that's what all the people say

willowslesbidar  asked:

OMG WHAT DID YOU ASK ROBIA?? IM SO EXCITED FOR YOU AAAAAAH

so we all know that there are…..many diverse opinions about jenny calendar. let’s put it that way. i’ve heard people say that her first loyalty was always to her family and she deliberately manipulated the scoobies and she was a vengeful person by nature, and i wanted to know what the actual actress thought of jenny’s motivations, so i asked robia that.

her response was that she wasn’t told about the plot twist initially (called it called it CALLED IT they just threw that in randomly and it was honestly a really bad choice on a lot of levels but that’s not the point right now) but that she always thought that while jenny didn’t initially come to sunnydale for the right reasons, her choices afterward were always motivated by love for giles, and all she really wanted was to make things right and live happily ever after with her love. so. essentially jenny was motivated by love, which was…god that made me so happy to hear. so fucking happy.

also she said that jenny was giles’s best love which is…honestly what jenny would say too. and the cheers that followed that added at least two years to my life.

vorkosigan saga + wolfpupy tweets, part two

Gregor: things are going really well for me now that ive changed the meaning of really well to the opposite of what it means in my head

Miles: to everyone who said this would never work, sorry about the huge amount of damage and all of the fires

Ivan: people say “what you don’t know won’t hurt you” when in factuality i don’t know anything and am constantly being seriously injured and hurt

Bel: your definition of a good idea may be different from my definition of a good idea, mine being that a good idea is any idea i think of

Elli: daylight savings is dumb as hell, who looks directly at the sun and says i want more of this for later, nobody does it

Taura: i have grown and evolved a lot over the past five weeks since i was born

Duv: luckily history repeats itself so you don’t have to bother trying the first several times.

Mark: just because i caused the problems doesn’t mean i have the solutions to them

Ekaterin: it’s important to have a ‘quality over quantity’ mindset that way if it turns out to be bad quality at least there’s less of it

Kareen K: diamonds are no longer a girl’s best friend, in this day and age a girl’s best friend could be anything, even a poisonous jungle frog

Byerly: i do a lot of things on accident, keeps things fresh

Tej: in the old days of one week ago things were different, now look at us now, slightly older than we were back then, other clothes on and such

The more time Trump spends in abroad, talking to people who have power to do literally anything, makes me more and more nervous.

I mean, shit people already hate Americans, he’s not going to do us favors. If some shit happens and we get nuked or some shit, the people going “please, let us have safety in your borders” are going to be shot into the sea

like via a cannon

and like, as great as our [jewish people’s] thing of long ago having the ocean parted for us was– thats probably not gonna happen like on a regular basis. or at least it would take a lot of prayer and some even worse things chasing us so we probably aren’t actually picking the destination.

What i’m saying is i get really nervous the more i hear and don’t hear. I have a lot of faith that we’re going to survive– in some way, even in shattered fractions– but looking at all the things going wrong, i do kinda worry now and then that something big is coming and we’re not going to like it. 

Also i was vigorously ill when i saw Trump in a kippah. i know its because he was walking around Jerusalem, but he was,,,,, no. Its just viscerally wrong. A holocaust denier, an antisemite, a fucking nazi– wearing a kippah and putting a note in the Kotel [Western Wall] by shoving his whole arm in… no

Like i don’t really know how to feel about Israel the state as it is now and i don’t want asks about it, but like… that’s not right.

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This. THIS IS ALL CNN HAD TO SAY.
YES LETS JUST NOT PAY ANY MIND TO THE 19 PEOPLE WHO ARE DEAD SO FAR.
THERE CAN BE MORE PEOPLE DEAD. THIS HAPPENED NO MORE THAN 2 HOURS. WHAT TYPE OF CRAP IS THIS. THERE’S FAMILIES GRIEVING, THIS WAS AN ATTACK AND ALL THEY HAD TO SAY WAS “ARIANAS NOT DEAD SHES ALIVE THATS ALL”.

MMMMM. I’M NOT SORRY FOR WHAT I SAID.

