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Thanksgiving Tips

Smile and nod. Try to be nice even if you have to strain it through it tight, artificial face. No one ever remembers cranky people as having had a good point on Thanksgiving. They’ll just say you were an asshole.

Compliment the chef. Be sincere. Point out what was great to you and tell them they did a great job. Be early with your compliments and do not stop. Space them out, distribute them throughout the meal. Don’t be afraid to thank your chef or host with hugs. You may zoom to the top of the favorites list of even the crankier curmudgeons out there. Chefs and curmudgeons are people, too!

Find a way to connect. Asshole grandma? Find a way. Racist uncle? Navigate around it, keep it brief if you have to. Build bridges, folks. You will regret it someday if you don’t. You’re going to remember this as both a memory and as another layer of iridescent memorystuff lacquered over your idea of Thanksgiving, holidays, and family. Make no mistake: I’m not asking you to be a subservient altruist here, this is for your benefit.

Help clean up. If you’re young, you will elicit pride and the possible perks that go along with that pride. If you are older, you should know better anyway. If you are old, you will help set a good example and, besides, younger people will quickly shoo you out of the way.

Find something in your life to be thankful for. Express your gratitude. That’s why you’re getting together in the first place.

With family? Compromise more than you have to. You’ll look great. With friends? Do the same. Life is negotiation and relationships. Take that idea, get proactive with it, and you will benefit just from the experience of having tried it.

If you’re with a large group, mingle a bit before you retreat to one part of the crowd. Even if you’re shy or introverted or unsure how to pull this off, it’s part social obligation and part strategy. Mingling can buy you time alone or with a smaller, less stressful subgroup.

Smile, wink, nudge, and high five any small children that are about. Let them know you see them and like them even though they are short and live under totalitarian rule. Take whatever utterances they make, no matter how boring or unintelligible, for what they are: their attempts to connect to someone. Just by paying them attention, you’ll be the world’s coolest superhero.

If you’re an atheist (like me), join in on saying grace. Think of it as saying peace instead of you have to. Show respect and involvement. If you are asked to say something, step up and do it. Be grateful, avoid soapboxing, and try to include everyone’s sensibilities. You’ll look nice. If you’re a devotee of any particular faith, try to reach out. Be inclusive. Show how warm and loving you can be. Who wouldn’t like that?

Have fun. I mean actual sincere fun. You are in charge of your own fun. If you think for a moment that you can add to someone else’s fun, do it. Act in the moment, be spontaneous.

Drive safely. Don’t drink and drive. Never mix overindulgence with bravado. There are plenty of cabs in this world. Bum a ride. Don’t die.

Be good. Do well. Be well, do good.

I wrote this a few years back.  I’m just going to reblog it every year.  I think it’s still solid advice.  Happy Thanksgiving, everyone!  I wish you all the best.  

Seriously, married or not I reckon Charlie Weasley would be a riot at family gatherings. Just turning up, throwing Molly a casual “Wotcher Mum! Brought the kids, hope that okay!” And Molly turns round confused, sees what he’s talking about and - “Those are not ‘the kids’ Charlie, thOSE ARE TINY DRAGONS IN ONESIES!!!!!”

I love deep talks. Like, hell yeah, tell me about why you’d prefer to talk to your mom rather than your dad. Tell me about your favourite lyrics in the songs you listen to everyday and why they’re your favourite. Tell me about the dog you had when you were growing up and how he was your best friend. Tell me about what kind of books you like to read when you’re alone in your room. Tell me about the things you think about right before you fall asleep. Tell me anything and everything.

anonymous asked:

AU in which Yuuri and Viktor are married and Yurio is their smol angry adopted son

Susan was never seen or heard from again.

voltron writers: lance sometimes says things like ‘ten thousand is one thousand plus ten’ because he’s the airhead comic relief character :)

me, an intellectual: english isn’t lance’s first language. and although he’s now fluent (presumably due to his enrollment at the garrison), the occasional mistranslation can still occur. however, these slip-ups are in no way a measure of his intelligence.