the difference between friendship and relationship

there’s a difference between demonizing someone for being mentally ill, and recognizing when a person’s mental illnesses clash harshly with yours in a way that makes a mutually healthy and happy friendship nearly impossible if both parties are untreated and have poor coping mechanisms for their symptoms. being someone’s friend is good, being their life sustaining crutch is exhausting and horrible for the health of a relationship. 

a friend to confide your breakdowns to is not a substitute for a licensed professional. please don’t put that kind of pressure on the ones you love. they are capable of caring about you and not feeling comfortable being your therapist at the same time. if you guilt someone for not wanting to pick you up while you’re falling apart, they aren’t the problem. do your relationship a favor and seek medical attention.

an incomplete list of things readers want in ya, in no particular order, according to a question posed on twitter:

  • unlikable fantasy heroines
  • dragons
  • unipolar depression
    • “high-functioning” depression 
    • girls with depression
    • nonbinary people with depression
      • both of whom save the day!
  • anxiety
    • high-functioning anxiety 
    • chosen ones with anxiety
      • because that’s a stressful job
  • bipolar disorder
  • schizophrenia
  • OCD
  • characters with chronic illness / disabilities
    • without plots to overcome / magically fix their disability
  • mental health representation generally
    • with mental illness that’s maintained / managed
  • books with an emphasis on friendship
    • with friendship that doesn’t turn into a romance!
    • especially between people of different genders? boys and girls don’t automatically fall in love mate
  • books with an emphasis on family
  • books with an emphasis on platonic relationships generally
  • aromantic characters
  • asexual characters
  • aroace characters
  • demisexual characters and relationships
  • pansexual characters
  • polyamorous relationships
  • queer characters generally
    • especially in sff
    • but also literally everything 
    • seriously people just want queer books
    • AND MAKE THEM HAPPY
    • and maybe NOT in a coming out story kthx
  • nonbinary characters
    • especially in sff
    • who aren’t androgynous!
  • butch main characters
  • butch love interests
  • black boys in space
  • black boy wizards
  • intersectional sff generally
    • fantasy worlds that reflect the actual diversity of the world, what a wild concept
  • sff by people of color
  • native american / first nations authors
    • in all genres!
  • native american / first nations characters
    • in all genres!
  • two-spirit love interests
  • Native characters living their lives without the “poor” narrative
  • main characters you legitimately believe might die and aren’t safe just because they’re the main characters
  • guys with long hair
  • girls with short / no hair
  • heroines that are strong physically, not metaphorically 
  • series with different POVs in each book
  • male characters who stink after a week on horseback rather than smelling like fresh pine
  • imperfect chosen one narratives
  • lost princess stories 
  • snarky best friend as the lead books that leave you both confused (“WTF was that!?”) and in awe (“I LOVED IT”)
  • books you can’t place easily in one genre
  • obliteration of “she’s not like other girls” comments
  • girls supporting other girls
  • asian characters!!!
  • original fairy tales / dark, atmospheric contemporary fantasy
  • nonfiction
  • lesbians
  • bi girls
  • bi boys
  • bi characters generally
  • happy f/f ships 
    • especially with trans girls!
  • books that leave you going “well, that was a delight!”
  • characters who don’t get a romance but want one
  • hijaabis
  • teens who love and use science
  • more actual physical ships
    • the ones you sail
    • not the relationship kind
    • the arrrrr, matey kind
  • intersectional characters! (ie: bisexual with anxiety)
  • more than one person with an identity in a cast
    • did you know you can have TWO ASEXUALS in one story
    • whoa
  • retellings
  • selfish heroines
  • queer friendships
  • characters of color who don’t know their race / ethnicity 
  • non-WWII historicals
  • fat characters
    • fat LADY characters
    • who are HAPPY
  • evil narrators who don’t think they’re evil
  • evil narrators who KNOW they’re evil
  • arab main characters
  • healthy parent / child relationship
  • grandparent caretakers
  • parents that aren’t mysteriously dead for Plot Reasons
  • sex positivity
  • healthy views of the first time you have sex
  • hearing-impaired / Hard of Hearing / Deaf protags
  • hearing-impaired / Hard of Hearing / Deaf side characters
  • #ownvoices learning disabilities
    • autism
    • ADHD
    • dyslexia
      • not by parents of people with disabilities
      • ‘cause that’s not ownvoices babes
  • multiracial main characters
  • filipina main characters
  • eccentric thrillers
  • characters overcoming internal struggles without matching external struggles
  • well-written eating disorders
  • quiet stories
    • especially quiet fantasy
    • not every fantasy needs to be WE’RE ALL GONNA DIE
  • abusive controlling dudes getting called out and NOT being the romantic interest
    • abuse isn’t romantic writers sorry not sorry
  • interracial relationships not between POC / white character
  • queer interracial relationships
  • stories set in South Asia
  • stories focusing on social issue
  • multiple points-of-view
  • religious protagonists
  • non-Western narrative structures
  • college stories
  • study abroad stories
  • settings as characters
  • big cities
  • girls playing sports
  • Latinx characters whose families are from more than one country
  • Latinx characters who aren’t JUST mexican
  • books without romance
    • especially fantasy
    • or books with mental illness
  • characters of color saving the world
  • queer characters of color falling in love and getting a HEA
  • queer biracial characters
  • characters of color on book covers
  • queer characters who fall in love with each other
    • because y’know queer people aren’t just side characters or plot points
  • south indian main characters
  • people of color playing sports
    • especially asians
  • dudes of color as love interests without being exotic accessories to white girls
  • soft and gender-nonconforming dudes of color
  • asians of various religious backgrounds
  • dark-skinned heroines
  • disabled heroines
  • trans heroines
  • #ownvoices Jewish stories that aren’t about WWII
  • immigrant / expat stories
  • people who have moved a lot
  • multi-ethnic people and communities
  • immigrant stories
  • nonbinary aroace main character
    • there are currently none
  • contemporary YA set in the caribbean
  • disabled people of color
  • nuanced portrayal of domestic violence  + divorce + single parents in diapora Asian families
  • queer disabled South Asian characters
  • paranormal YA based on nonwhite cultures
  • #ownvoices Asian fantasy
  • #ownvoices arabian / south asian / islam-inspired stories
  • non-European fantasy generally
  • morally grey villains AND heroes
  • kids with a mentally ill parent
  • fantasy characters with allergies or asthma
  • pirates
    • lady pirates!!!
  • dumb but sweet dudes - no secret smarts here
  • books that start with an established romantic relationship
  • silly or rom-com-like SFF
  • main characters with glasses

tl;dr: if you are writing it, somebody is interested in it.