Innocents lives have been lost, and families are in despair. Yes, good thing Ariana grande is alive and good THING THAT WERE OTHER SURVIVORS. CNN FOCUS ON THOSE WHO ARE STRUGGLING TO SURVIVE NOW, FOCUS ON ALL OF THIS.

EVERYONE PLEASE, PLEASE SEND PRAYERS OR GOOD THOUGHTS ALL OF THE VICTIMS OF THE ATTACK.

EVERYONE IS MORE THAN WELCOMED TO ADD ANYTHING ON HERE THAT THEY FEEL IS RELEVANT TO THE ATTACK.

anonymous asked:

saw a few posts from someone calling you creepy, gross AND nasty for your mikasas boobs post? (and i guess also to whoever reblogged it) i cant believe this fandom, they cant even take a joke? it was all dramatic like "omg shes a 15 year old girl how dare you lust after her boobs!" do they really think people is saying that seriously? and did they forget that... SHES NOT REAL? also rude af to post that when like everyone is going to know who theyre talking about, but thats another story lmao

¯\_(ツ)_/¯

''surprising'' facts about the signs
  • aries: reaaaaalllly fucking sensitive. that's maybe why they can get angry pretty fast, because they just take shit too personal sometimes, and they can't deal with it. BUT OTHER THAN THAT, they're actually fucking adorable and smol little beans who just crave love.
  • taurus: very care-free and they do not care about a single shitt. they're very hard-working though and they try to get shit done, but they are also very lazy, which isn't really surprising.. they are also very quick to anger, just like aries.
  • gemini: gemini isn't THAT two-faced like people think. they're just moody. they can get easily annoyed and that's why their mood can change pretty fast.
  • cancer: they're pretty obsessed with themselves and they can be really fucking cocky. they secretly like to make others suffer and make them feel shitty. they do it very slowly and careful though, so people won't notice it.
  • leo: really insecure, but never shows their insecure side bc they still want to shine in the spotlight, without people noticing their flaws, if they even have them because most leo's are flawless af.
  • virgo: they tend to worry a lot, still they don't really care about shit. i know that it sounds weird, but it's true! well, at least for the virgo's i know in real life. they tend to worry a lot about their work and school stuff, but they don't really do anything for it, but they also don't really care. however, they always seem to make everything perfect.
  • libra: they are reallllyyyyyy insecure in their relationships. they're usually a pro at relationships, but they are really insecure about it and they often don't know how to deal with them, or what to do with them.
  • scorpio: they are perfectionists. i don't really know if it's surprising, but they are perfectionists. i mean, they are very ambitious and that isn't a surprising fact, but just like virgo, they want everything to be perfect.
  • sagittarius: they are soft little beaaans. don't hurt them please. they seem really tough and strong, but they're realy sensitive. NEVER SHOWS IT THOUGH. you will never know when they're sad or anything, they always want to stay positive and happy, so they do.
  • capricorn: they seem to be emotionless and insensitive, but that's just because they want to be like that. they don't want all these feelings and emotions. but everyone has them, so they do too, but they try to hide it with sarcasm and sometimes even with anger.
  • aquarius: they have LOTS and LOTS of emotions floating in their head and heart and they just don't know what to do with it, so they just let their emotions destroy them, without saying a word. i don't know if it is a surprising fact, but i think it is.
  • pisces: isn't that innocent than most people think they are. they have a weapon which is called, baby face. they have this innocent little face that makes you think that they're all niceee and sweeeet buT NO. they're really good at backstabbing.

Literally please please don’t interrupt people who have speech impediments to correct or rush them.

That includes not interrupting:

• Stuttering

• Really slow speech / lots of pauses or ums

• People who have difficulty being concise because thats really common for autism/adhd/other nd brains

• People with lisps/slurred speech due to a natural impediment

• People who repeat themselves without meaning to (another nd brain thing)

We KNOW that our speech isn’t typical, and a lot of us (though not speaking (yes that was a pun) for all of us) are pretty sensitive about it.

