thats 'not safe for anyone'

I see a bunch of posts saying if your asexuality or aromanticism is caused or influenced by trauma or mental illness or neurodiversity or something, it’s still valid.

I see a lot of posts saying asexuality isn’t something that needs to be cured, that a-spec people aren’t broken and don’t need to be fixed. That people are naturally born this way.

I also see a ton of posts telling everyone it’s ok if their labels change, that sexuality is fluid and identifying as something different before or after or now doesn’t invalidate the person’s orientation at any point. That if it’s useful for the person now, they can use it.

But I don’t see a lot of posts, actually basically none, that actually address the point where those things intersect.

If your asexuality or aromanticism is caused or influenced by something, your orientation is valid, and it doesn’t mean you couldn’t have been a-spec without it. Maybe you were born this way, maybe you were made this way, but no matter how you got here, you are still a wonderful valid person.

You are not broken if you do not feel you are.

It is also completely OK for you to feel like you are.

If you feel your orientation is something that is only temporary, because of mental illness or trauma, and you had labels you identified as before and want to identify as them again, you are so valid.

It is ok for you to think something broke and for you to want to repair or mend it. If you have a bowl because the top part of a clay vase broke, it’s ok to want a vase again. Kintsukuroi creates beautiful art out of broken pottery people mended.

It is also so ok for you to feel like some part of you is broken, and to want to let it remain that way. You don’t have to fix it. People make mosaics out of broken glass, and they are far more beautiful than the beer bottles they came from.

It’s also ok to not know how you feel about it. To feel like some days there is nothing wrong with you and other days to feel that part of you is just shattered shards of something else.

No matter what, you are valid and your experiences and feelings about your orientation are valid.

Repeat after me: Migrating to another country especially because of the shit that the Philippines is going through does not make you less of a Filipino. Denying that you’re a Filipino after you have migrated does.

Hey everyone! 2016 is coming to a close (thank god) and I wanted to do a follow forever! This year was the year that I actually started communicating with people on Tumblr and it’s made me a happier person! I’ve met so many great people and I want to thank you all for a great year on Tumblr! Here’s to a good 2017! 

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@5star-usopp@all–blue, @beif0ngs, @boaock, @captainberserk, @clemontic@cyriusli@deadendpirate@evaison-art@freckledbastard, @goccedivelenonelbicchiere@gottaloveonepiece@ienudi@ii-luffy-ii, @itsgalaxytrash@lovely-anime-brunette, @lovemizumikan,
@luffyneedsfood@luffys@luffylicious, @menokonomi@mihawking,  
@miraculous-steph 
@missgoldnweek@moonsidian@mossybrows,
@nicefandom@okami-fr@one-picece-is-forever, @onepiecequotes
@psylxcked@rereadingonepiece, @royalvinsmoke@rtluv@sableu@sabo-ace-luffy@sailawaywithonepiece@sir-sandy-croc@sootbird@spoilersahoy@takemeouttotheseawithyou@to-be-a-captain@vichan91312@we-are-nakama@wildmoriko@zorobae

boltenny-is-dead  asked:

What types of drunks do you think the nerd crew and Tadashi would be (including Hiro when he's 21+)?

oh man

ok Tadashi would be such a friggin light weight, it’s not even funny. He would also be such an adorable little drunk, slurring his words together, giggling at everything, and saying really embarrassing things because at that point he has like zero filter.

GoGo would be the type of person who would try to fight everyone, but not in an angry way, more of a “i-could-totally-arm-wrestle-you-into-the-ground” kinda way. She also can hold her own when it comes to alcohol, and doesn’t really seem like she’s drunk, but really she could just pass out at any moment.

Fred gets weirdly deep and philosophical when he drinks. They aren’t as farfetched as his usual ideas (like the invisible sandwich), and he actually comes up with some great stuff. He also becomes incredibly loud and has absolutely no concept of volume control, and is known to get into really passionate debates about comics.

Wasabi doesn’t drink very often, so when he does, he’s always the first to start getting tipsy. He’s usually very quiet, just kinda taking everything in. He gets really riled up if pushed, though, which GoGo usually instigates. He’s also the first to pass out, but never gets a hangover.

Honey’s type A personality gets amplified when she’s drunk by like 15 times. Also she just wants to dance constantly, and often does her own karaoke, regardless of where they are. She is also that Drunk Girl who compliments everyone she sees in the bathroom, and makes like 80 new friends. She goes between talking in rapid Spanish and English without realizing she’s even switching languages. 

And finally, once Hiro is old enough, he’s the kind of drunk that everyone has to keep an eye on constantly because you never know what he’s going to do, and 9 times out of 10, it’s nothing good. He gets “really great ideas” (read: terrible ideas) for inventions that he insists on trying to make right on the spot with whatever is on hand. Also insists that he’s “not that drunk,” but really he’s already blackout.

There is basically only one type of Reylo that I’m okay with.

And it’s the type where emotionally-stunted-emo-goth-kid Kylo Ren thinks Rey is the bees knees because he’s recognized her as the beautiful badass princess she is, but is so screwed up that he can’t express that in any normal way. 

Meanwhile, Rey literally just wants to utterly destroy this weirdo Darth Vader fanboy because he tortured, manipulated, and tried to kill her.

The sheer amount of rage the NHL all star vote has produced is almost laughable.  I’ve even seen Blackhawks’ fans apologizing for the results.  Please, stop that.  Stop attacking fans and players and each other over something that literally only affects 6 out of 42 players that will play in a game that means nothing in terms of standings or points.  

