the difference between jealous and envious

misersevere  asked:

48. Is there anything in particular that would ignite your character’s jealousy? Or does your character not get envious?

I’m gonna get nitpicky here w/this specific question and point out that jealousy and envy are two different things. jealousy is that sense of feeling that someone else is taking what’s yours, whereas envy is wanting something someone else has that you don’t already. They can go hand-in-hand/the differences between them can be blurred especially if someone perceives that one someone else has ought to be theirs even if it never was. Like envy is an inward sort of feeling while jealousy is directed at someone else who is seen as taking something away from them. 

anyway, point is i think remus is often envious of a lot of things, but rarely does he get jealous. he feels shitty about all the things he doesn’t have sometimes, like money or a better position in society, a chance to have a NORMAL life; he envies people who have that but he’s not jealous of them. He doesn’t hate them or want to hurt them because they have something he doesn’t, he just wishes he could have what they have too. not instead of, y’know?

the closest he gets in canon to feeling jealousy is over tonks w/sirius. tonks mentions that sirius is still attractive even after azkaban and this upsets remus and he makes some comment that he supposes tonks has fallen for him ( sirius ) and the “[sirius] always got the women”. in this case he’s a little of both; he’s envious of sirius’s ability to even have relationships if he wanted them, but he’s also jealous of sirius bc tonks finds him attractive and at this point he’s got feelings for tonks himself already so there is this sense of feeling like sirius is a threat and could take away something that could be remus’s…assuming he ever allowed himself to be with her anyway. 

but most of the time he doesn’t get jealous bc he doesn’t perceive much to be his to get worried about losing. tonks is a special case because they’d gotten close, and ( in my headcanon that i have as an integral part of my portrayal of remus ) even going so far as having slept with one another or at the very least gotten very close to having done so. in that case he has definitely fallen into the trap he never thought he would where he does on some level ( tho not in a gross possessive sort of way ) see tonks as something that is his. a relationship with her is his to have. so it pains him and scares him to hear that someone else could have the ability to take that away from him when he’s never felt about someone the way he feels about tonks.

The signs and envy
  • Aries: jealously is beneath me. And on that note can I just say how sharon is a two-faced-
  • Taurus: 2/10
  • Gemini: envy???? Lol I'm the one people are envious of :)
  • Cancer: I'm not jealous!!!!! Ugh!!!! It's not my fault she just happened to trip over my leg!!!
  • Leo: I don't get jealous but don't mess with me :))))
  • Virgo: jealousy? Ain't nobody got time for that
  • Libra: instead of being jealous, let's be thankful for what we have :)
  • Scorpio: why would I be jealous of these heathens
  • Sagittarius: jealousy ruins friendships :(
  • Capricorn: jealousy is dumb and nO I AM NOT JEALOUS OF KATHY AND MICHAEL OKAY THERE'S A DIFFERENCE BETWEEN HATE AND JEALOUS GOSH.
  • Aquarius: please if I wanted that, you wouldn't have it anymore :)
  • Pisces: jealousy??? *coughs* ME? j ea lous of *coughs* THEM?!?!? Pfft what even *coughs*
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AM I DONE TALKING ABOUT THIS YET?

NO, I’M FUCKING NOT.

LET ME TELL YOU ABOUT SOME MORE FEELINGS.

I’m not even halfway into this episode and we’re not even into the tangled, complicated stuff with Black Lady and how that’s tied up in Chibi-Usa’s feelings about Usagi and about her own growth rate/maturity level.

EVEN JUST AT THIS POINT, this relationship between these two characters is complicated and layered and not at all simple.  Chibi-Usa admires her mother so much, she believes her unbeatable (Esmeraude will never be able to destroy the palace as long as her Mama is in there!), but also fears trying to live up to her mother’s legacy, fears that the weight of that responsibility is too much for her, and literally cannot grow up because of it.

That’s a pretty amazingly great relationship right there, already.  Especially when you add in that Mamoru told her stories about Sailor Moon (her mother when she was younger) to inspire and encourage her.  Still more ways that her mother influences her life and the layered relationship between them!

THEN CHIBI-USA GOES INTO THE PAST.  She meets Usagi when she’s younger, she develops this entirely separate relationship with her, she watches Usagi struggle and there’s jealousy there, envy that Usagi has and is doing all these things that Chibi-Usa has desperately wanted for almost 900 years, but can’t bring herself to do.  But Usagi’s doing them, she’s growing up and she’s got friends and a boyfriend and she’s fighting these major enemies and Chibi-Usa can’t do any of that.

Once Black Lady hits, it’s all about wanting what Usagi has, wanting what her mother has, because she loves them so much but is also jealous of them and has those complicated feelings twisted by Wiseman.  Eventually they work that out, eventually Chibi-Usa is inspired by Usagi, even as she still deals with being envious and wanting desperately to be like Usagi, to keep doing the things she does, to want to look like Usagi (when they’re sleeping in the same bed in the Dream arc, Chibi-Usa thinks of how she wants to look like Usagi, too).

ALL OF THAT.

BETWEEN TWO CHARACTERS.

AT DIFFERENT POINTS IN THEIR LIVES, SURE, BUT LOOK AT ALL THAT COMPLICATED, FASCINATING RELATIONSHIP DYNAMICS BETWEEN THESE TWO WOMEN.  I AM 100% HERE FOR ALL OF IT.

if you really think about it, everyone knows the real reason why they showed those clips of rachel. you could see the sadness and pain in her eyes, it wasn’t because she was envious or jealous of quinn, it was because that song reminded her someone special. someone she had lost. seeing puck and quinn made rachel think about finn, and how everything used to be between them. the storyline between ‘finchel’ ended shakily and maybe it would have been them two singing it if events had played out differently. i mean they were beginning to love again during season 4 and they weren’t broken they were just bent. so yeah, that’s the reason [in my opinion anyway] why she looked so upset at some points during that number.

but then even with that you could still tell rachel was happy for puck and quinn, she was proud of her friends.