By interrupting you disrupt our train of thought, and in some cases we will literally forget everything about what we were going to say.

Also noah fence but if you interrupt to mock, laugh at, or get angry at us for our speech I hope you have a bad day and step on a lego.

i’d just like to politely advice the white people in this fandom to be very, very careful about speaking over the people of color in this fandom who probably know more about what this situation could be/mean than you do. listen to them first before trying to validate your own theories. especially when they’re someone of the same ethnicity and/or faith as the character(s) you’re theorizing about. 

Harry's interview on Quotidien
  • I: Can you hear me?
  • H: Yes
  • I: Welcome to Paris!
  • H: Thank you
  • I: How are you? Can you answer in French?
  • H: Good! A little bit. A tiny bit. Très bien et toi ?(very good and you?)
  • I: Very good, thank you. We start our interviews with “can you give us your five favourites words in English or French. Or a French sentence”. Someone told me you knew a French sentence.
  • H: Comment vous faites un café si délicieux? (How do you make such a delicious coffee?)
  • I: OK, that’s good.
  • H: That’s all I have.
  • I: Do you say it very often?
  • H: No... Yes
  • I: What does France mean to you? Is it something, someone etc...?
  • H: Best people I’ve known... I think her, *shows a fan* I guess. Fabien Barthez.
  • I: Yes, Fabien Barthez. Harry, you’re 23 years old and you’re one of the best known pop-star in the world. Everybody has expectations with your new album and single Sign Of The Times. Why did you choose that song? This is not what people were expecting.
  • H: I think I wanted to.. I've always liked music that made me feel something. You know I think writing it I could feet something I wanted to bring it out. I think it's a good indicator for me of what the album is to me. That's why I wanted to go with that first.
  • I: Billboard wrote that the single was "one of the more ambitious opening statements in pop this decade". Not bad, isn't it?
  • H: Thanks!
  • I: Do you have friends working at Billboard?
  • H: I don't know anyone at Billboard.
  • I: When we listen to the song we think of David Bowie, Queen, who else did you think of?
  • H: I mean, I think everyone, anything, any song you've ever listened to growing up or throughout your life or you've enjoyed, inspired you. There are a lot of different things. I wanted to just write and see what came out. I didn't know what I sounded like to make an album. So this process was as interesting for me as I think it will be for people listening to the album for the first time.
  • I: Do you know French singers other than Serge Gainsbourg? That's a tricky question.
  • H: I know Woodkid. He directed my music video.
  • I: Why him?
  • H: I think his videos are amazing, he's a really talented guy and I love French people so I worked with him.
  • I: When you're in Spain, do you say that you love Spanish people?
  • H: No!
  • I: It seems like everything has been easy...
  • H: Great tie.
  • I: You think so? It's French.
  • H: It's not a Spanish tie, isn't it?
  • I: Can I see your loafer? Oh yes! What is the brand? That's not French, isn't it? It's Italian.
  • H: No.
  • I: That's from the European Union!
  • H: Probably yeah.
  • I: It seems like everything has been easy for you, is it true?
  • H: Was what simple?
  • I: Your life, everybody wants a life like yours, with One Direction...
  • H: I mean, I feel very lucky to be able to make music, I feel very lucky to be able to make this, I feel very lucky today being in France and performing my song. I love this song. I can't complain.
  • I: What were the unpleasant things?
  • H: *thinking*
  • I: I don't know, say only one thing.
  • H: I think when you care so much about something, it's hard to get to the point where you feel like it's finished and it feels like you're adding and it never ends and it adds up. So I think the hardest part was getting into that point and be like "ok that's finished."
  • I: You said to the Rolling Stone magazine that most of the album was inspired by a woman. Really?
  • H: No I think, honestly, the album is much more about me than it is about anyone else. I think if I said the album is about a woman it kind of feels like, I don't know, I put a lot of work into this. I don't feel like it revolves around woman. It's a lot about me and things I've never said before. It's more about me.
  • I: How did you start with a boy band and end with a solo career? Is it complicated?
  • H: It's been a lot of fun. You know we were very lucky to get to do some amazing things and at the moment in our lives, we're in a time where everyone is trying their own thing and have a good time. It's been amazing to see everyone doing their own thing as well. If I can do as well as the others, it'd be amazing.
  • I: Do you call them everyday or text them? Do you use What's app?
  • H: I don't have that.
  • I: Why?
  • H: Yes we talk, absolutely. And everyone is bringing stuff out. It's been a lot going on. It's been a good time.
  • I: This is the album cover! Can you describe it? Why did you choose this picture?
  • H: Yeah. So, I don't know. I worked with photographer Harley Weir, I'm a massive fan of her work. And that's amazing and I was lucky enough to work with her. I felt like this was what I wanted.
