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On the subject of labels

Here’s the thing about labels: they are generally a simplification of something. It’s a way to communicate to other people something about yourself. You get to pick your own labels and if they’re slightly off from the most often used version of that label then you can either find another label that fits more closely to what you’re trying to convey or you can add other labels that help clarify.

Labels do not, however, give anyone the right to decide anything else about you. Labels are you communicating to others and are defined solely by you. Nobody else can tell you what to call yourself. Others can ask you if you think another label is closer to what you mean if the one  or ones you currently use seem off to you. You don’t have to adopt that label just because someone else thinks it fits you.