So this is gonna seem really random but today i went with my aunt (a second grade teacher) to work with her and i saw a little boy drawing this and i just HAD to take a picture. But not only because ‘aw cmon look how cute’ but more cuz its honestly so pleasantly surprising that in a country such as the one i live in (feel free to ask) where sexism and homophobia is sadly the norm some seven year old boy who’s probably been raised on blue clothes and toy cars is head over heels over a cartoon with 90% female characters and with such powerful lessons as Steven Universe, which has been widely critisized here, and even going so far to say its his favorite show, we sang the intro song together and stuff, but anyway, i just want everyone to see how great of an artist this boy is like whoa, honestly
(on the second pic is the short gems i requested for him to draw , peri, ruby and sapphy, the latter two he described as “oh yeah, they make garnet when they dance, theyre like married”, like come on parents its not that hard)
okay sorry rant over lol
I’m losing my mind losing my mind losing control, oh oh
These fishes in the sea they’re staring at me oh oh
A wet world aches for a beat of a drum
Seven years ago
“Juggie!” The boy turned, but barely had the chance to even manage a smile, you’d already caught up to him, and stolen the grey beanie from the top of his head. “Mom said I can go home with you today” You told him, and he grinned.
“Good! You can finally come see my new room! We painted it over in a new color” The eight year old boy responded, and you grinned and nodded excitedly.
“Guys you always leave me behind!” You both turned, as a panting Archie ran to catch up with you on the sidewalk.
“Sorry Arch but you’re just too slow” Jughead said.
“Yeah, even I’m not that slow” You said. “That’s why I get to wear the hat” You grinned cheekily, and the red haired boy rolled his eyes.
“No. You wear the hat ‘cause Jug’s all in love with you” Again, you grinned, and hooked your arm through Jughead’s.
“Well that’s why we got married” You said like it was obvious.
“But you told me that we had to wait” Jughead stuck out a pouty lip.
“Only because my Mom said it’s not legal because we’re too young” You told him. “But when we’re eighteen, we can get married” You said, and he smiled again quickly. “Ooh! Can we get married at Pop’s!?” You asked excitedly.
“Yeah! We can use the onion rings as the wedding rings!” Jughead exclaimed, proud of himself for coming up with such a good idea.
If I could find a way to see this straight
I’d run away
To some fortune that I, I should have found by now
“I just don’t get it. Why’s she go crawling back to him when he’s clearly a douche” You said, putting popcorn in your mouth. Jughead rolled his eyes. You both were at the Twilight Drive In, watching whatever chick flick was showing tonight because hey, Jughead worked here, so it was free. You were pretty much here every night, but tonight was the last night that it was open. You were sat in the back of Kevin’s truck, you between both boys.
“Sounds vaguely familiar” The boy with the crown beanie said, referring to your sleazy boyfriend Reggie.
“Oh shut it Jones” You said, swatting his arm, and looking to Kevin to back you up.
“He’s got a point” Kevin said, and you narrowed your eyes at him. “Well I mean if he was a good- where is he tonight?”
“I can’t hang out with my friends?” You defended.
“Well when was the last time you hung out with Reggie?” Jughead asked you, and again your narrowed your eyes.
“Just today in school-”
“No like a date. You know. That thing couples do” You rolled your eyes now, tired of always having this conversation. You weren’t mad at either of them, of course not. If anything you were mad at yourself. Because you knew they were right.
I’m waiting for this cough syrup to come down,
Jughead walked home with you, a backpack with all of his belongings on his back. Since the Drive In was getting bulldozed today, you’d told him to come spend the night with you, and that you’d figure out a better situation later. Right now all you could think of was Archie’s house, but Jug and Archie haven’t been doing too hot, and you didn’t want him to be uncomfortable.
“So, how’re you feeling?” You asked him, and he shrugged his shoulders.
“I don’t know I guess. I feel like it hasn’t really clicked” He told you honestly, and you nodded in understanding.
“I wish you could just live with me” You said, entering your neighborhood now. “But mom didn’t really like that idea of mine” You chuckled a little. A bitter and sad one.