  • I: Why is it pink? Why the water? Why your back? Why? It's beautiful but why is it pink?
  • H: I don't know, man!
  • I: Really? You don't know?
  • H: I don't know. I don't think I want...
  • I: Apparently pink is Rock'n'roll's colour.
  • H: Apparently so. I don't know. I think it means something to me and if it means anything to anyone else, I wouldn't want to take away from that by explaining it. I think the cool thing about stuff like photos and art is you can just leave it. You don't have to explain it.
  • I: Everybody sees what they want to see.
  • H: Yes exactly.
  • I: Have you seen this?
  • *video of people reacting to Harry's single*
  • I: Your fans record themselves while listening to the song for the first time. You can hear relevant analysis and apparently they all really liked it. Do you read what people say about you on social media? On Youtube, Twitter, Instagram? Do you use Instagram?
  • H: Yes I use it a little bit.
  • *The public disagrees with Harry*
  • H: Yes I use it a little bit. I mean I wish everyone was having as good time as the girl who was like that with her hands. That's what I do when I listen to the song.
  • I: Are you the one using your Instagram? Do you use your own fingers or someone else does it for you?
  • H: Yes, I do mine.
  • I: Do you still vote in Redditch?
  • H: In?
  • I: Redditch!
  • H: That's where I was born?
  • I: Yes.
  • H: I don't live in Redditch.
  • I: So you don't vote there. Where did you vote?
  • H: London, yeah.
  • I: What do you think of the Brexit? Welcome to Europe!
  • H: Thank you very much, thanks. I mean, I don't really comment on politics. To me, anything that brings people together is better than things that pull people apart. That's ... yeah.
  • I: Yet, you are in favour of equality of rights, men, women, gay people, straight people... That's politics.
  • H: I don't know. It doesn't feel like politics. I think stuff like equality feels much more fundamental. I feel like everyone is equal. That doesn't feel like politics to me.
  • I: Your fans are fetishists. They know all of your tattoos, piece of jewellery, they have heart attacks when you cut your hair. Right now you're playing with their feelings. Do you know that?
  • H: Oh ok.
  • I: Yes! What is your favourite tattoo?
  • H: I think... I have a.. probably. I don't know, actually.
  • I: Which one is the latest?
  • H: The latest is this one there. *shows Arlo* And this one. *shows Jackson*
  • I: Jackson? All of them?
  • H: Yes.
  • I: What's the story behind your haircut? How much did you spend on hair products with One Direction?
  • H: Yeah, like a lot. I used a lot, yeah.
  • I: You're in Dunkirk, Christopher Nolan's new movie.
  • H: Yes.
  • I: How did you do?
  • H: I auditioned.
  • I: Look at you there.
  • H: I am, that's me.
  • I: Yes.
  • H: I auditioned and it was great. It's going to be a really cool movie.
  • I: Harry, it feels like we know you since you're a baby. The whole world discovered you in 2010 on X Factor.
  • *video of Harry's X Factor audition*
  • I: You auditioned alone but Simon Cowell had an idea... he put you in a band with Zayn, Louis, Liam and Niall. You became One Direction. You found the name One Direction and you sold millions of albums. One Direction are soon considered as the new Beattles and you filled the biggest stadiums. The whole world was talking about you. When you go out we prayed for your eardrums. You became UK's pride. David Cameron is in one of your music videos, your sang for the Queen. But in 2015... bang! Zayn left the band, fans couldn't get over it. But don't worry, their favourite is now on the cover of the Rolling Stone magazine, he's in Christopher Nolan's new movie, he's Mick Jagger on SNL... What you don't know is that we've met in 2012. You were in France to promote an album and now I have questions. First one! When you're in a car and fans are all around you, do you see that?
  • *video of fans around a car*
  • H: I think I've actually lost my shoe there. When I got in the car... I got in the car and I was like "how many shoes do I have?" Yes I lost my shoe.
  • I: I have another question! Do you still do that before going on stage?
  • *video of Harry and Lou*
  • I: Can we do it?
  • H: No.
  • *does it anyway*
  • I: What is the weirdest question someone asked you?
  • H: I think it was actually a French interview. I got asked if I would pee in a sink... Yeah.
  • I: Ok, that's weird!
  • H: It was the first question, the first question.
  • I: It puts you in the mood.
  • H: Yeah.
  • I: What is the question you never want to be asked ever again? Did I asked you that question?
  • *Harry asks the public*
  • H: Which one? Oh crush.
  • I: What?
  • H: Crush.
  • I: Oh ok. I didn't ask it! Did you know that a French author wrote a novel about you. It's called "Styles", it's about his obsession with you. It's in French. You can translate it.
  • H: Oh! Is that true?
  • I: Yes it's true. He dedicated to you. It's called "Styles" and it's a really good book. Read it!
  • H: Thank you.
  • I: Thank you very much Harry Styles for coming tonight. His first eponymous album comes out on the 12th May. Thank you Harry Styles.
  • H: Thank you.
  • I: Have a safe journey home.

