the ask blog life chose me

chanbaekposts  asked:

Girl, I'm really trying to figure out who is coming for us smut writers, I just became a victim to that exact same bullshit on my side blog @KpopPussyPop I don't want to believe that people actually have time to be assholes. It's such a sad thing it really is.

I don’t know, but they chose the wrong people to try to beat down. If you need anything, just let me know. Those people need seriously to get a life! Go away, haters!

Originally posted by thesimplethingsinlifex

My ask is always open, you naughty children. Love, CL.💋

Tagged by @juminss ! thank you bb ♡

nickname: Qiqi
star sign: virgo
height: 5′1 (155cm)
time right now: 10:27 AM
favourite music artist(s): one ok rock, tvxq
song stuck in your head: “let me know” by BTS
last movie watched: ip man
last TV show watched: voltron
what are you wearing right now: sweater and jeans
when did you create your blog: may 2016 (but I’ve been on this site since like 2009)
what kind of stuff do you post: mostly anime and kpop
do you have any other blogs: @setter // a sideblog dedicated to the pretty setter squad
do you get asks regularly: only when I chat with people!
why did you chose your URL: because I love iwaizumi hajime more than life (and because an absolute sweetheart gifted me this url)
hogwarts house: idk I never got sorted tbh
pokemon team: mystic
favourite colour: black, white, pink, gray
average hours of sleep: around 6-7
lucky number: 37 & 73
favourite characters: wow this is an impossible question omg… iwaizumi hajime, oikawa tooru, seto kaiba, erwin smith, nijimura shuzo, kise ryouta
how many blankets do you sleep with: 1
dream job: an astronaut (or working for NASA)
following: 70 (and more than half of them are kpop/anime fanblogs damn I need to follow more)

Tagging: @mamurasm + @victornikiforov + @knight-enchxnter + @poucari + @thebaudelairecase + @nikiforv + @insomnian + @8ay + @evngelion + @peachyerwin + @kenmasan + @oikawaisagenius + @nikiforovic ♡ ♡ ♡

anonymous asked:

what is the difference between type a b and c ships? sorry I'm new to your blog

type a: just ship me with someone

type b: gimme a ship and a reason why, i want details.

type c: i want a ship, a reason why and a short writing of our life as a couple

also, when requesting a ship please tell me what gender you want your ship to be. if you don’t specify then I will chose from the dudes and the ladies. tell me the type of ship you want (a , b, or c), give me a short physical description and a bit of a longer personality description, i like to have your name so i can come up with a ship name but if you don’t want to give it, that is totally fine. send it in through ask, anonymous or public, your choice. thanks!

pocketwishes  asked:

I've just been reading all your tags as I've been stalking your blog - and omg Chas (Lucy Pargeter) is leaving??? No she's one of my faves!! Please tell me this isn't so 😭😭😭😭

Yay I feel honoured that you chose to stalk my blog 😂 but yes she is, in spring time I believe. Lucy is pregnant with twins in real life so she’ll be going for at least six months on maternity leave. Thank the lords she will be back and it’ll be such a exciting time for her but that means we’re gonna be without our Chas for half the year :(

Okay, so I’ve made it clear that I don’t like to publicly announce my stance on anything drama related in this fandom/community/whichever you like to call it. Because, my opinion can change, and frankly, I don’t have any foundation to voice it. I’m not here to scream about it, or scream at you to do anything.

However, this is something I’ve been asked about numerous times, and I’ve gotten messages from people saying they were leaving or taking a break.

But I chose to answer this one in particular because of the fucking tone of this ask. And the tone of everybody screaming in the Mark tag. I’m not going to call out individual blogs, or even posts, but this has really put a huge annoyance on my mind. 

The tone most of you carry is thoroughly irking to me about this situation. I chose to screencap this one specifically for this point I’m making right now. I am thoroughly hoping that the person in question did not actually take their life like they have claimed. It’s very disheartening that they were bullied off, their public information released, and everything of that sorts. Those of you who partook in this, should definitely be fucking ashamed of yourself. You pushed a person this far, and I pray to whatever exists out there, that karma comes and bites you in the ass for what you’ve done. I can’t believe anyone thought that this was okay, and it’s even more heartbreaking that someone had no second thought on doing this. 

But, quit yelling at the fandom like a whole. Quit coming to my inbox and expecting me to leave. Quit saying “How dare you call yourselves Markiplier’s Heroes” like we all took part in this. Quit screaming at us like we’re all in the wrong. You can’t blame all of us for the actions of a few. It’s beginning to piss me off seeing everyone absolutely scream at the fandom when most of us had no idea or any part. I didn’t know anything about this entire situation until someone messaged me saying they were leaving the fandom for a bit, and I saw Wiishu’s post in the tag. So please, stop screaming at us as a whole. We are not all responsible for this.

