who they are. You’re wrong on this. Wrong. You’re hurting people trying to love you because you treat them like they’ll never compare to your ideal.

Gemini: You say so much but communicate so little. You’re constantly in a state of making up your mind, talking to everyone but the person who needs to hear it. You forget they can’t read your mind, only sharing how you feel when it’s too late for them to help fix what’s wrong. And I think subconsciously you do it all on purpose, just because it’s easier to have it all end than fix it, and then you cry that it’s over. Afterwards you always have other people at your disposal, but it’ll never be enough, will it.

Cancer: You babies hope and wish and never do a damn thing! You create yourself into the perfect little doormat and cry about the dirt you get in return. You’ll do all this emotional labor and reject any in return. And once you can’t stand it any longer, you cut like no other. You turn off all of this babying for a reason apparent to no one, maybe not even you. You have to stop the dramatics and realize love isn’t supposed to be a painful and you need to stop forcing it to be that way.

Leo: You children have to realize you’re adults and you can’t just love the idea of love and expect it all to happen. It’s not grand gestures and then you’re done. The real work is hard, and putting people on pedestals set people up to fall. You’re too jealous without any valid reason! You destroy trust with jealousy, and that’s difficult for anyone to recover from. You can’t expect everyone to match your loyalty, not everyone wants the same things as you so you have to learn to get the hell over it and be an adult.

Virgo: NOBODY IS PERFECT and neither are you! You’re not this beacon of perfection that gets to judge the people who have the “audacity” to try to get close to you with a razor sharp tongue. You need to be open-minded and realize everyone is special, you have to get in touch with how you feel and accept that it’s okay to feel and for others to express themselves passionately sometimes. You’re not a puppet-master, you’re a regular person and need to treat other people kindly, not with judgment.

Libra: You’re fair-weather, as soon as it gets hard, you’re gone. Words mean nothing to you, you’ll act like you’re in love from the start with those pretty white lies but it’s just talk and you take it all back without a second thought. And you don’t care, you’ll do it again. No matter what anyone else says, because you don’t understand the words unless they’re what you want to hear.

Scorpio: You’re suffocating. People aren’t your property, not everyone is trying to be owned. You’re loyal but to the point where we don’t want your loyalty, until it becomes ugly and wrapped up with yourself and what you think you deserve. People aren’t prizes made just for you. Suck it up.

Sagittarius: Everything has to be new new new, you have no patience for actually connecting with people because as soon as it gets tough, you’re gone. You want something on the other side of the fence as soon as you find something new. You can be irritable with people as soon as they’re not taking you on adventures or acting wild and reckless, but that’s not real connection. Sure it’s fun but you hurt people with false promises and misleading intentions. Think about what your affect on people, they aren’t experiences.

Capricorn: You pride yourself on being so fiercely independent but you can’t face the fact that you’re dependent. You always have a new love up next in your orderly rolodex, rarely waiting very long inbetween. Always serious, always turning into something that stresses you out. You’re allowed to have a break in your romantic resume. You need to water your own roots. Don’t dry up other people’s wells and get upset when they’re empty.

Aquarius: You have to perform emotional labor in a relationship, it’s a huge part of the deal, sorry. You can’t just not help people you care about just because it’s hard for you to understand, lots of things are hard; just try. That’s usually enough. That’s it. Don’t be selfish. You can’t take all the benefits of receiving emotional labor and not reciprocate it’s unfair, and you of all people should be able to understand the concept of equality.

Pisces: Stop giving so much to people who don’t want it or deserve it and cry when they don’t reciprocate; it’s not a movie, it’s not going to be perfect and magical and, more than likely, they’ve probably made it clear they’re not interested and it’s your own damn fault you got hurt. You put yourselves into uneven relationships then manipulate to even the odds, and this is so so unhealthy and destructive to everyone around. Get a thicker skin and listen to unpleasant things and, sometimes, yes; you have to fight and have confrontations to move forward, you can’t just wish it away.