the boy who treats you the way you deserve

What boys say: You shouldn’t be with him, he doesn’t deserve you. I could treat you way better so you should be with me.

What girls hear: I’m a condescending asshole who feels so entitled to you that I’m completely disregarding your decision-making faculties in an assumption that I can make better decisions for a human being than they can. 

Women aren’t lost, misguided little souls looking for the right guy to set us in the right direction. We are competent humans in control of our own destiny, fully capable of making our own decisions about which people to let into our lives. 

If he doesn’t respond to your texts. But decides to text you at 10pm telling you how gorgeous you are, Do not respond.

If he tells you he misses you, and he still loves you even though he’s only hurt you time and time again, nod and walk away.

If he says he likes you a lot, but won’t commit, cut him off and move on.
 
If he made you cry, yet again. Don’t let him do it another time.

Don’t waste your time on boys who only use you when it’s convenient for them. Do not give them that convenience. You are not 7/11, you’re a human who truly deserves to be valued and respected. Know when to cut him off, and move forward, and focus your time onto something beneficial for you. You really deserve that. Know your worth, add taxes and don’t give any discounts. If he wants you, he’ll sweep you up without a second thought, and treat you the way you deserve.

—  You’re worth a lot more than he gives you credit for. 

a thank you letter to the boy who didn’t treat me right,
thank you for teaching me a very valuable lesson. thank you for making me realize how beautiful, deserving, and lovable i am. these realizations of course were not because you made me feel these things (don’t flatter yourself) but because i came out of this relationship with a much deeper understanding of just how valuable i really am. how dare you make me feel inadequate, not worthy of being loved, and unsure of myself. im not sure i will ever understand how a human can be so cruel to another the way that you were with me, but i am at peace with it now. i am coming to terms with all that has happened, and i am ready now more than ever to close this chapter and rid myself of you completely. i will no longer let your words or actions stain me the way i let them before.

You are so much more than the boy who won’t give you the chance you deserve. Your self worth is not, nor will it ever be, measured by one ungrateful boy who always took advantage of the way you treated him like he was a god in your world.

He is not a god, sweetheart. Look real closely at him, look real hard, and reflect on how he has treated you. Smile because he was amazing. Cry because he was cruel. Then know that he does not need to be punished for it.

He is lovely in his own way and you should not be upset with yourself for falling so easily into his loveliness. Any one with a heart the size of yours would’ve done the same. You are not alone in your decision to stick by his side. You may have been mistaken for staying as long as you did, but he was wrong for stringing you along the way he did. No one is perfect.

Someday, some very lucky girl will call him hers but you won’t cringe at the idea of his heart belonging to someone else entirely because someday you will have someone, some very lucky boy who appreciates you 10x more than he ever could have.

But until then you must learn to love yourself fiercely and adequately. You are an ocean of love, overflowing radiantly to anyone lucky enough to know you and he was just a self centered, beautiful, but empty boy. You had an entire ocean and you still could not fill his void. That says a lot more about him than it ever could about you.

You did nothing wrong.
And you will surely find another blue eyed boy to fall in love with.
You do not need him and you never did, darling, you never did.

—  Constant Reminders
Daisy, Part 2- A Peter Parker Imagine

@jayzaym requested: Dude! Daisy got me crying omfg. It may be too quick but could you do a part two when they meet 2 to 5 years in the future. I don’t really care if it would be a happy ending or not. These kind of stories help me love writing more. Thanks dude!

This has been my favorite imagine that I’ve written so far, honestly, and I’m glad to continue it!!

Here is Daisy Part 1

Daisy Part 2

The one thing about time is that it forces you to learn things. As you got older, you learned things. The way that you were in your past wasn’t who you wanted to be as an adult; you were sick of these little boys trampling all over your heart. What you wanted was a real man, a man that gave up his time for you and treated you the way you deserved to be treated. When you were in high school, you were the girl that guys walked all over. You had zero self confidence, but what comes with age is self actualization. You knew exactly who you were and what/who you wanted, and you knew exactly who it was that you wanted.

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just a reminder.