“Yeah me too” Jughead gave you a slight smile, which made you feel a little better. “I’ll figure something out though” He said, hooking an arm over your shoulders. “I always do” You leaned your head against the side of his shoulder, staying silent as you walked like this. After a few moments, he took his hat off. Then set it on your head, tugging it down over your ears so you’d stay warm. For some reason you never planned your outfits for the chilly weather of Riverdale.
When you got home, there was a note on the door from your Mom. Saying that she went to bed and that Jughead best be sleeping in the guest room. You’d laughed softly upon reading it, and kicked off your shoes. Jughead did the same, and followed you into the kitchen.
“I’m getting water you want anything? Something to eat or drink?”
“That’s alright I’m fine” He replied as you filled your glass. “Has Reggie ever been here?” He didn’t really know why he asked this, or why it mattered, but for some reason he wanted to know.
“Um.. no? Why?” You asked, taking a drink of your water.
“Well I was just thinking, Kevin and Archie and Betty and I have been in and out of this house our whole lives, and you’ve been dating Reggie for like.. Two months now and he’s never been inside?”
“I-I don’t know we never have the time” You said, shaking your head and walking out of the kitchen. Jughead followed you again.
“Well maybe he should make the time-”
“Jug why does any of this matter?” You asked.
“Because that’s what people who love each other do they make the time to be together why do you think I’m always dragging you to Pop’s and the Drive In?” He raised his voice, not really yelling because he knew your mother was asleep upstairs. You stared at him for a moment, swallowing thickly and setting your water down on the coffee table. “I’m sorry that was out of-”
You reached forward, cupping his face between your hands and pulling his lips down to meet yours. It was like instinct to him, pulling you closer and tangling a hand up in your hair, his hat falling off of your head.
“Reggie and I don’t love each other” You mumbled, lips brushing against his slightly. Jughead looked from your lips to your eyes
It was quiet for a few moments, until you both smiled slightly and pulled away. You wanted to kiss again, you both did honestly, but that would be wrong. You were technically still dating Reggie.
“Let’s go upstairs” You said quietly, and he nodded, lifting up his backpack and walking with you up the stairs. You sorta pointed to where the guest room, and he nodded, entering and looking around. You stood at the doorway, watching as he was inspecting the room. “There used to be a monster under the bed, but Mom said that she exterminated it a few years ago” The boy chuckled, setting his bag by the bed.
“I’m uh… I’m gonna go change for bed” You jerked your thumb over your shoulder, and Jughead nodded. You shut his door and walked into your own room, closing your door behind you. You took in a few deep breaths, assessing everything that had just happened in the past half hour. Your head buzzed and it wasn’t until you were in sleep shorts and a tee shirt, that you caught a glance of yourself in the mirror. The beanie had managed to stay on your head. Barely, Jughead had nearly pulled it off, but it rested there on top of your messy hair.
You giggled to yourself with giddiness, again your thoughts rushing over what your day had been like. Somehow Reggie making out with you earlier in the crowded hallway, was nothing compared to Jughead sweetly kissing you in the empty living room.
Life’s too short to even care at all,
I’m coming up now, coming up now out of the blue,
These zombies in the park they’re looking for my heart,
A dark world aches for a splash of the sun
Jughead was laying on the guest bed, he’d stayed overnight before, but it was a long time ago, when Archie and him would share this bed after a long day of playing outside and at the park. When you’d all grown up, your parents weren’t exactly happy about hormonal teenagers sharing a bed.
He was on phone, typing away at the document that his novel was on, but once he’d written nearly a whole chapter about the beautiful y/n l/n, he’d decided maybe he wasn’t in the right mindset to be working on it. So he’d shut off his phone, and slid it up on the bedside table. It took a long time to even remotely get tired, his brain working overtime thinking about the events of the night. He could also hear you walking around your room, probably pacing as you studied, like always. Super late, and moving erratically around your room. Here and there he’d hear your voice, but not the words. Also something you commonly did while studying something. But eventually he was drifting off to sleep to your ramblings about something unknown to him.