anonymous asked:

Hi, 7goodangel. I am here to ask you about PaperJam as a shy, smol and innocent being (mainly thegreatrouge made him be). There has been some conflicts regarding his trait. Some said his canonical personality is a jerk, like what you wrote in his bio / info and some said that is severely wrong and being shy, (which made him shipped with Fresh), is his canonical personality. What are your thoughts about this? I mean, it is your character and people are taking control of it. Don't you disagree?

Well… I have talked to people and seen public conversations and this has happened several times to me over months. I guess I’ve gotten a little numb to it now… or maybe it’s due to school that I haven’t given it the attention that it deserves. Probably due to school. 

I just can’t update constantly like others - even though some others in school were and are able to update constantly. I can’t keep going around and holding up my bio of PJ and police people. It’s exhausting to me… it really takes up the small bit of free time I have. 

I think after I get a solid job that I’ll be able to go around better… but anyway - back to your question. 


While I love seeing interpretations and do not want people to be limited by something and have their imaginations go forth… it’s proving that a huge con comes with that mentality - which you have pointed out. A lot of people swear that PJ is the cute, innocent interpretation that really, did get PJ popular in the first place. While I did have him as a jerk from the beginning - I kinda kept that info to my RP blog - so you could say it is my fault this is all happening and I do think that. I could of done something to make it not as bad as it is now… 

It’s just like the NSFW stuff… people just assume the first thing and run with it. And it really does make me feel like I really am not needed for my own character at points. 

It’s a struggle - I don’t want to have people stop interpreting PJ within AUs… but I also don’t want people to just see him as an innocent child to ship with Fresh. 

And I’m still trying to find the best solution to it. 

But… I feel like the damage is already done. It’s too late for me to talk to all of these people going around swearing on their life that PJ is canoncally like Rouge’s interpretation/AUs. It feels like an hopeless battle to me. 

And I guess I needed someone to ask me this question so then I can fully say my thoughts on this. 

So in short, while I love creativity and don’t want to snuff it out (considering some people would probably think I’m doing that already with saying “No Sin”), I still don’t like it. It irritates me, irks me, frustrates me, and I feel like even as the person who thought of PJ in the first place, my voice isn’t enough. Communities seem like they don’t care about artists unless they reach a ‘certain goal of popularity’ or seem like they have a more professional style of art. I know I do not reach either of those titles. 

