in middle school, I was introduced to this girl and after greeting her she looked at me dead in the eyes and said “you have a beautiful smile. it lights up the entire room” and honestly it totally made my year.
There is literally no reason for asexuals to Not be included in the LGBTQ+ community
Simply put, it just makes sense.
1: Ace people face very similar issues to many other LGBTQ+ folks (compulsory heterosexuality, corrective rape, abuse in relationships/at home/by friends bc of sexuality, heteronormativity, stigma, pathologisation etc). These are simply facts.
1.5: Also try asking yourself, why are you okay with calling bad treatment of overweight people “fatphobia” but not bad treatment of aroace people “aphobia”? It’s simply an easy to use term that is well established in the community. Also the argument that ace people don’t experience discrimination and oppression the same was other LGBTQ+ people do falls kind of flat, bc neither do lesbians in comparison to bisexual men, or nonbinary trans people in comparison to bisexual women. (Also please stop calling yourselves “aphobes”, make “i hate ace people” “””jokes”””, or compare us to mike pence and similar (yes ive seen this). I am, like many other aces, queer. it’s really insensitive, it’s rude, it makes me and many others feel awful and betrayed by our own community. Just, please stop).
2: Ace people don’t “steal” or take resources from other LGBTQ+ folks. If an ace person is homeless, then they do need shelter (like, if a gay person is homeless for a reason unrelated to their sexuality, for example chronical physical illness, then are they “stealing” LGBTQ+ resources? No. They’re not). And if an ace person is suicidal etc bc of their sexuality, then they do need that LGBTQ+ suicide hotline. If it is like you all say, that ace people don’t need these resources, then they won’t take them either. Simple as that.
3: And no, the full acronym isn’t necessarily LGBTQ. the acronym has changed A Lot throughout the years. from “gays and lesbian association” to what it is today, with a lot of acronyms and variants before that and on the journey till today. Accepting those in need and those similar to us is just how this community naturally evolves!
3.5: …And no, this doesn’t mean that pedophiles, zoophiles, and “kinky” people will be allowed into the community. Those aren’t sexual orientations and you know it. And they are not oppressed, discriminated against, or unfairly treated in society. This I have trouble expressing in English but I think you all get what I mean.
4: That argument generally is pretty USA centric. In many countries the current official acronym is in fact HBTQ (in popular media and newspaper), and HBTQ+ by official HBTQ+ organisations and other educated people! and many countries use different terminology entirely based on their language and history.
5: And no, there is no reason to exclude ace people bc “they’re our oppressors” bc guess what? Ace people are more often than not not straight (They are only straight if they choose to use the split attraction model, identify as either heteroromantic asexual or heterosexual aromantic, and identify as straight. You do not get to choose an ace person’s labels and erase their identity.), they don’t have hetero privilege (straight passing isn’t a privilege remember). also:
5.5: Cis people oppress trans people. White peoples oppress POC. Abled people oppress disabled people. And we share the community anyway, right? Sadly, it’s not a 100% safe space for all people. It’s too a diverse community for that. However, that doesn’t mean that we can exclude people based on that! Of course, ace people can’t speak over gay people on gay issues, the same way gay people can’t speak over trans people on trans issues.
6: Ace people are already accepted into the LGBTQ+ community by most people and organisations etc who know about aroace people. Both online and offline. We get taught about it in sex ED in school as such, official pride organisations include it in their commercials and information etc, and ace people are welcome and will in fact Not be hunted or targeted by other LGBTQ+ folks at pride! Generally speaking, this is tumblr phenomenon and something most regular pride goers don’t even know about.
Just making my stance on this matter clear on this subject bc recently I’ve seen a huge rise in discourse and nasty people saying terrible things, on both sides mind you, but yeah. My opinions, incomplete and defintely open to change. (And before you people go off a note, I’m ace, bi, and trans).
A list of terms and simple definitions for the CGl world
DD- Daddy Dominant MD- Mommy Domme CG- Caregiver LG- Little girl LB- Little Boy LO- Little One CGL- Caregiver & Little DDlg- Daddy Dom & little girl DDlb- Daddy Dom & little boy MDlg- Mommy Domme & little girl MDlb- Mommy Domme & little boy ABDL- Adult Baby Diaper Lover AB- Adult Baby DL- Diaper Lover LDR- Long Distance Relationship SSC- Safe Sane consensual RACK- Risk Aware Consensual Kink BDSM- Bondage/Discipline Dominant/Submissive Sadism/Masochism D/s- Dominant/submissive NSFW- Not Safe For Work SFW- Safe for Work SO- Significant Other
Little- a little is a person who mentally (or physically) feels younger than they physically are. The term little is often a broad spectrum. It can cover all types of individuals who feel they are younger than their physical age. A little is roughly around the ages of 0-12. We don’t set these ages in stone because not every little has an age and not every little feels they represent the above listed age.
Middle- a middle is a person who mentally (or physically) feels younger than they physically are. The term middle can fall under the little broad spectrum term. It is also known as Lolita & Nymphet. They tend to be mentally older than littles, more around the teen ages. So around 13-17. Once again ages are not set in stone because not every middle has a set age and not ever middle feels they represent the above listed age.