Sun thru the Houses

1H: the first house is the house of the self, and because the sun is representative of the self as well, this is a very healthy position for the sun to be in. this shows the type of person that is meant to put themselves out into the world, and to have a lasting impact on others. the sense of self is most likely pretty strong and associated with the aries archetype, since this is the natural ruler of the 1st house, and mars. this can give the chart holder a warrior like personality, one that must always be more forceful, assertive and able to stand up for themselves. they usually approach life with much vitality, strength and enthusiasm. these people must be appreciated, noticed and acknowledged for who they are. there is a strong desire to feel important and wanted as well, it is important to not let yourself become a tyrannical figure though, as that can be something common and associated with this placement of the sun. 

2H: the second house is the house of worth and value, also security and possessions - physical possessions. with the planet of one’s vitality, self expression and ego coming in here, it lights up the part of us that needs to develop outer security and what one values. it is important for these people to learn what gives them a sense of security and fulfillment and not have to be dependent to find it through others, like their opposing 8th house represents. security would typically come through strengthening the ego and self, because that is what the sun itself represents. the individual with this placement must feel secure with themselves, so even if outer security is missing, they will feel an overall safety with life. 

3H: the third house is the house of communications, knowledge, speech, and siblings. with the ego and self lighting up this house, the sense of self is derived from what this person knows. they must feel honorable about their own thoughts to feel a sense of purpose in life. they also must feel like they have been heard by others, nothing could be more sad than a third house sun person that is constantly ignored or feels ignored (perhaps if mercury is in the 12th house). these people are hardly ever satisfied with what they know, and are always looking to learn more, their hunger for knowledge is insatiable. there is always a need for this person to get their point or words across to others; through verbal speaking or the written word as well. there could be a talent or mastery of language. 

4H: the fourth house is the house of where we came from, our roots, home, family, mother/parents, the deeper part of the psyche, what makes us feel safe, secure and at home. with the planet of the ego and vitality here, the person must feel honorable in the home environment; there is a need for the home to stable in order for this person to shine. imbalances in this environment can severely hurt or impact the chart holder, never to be forgotten. there can be a tendency to over identify with the family and not give yourself the chance to branch off and create a separate identity in your own life. it’s common for this person to have been an only child - the center of the parents’ universe, worshiped by the parents even. creative energy may be mustered up in the home environment. 

5H: the fifth house is the natural ruler of leo and is ruled by the sun, so this is seen as a very healthy place for the sun to be in and shine to it’s fullest extent. the fifth house rules leisure, pleasure, romance, casual sex, gambling, risk taking, the general sense of fun, although that is something very subjective and personal to everyone. with the sun here, the person must feel honorable in what gives them a sense of pleasure and leisure. these two things are what the chart holder holds very highly and strongly values. there may be a strong creative force in the individual. the involvement of romance, fun or any theme falling in the fifth house enhances the chance of this person being a participant. however, there can be a need to always be the center of attention as well, especially when endeavoring these “fun” activities. 

6H: the sixth house is the house of labor, daily routine and health. with the planet of the ego and vitality, there is a tendency for the overall sense of self to derive from work/service and one’s own general health. there is a need and constant motivational factor of improving the self and finding ways to be better at what ever it is they do. self imperfections or insecurities are always heightened here, because the ruling sign of this house, virgo, is highly critical and picky, especially of themselves. there is always room for improvement and fixing everything to it’s best ability, virgo believes. since this house rules one’s general health, with the sun here the individual must have a respectable relationship & honor their own body. there can be self-neglect because of the primary focus being of service to everything else but themselves. the sun here must learn to efficiently balance out their daily life and the self, realizing there can be nothing without their self anyway. 

7H: the seventh house is the house of others, partnerships, marriage, open enemies. with the sense of self, ego and vitality coming to light up this house, the person must feel honorable in their relationships with others. however there is a common tendency to have a poor sense of self and vitality because the ego is so closely associated with others, rather than the self. they find themselves through others. relationships and partnerships or social interaction of any kind give them subtle clues to who they are more so than when they are on their own. this can be the type of person that does not ever want to be alone by choice, because of this fear of feeling completely lost within the self. it is true though, that they do need to be involved with people or others in some way. 

8H: the eighth house is the house of privacy, intimacy, transformation and the occult. the sun represents the self, vitality and ego, so naturally when this comes into the eighth house, the ego and self seek personal transformation through acts of intimacy, occult studies or pushing themselves extremely hard to test their limits in life, and possibly find a sense of rebirth through doing so. this person pretty much yearns to feel emotionally connected to and bonded with something, there is an extremely intimate outlook on life. everything is profound in the eighth house, this person can be extremely wise and insightful because of their deep, complex dynamic make up, mostly because of their fascination with all things that are hidden from the public’s eye, their investigation of the inner workings of the self and others, as well as rather taboo subjects, can pay off rather well. 

9H: the ninth house is the house of beliefs, higher knowledge, travel, foreign lands, and philosophy. with the sun, ruler of the personality, ego and one’s own vitality, there is usually an experimental nature towards one’s own belief systems - the individual can usually try out many throughout their life, until one fits their personal moral system the best, and which they must find honorable enough to expand and grow from. the individual with the sun here may view life as a voyage, a soul search or some type of pilgrimage. this person can be very concerned with the bigger picture and tend to neglect the finer details to their life. there can be an eternal wanderlust and desire to constantly grow internally and mentally; these are very acquisitive people. this is a common placement indicating visionaries, gurus, religious figures, spiritual practitioners. the self is designed to find inspiration through growing and developing the self more, and passing this inspiration on to others through their own beliefs and knowledge, as well as life experience.  