Secondly, I saw someone say “If Mark doesn’t address this, I’m going to be so pissed.” But honestly? What is he supposed to address? The bullying? What is he able to do about it? Everyone knows Mark doesn’t approve of this. He’s made it clear he wants us to be there for each other, and has stated numerous times that we’re supposed to help one another because he can’t. He’s already said what he wants us to be. The people who do this awful behavior are going against that – against his wishes. So what exactly is he supposed to say? “Don’t bully.” “This bullying needs to stop.” We all know that. We all know that it’s not what he wants. Those who are sending threats and digging up personal information are willingly going against this. There isn’t anything Mark can say that could even change any of this. Not to mention, as EmsArcade has also said, Mark is not responsible for the actions of those who follow him. Let me repeat that. Mark is not responsible for our actions. We are. 

Thirdly, I don’t know if any of you have seen Squid’s goodbye message on their homepage. It was the furthest thing from pleasant. They blamed Jess for their death and outright attacked her. They then proceeded to “thank” Mark for “sweeping it under the rug.” This entire scenario is a tragedy, and believe me, it hits so close to home as someone who has not only dealt with others who had suicidal tendencies, but as one who has my own. But none of that was okay. None of it. The entire post outraged me to the point where I was almost shaking. BUT. That in no way justifies their death. That in no way justifies that they were pushed to suicide. No one should be pushed that far, and it upsets me some people even did. That never should’ve happened, no matter how inappropriate and misguided their thoughts about this were. 

Bonus: I believe Mark handled what happened very poorly. I mean, immensely poorly. But, he is human, which a part of the fandom fails to see. He is human. He will make mistakes. He’s still very much learning how to guide, handle, and help 9 million of us to the best of his abilities. Mark can’t do it all. He isn’t going to know how to deal with all of us as a whole, and it’s a shame some expect this man to be the perfect angel they all want him to be. Mark is a human being. He’s going to mess up, he’s not going to get everything correct right off the bat. If you have those expectations for him, think about this: would you put those expectations on a friend? Would you leave them because they messed up on something they’re just learning? What happened does not influence you directly. It had no malice, no poor intent. It was not aimed at you. So how are you going to leave and get angry at Mark? Don’t. Be upset, sure. But learn to move on. He didn’t directly hurt you, don’t act like he did.

Fourthly: We as a whole are not toxic. Yes, there are very toxic people here, as there will be in every fandom. That’s how it works. But it is our responsibility to change that. We, the people who are involved and dwell in this community, are solely responsible for fixing this. Not Mark. Not anybody else. We’re the ones who make the fandom what it is. We are the ones who live in it, so it’s not fair some of you expect to involve him when it’s not his doing. We’re the ones who have to fix and better what’s been going on. We need better support systems, better outreach. We need to work better as a whole to fix what’s been done. It’s important that we do this, especially considering what’s occurred. 

Lastly, it’s important to also realize the good that we have done. You can’t forget that. We’ve raised thousands of dollars of money, we have fans who have started their own charity organizations in Mark’s name. I’ve talked three different people out of suicide, I’ve had one talk me out of one, and several, several talk me through relapsing with self harm. Someone has started working on the project Mark was talking about in his Changing the World vlog. Whenever I was down, I’ve gotten dozens upon dozens of countless nice messages, and have even made friends because of it. Friendships have been formed – strong ones, ones that are true and genuine, no matter how far apart they are. People have met at conventions, drawn artwork to make others happy. Lives have been positively changed within this community, mine included. Remember the lives that have been saved. Countless people have found hope and pride through this community, and that’s something we need to be proud of.

There has definitely been bad within the fandom, and this recent event has thoroughly been eye opening. It has definitely put some perspective into the community, but it’s the worst that it was suicide that had to do it. Squid, if they did end their life, was of course no martyr. Just a very tragic consequence of hurtful and foul bullying. But I hope that if anything were to come out of this, it’s that the people who mindlessly bullied Squid feel like absolute shit about this, and everyone needs to reach out more. 

While it’s been downward for a while, we need to fix it, not abandon and leave everything. I’ve also made another post in response to a different ask (I’m assuming from the same anon here) saying why I was here. I’m here because of my friends. And I hope that the ones that are still here feel the same, because while there is toxicity here, there is also a lot of joy and hope. We need to hold onto that and make a change.

I understand if you leave, or if you’re taking a break. It’s clear that this can be very anxiety-inducing and hurtful to yourself, but I just want to thank everyone who’s still here and willing to keep pushing through the bad. If we do make a change, and things do get better, I’ll definitely be proud to say that we stuck through to see that day. I do hope some of you see my points – I’ve given this a lot of thought.

If you want to argue with me or bully me off, go ahead and try. I’m here to stay. I’m open to polite and informative debate on my points, but if you want to be immature and unintelligible about it, you will be ignored and blocked. I’m not going to bother wasting my time with you. 

Thank you.