A few minutes later, his door creaked open. “Jug?” You called softly, and he hummed, not bothering to open his eyes because he knew it was you. “Can I come in?” He nodded, humming again, and you entered on your tiptoes, shutting the door silently behind you, as not to alert your mother that you were in a closed room with a boy. She’s a parent, she worries.
“Y’ okay?” Jughead mumbled.
“Mhm” You said, coming further into the room. “Can- can I-”
“Sure” He moved back on the bed, and finally opened his eyes as you slipped under the covers. You were still wearing his hat, and brought the slightest of smiles to his lips. “Study good?” He asked as you rolled on your side to be facing him.
“Um no I wasn’t studying” You said. He looked down at the glimpse of movement, and caught you wringing your hands together. You were nervous. “I um, I… I called Reggie” You said, teeth sinking into your lip.
“Okay” Jughead replied, unsure of what to say to you.
“Life’s too short to be caring about the wrong people”
If I could find a way to see this straight
I’d run away
To some fortune that I, I should have found by now
You were walking to school the next Monday morning, in leggings and a blue jean jacket over to your red and black striped tee shirt. Your converse skipped here and there along the sidewalk.
And oh, how could I forget, you had a grey crown beanie on your head.
Until Jughead pulled it off and secured back onto his raven head of hair. You pouted at him, and he smirked.
“Sorry y/n, trust me I love when you wear it, but I’m not putting myself lower on the social class chart than I already am” You rolled your eyes, pecking your lips to his cheek quickly, and turning his smirk into a smile.
“I get it on the way home?”
“It’s not a child and we aren’t it’s divorced parents” He chuckled, and you giggled too.
“But was that a yes?” He rolled his eyes and shook his head, but the smile he wore gave you your answer, and you grinned back.
School was a normal routine. Lockers, classes, lunch, classes, student lounge. The lounge being where you were sat now, across from Veronica, and surprisingly Archie. You hadn’t really talked to the ginger in a while, but it was nice catching up, like old friends. Jughead would be with you soon, which you were slightly anxious about, seeing that the two boys hadn’t talked since the summer.
And you were right to say that Jughead was set back a bit when he came up to your table and saw Archie Andrews sitting across from you, the three of you laughing. So he did the only thing he knew he did well. He approached the table, placed a hand on your back, and the moment you turned he kissed you. Instantly you knew he wasn’t happy, (Juggie was not one for PDA) and Archie and Veronica’s brows shot up, having not known you were together.
“Took you long enough” You said, smiling unintentionally while he slid into the seat next to you.
“Should’ve hustled” He mumbled, but it was audible to the whole table. Veronica, to spare the awkwardness, dove into a conversation with you about going to the mall that weekend. You smiled and talked to her about it, making plans to ask Betty and it could be a girls day.
Your hand was squeezing Jughead’s under the table.
And so I run now to the things they said could restore me
Restore life the way it should be
I’m waiting for this cough syrup to come down
Two and a half months. Two and a half months since the drive in was closed down. Two and a half months of your and Jughead’s relationship being a thing. Two and a half months of fixing things between Archie. Two and a half months of just good days after school in the lounge and at Pop’s. It was a simple happiness really.
You were currently invested in a book at the usual booth at Pop’s, sitting across from Jughead. Well you would be when he got here, you’d decided to come sorta early to get some extra reading in, and Pop’s was such a nice environment that you didn’t mind.
You hadn’t really heard the bell on the door, indicating that someone had come into the diner. But soon someone walked to your table ad sat down across from you. You glanced up from your book, eyes widening slightly when you saw Jughead across from you. Wearing a button down, but unbuttoned green and black flannel, with dark jeans. But most of all that stood out was that he wasn’t wearing his hat.
“Hi..?” Jughead’s brows furrowed as you just stared at him, lips parted in surprise.
“Nice- I mean hi!” You shook your head. “Y-you look nice what’s the occasion?” You stumbled out your words, which made him chuckle.
“You look lovely as well” You looked down at your regular jeans and sweater, with ratty converse on your feet.