10H: the tenth house is the house of one’s reputation, how one is perceived through the public eye, the persona, the career and one’s achievements. when the planet of one’s ego and personality, also vitality comes in the 10th house, there is a strong desire to be admired by others and recognized as someone. the sign of the sun specifically will give more clues to what it is exactly the person wants to be admired for. there must be an honorable relationship with one’s professional achievements and reputation. there can be a dependence on a parental figure for acknowledgment, or an inheritance to enhance the chances of acknowledgment. the person with sun in the tenth may over identify with tenth house matters and have a hard time forming a separate identity with any other part of themselves. 

11H: the eleventh house is the house of social groups/dynamics, organizations, clubs, society, humanitarianism. when the planet of one’s identity and self comes in this house, there is a direct association of the self with whatever they are associated with. there can be direct association between the self and friend group, this is who they are. or what cause they believe strongly in. this person may be vastly involved in many different groups or organizations, and an interest in spreading their knowledge. the identity here is strongly linked to a higher cause than themselves. the self worth, worst case scenario, is derived from groups or friendships. relationships with friends, groups and organizations must be felt as honorable and secure through the individual with this placement. 

12H: the twelfth house is the hardest house to describe because we do not truly know what is in there…generally it’s the house of the subconscious mind, the “back of the brain” where things are not commonly thought about or acknowledged, or seen. its the house of dreams, mysteries, escapism, illusions, sensitivity, spirituality…everything. it’s where things go to dissipate. it represents the things that are hidden from us, as opposed to the things we hide from others - it’s entirely unconscious in it’s workings, and extremely hard to describe or pin down accurately. with the planet of the ego, personality and vitality coming into neptune’s domain, the ego is washed away and dissolved. the boundaries between the self and outer world are extremely thin, these people are very sensitive to energy. the conflicting aspect of this placement is that the twelfth house is the furthest house from the conscious mind, and the sun itself is an extremely conscious energy. the individual with sun in the twelfth must learn to properly blend the workings of the spiritual realm and the things that cannot be seen, with the outer, more tangible realm. the ego is comfortable in spiritual practice, solitude and being of service to others. there is a fear of others not accepting them for who they are, so its more often than not that the individual with the sun here hides themselves from others and only comes out when alone. the sun here is easily tainted and colored by other energies and is felt the strongest when alone or secluded from others or things that may drain its energy. the sense of self is fogged and blurred by neptune. the ego must feel honorable in it’s spiritual views, acts of service and time alone. the uncertainty of the self that these people feel is what causes them to fall into the depths of depression or sadness. they can feel overwhelming guilt just for being who they are and expressing themselves, because there is some obligation they have to be there for others, and avoid ever being seen or felt as selfish. 

**afflictions of the sun must be taken into consideration as well, as that can severely alter some of these characteristics. 

anonymous asked:

Honestly I don't think Jensen and Misha are social friends, just good work buddies, but they never socialize outside of work. I think Jensen like Misha, qirks and all, but he doesn't love Misha like a bestie, more like love him because he's familiar and part of the same show for almost a decade.

Well, of course you’re entitled to your opinion, but– one thing you should know is they do hang out outside of work:

They’ve gone to the race track together:

Took family vacations together

Gone out for ice cream with one another:

They’ve gone on fun little spa trips:

And after conventions, they go and hang out– looking altogether, friendly.

Not to mention, Misha was at Jensen’s wedding which sure– could just be a work-friend thing, but I know I would still want to be fairly close with someone if I was going to invite them to such a personal event.

Now, I am not arguing the fact that Jensen and Jared hang out more– of course they do. They live right beside one another, their kids go to the same school, they’ve known each other for longer than either of them have known Misha, but that still doesn’t mean that Misha cant be super close with Jensen (and Jared) as well. Those two have talked about going out to dinner, just the two of them. They’ve talked about enjoying wine together (which is not something one normally does at work).

They have spoken of times where they have long, deep, emotional talks, and how much they enjoy those moments. That’s not something I normally do with my “work buddies”.

The fact is, they are great friends (if not more), whether or not they live near each other. My best friend of over twenty years has lived in Colorado for most of that time– but that doesn’t mean I love her any less than I did the friend who lived up the road from me. I cared for them equally, we all just had different types of friendships– but that didn’t make them any less than the other.

You don’t need to think that they’re in a poly relationship– that’s a matter of opinion; but to ignore just how much they do care about one another, how much they enjoy each other’s company– to write off their very deep friendship because of some physical distance between their homes, and not as much publicized evidence as others might have, is to completely disregard and disrespect things that they’ve specifically said about each other.

Jensen being best friends with Misha doesn’t make him any less Jared’s best friend.

It just doesn’t.

I don’t know why it always has to be a competition.

THOUGHTS ON DAB (& EVAN)

While everyone is freaking out over playlist live, I’m gonna be emo here for a sec about that Blessing™ of a sims video. I only just realised that whenever Dan or Phil talk about the friendship (not the future relationship) between Dab and Evan, they get sO EXCITED and as you saw they always age them up at the same time and get super giddy about it and everything. Even when they first decided to ‘create’ Evan, they were adamant to make Dab a friend instead of just having him befriend different people as he aged up. Also, whenever Dan and Phil talk about Dab, they always seem to mention their own childhood memories and reminisce over that (that Matey bubble stuff, the fabric light thing, the sandpit). That’s when I realised…

Dab and Evan are surrogates for the Dan and Phil that didn’t get to grow up with each other.

They are using these two sims (who have a LOT of resemblance to them imo) to inadvertently get to spend the childhood together that they wished they had. I ship the hell out of Dab and Evan (lmao), but if they never become a couple onscreen it’s because they’re such strong mirrors for Dan and Phil themselves that they aren’t willing to do that (regardless of if phan is ‘real’ or not, Dab and Even represent the beautiful friendship Dan and Phil share).

But if you do happen to ship phan, watching the boys talk about Dab and Evan and shipping makes it even more dramatic, just saying. 😂

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@castiellelovesbees (for some reason I can’t tag you, hopefully you see this). Sorry for taking so long to get back to these. I really loved this prompt, thank you for requesting it!

There’s honestly so many different kinds of friendships in this series. I could jump into a long meta about the incredible diversity but I’ll keep it short by saying that the relationships between the characters are easily one of the strongest points of the series. Every relationship feels realistic and genuine and, even if they don’t get along all the time, there’s never any bad blood between anyone (Yurio, you’re not fooling anyone).