People misspell my username all the time - I actually claimed ‘7goodangle’ on tumblr for that reason.

People still say “I’m too lazy to find who made PJ” when they clearly mentioned they looked at the bio on the wiki. 

People still go around arguing others on the canon ship of OmniPJ and swearing that FreshPaper is the true canon ship, when all people are pointing out is that they need to keep the canon ship in mind when going around with information.

Even just basic personality traits… and these things are happening on sites that I do not nor want an account for. 

I still want others to have fun - to be happy; but I don’t know… I guess I’m cutting out my own happiness to get everyone else happy? I want to eventually write a version of PJ within his own universe and story… and he is more like the version I created within the UT verse. Not exact - but close. Though who knows… I might shove PJ to the side and replace his role with another character. I’m still weighing options.

Cause PJ was the first character I ever put this much time and thought into… my first character that was balanced, well rounded…

And what happens?

…well.

You said it Anon. 

They took it - changed it (initially as an AU but now people think it’s canon) - and I can’t do much about it. Due to school and not much free-time… due to how many don’t know the true creator… and just back talking anyone who is just mentioning it to people who swear by it. 

As an artist and a character designer…

It makes me not want to show designs, characters, and stories ever again online.

Considering if this is how I was treated on the first one… why even take a chance at a second one? If it has brought me so much stress, frustration, and time… why even try it again?

I said I was only going to do fanart so if anyone stole it, it didn’t really matter. 
I think I should have stuck with that thought process. 

In conclusion, there are some major things to take away here. First – that yes, I do not like how it has skewed this far to the point of arguing over a fandom version with the canon. Canon is canon and I get the different AUs – this is too far. Way too far. I am emotionally drained from this – from this whole mess that I have been defending throughout majority of PJ’s lifespan. I will state this – Paper Jam is my character. He is my original character that I created more than a year ago. And the UT AU fandom took my character and warped him to something he is not and all of his original meaning is lost. I do not like to hurt others or make other sad – but I must put my foot fully down. This miscommunication needs to stop. I am tired of repeating things over and over and I have past my breaking point time and time again. I just want people to see PJ how he really is… and I wish that people could be focusing more on the reality of him instead of the alternate that they all claim as truth.

Final words: I still like Undertale – I still like creating characters and having fun – but the Undertale AU fandom is ridiculous now. The Amino UT community is insanity in an app, and there is a lot of stuff that has made many artists and creators to their breaking point and leaving the fandom entirely. Everyone in this fandom needs to take ten steps back and look at what they are doing. Go back to the game. Play it again – watch your favorite let’s player’s videos of it again. 

And just… food for thought… please don’t jump the gun on someone else’s OC’s personality and actions. 

I do not want anyone to experience what I had.

mandatory attendence can be ableist

mostly because of how mandatory attendence is usually set and done is made to help healthy people who take one or two sick days, not sick people who take multiple days to handle or cope with their sickness.

the “you can only be absent three times this semester or ill start dropping your grade” or “this quarter, you cant be absent more than 4-7 times or else you might fail” is very limiting to disabled students who need multiple days just to recover from going to school for one day, or are very sick and need to miss more than three days to even begin to get their illness under control.

another big thing ive heard from highschools, colleges and so on is that “if i let you skip, i need to let everyone skip”, this is stupid, because not everyone is disabled, abled people dont need to take multiple medical days, abled people dont have an illness that is making attendence harder for them, teachers, principals, etc who say this dont understand that disabled people exist and one of their limitations can be the ability to be in class for long periods of time/at all. you dont have to do it for everyone, because not everyone is disabled. and it infuriates me because why do they care about fairness when theyre openly saying that they wont make an accomodation to help a disabled student have an equal opportunity that abled people get with no problem and no fight.

and thats where the biggest issue in mandatory attendence lies, with the simple fact that its obvious teachers didnt think to add disabled people and what they might go through when thinking of rules, whether its because they didnt care enough about disabled students, or they just simply forgot, i dont know, but ableism is ableism.

and a disabled student having to hope a teacher understands their situation, because it isnt mandatory that you not punish the disabled person for being sick, is ableist as well, because getting a teacher who doesnt understand that someone cant help being sick or absent, can set a disabled person up to fail where it wouldnt set an abled person up to fail.

is this done on purpose? is it by accident? i dont know, i dont care, because ableism is ableism.

and id hate for any disabled person going into school feeling like being sick is their fault and choosing being present over being okay.