You are so much more than the boy who won’t give you the chance you deserve. Your self worth is not, nor will it ever be, measured by one ungrateful boy who always took advantage of the way you treated him like he was a god in your world.

He is not a god, sweetheart. Look real closely at him, look real hard, and reflect on how he has treated you. Smile because he was amazing. Cry because he was cruel. Then know that he does not need to be punished for it. He is lovely in his own way and you should not be upset with yourself for falling so easily into his loveliness. Any one with a heart the size of yours would’ve done the same. You are not alone in your decision to stick by his side. You may have been mistaken for staying as long as you did, but he was wrong for stringing you along the way he did. No one is perfect.

Someday, some very lucky girl will call him hers but you won’t cringe at the idea of his heart belonging to someone else entirely because someday you will have someone, some very lucky boy who appreciates you 10x more than he ever could have. But until then you must learn to love yourself fiercely and adequately. You are an ocean of love, overflowing radiantly to anyone lucky enough to know you and he was just a self centered, beautiful, but empty boy. You had an entire ocean and you still could not fill his void. That says a lot more about him than it ever could about you.

You did nothing wrong. And you will surely find another boy who will treat you like a princess to fall in love with.  You do not need him and you never did, darling, you never did.

When you’re young everything feels like the end of the world. But it’s not; it’s just the beginning. You might have to meet a few more jerks, but one day you’re gonna meet a boy who treats you the way you deserve to be treated. Like the sun rises and sets with you.
—  Zac Efron, 17 Again

Explain the way my sister who has been jumping from one guy to another every couple of months just because they could make her smile over a few texts for the past 11 years.
Explain the way she could never make a home out of someone, and explain the uncertainty in her answer when i asked, “do you love the boy you’re seeing now?”
Explain the way she could dump someone over a petty argument instead of working things out with them and finally, finally have something to last justifying that she doesn’t deserve to be treated any less when i know she wants to feel in control.
In other people’s eyes, she’s a slut and she so called falls easily for all the sugar coated words any boy cheaply says to her to get in her pants but i found all my answers when i asked her who out of all the countless numbers of boys she has dated broke her heart the most, and she answered,

“the boy i loved when i was sixteen.”

Story time: school

So I was roaming the halls to get to class and as I was hugging one of my friends I noticed a girl walking up behind a boy. This particular boy was known to be weird and he’s not exactly perfect but flaws exist so. Anyways, this girl comes up behind the boy (the boy was trying to get to class, minding his own business) and says “Hey ugly ew don’t touch me!” I stood their for 4 seconds amazed at how rude and disrespectful this girl was to this boy who was clearly about to cry, so I spoke up. I half-heartily yelled at her “THIS BOY IS A HUMAN BEING HE DOES NOT DESERVE TO BE TREATED THIS WAY. THAT WAS SO DISRESPECTFUL AND RUDE.” And all she did was yell at me and say “YOU NEED TO MIND YOUR OWN BUSINESS!”
No. I did not. I was standing here watching you BULLY THIS KID TO TEARS. I was not going to let you. And then I find out that she was talking about me and calling me annoying for standing up for this kid and that she would have punched me in the face.

If you see someone getting bullied, please speak up. It’s not okay and it’s just rude and disrespectful to think that you can bully someone for your own amusement. If you are the problem, fix it. If you aren’t the problem, speak up and help.

The boy that you want, is in love with a girl. And soon that girl will love him back. But you will still love him because you see the way he treats her like she’s the last girl on earth or that she puts the stars in his. The way he treats her is the way you want to be treated so you hold onto the hope that one day he will realise that he was wrong and that he loves you.

But darling girl, that day will never come. All that boy does is bring you down and make you hold onto to false hope. You deserve a boy who will choose you first. You who is a friend before anything else. You deserve to be looked at like you put the stars on the sky. He is the same as you. He is wanting you while you want someone else and who knows how long he will wait.

The boy that you want doesn’t want you. You need to move on before a boy that wants you moves on.

—  @im-oceanna
why her?
—  okay if he’s giving more attention to a girl that doesn’t see him the way you do then leave that boy and find a guy who treats you like your a princess and nothing less because you’re a beaut and you deserve to loved so deeply