A small note on including Victuri in this set, it is my firm belief that the strongest romantic relationships are built on a solid base of friendship and trust. No matter what the beach scene may have let to, it’s a prime example of a connection of trust between the two.

And of course a bonus here too because friendships with pets are, in my opinion, just as powerful as those with other humans:

what supergirl has got to understand is that from a writing perspective, you can absolutely have drama between your characters. do it. it creates room for character growth and for new bonds to develop. there will always be conflict between characters. that’s a huge stepping stone to character development. kara and maggie were always going to have conflict. they’re two incredibly different characters (despite also having many similarities that the writers haven’t even touched - e.g. losing their families, feeling out of place, etc.) and two very strong women. it was an inevitability that things were going to be tense in the beginning due to the circumstances surrounding alex.

it’s absolutely okay to write drama between your female characters. but this petty shit that is magically wrapped up and tied with a neat little bow by the end of the episode isn’t realistic. small bumps in the road? sure, fix that in one episode. but the kara and maggie tension has been brewing ever since they met and yet was completely ignored by the writers. when it’s ignored, it’s a disservice to the two characters and their potential development. that’s why i was initially turned off by a potential friendship between the two of them.

however, that’s supergirl’s style. things are solved within the episode, because it’s supposed to end on a high note. the only thing that generally carries over to the next episode is something relating to the bigger overarching plot.

people say they’re tired of seeing female characters fight instead of working together, but that’s not what they’re really tired of. they’re tired of the lazy writing that creates unrealistic conflicts and then fixes them with a wave of their magic writing wand. you can have female characters fighting, working out their differences, and then working together, making their relationship stronger. supergirl completely skipped the middle part in regards to kara and maggie, so that when they’re forced to work together, it’s strained and ugly and the writing is downright terrible.

none of their inner feelings are really explored (aside from maggie trying to tell kara that she deserves to have a say too, which is promptly ignored by kara until kara makes a mistake and maggie literally has to give her a lecture). kara has the opportunity to tell maggie that she might possibly feel threatened by someone taking up all of alex’s time. that maybe she feels lonely and scared that she’s going to lose alex. that middle part is so important and yet, we don’t see any of it.

a lot of it boils down to the fact that the writers are incapable of writing kara properly this season, and it was frustrating to see maggie get knocked back by her like four times before she was listened to. kara and maggie deserve better, and so does their relationship, which there was so much potential in. now, to me, it seems odd because they’ve hugged and made up, but those issues that were never explored are still lingering in the background.

My heart breaks to find out that Lewis Tan (actual martial artist) had to fight to play Iron Fist. He ended up playing Zhou Cheng in the show, who is a villain.

So I’m writing this because Iron Fist was a mess of cultural appropriation and the argument defending a white Iron Fist is absolutely ridiculous.

The most dominant argument seems to be that Iron Fist was white in the comic. Well, that has no place here. Even when we complained about the Ancient One being canonically Tibetan, everyone else also brushed it off. Don’t tell us things like you-don’t-know-anything-about-the-comic.

Iron Fist was an invention of the 70s, when under- and misrepresentation of minority groups were not a widely discussed problem. In older comics, stereotypes, slurs, demeaning characterizations, and cultural appropriation that are considered to be outrageous today were abundant. However, those have stopped appearing in modern comics, so why should something as archaic as a white savior trope appear in modern TV shows? What were socially acceptable then may not be acceptable now. Time has changed; comics have changed with the time. Staying true to source material shouldn’t be as important as staying true to the time. (and if we’re talking about staying true to source material, the arc of this whole first season couldn’t be further away from Iron Fist’s actual comic origin)

Additionally, Danny being white doesn’t have much to do with his whole storyline. The trope of being an outsider could have easily been adapted for an Asian-American actor. A second generation Asian born on American soil, grew up the American way, who might get teased at school for the color of his skin, or the shape of his eyes, who hears stories about his parents’ homeland but never really gets it, who sometimes, secretly, wishes he looked more like his friends. He then is thrust out of that world, into the culture he heard so much about, surrounded by people who look like him. But here, he still doesn’t fit in. He doesn’t speak the language, he couldn’t get used to the food or the clothing, and he is teased for his cluelessness. An outsider no matter where he goes. Yet he perseveres, he works hard at fitting in, learns the language, the traditions, and everything in between. Eventually, he comes out on top and becomes a fitting Iron Fist.

It could have been so much more meaningful. It could have resonated with so many people who can never quite identify with any particular culture, with people who question themselves when they are asked to tick a box for their ethnicity. It could have helped the show avoid the cringiness of blatant cultural appropriation. It could have achieved so, so much.

And while an Asian Iron Fist would be perpetuating some stereotypes, it could also break a lot of stereotypes. As a lead role, we could’ve seen a nuanced male Asian character, who demonstrates different sides of himself throughout the show. We could have seen an Asian character who isn’t just comic relief or the smart one in the group (which we did get, somewhat, through Colleen Wing). He may know martial arts, but he didn’t start out that way (because really, us Asians were not born with kungfu embedded into our brains). We could’ve had a Black-Asian friendship between Luke Cage and Danny, which is rarely portrayed in media. Hell, we could’ve had a Black-Asian romantic relationship when they make Misty and Danny a couple, which is virtually never seen in mainstream media! Ever!

Danny’s race doesn’t matter to the core of the character. After all, he is fictional. In the end, what matters more is the fact that there are real people out there who are disappointed​ to see their traditions on screen, but (once again) not on a face that they associated with those traditions. It’s about the multiple times when there was a chance for an Asian or Asian-American (or Asian-British in Tan’s case) actor to be cast, and they fight hard for the role, but ultimately they were let down. It’s about the fact that this continuously happens to Asian characters, leading me (and perhaps many others) to feel like we don’t exist or we are invisible in the entertainment industry.

I could go on, but all I really want to say is representation matters.

Marvel, you can really take a page from other Disney projects, or even Star Wars, on this matter.

John and Paul related to each other as peers. Theirs was not a big brother/little brother relationship (as seemed to exist between John and George), despite the fact that Lennon was a year and a half older than McCartney.

They clearly had  the closest friendship within the Beatles, at least at first, but they couldn’t have been two more different people.