Dominant- An individual who is the “top” in a BDSM relationship or BDSM spectrum relationship. They tend to be the person who makes the rules, and doles out the punishment. They are also the protector of their submissive.
Submissive- A Submissive is an individual who is the “bottom” in a BDSM or BDSM spectrum relationship. They tend to be the person who receives the punishment and have to follow the enforced rules. They are the protected.
Switch- An individual who enjoys being both a Dominant and a submissive. They are known as a switch because they “switch” roles sometimes within their relationship or with a different partner.
Daddy Dom- a person who prefers a masculine identifying title, sometimes takes on the role of a Dominant but can be the submissive as well. Usually the caretaker for a little.
Mommy Domme- a person who prefers a feminine identifying title, sometimes takes on the role of a Dominant but can be submissive as well. Usually the caretaker for a little.
Caregiver- a non gender specific title that represents someone who sometimes takes on the role of a Dominant but can be a submissive. Usually a person who takes on a care taking/caregiving role to a little.
Master- A term that is used for a person who tends to only strictly play a Dominant role. They can be the Dominant of a little, submissive, or pet.
Big- Another non gender specific title that represents someone who sometimes take on the role of a Dominant but can be a submissive.
Little space- The head space a little finds themselves in during their transition, regression or when they become their little persona. Some littles are always littles and always in little space. For others it’s something to regress into.
Middle space- The head space a Middle finds themselves in during their transition, regression or when they become their Middle persona. Some Middles are always Middles and are always in middle space. For others it’s something they regress into.
Agender- Someone who has no gender. They are genderless.
Gender Fluid- A person who flows between gender. They tend to not have a set gender preference. One day they feel one way, another day they feel another way.
Gender Neutral- A term that does not specify gender. It does not favor male nor female.
Genderqueer- An umbrella term for all genders other than man and woman, or someone who simply identifies as another gender, a queer gender.
Sister- A term commonly used in Poly families, for a person who Identifies as female and is an addition to the CGL group. They can also be a little, middle or ABDL but not always.
Brother- A term commonly used in Poly families, for a person who identifies as a male and is an addition to the CGL group. They can also be a little, middle or ABDL, but not always.
ABDL- As stated above ABDL means Adult Baby Diaper Lover, people who identify themselves as an ABDL will commonly wear diapers and prefer to be treated as more infantile/baby/toddler ages. If a person wants to be treated like a baby but does not want to wear diapers they will call themselves an AB if an individual enjoys wearing diapers but not being treated like a baby they will often refer to themselves as a DL
Androgynous- A style of clothing or appearance, androgyny is also a type of genderqueer, the state of being in between man and woman, or both man and woman.
Demiboy-Someone partly a boy, and partly something else, without defining that other part.
Demigirl- Someone partly a girl, and partly something else, without defining that other part.
Sexuality Terms & Defintions-
Poly- An individual who is capable of loving more than one person at once. They prefer the company of multiple people but not necessarily all at once. They also are not always sexually involved with their poly family members. It can be a non sexual relationship.
Heterosexual- A person who is sexually attracted to an individual of the opposite sex.
Gay/Lesbian- (better term other than homosexual???) An individual who is attracted to the same sex.
Bisexual- A person who is sexually attracted to individuals in the same sex as well as the opposite sex.
Asexual- A person who has no sexual feelings or desires towards another person.
Pansexual- An individual who has the ability to be sexually attracted to a person no matter their gender.
Aromantic- A person who lacks the desire or interest in romantic feelings towards another person.
Panromantic- An individual who has the ability to be romantically attracted to a person no matter their gender.
Demisexual- An individual who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form a strong emotional connection with someone.
Demiromantic- An individual who only experiences romantic attraction after developing an emotional connection beforehand.
Kinks and their definitions-
Pet Play- a form of role playing that involves a person taking on the role of a pet and another taking on the role of the Master. Common examples are kitten, puppy and pony.
Teacher/student- A form of role play that involves a person taking on the role of a student and the other the role of a teacher and acting out a sometimes sexual scenario.
Rope Play- A kink that is not always sexual in nature but involves a person being bound, suspended, or tied in some fashion with ropes.
Impact Play- A kink that involves spanking, flogging, cropping, paddling, or anything that involves “impact” on the body. (most commonly used in the CGL realm as spanking) This kink is not always a sexual kink.
Wax Play- A kink that involves playing with heated and melted wax in safe conditions. Where an individual willingly pours hot wax (specialty bought for this purpose) on their partner or themselves. Certain waxes need to be used to prevent harm. This kink is not always sexual in nature.
Age Play- a type of role play where an individual acts out an age younger than they physically are. They are playing out a role. Because of this they are not considered littles.
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ive read so many damn good fics, so i decided to compile all these amazing fics into one list so you all can go give these authors some lov bc they deserve it !! if i could give 10000 kudos to all of these i could but sadly i cant :’( anyways, here we go!! (also this isn’t all of them, as sometimes i forget to bookmark fics, so I will definitely add more as i read more amazing fics!!) ((ps. i started with adding my commentary but i dont wanna be repetitive so just know that these are my absolute faves and i could write a whole essay for all of them!!))