“Um-?” You gave a funny face, and he shook his head, smiling at you genuinely
“Tonight’s a special date” He said, setting his elbows up on the table, you did too, letting him hold your hands up between you.
“It is?” You asked, suddenly worried. Was it an anniversary? His birthday?
“Two and a half months” He told you, and you raised a brow. “Of enduring dating you, and living in Archie’s house” You smiled, a laugh leaving your lips as well.
“Enduring dating me? Jug I’m so low maintenance” You said, and he chuckled. “And if you’d told me that you wanted to celebrate half month anniversaries, I could’ve dressed nicer” He squeezed your hands gently.
“I think you look beautiful” You rolled your eyes to hide the blush, but he saw it anyway. “And I was thinking to celebrate, tonight we keep ordering milkshakes until one of us passes out-”
“I love you too” You blurted, and Jughead’s lips parted slightly. “I never- you sorta… sorta said it and-”
“And I meant it” He told you. “Look, y/n I know I don’t say a whole lot of things like… like that, but I do, and it’s important that you know that”
“I do” You said, smiling softly.
“Good” Jughead grinned, just as Pop came over and took your orders.
One more spoon of cough syrup now, whoa
You had a hand on your stomach while Jughead had his arm around your back, hand lying on your waist as you two walked home from Pop’s
“Six milkshakes” You groaned. “I think I’m gonna puke”
“Eight y/n” Jug whined back, and the two of you practically leaned your weight on each other while stumbling slowly along the walk.
“Why was this a good idea?”
“I don’t remember” Your head fell against his shoulder, whining some more and his arm held you tighter.
“Hey, would you be mad if I went back to Archie’s too and crashed on the couch?” Jughead shook his head, turning to look at you and his nose coming into contact with your forehead. You hummed slightly, and he left a kiss there on your head.
“Yeah not at all” He said, and you leaned on him again, this time staying there. “I love you” A small smile graced your lips, and you slowed your walk to a stop, in front of Archie’s driveway. You turned in front of him, and your hands rested against his jaw, fingers curled at his neck.
“I love you too” You murmured back, and he wrapped both arms around your waist, smiling as he ducked his lips down to meet yours. “A lot” You added when you pulled apart, your thumb resting on the front of his chin. His lips quirked in a smile, and he tugged you against him, cradling your head against his chest. “You’re the best second grade husband ever”
One morning in late February 1957 in Fox County, PA, a man stumbled across a large J.C Penney box hidden in the grass near an isolated road. Upon closer examination the box proved to contain the battered corpse of a young boy, wrapped in a cheap flannel blanket. The police were called and the boy’s body brought in for examination.
The corpse or the box carried no identification or defining marks. The boy appeared to between four and seven years old, with badly cut blonde hair and blue eyes. The child was covered in bruises - particularly around his face - but it could not be determined if he died accidentally or was the victim of a homicide. The box was made of cheap cardboard and had 'FRAGILE’ stamped on. The only clues the blanket yielded was clumps of blonde hair that most likely came from the victim.
When the story broke the case of the 'Boy in the Box’ became a sensation; fliers bearing the boy’s face were distributed as far as California, begging for information on the boy’s identity and why he ended up in a cardboard box. The unfortunate victim was buried under a gravestone that read “America’s Unknown Child” and his mysterious death became one of of the country’s most baffling mysteries. Barring a miraculous break in the case, its likely the 'Boy in the Box’ mystery will never be solved.
A billboard concerning the disappearance of Kyron Horman, a seven year old boy who went missing in 2010. He was dropped off at school by his stepmother, but never attended his classes that day. Local state police, and the FBI both conducted criminal investigations, but Kyron remains missing to this day
Prompt(s): Prompt for Logan X Reader. Reader is a woman in her mid-late twenties who is human but a single mother to an off-looking mutant seven year old boy. She takes him to the school, hoping he’ll have a place there, and the first person she meets is Logan. She seems attracted to him, and is very curious about him in general, but she doesn’t think he could ever like someone whose life is such a mess. But her son is DETERMINED to set them up…
Notes: Ok so I know I don’t say it much but I’ve always loved Logan??? SO HAVE SOME LOGAN! Also, for everyone else reading, I tried to keep it a little more vague so they felt included.