Paul was meticulous and organized: he always carried a notebook around with him, in which he methodically wrote down lyrics and chord changes in his neat handwriting. In contrast, John seemed to live in chaos: he was constantly searching for scraps of paper that he’d hurriedly scribbled ideas on. Paul was a natural communicator; John couldn’t articulate his ideas well. Paul was the diplomatic; John was the agitator. Paul was soft-spoken and almost unfailingly polite; John could be a right loudmouth and quite rude. Paul was willing to put in long hours to get a part right; John was impatient, always ready to move on to the next thing. Paul usually knew exactly what he wanted and would often take offense at criticism; John was much more thick-skinned and was open to hearing what others had to say. In fact, unless he felt especially strongly about something, he was usually amenable to change.

There were so many differences between them, I often wondered what it was that made them such great friends, unless it was simply that opposites attract.
—  Geoff Emerick, “Here, There and Everywhere, My Life Recording The Music of The Beatles”

anonymous asked:

Something I've been confused about for months is the people saying that Cursed Child is a queerbait. I only guess I don't understand the term properly because I thought it meant that writers teasing that a character was gay and then not delivering? Albus/Scorpius were close but it wasn't like they were definitely hinted as being gay and then it was pulled away? There's something I'm missing? I thought you would be ok to ask and explain if you knew?

I must stress that this really is my own personal opinion; I’m really not trying to upset anyone with my train of thought on this…it’s really just how I see it from my own perspective.

Albus, Scorpius and Scorbus really deserves its own post - but I’m going to deviate slightly, because the issue with the ‘queerbait’ in Cursed Child for me isn’t completely about Albus and Scorpius.  

Their relationship, whether romantic or brotp, is beautifully written, and depicts two teenage boys in a very different fashion to what we saw in the original series (e.g. Harry and Ron’s brotp).  It’s beautiful, it’s kind, it’s caring and it’s loving.  And it’s perfectly fine if it did evolve into Scorbus, but it’s also equally fine for it to be a deep friendship between two people without any romantic or sexual element.

The issue with queerbaiting and the Potter franchise is complicated.  I lived through Section 28 - and there is no way on this planet that anyone could’ve written an explicitly queer character in those first few books back in the late 90s.  I fully appreciate that Harry Potter is of its time - and its time is a moment when the UK was very uneasy with the issue of sexuality, particularly representations that were aimed at children.

However, the end of Harry Potter came at a time where there was a huge social shift.   Our society came on leaps and bounds between the 1990s and the 2000s.   As the series was wrapping up, we had legislation to protect us, civil partnerships - and then incredibly, recently, we gained marriage rights.  

That’s all brilliant - but it dates Potter horribly.  You read it now, you look at it and think, “Wow, there’s no queer representation in here at all.”  But y’know, I’m sure we’re all mature enough to look at the front and say, “Ah, published in 1997!  No wonder!”

But Cursed Child was published in 2016.  Cursed Child was published years after JK told us Dumbledore was gay.  Cursed Child was published years after this:

…but yet again, we’ve gone through a whole book without a single character who is clearly queer.

The issue, as I see it, isn’t so much that people are solely disappointed/sad/upset/angry that Scorbus wasn’t a thing…but that they as queer fans nodded their heads during those early years and said, “It’s ok, there’s nothing JK could’ve done - she couldn’t have written us some representation in the books; her hands were tied.”

…but now? 

If I was being generous, I suppose there’s an argument that any Potter book is going to sell in huge numbers.  The play was less certain, and perhaps they were advised against featuring any queer characters lest it affect how the play was received.  Perhaps.

I also suppose there’s an argument that JK has stated that she sees Dumbledore as gay, and there’s a Fantastic Beasts series in the pipeline, and it could be that she’s decided to write her queer representation in that instead.

But at the end of the day, there’s an awful lot of queer kids who grew up with the series who felt they had to nod their heads and say, “It’s ok, I understand why you can’t show me,” - and that was hard enough in 1997, frightfully difficult in 2007…but doing so in 2017 feels ridiculous.

So, to answer your question, it’s not really that Albus and Scorpius were coded as queer and then turned out not to be (admittedly, they are certainly coded very differently to a lot of male brotp pairings that we see in the media, which possibly made it more difficult…at times it did feel as if there was more to it than just a friendship)…

…but it’s almost that the franchise sort of whispered that us queer kids were part of it, and we all secretly understood why it couldn’t say it out loud…but right at the moment that it was given a platform and a golden opportunity to prove it stood with us, it backed out.

Why you should buy: Nova 2016-2017

The Nova Corps, if you don’t know, were basically the intergalactic police force of old. Powered by their technologically advanced helmets and armor, the Corps are now nonexistent except for two Novas of Earth: Richard Rider and Sam Alexander. Marvel’s 2016 series Nova, by Jeff Loveness and Ramon Perez, is essentially a buddy cop series in space. Comedy, adventure, drama, family, friendship, romance, and more, Nova has something for everyone, and is (for me) one of the best ongoing comics hitting the shelves.

This comic really compliments Marvel’s more comedic yet heartwarming tone that they’re implementing in their cosmic/space adventure genre. If you like Guardians of the Galaxy in any form, Nova is definitely for you! Some other reasons to read Nova: 

1. Captivating Characters and POC lead

Richard Rider was the original Nova, who died a hero by sacrificing his life for the galaxy, but mysteriously returned to life. Sam Alexander is a mixed Mexican teenager from Arizona who inherited his Nova helmet from his missing father, who was a part of the Nova Corps. While Sam’s character is more focussed in growing up, high school, and family, Richard’s is completely different, tackling issues of life, the difficulties of moving on, and trauma. The contrast between the Novas of new and old also add to why the comic is so diverse when it comes to genres, but instead of feeling convoluted, the narratives compliment each other extremely well. The bond that builds between Richard and Sam create a really interesting and fun dynamic that’s less of a typical mentor/mentee relationship then something much more complex and personal. They both learn from each other and grow through their friendship, which makes their character development intriguing and appealing.

The artist and co-writer, Ramon Perez, is also Latino, and he’s made it clear how much he loves Sam (lol), and is keen on depicting him and his family very visibly Not White. So you’re also supporting creators of color by buying this series! 