  • Cooper Lawrence: I love how your fans love to speculate about every single syllable, everything you've written like, sweet creature, so i don't know if you saw this but this is my favorite thing. So all over twitter and social, they're sure that it's not about a girl, it's about Louis and that, you know, especially like two hearts in one home, it's hard when we argue, we're both stubborn, they're sure that that's about your relationship with Louis Tomlinson, is it?
  • Harry: I mean.... i think... umm... *makes uncomfortable noises*... i mean... i think everyone... people are always gonna speculate about what songs are about, um, and i don't think i'd ever want to tell someone that they're wrong, um, for feeling how they feel about songs even when they're not necessarily right. I think, you know, i think the fun thing in music is you get to, you get to write a song and that's all that you want to say on it and you don't necessarily have to explain it much more than that. But i think if you really listen to the lyrics i think you can work out whether it's about that or not and i'd lean towards no.

So here’s the thing, on this blog i make lighthearted posts about being a lesbian who likes swords, like “put [this sword] on your blog if you are gay”

And most of the time interactions with this blog are just people finding my posts fun or relatable having a chortle and tagging themselves, their friends, or sometimes theorising which fictional character runs this blog. it’s just some good fun that i and many others enjoy

But very regularly i get straight people saying ‘but what about straight people’ like. all the time. its very annoying.

cause guess what! im not straight! i dont care. go write your own posts, im not writing Relatable Posts for straight people thats not my job why would i do that

however every time im like ‘i dont care about straight people on my gay blog or in my gay life at all actually’ i get inundated with replies about how Mean And Evil i am because im not making jokes for their consumption

In which case i am just a mean evil gay because im not going to start catering to straight people on my gay blog about being gay and liking swords ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

Yall remember *NSYNC?

Remember how they (along with the backstreet boys) were the most popular boybands worldwide during the late 90s and into the millennium?

Remember the member Lance Bass?

Remember how he dated Danielle Fishel and they were “so in love”?

Remember how after they broke up, he exclusively dated women?

Remember all the rumors he had about him not being straight?

Remember when TMZ and Perez Hilton started following him around?

Remember when shortly after all this he came out as gay 4 years after *NSYNC disbanded?


Remember the reasons he gave as to why he didn’t come out a lot sooner than he did?

Do you think people told his speculators back then that they were delusional just like they tell Kaisoo shippers that now?

I bet they did, but in the end:

I rest my case.

Your right to ship what you want doesn’t supersede someone else’s right to express their discomfort with your shipping habits.

Part of being a responsible member of fandom means understanding that people may have issue with your media consumption. Especially when your chosen ship is triggering to others. It doesn’t matter if it’s a coping mechanism; it doesn’t matter if you do your best to hammer whatever you think are the problematic elements out of it, people still have the right to express, on their personal blogs, how uncomfortable your ship makes them. 

You cannot shout down people expressing their discomfort with fandom trends as “spreading drama” or “encouraging hate.” You cannot uncritically advocate that people blindly and silently accept every fandom trend, trope, and ship without saying anything about. 

I’m not talking about sending hate to creators; not only is that useless, but it makes things more personal than necessary. But people have the right to express their discomfort with fictional pairings and fandom trends without every shipper responding with an essay as to why they’re being personally attacked. Responsibility is a two way street; yes, people have the responsibility to avoid content that upsets them, but shippers of problematic ships have a responsibility to not normalize a culture of blind acquiescence, or hound people for posting untagged opinions about your ship. They have a responsibility to understand that what they’re doing may make people uncomfortable and not throw a tantrum when someone points out their problematic ship is problematic. 