Warning(s): Light use of language.
Being a single mother was one of the hardest things that (y/n) had ever done. Is still doing, to be exact. It’s even harder when you’re a human with a young mutant child whose powers let themselves be known early in the physical manner. He had been kicked out of his school due to it. Very stressful, very stressful indeed.
Xaviers Institute was one of the best things (y/n) had heard of. Yes, it was going to be hard to leave their young son in the hands of others, but those others were more than capable to handle him. Far more than (y/n) was, anyways. The good part, at least, was that their son was excited, jumping about and gathering the last of his things that morning. He was excited to see and meet new people and environments. (y/n) was sad to see him go.
They were a little early, about ten minutes. (y/n)’s son stood still, practically crackling with nervous yet excited energy. He held their hand, squirming slightly when all the kids passed by to get to their next class. A bigger man, burly, with hair on his arms, stopped talking to a white haired woman and looked over at (y/n). He gave a smile and walked over.
“Are you Miss (l/n)?” He asked, hands on his hips. (y/n) nodded. Damn. To be honest, this guy was hot. Like. Hot. Their son noticed and giggled, going to stand in front of his mother.
“Ah, yes, I am. My name is (y/n) (l/n) and this is my son, Jackson. I’m… I talked to Professor Xavier over the phone, so I’m guessing you’re not him?” They asked gently. Logan shook his head.
“Nah, I’m not. My name’s Logan. Chuck is teaching a class right now. Actually, he’s done but probably talking to any students who stayed after. You are a little early, but that isn’t bad. He’ll be here in a few minutes if you need to talk to him.”
“I do have a few questions but I can wait to ask him.” (y/n) answered. Logan was extremely attractive. Also, (y/n) couldn’t help but be interested in what the man’s power might be. But there was no way on Earth that he would be interested in them, especially being a single parent who’s about to leave their son at the Institute. Said son giggled and took a step forward.
“I’m Jackson. I think mom likes you.” He grinned, bright pearly teeth, even though one of his front teeth was missing. (y/n) flushed a deep red and laughed softly, pulling their son back.
“Sorry, he’s always like this. It’s nothing really-”
“Nah it’s alright. I like you too, lady. How about I give you and your son the tour of the campus. Lunch is straight afterwards so you’ll be able to see the professor then. Sound good?” Logan asked as he turned towards the door out of the foyer. (y/n), still flushed a deep red, nodded bashfully and let their son drag them out the door. Logan and (y/n) walked closely throughout the campus.
(y/n) never got to ask the professor their question.
It wasn’t uncommon for parents to visit their children. Well, actually it was a little uncommon, but the parents who did care often visited on weekends where nothing was going on. (y/n) sat in the backyard, a tree overhead them and their son as they chatted over a picnic. Also, Logan was there, but he was happy and silent.
It had been a few years since Jackson had first stepped foot into Xavier’s Institute. Over the years he never failed to set up his mother and Logan, who always went along with his schemes and bonded over them, even if their talk was small. They slowly sat closer and closer together. Which would explain how they were now, practically in each other’s lap.
Logan shifted and wrapped his arms around (y/n)’s waist and pulled them closer. ___ had run off in a promise to be back in a few minutes as he went to chat with one of his friends over some important young teenage business. Logan took this time to nuzzle himself all over (y/n), who laughed.
“Logan what are you doing?” They giggled.
“Loving you, what else?”
“I don’t know. Just thought there was a thing against too much PDA for the younger kids.” (y/n) sighed. Logan scoffed and pulled (y/n) impossibly closer.
“Fuck that. Xavier can kiss my ass.”
“I HEARD THAT!” Charles shouted from his open office window just across the yard. Logan rolled his eyes as (y/n) promptly burst into a crackling giggling fit, causing Logan to grip them harder.