(There’s also a talking Russian astronaut telepath dog, Cosmo, who’s a friend of the Novas and a very cute and hilarious addition to the cast) 

2. Gorgeous Art/Colors

Ramon Perez’s art style is extremely dynamic and beautiful, and Ian Herring’s bright color palette full of pinks, purples, and blues create a visually stunning comic. Fight scenes are thrilling, and alien and enemy designs are completely lovely. 

My favorite parts of the comic art-wise is of Richard and the demons that torment and infect him (no spoilers…) These depictions are mind-blowingly gorgeous and haunting. Not much else to say other then to take a look for yourself! 

3. Its Pretty Fucking Funny/Endearing 

Jeff Loveness is a Emmy and WGA nominated comedic writer for Jimmy Kimmel, The Onion, and more. His extremely well-crafted dialogue is full of humor and fun, and the comedy makes the characters even more charming. He also enjoys poking fun at the ridiculousness of the comic world: 

(This scene has like 20,000 notes so why did none of ya’ll actually buy the comic)

I also love how the humor in Sam’s scenes make him a very endearing kid you really want to root for. Sam’s self-doubt and typical teenage insecurity is very relatable and always depicted in the best ways: 

Unfortunately, despite all the good reviews and positive fan feedback, this comic is getting cancelled after 7 issues, which is a huge mistake on Marvel’s part. Nova really feels like its just starting on something big, and it was heartbreaking for me to hear about its cancellationI really wish I wrote this sooner (Loveness and Perez were so bummed out about it, I feel like I personally failed them) but I’ll still do anything to promote this comic as much as possible, the creators deserve that much. Its a very charming and entertaining series, and I love this hidden gem with all my heart! I hope this convinced you to read Nova!

Definitely check out if you like: Starlord, Guardians of the Galaxy, Power-Man and Iron Fist, Ms. Marvel, Green Lanterns, and Blue Beetle. Tbh i’d even say space dramas like Voltron and Cowboy Bebop have a similar vibe.

If you enjoy the comic, please support these creators and sales by buying the comic instead of torrenting! Check out your nearest comic book store, or buy digital issues on Marvel.com or Comixology.com for #1-5! 

SHEITH FIC REC PT.2

Hey, so I’m back with more fics. Honestly I haven’t read that many fics lately, kinda distracted by trying to write my own, here’s to hoping it goes well, right? But the fandom deserves something nice in the light of all the troll fics that were posted. I was wondering if I should update my old rec list? Or should I combine this one and the other one into one massive list? What do you guys think? Anyway, same formula, titles are links and bolded, italics are my commentary. Happy reading!

Link to the last fic rec masterpost: http://lucifercaelestis.tumblr.com/post/157021445683/sheith-fic-rec

One-shots (Canon-verse)

orbit by Recluse (T) 21k

“Hey, nice to meet you. Keith, right? I’m Shiro.”

Shiro and Keith’s backstory fic, and wow, I was not expecting how it all happened. 11/10 would read again


grief by Recluse (T) 4.5k

There are five stages.

Obligatory Keith grieving over Shiro fic.


it’s not a star i see (it’s always you) by janie_tangerine (E) 18.5k

in which both Keith and Shiro are stuck with birthdays on dates they don’t like. Meeting each other makes it more than just a bit better.

Birthday fic that combines Keith’s backstory and major Keith feels with Shiro and god just read the fic please, it’s worth it.


Break Out by reinkist (E) 10.8k

An unexpected reaction to the alien plant life forces Keith and Shiro to have to reevaluate what their relationship is, and what it could be.

Sex pollen fic. Warning for dubious consent. Trope-y as it is, I like how it forces them to confront with certain things.


Falling Forward by flyingisland (T) 3.5k

Shiro is a romantic catastrophe, even with an excellent wingman like Pidge.

Pining Shiro is the best.


crash collide into space by ohmygodwhy (T) 2.6k

Shiro’s gone and all he has left of him are a shitty couch and a few pictures on his phone and dog tags that he’s afraid to touch because touching them feels like accepting the fact that Shiro will never touch them again. If he holds them for long enough any traces of Shiro’s touch will be wiped away and replaced, like they were never there to begin with, like Shiro was never there to begin with.

They deserve to be happy together goddamnit.

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anonymous asked:

I love the idea of a friendship growing between MC and Jaehee at first because they're both the only girls and, like, sometimes you just gotta talk smack about the boys with another girl, but then it blossoms into this really good and deep friendship and I was wondering if you could maybe show how that friendship would manifest with MC's different relationships with the RFA boys and V?

A/N: THIS IS SUCH A GOOD IDEA AND I LOVE IT SO VERY MUCH BECAUSE I FEEL IT ON A SPIRITUAL LEVEL I WANT JAEHEE AS A BESTIE IN EVERY ROUTE (also i kind of made this how they all reacted to the friendship i hope you dont mind) ~Admin 404

*YOOSUNG:

           - I don’t think it’d affect him that much

           -Like yyeess MC I’m so happy you got best friend!!!!

           -Does get a little jealous of her though

           -“MC!!! Wanna come play some LOLOL with me???” “Nah, me and Jaehee are going to go shopping!” “But…the two of you hung out all day yesterday?” “Yeah, and we’re gonna do it again! I’ll text you later!”

           -HE WANTS SOME MC TIME TOO *angry eyebrows*

           -As long as you make time for him, he’s a-okay!

           -But pls tell him secrets too MC he wants to be your other best friend

           -Also lowkey worried because??? What do the two of you talk about?

           -He remembered some of the things his sister and her friends used to talk about and he was nOT EXCITED

           -DID YOU TALK ABOUT HIM??? WAS IT GOOD THINGS??? OH GOD MC PLEASE TELL ME. WAIT NEVERMIND DON’T TELL ME I DONT WANT TO KNOW. WAIT YES I DO. WAIT NO. AAAAAAAAAAA

*ZEN:

           -*Slides into the living room and seductively throws himself over the side of the couch*

           -“Where the two of you talking about me?”

           - yeah talking about how you’re a total fucking DORK

           -He’s good friends with Jaehee too!! Why won’t you let him in the room for talk time ;A;

           -Tried sneaking into the room to listen but the two of you are smarter than that and have to physically throw him out of the room

           -He’s happy that you’re such good friends with her, though!!!

