the aunt who came to dinner

So, I was at our annual family holiday dinner, and I was just kind of eating my food and listening to the adults talk about politics and stuff, and then all of a sudden my grandfather (who was sitting across from me) exclaims, “Girl, whose class ring is that around your neck?” (Because I never got a class ring, so I guess he assumed it was my boyfriend’s or something.)

I looked down, because I’d kind of forgotten what necklace I was wearing. 

It was the replica of Jace’s Morgenstern ring that I bought at Hot Topic two and a half years ago when the City Of Bones movie first came out.

I had to explain to my grandparents (and my mom and aunt, who had now dropped their conversation to listen to ours), at Christmas dinner, that no, I didn’t finally get a boyfriend, I’m just a huge nerd who bought her favorite book character’s family ring and had to put it on a necklace because it was too big for my tiny fingers. 

No one was even remotely surprised. 

please help

I’m so fucked, please, I need help, anyone, I’m not asking for money I just need your moral support.

I recently moved to Denver to go to college, I’m living with my aunt and my cousin who is 11. it’s been a wonderful opportunity for all of us.

until yesterday when my cousin started asking about who Loki was, reading a charm necklace I have placed on his altar. I told her I’d tell her later and that he was a friend of mine.

Last night she started asking again and was noticeably curious. my aunt came home about that time so we had dinner and I decided I’d address it with her after my cousin went to bed.

so I told her, I lightened it because I know I can get intense about these things and although she seemed not to understand, I figured she’d leave it alone. we decided I would tell my cousin that his altar was sort of like an altar to Buddha or Mary , which is sort of true.

this morning I got a text from my mom asking me to call her ASAP.

my aunt texted her telling her how come my mom didn’t tell her I was “some Wiccan Loki worshipper bringing altars into her house”

I’ve never known my aunt to act like this. it’s completely uncharacteristic and I am blindsided. I’m in my bathroom right now trying to get dressed and think of what to do , but I got my mom to calm down but I’m scared about what’s going to happen when I leave my room. I’m afraid she’s going to kick me out or make me take down the altar - in which case I don’t know what I’ll do. He is a huge part of my life and I love Him so much. I’ve had his altar up for three years and it’s gentle presence is such a familiar comfort.

I just need your moral support. just a kind word that you’re thinking of me or you’ve been through something similar.

I’ve been fortunate enough to have not gone through anything like this before so I’m hurt and betrayed.

please. just let me know you’re out there - Lokeans, Heathens, Polytheists, Wiccans, Pagans, witches, all of you, let me know you’re there

The Holiday Season: Coming Home and Coming Out

Don we now our gay apparel … make the yuletide gay …

Yes, it is that time of the year. The holidays are upon us once again. And with it comes the four “F”s : Family, Friends, Food, and Fighting. After all, what are the holidays without a little family strife? Eight days of gift giving, eight chances to light Great-Aunt Mildred’s short fuse instead of the candle. The big family Christmas dinner with a Turkey that is as cold as your sister’s black heart.

This year many people accepted the truth of their own sexuality. This year many people came out for the first time. This year many people have made the decision to come out over the holidays. This year, many people who are already out at work and with their friends have decided to stop playing it straight when the family gets together. This year, for many LGBTQ people and their families, things will change, and a new “F” will play a big role: Fear.

Coming out is not an easy process for anyone involved. Things change. The old way of life is no longer an option for anyone. We cannot make it any less fearful in the moment, but we have found that education and information can make it a little easier.

The following posts have been written to address the friends and family of the person coming out, and the brave soul move out from the other side of the closet door. In the end, love is what matters. If you can hold on to that, you can get through the rest easily enough.

The Coming Out Process

Understanding The Stages of Grief

Non-Violent Communication

Safe Space Resources

If you or a loved one has come out, the most important thing you can do is be visible in your support. To that end, may we recommend joining our campaign, taking part in our TAKEMEHOIMEFROMNARNIA’S LGBT HOLIDAYS action and declaring your internet presence as a SAFE SPACE FOR ALL.

Happy Holidays in whatever form it takes for you, and remember that this time of the year has been marked from the dawn of time as the end of an old way, and the beginning of a new way. Good luck as you begin your new year and new life.


”I started doing this professionally about 15 years ago but this is something I knew I wanted to do at a very young age. I was approached by someone when I was twelve years old. I was with my aunt, and we were sitting at dinner and an agent came up to us and said, ‘if you’re ever interested in acting or modeling, here’s my card please call me.’ And I got so excited! And the minute the guy walked away she ripped (the card) up. And I just thought ‘Oh my god, there goes my dream.’ And she goes ‘no, if this is something you want you can pursue it, you have to do the work to get there, it shouldn’t come so easily.’ And this is coming from an aunt who has been in the industry. But I would say to anyone, do the work. Study your craft. Don’t go into this completely blind. And don’t be discouraged. There’s always going to be someone who is prettier than you, better than you in some way, but everyone has that something that makes them different.”

Boyfriend [Open]

Clara’s family had decided to drop by unannounced. Oh how she hated unplanned visits, especially from her family. Because that meant making sure her apartment was cleaner than is usually was, spotless, and dressing up, and cooking. Oh what a day this was going to be. Not only that, but her gran and aunt loved to ask her questions about her love life. Why she never had a boyfriend over when they came by. 

She really wasn’t in the mood for that conversation today; she just wanted to have dinner, small talk, and be done with it. Not that she wasn’t looking forward to seeing them, because she was, she just didn’t like all the small talks they had. She exhaled sharply and reached for her phone, holding down number one and letting the phone ring. “Emergency!” She yelled into the receiver. “You’re my boyfriend.” She said firmly.