“I love you.” Logan grumbled with a happy smile. (y/n) calmed down with a sigh, “I love you too, Logan. Now come on, let’s separate before Professor Xavier wheels down here and does it himself.” Logan mumbled another fuck that before scooting over, Charles at the top of the ramp leading down to the yard. (y/n) and Logan held hands for the rest of the evening, talking and playing with Jackson as though they had an eternity.
A friend of mine has a seven year old autistic boy and at school the teacher wanted to change tasks and he wasn’t ready so he waved his hand near her face and it accidentally hit her glasses and they fell off.
To me that should have resulted in the teacher reminding him to be careful because you could accidentally hit people.
But nope, instead she made a report and they suspended the seven year old child… For TWENTY DAYS.
sophiawang328: Today is the third birthday of GOT7, and I think it’s also the IGOT7’s third birthday too, although the company announced the name of IGOT7 in May 9th, 2014.
In my deep heart that GOT7 and IGOT7 are the birth of the same time, so in today’s special day , I want to be grateful that GOT7 & IGOT7 support each other through a full three years!!! This three years , you-GOT7 by seven boys transformed into the world music stage dazzling 7 stars ✨✨! This three years , you - IGOT7’s team from Korea to expand to the world … in every where just like beautiful flashing stars in the sky✨✨！ This three years, look at the GOT7 step by step onto the stage, step by step closer to the award.
step by step into the dream, step by step towards success.
It feels like watching my own kids grow up a little by little. The feeling of gratified ,happiness, sweet, joyful ,warm and sometimes with exciting feeling is unable to use words to express … However, all of this is IGOT7 and has been silently behind to support, never abandon efforts are inseparable… So I’m here to say again today: Thanks❤IGOT7 for all the support and help! Thanks❤IGOT7 for being considerate and care! Thanks❤IGOT7 for your love and affection! Thanks❤IGOT7 for always following and should aid! Thanks❤IGOT7 for encouragement & accompany! Thanks❤IGOT7 for your hard work and efforts! Thanks❤IGOT7 for understanding and recognition! Thanks❤IGOT7 for dedication and perseverance! You all have done what our family cannot do. All your contribution will always be remembered.
Let’s just take it slow!
Heheheh!! 7 months later we’ve had a mutual ILY (sort of) Roberts back story and not one but two proposals, not to mention Robert saving Aaron from certain death, literally breathing life into him! So happy seven months to these beautiful boys, I want more, years to come!!
well. it’s 2010. the x factor is airing. a group of five teenage boys are thrown together and form what will one day be the biggest boyband in the world: one direction.
these boys are louis tomlinson, zayn malik, niall horan, harry styles, and liam payne. they’re … average lads. but they can sing! they’re nonthreatening! they seem to get along with each other! they’re moderately attractive!
so for all those reasons, they quickly gain a large following of teenage girls. and within that following of teenage girls, another, more intense following, develops. these are the larries.
a larrie is a person who believes in larry stylinson, a portmanteau of harry styles and louis tomlinson. they believe that larry, the ship, is real, and that the two boys have been forcibly closeted for … going on seven years now.
now i’ve never been comfortable with real person shipping myself, but hey, it happens. most rps enthusiasts know the difference between fiction and reality, and keep their shipping firmly in the fanfiction and fanart zone, separate from their idols of choice.
but not the larries. oh no. they not only believe that harry and louis (who have not been seen together in public since 2015) are IN LOVE, they believe it’s their job to #FREE THEM from the clutches of the evil simon cowell and various other managers and companies throughout the years that they believe are keeping harry and louis’ #TRAGIC GAY LOVE from the world.
now, the problem with this is that although the boys certainly seemed to get along quite well in the early years of one direction, their friendship (in public at least) began to taper off after a while. it’s been theorised that the larries themselves might have had an effect there - after all, how would you feel if you couldn’t talk to mate in public without thousands of screaming teenagers losing their minds about it?
regardless, the boys began to rarely be seen interacting in public. but did this stop the larries from BELIEVING? oh, no! see, they’re NOT ALLOWED to interact in public anymore, according to the larries. management is KEEPING THEM APART.