           -Since he’s her friend as well, he knows how badly she needed a friend for some girl talk

           -But?? Still?? He waNTS TO KNOW

           -MC WHAT DO YOU SAY ABOUT ME TO YOUR FRIENDS AAAAAAAA

           - honestly pouts and sits outside of the door sometimes when the two of you throw him out, blows up your phone until you yell through the door

*JUMIN:

           -This….is so weird

           -Why is Assistant Kang in his house

           -Tries to hand her work almost every single time

           -Until you kind of knock it out of his hand and it falls to the floor

           -?????? MC????? It’s her job??????

           -“She is here as my GUEST Jumin, YOU do that work”

           -G A S P MC WHAT

           -Overall he’s just so…..awkward when you and Jaehee hang out at home. Otherwise, he could care less if the two of you were close friends. He loves that you have a close friend to talk with! He also doesn’t care if the two of you talk about him, whatever

           -Like how is he supposed to act??? He’s almost two different people. He’s so laid back at home with you and all business when he’s at work with Jaehee. WhaT IS HE SUPPOSED TO DO ;A;

           - locks himself in his office when she’s over to avoid the awkwardness

*SAEYOUNG:

           -*dresses up as a girl*

           -*slides into the room to join the girl talk*

           -*is promptly kicked out by the two of you*

           -The only person he had like that in his life was his brother

           -But they’ve been apart for so long, and with everything that happened….

           -He tries to have that kind of friendship now and Saeran just kind of walks out of the room

           -So!!!! He’s happy for you!!! But also very jealous (though he hides it)

           -You can tell how upset he gets sometimes, and you and Jaehee agree to let him hang out every now and then to make him happy

           - only if he dresses up like a girl

           -When the two of you don’t let him in, he just turns on the CCTV because??? He wants the juicy gossip on all of the members too??? BAD SAEYOUNG

*V:

           -Completely respects your privacy

           -Please, MC, you and Jaehee spend all the time you would like together

           -Talk about whatever you would like

           -Your laughter is muSIC TO HIS EARS

           -HE HAS TO STOP HIMSELF FROM RUNNING IN WITH HIS CAMERA TO CAPTURE THE BEAUTIFUL, WARM MOMENTS BETWEEN THE TWO OF YOU

           -He couldn’t care less what the two of you talked about

           -Knows that if you want to share with him, you will

           -Plus, Jaehee isn’t really a loud, rowdy person well most of the time

           -So!! She can stay all she wants!!! It doesn’t break the nice relaxed feeling of the house and he appreciates that

           -He even makes the two of you tea and some snacks every now and then!!! hes like a mum omfg

*SAERAN:

           -What do you mean you’re going out

           -What do you mean I can’t come in and sit in the living room

           -whAT DO YOU MEAN BY GIRL TIME WHAT THE FUCK IS GIRL TIME

           -MC WHAT DID I DO WRONG ARE YOU MAD AT ME??

           - someone please help him he doesn’t understand how this all works

           -Constant reassuring that you’re just going to hang out with Jaehee!! You aren’t mad!!

           -There’s just some things you have to talk about with a girl friend, ya know??

           -If you bring up even a slightly awkward topic he gets flustered and immediately agrees to leave the two of you alone

           -A lot of the time though, Jaehee doesn’t mind if he’s there? He’s actually pretty quiet and uninterested

           -He just likes to talk shit about Saeyoung let him into the conversation every now and then plEASE he needs to get it out

Cursed Child Scorbus Rec List

This really has become more of an index than a rec list, with categories of: 

Full length chaptered stories, Series, arcs, collections and short chaptered stories, Atmospheric, poetic, ficlets and drabbles, Pre-slash, Fluff, Established relationships, Flangst, Dark Angst, Humor, Holidays, Coming Out, Smut, Fix-Its/Re-Writes, and AUs

Last time I counted there were over 200 fics on here!

Basically my requirements for this list are:
Is it Cursed Child compliant, in the CC universe or do the characterizations feel close enough to CC?
No disturbing side-pairings or themes (i.e. no dub-con, abuse, drug use, infidelity or major character death. Exceptions will have warnings.)
Is it decently written, easy enough to understand and not cringe-worthy?
Did it make me smile or feel things?
Have I actually read it?

There are many stories, especially multi-chapters and WIPs, that I haven’t gotten around to yet, so this list is mostly made up of one-shots. It is my New Year’s resolution to read longer works. Feel free to add your recommendations in your reblog! Happy Holidays you wonderful little fandom! 

Note: I have categorized these fairly loosely. Some fics may fit into more than one category, but I don’t list them twice unless they are individual parts of an arc. The first section is uncategorized. They are a few of my faves, though I definitely have favorites in other categories like atmospheric and fluff, however these ones seemed slightly more complex and are a bit longer. So consider this category…


A Good Place to Start

*Best Mates- picascribit

“You deserve to be with someone who really likes you. Who thinks you’re brilliant.“

Scorpius grinned. “I’ve got you for that.”

One of the first Albus/Scorpius stories I read after CC, and still one of my favorites. This is Part 1 of Pica’s Scorbus Arc, but it is perfect as a stand-alone. The stories do get more mature.

*The First Date- rainystreetlights

“Still under the impression that you should have been the first to get a girlfriend eh? What can I say… Ladies love me.”

“Ladies tolerate you.”

‘One-Shot set in Albus and Scorpius’ sixth year at Hogwarts. When Rose doesn’t show up, Albus and Scorpius end up going on an accidental first date. Pure Scorpius and Albus fluff. Awkward conversations and a lot of strange situations’.

I love this so much. This author has seen the play and it shows. Her characterizations and dialogue are so spot on. So awkward, adorable and heartfelt!

*The Ball- torestoreamends

‘A ball is being held at Hogwarts to celebrate the end of fifth and seventh year exams. Scorpius has agreed to go with Rose, and Albus shouldn’t be as upset about that as he is. Dancing, fancy robes, obliviousness, and a small sprinkling of brotherly advice ensue.’

This is so gorgeous. Just her description of the robes slayed me. Read everything by torestoreamends!

*Seasons- starlightpeddlar

‘From the moment Scorpius and Albus get on the Hogwarts Express for their fifth year, things start to change. Albus starts to gain confidence both in the classroom and out of it, and Scorpius’ realization that he has greater feelings for his best friend threatens to leave him more alone than he’d ever imagined’.