You cannot silence people who are triggered by your ship. 

You cannot create a culture where any impersonal dissent is immediately shouted down under the guise of “not spreading drama”. 

You cannot create a culture where people’s fictional pairings matter more than people’s right to express their discomfort with fictional pairings. 

Most importantly, you need to be okay with the fact that people are going to find your ship unsavory. Your right to ship what you want doesn’t supersede someone else’s right to express their discomfort with your shipping habits.

skam and the depiction of Islam : homophobia in islam

there’s a huge problem. a huge one.

in season three, when isak attacked sana on her faith, she reacted aggressively and had every right to do so. I would have done the same thing. she tried to show him how void his argument was.

by pointing out that by the standards of science, being gay was wrong.

sure, it was just a rhetorical device to get him to shut up and she apologized later on.

still, that entire scene felt really, really wrong to me. it didn’t feel like sana, the sana I knew and love. because sana would never, ever, embrace prejudices and hatred of those in pain just to shut up an ignorant white boy.

like… that’s the thing. it didn’t feel like she was playing pretend. it genuinely sounded like she was defending something she believed to be partially and at some level, true. or defendable. something she was ACCUSTOMED to hear. something she was okay with saying out loud.

I fucking hated that, seeing it. it made me upset for weeks, as a gay muslim.

and now, this.

I understand mikael taking his distance. I understand the guys doing the same. honestly, thats realistic.

what I don’t understand is why Julie and her team thought it’d be wise to picture them LAUGHING about even and what happened, in their channel. it makes no sense. they’re sweet, kind boys. it makes literally no sense.

and it gets worse because she felt the need to single out yousef, to depict him as the one not to laugh at even’s pain. as the one who feels compassionate and human enough to show some decency.

yousef. the one that renounced islam.

now, thats demonizing the faith. thats demonizing the boys as muslims. thats making a clear link between Islam and the hatred and oppression of gay people. it’s subtle, sure. but it’s definitely there.

and I’m not okay with that. at all.

yes, a lot of muslims do believe being gay is haram. they won’t talk to me. they say I’m a tool of the western world, sick, wrong and going to jahannam. but guess what ? just like a lot of non muslims, christians or otherwise.

homophobia is not dictated by the qu'raan. the tale of Lut was interpreted as a cautionary tale about what shall befall those who practice it. INTERPRETED. it’s not what it says.

a lot of muslims are gay, bi, trans. we exist. we’re not haram. we’re not a paradox. we have lives in our communities.

and for julie to take it upon herself to depict islam as inherently homophobic like that…. she has no right to do that. it’s not her story, not her community, not something she has had to live with. she’s coming at them from a place of power and it’s very, very wrong.

edit : this post is gaining way too many notes so I’m just gonna specify that I’m obviously talking about a western context of things, from the point of view of someone residing in the west. this is a show written by a white woman and it is very much about islam seen through the lens of europe. I am not attempting to defend the stance that islam in its general and global practice is devoid of homophobia because that’s simply false and that would be an insult to non straight muslims living outside the west and what many of them endure. I am very much aware of it and is not at all trying to erase them or to dismiss it for the sake of fighting the islamophobia I face here.

HEY, TIP

if you are thin/average size and you have a plus size friend and you’re out shopping with them, it’d be decent of you to say “hey lets go into [store that has plus size clothing]”. that’d just be so fucking decent of you. no plus size person wants to have to say “hey, so sorry to horribly inconvenience you, but can we maybe please hit up 1 store that caters to me after we hit up about 10 that cater to you?” and i’m not saying every fat person is insecure! thats not at all what I’m saying! but young girls especially are very likely to believe that thin=beautiful / fat=disgusting. everyone, no matter your size, has to work hard to dismantle that way of thinking and it’d just be nice if friends looked out for friends like this; something as simple as inclusive shopping experiences that don’t leave people feeling alienated and traumatized :’)