Instead, please look to the 2011 All Star Game, where 4 out of 6 starting players voted in by the fans were from the Penguins.  Or to the 2012 Game, which saw 4 Senators voted in.  The Blackhawks’ fans didn’t start a new trend here, not at all.  

And while some people may not agree with all of the choices, I don’t see how anyone can reasonably say that none of the five deserve to go to the game, or that a few of them wouldn’t have been voted in anyway.  It’s kind of like people magically forgot that Duncan Keith won the Norris last season.  Or that Seabrook is one half of one of the top D pairings in the entire league.  Or that Crow is currently tied for 9th in save percentage in the league.  Or that Kaner is 7th in points.  Or that Jonny is one of the most respected captains and all-around players in the entire league, and has been for years.  Or, you know, that all five of them won the Stanley Cup not too long ago, which is more than anyone can say for many of the other players you could possibly vote for.  Or that the NHL itself told the fans to vote for their favorite players, not the most-deserving or the best in the league.  Their favorite.  And that’s exactly what Chicago fans did.  

So please, can we all remember that it’s just an All Star game and all teams will be represented once the sports writers get their say.  This is meant to be a fun event for the fans and the players alike, and some of the reactions I’ve seen have really been putting a damper on all of that.  Let’s all just respect each other and remember that we all love this sport and will have our favorite teams represented when all is said and done.  Plus, we’ll probably get some great interviews and photos out of this weekend that we’ll all aww over together, in the end.

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HELLO EVERYONE! 2014 is ending and I would like to give a shoutout to all the pear blogs that I follow for being frick frackin awesome and such this year.

A-D:

aflyingfinn, alfiesugg, casparleetho, cheeky-jackharries, cheekyjackharries, cheekymoist, cheekyzoellaa, dearharries, dylanharries

E-I:

fetchfinny, finneigh, finnfaketwin, finnfinnthetwin, finnharriess, finnsflipflopsfinnsgap, finnskella, finnsmaoams, fuckyeaharriestwins, h-is-for-harries, harriesking, harriestwinsharriesobsession

J-Q:

jackharrius, jackspinkshorts, justencaylen, kingtroye, lovetwinsjackandfinnlustforharries, malperception, mycheekyfinn, naughtyharriestwins, niomismartsohharries, queensivan, queenzoella, queenzoesugg

R-Z:

sugglet, thetwinsharriestransponding, theyoutubewriter, trickydillon, troylerbunstro-yler, troyesivan18, twinsfab, youtuber-club, youtubers-ughzalfieisreal, zoelladeyes, zozeebo

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I hope 2015 will be as wonderful as you are!

If you aren’t listed, it doesn’t make you and/or blog less lovely! You keep doin you, because you’re finntastic!!

Happy New Year, everyone!

chloe isn’t perfect

warren isn’t perfect

victoria isn’t perfect

no one is perfect nor supposed to be, not even video game characters

you can like a character while acknowledging that he/she/they/xe have done bad things

and you don’t have to like the character either if the bad things they’ve done really trigger you or just plain creep you out

but can we please not hate on each other for liking or not liking certain characters? thanks

kinjou is very agender dmab to me….im so sad that theyre token souhoku cis for everyone….they are so lovely

theyre just so slow and careful about what people tell them….they never talk about gender at all of ther own volition except once when they clapped onoda on the shoulder and said “sometimes……………………………… gender is complicated” and walked away and onoda cried

its like theyre very chill but also thinks Very Carefully about their juniors. like imagine them sitting in a dark room with spooky light from their computer, its playing on their shades, theyre literally hunched over like theyve got a dark secret, the camera zooms in: “is this club a safe space”

thats kinjou

anonymous asked:

To that anon guy, take it from a girl, there's nothing wrong with being the smaller spoon. I sometimes spoon my boyfriend and it's still the best feeling in the world. He likes it because he feels safe in my arms and that's one of the most beautiful things anyone could ever say to me. So there's nothing wrong with you, love xx

^^^^

darkarchercatalyst  asked:

Man anyone who acts like landing in Gensokyo anywhere other than a shrine or the human village wouldn't be a death sentence is just fooling themselves, haha. At least if you manage to make it to the human village you have a chance at /surviving/ since you can find shelter and possibly make a living while trying to overcome crippling cultural barriers. Eientei, the Mausoleum, or Myouren Temple /might/ be safe zones as well but that's not exactly a guarantee.

Man anyone who acts like landing in Gensokyo anywhere other than a shrine or the human village wouldn’t be a death sentence is just fooling themselves, haha

Pretty much my whole attitude about this. I mean, you better lay low, son.

Hmmm, see, Reimu can send you back to the Outside World, so you don’t even have to deal with the culture shock-slash-life sentence in ‘Sokyo if you do not want to. In fact, there’s a whole ruleset for this, as explained by the written material:

Once humans are spirited in from the outside, they are prey. If they somehow manage to survive and find the Human Village or the Hakurei Shrine, they are asked if they want to stay or if they want to go back to their homes.

If they wish to leave, Reimu sends them out and that’s that.

If they wish to stay, however, they are actually very warmly welcomed, because contemporary outside world humans have knowledge these feudal people don’t, and are the reason why Gensokyo has some rather advanced things here and there: They share their methods and technology with their new peers. They are also not prey anymore (but, to clarify, anyone that strays too far from the village, especially at night, resident or not, is prey).

It was a very nice touch of ZUN to actually cover this.