Wonderful four chapter prequel to ‘Quietly’. Quietly is quite long and intense, but this is a nice getting together story, though it is still quite meaty and introduces important themes for the series.

*Put Your Guns Away Its Tea Time- frombluetored

‘Ginny Potter estimates it will only take three days into the Weasley-Potter family holiday for Albus to act on his feelings for his best friend. Albus estimates it will only take three days for him to die of embarrassment. And Scorpius, well. Scorpius is just glad to be there with Albus in the first place.’

I love this so much! The characters are so spot on and we get to see other Next Gen kids as well as all the grown up characters we love. Come for the Scorbus, stay for Ginny and the whole Weasley clan.

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The fact that Jordan Gavaris and Tatiana Maslany can play so many different dynamics between the two of them and still maintain that chemistry that they always have shows how talented they both are.

anyway i am so proud that i am such an avid fan of such a praiseworthy show that continues to teach and teach and teach us again and again on so many levels, in so many different ways to cater for people who understand things in different ways, about life, about people, about relationships, (whether it be romantic, friendship, between parents and children or of any other kind), about society and politics, about our similarities and differences, about physical and mental health, about religion and culture, about gender, about feminism and girls supporting girls through thick and thin, about boys being soft with one another and able to weep and cry, about race and sexuality, about acceptance, about diversity, about tolerance, about breaking stereotypes,

whilst still telling us that making mistakes is a humane thing, but to learn from the mistakes we make in life and better ourselves, and to enjoy life, and celebrate life.

what did i do to deserve to blessed with such a ground breaking show like skam, tbh.

friends with benefits with jason would include
  • having rules in the beginning 
  • strict rules like no sleepovers
  • no getting jealous and if someone starts to feel attached (and its one sided) then it’s over
  • refusing to let it come between your friendship 
  • you already borrowed his clothes but now he full on ‘looses’ t shirts and hoodies all the time 
  • confiding in each other about pretty much anything 
  • opening up why you have troubles on keeping relationships 
  • you both trust each other a lot that’s why you started doing this in the first place 
  • only realizing you had feelings for him after a couple of months 
  • having the opportunity to be with different people but both passed 
  • a lot of making out 
  • a  lot
  • him taking his time with you in bed, altho it was a fwb relationship sometimes he really liked to just seize the moment 
  • quickies
  • so many in your car, shower and once even in a public bathroom 
  • Jason talks about you all the time to Roy
  • Roy suspecting something and saying ‘oh so that’s it you’re screwing each other’ in middle of dinner casually
  • you and Jason looking at each other like ‘wtf’
  • both of you being stubborn af about admitting your feelings 
  • Jason finally telling roy how he feels 
  • ‘I don’t know man, should I tell her? What if she wants to end it?’
  • Roy being the one setting you up forcing you to tell Jay about how you feel
  • you and Jason start dating almost immediately  
3

1991 FRIED GREEN TOMATOES, dir. Jon Avnet

You’re just a bee charmer, Idgie Threadgoode. That’s what you are. A bee charmer.

Two differing contemporary reviews of the film:

“The…trouble is the script’s implicit cowardice. Every attribute of the story of these two young women implies a lesbian attachment. For that lesbian love, Masterson rescues Parker, and that love warms their subsequent lives…But the screenplay omits any mention of this implied component.” - Stanley Kauffman, The New Republic

“[The filmmakers] show commendable tact and subtlety in the extraordinary friendship between Idgie and Ruth, allowing viewers to make up their own minds about the precise nature of the relationship.” - Abbie Bernstein, Hollywood Drama-Logue

FGT is a landmark film for many a queer viewer, presenting what appears to be a clear romantic storyline. It’s a nice change from the way lesbians are often presented in fetishized/oversexed ways in mainstream media, but in this case it may have been reigned in too much. It had to be watered down enough from its source material to qualify as a “women’s movie,” which is to say straight women, who the studio couldn’t afford to alienate. imo, the first reviewer is right - this is not commendable tact, it’s enforced cowardice.

It’s a shame we couldn’t have it all.

After the Raven Cycle

So I know a lot of people have been collectively screaming/crying after the end of Maggie Stiefvater’s incredible quartet. But the biggest question seems to be: What to read next?  A lot of recommendations have been floating around tumblr, so I decided to compile them here for everybody.

The Foxhole Court: Chances are, you’ve already read this series. But if you haven’t, you should. Neil Josten transfers to a new college to play a pretty rough sport called exy (sort of like rugby). While he’s there, he gets wrapped up in the relationships and drama of his new teammates, and the dynamic is pretty interesting. It’s heavily character-based, with a lot of “found family” trope and beautiful writing. The first book is free on iTunes!

The Secret History: This book by Donna Tartt has been compared a lot to The Raven Cycle, and with good reason. The writing style and themes are very similar, as well as the enigmatic but intriguing cast of characters. Richard is a struggling college student who enrolls in the Latin program at a private college. His classmates - only 5 of them - drag him into their obsession with Greek and Roman culture, which involves a lot of drugs, alcohol, hookups, and murder. It’s more of the “found family” trope with a lot more mystery on the side. While it’s an internationally recognized and loved novel, it’s a lot more adult than most of the books on the list, just be aware.

Aristotle and Dante Discovery the Secrets of the Universe: This is another popular. It explores the relationship and lifestyles of two Hispanic 15-year-olds as they come to learn about the world, themselves, and the people around them. While a more somber novel, Aristotle and Dante’s friendship is amazing. The book also deals with the problems of discovering one’s identity, especially considering race and sexuality.

The Captive Prince: Lots of courtly politics in this one! In the fictional land of Vere, Damen has been denied his role in government by his half-brother. He is thrown together with the deadly and suspicious Prince Laurent in his grapple for power. More LGBT romance here, but again, there’s a lot of adult themes, especially concerning sex. Very good writing, very character-driven.

The Song of Achilles: A different take on the relationship between the famous Trojan characters Achilles and Patroclus, Madeline Miller portrays their relationship through the Trojan War as romantic rather than platonic, and has been praised for doing so. While the writing is more simplistic than most people expect, the relationship between the two protagonists is portrayed beautifully. Even Rick Riordan is a huge fan.

If anyone has any other recommendations for this list, I’d love to hear them. Additionally, if anyone has any questions (or just wants to yell about books), I’d love to talk!