i have gotten very good at compromising and thinking of rational explanations of others’ behaviors that might bother me, bc my whole life i’ve tried my best to avoid conflict and make sure the people around me are happy and less likely to be super reactive towards me. so my fuse is pretty long. sometimes i don’t understand why some people are naturally reactive in situations that i would handle by internalizing. it gives me a feeling on the same plane as secondhand embarrassment except with fear. i’m afraid that the person being reactive is going to get harmed, and i’m afraid for the other person because i know what that’s like. i’m trying to learn how to handle it better because it’s not like reactive people are bad…. i’m just not and my experiences make me think that things are always going to escalate very quickly, when most of the time they actually don’t.