anyway. that’s the status quo for a couple of years, during which time harry dates several women and louis has a longtime girlfriend named eleanor calder. all beards, of course!
eleanor and louis break up! joy of joys! soon the terrible closeting will end!
yeah, nah. louis instead dates briefly a woman named briana jungwirth, resulting in a pregnancy.
the larries do not believe in the pregnancy. they do not believe in this nasty vile woman who is clearly taking money to be a beard and participate in the forced closeting of a gay man!
and then things get worse for the larries. see, one direction breaks up. or goes on hiatus. depends on who you listen to.
so now harry and louis aren’t in the same band anymore, and louis is an expectant father. the larries #STILL BELIEVE it’s going to END, anytime soon! any time now … !
needless to say, it does not end. harry embarks on a film career in nolan’s new film dunkirk, and doesn’t once interact with louis in public.
yeah, louis becomes a father. his kid is born a healthy baby boy named freddie in january 2016, and though he and briana are separated, they clearly adore the kid and are seen in public and private (on their social media) with him multiple times.
furthermore, louis embarks on a solo singing career! the larries actually do like this, and support him in a big way, possibly the first time they’ve supported him genuinely in years.
sadly, louis’ mother dies around the same time. larries try to make headcanons about how harry is comforting louis with his dick, because they are disgusting.
and that brings us to now, when woe is me, things have gotten even worse for the larries - harry is planning on releasing solo music, extending the one direction “hiatus”, and louis has got back together with the larrie enemy no. 1: eleanor calder, his longtime girlfriend.
but this does not deter the larries. they STILL BELIEVE. louis and harry are IN LOVE. they MUST BE, OR I’LL HAVE WASTED YEARS PARTICIPATING IN A SELF-GENERATED CULT.
“It’s better to be a cute boy than an ugly butch lesbian.”
Six or seven years ago (and longer!) there were huge debates taking place about the term “queer”, what it meant to the lesbian, gay, bi and trans community, whether it should be added onto the acronym and whether people who defined specifically as “queer”, to the exclusion of any of the other letters, should be welcomed into LGBT spaces.
At the time, the term “queer” represented a radical element that was highly attractive. Here were a group of people who seemed to be anti-capitalist, unapologetic, anti-assimilationist, aggressive and non-conformist. And to 20 year-old-me they just looked so bloody cool. I came through school and college having the word lesbian hissed at me, but not really having any other language to describe myself. I argued viciously for the inclusion of the “Q”, and shouted down the concerns raised by older (and sometimes not) members of the LGBT community that the word “queer” for them echoed horrendous experiences of homophobic assault and bullying.
“We’re reclaiming it,” I spat, “and anyway you can still be lesbian, or gay, or bi, and/or trans if you want.”
Fuelled by zeal, well-meaning enthusiasm, a complete lack of understanding of LGBT and women’s history and a massive streak of arrogance, I wrote these concerns off as archaic and narrow minded, and for that, I am truly sorry.
As time passed, I started to feel ashamed about being a lesbian within the queer community. As one ex said to me “lesbianism is sooooo last century”. I was butch too, a real stereotype. I was ashamed of being a butch lesbian stereotype, and felt that I sucked at being a woman so much, that maybe I couldn’t be one, but the term “genderqueer” left me cold. I also didn’t fancy men, and they didn’t fancy me.
I didn’t realise until much more recently, but what is happening is the sexism and homophobia found in mainstream society is just being re-appropriated and shoved out from the other side under the guise of radical queer politics; women who exclusively date and sleep with other women are being shamed for it by the very community they are supposed to be a part of, in a way that men who exclusively date and sleep with other men are not. Being a lesbian in a society that heaps pressure on women to be with men is and always has been an enormously radical act.
An avalanche of hypocrisy, or was it always there?
