there’s a difference between demonizing someone for being mentally ill, and recognizing when a person’s mental illnesses clash harshly with yours in a way that makes a mutually healthy and happy friendship nearly impossible if both parties are untreated and have poor coping mechanisms for their symptoms. being someone’s friend is good, being their life sustaining crutch is exhausting and horrible for the health of a relationship.
a friend to confide your breakdowns to is not a substitute for a licensed professional. please don’t put that kind of pressure on the ones you love. they are capable of caring about you and not feeling comfortable being your therapist at the same time. if you guilt someone for not wanting to pick you up while you’re falling apart, they aren’t the problem. do your relationship a favor and seek medical attention.