In the last couple of years I noticed a big push within the community to educate on trans issues, change the culture around checking which pronouns people use, increase trans visibility and promote more respect and understanding around gender identity, which are all good things in my book. Intentional mispronouning, both in and outside of the LGBT community is a constant micro-aggression. But then something else happened. The same queers who were screaming bloody murder about people not getting their pronouns right, started to use gender neutral pronouns for me without asking. It didn’t feel right. Occasionally someone would ask what pronoun I used, and on hearing me say “she and her” would double take and say “are you sure?”
Why weren’t these queers taking my first answer? They certainly got angry when people questioned using the neutral “they”. It occurred to me that members of the queer community were questioning my right to define as a woman because of my androgynous appearance almost as much as straight homophobes had questioned my validity as a woman for the exact same reason. I felt increasingly pressured to define as something other than “woman”, and that being a woman, particularly without prefixing it with something like “genderqueer” or “genderfluid” or “non-binary”, was increasingly difficult to get people to accept. Was I so bad at being a woman that my own community wouldn’t even believe me? Isn’t it ironic that a supposedly radical community seemed to find the concept of a masculine woman so difficult to swallow?
If our behaviour falls outside of certain prescriptive boundaries laid out by straight people, must we now question our right to be women at all? Why has it become so offensive and revolting to be considered a woman in the queer community? Why don’t people, who experience the world as women, are treated and seen and oppressed as women, want to be women?
It’s because to be a woman in our patriarchal society is to be less. To be a woman is to be in an undesirable position. To abandon the label “woman” is to claw back some individual power, rather than see women as a political class and collective. In short, its because of sexism. An acquaintance said recently:
“It’s better to be a cute boy than an ugly butch woman.”
We need to talk about class, or the lack of talk about class.
I have lost count of the number of times I have heard or heard of some middle class MA Gender/Sexualities/Sociology Studies twerp shaming and condemning some poor gay seventeen year old for not knowing what a demisexual, panromantic, masc of centre genderqueer is. There are large numbers of the queer community who need to face up to the fact that they have a huge amount of social, educational and class privilege, and that some people do not get to read books that introduce them to all these terms. Some people grow up in houses where there are no books, or the only thing they ever read with the terms “lesbian” and “gay” are tabloid newspapers spitting bile. Sometimes people make mistakes, or have limitations of language. And some of us think that the obsessive developing of endless terms is an intentional attempt to stretch the definition of our community so much that the community in fact will not exist.
Butch and femme are terms that were prominently used amongst working class lesbian communities, and were later sneered at and denounced as aping heterosexuality by elements of the separatist feminist movement, who were often middle class and/or had more academic backgrounds. Now we see lesbian women and gay men being sneered at and dismissed as “monosexual” by elements of the community in much the same spirit, “femme” has been appropriated and is frequently used to refer to any feminine presenting queer person and the word butch is still coded as ugly. There are no cafes, bars or clubs that specifically cater to LBTQ women left in London and very few spaces elsewhere.
You have a right to be queer, and others have a right to be lesbian, gay, bi and/or trans.
I have learnt to be unapologetic about being a woman who exclusively has romantic relationships with other women. But it is a shame that I had to learn this twice. There are other people who feel that their identity, although not hetero/cisnormative, is not represented in the L, B, G or T, and they define as queer (or both). That is fine, if that is what they want. What is not fine is the shaming and erasing of lesbians that goes on. What is not fine is to make the identity of “lesbian” synonymous with trans exclusive feminism when it isn’t. What is not fine is the ridicule of butch women that goes on, whilst skinny white masculine of centre genderqueers enjoy pedestal type positions in the queer community. It is not fine to disrespect and enter and disrupt the few women only spaces left when you know you do not experience oppression as a woman. It is not fine to harass the organisers of a women only event because you’re a man* and consider yourself a lesbian and feel you should be welcomed. That’s just complete misogynist douchebaggery.
It is not fine to force people to call themselves queer and erase their gay and lesbian and bi identities in the process. It’s just hypocritical. And its shit politics. Stop it.
I am a butch lesbian woman. And that’s ok.
*I am talking here about douchebag men who exploit nuanced gender politics to harrass lesbians, so don’t bother with the OP is a TERF stuff.