that sounds too much like

I got an anon saying that they thought I used too much editing and didn’t actually sound like that. Which, honestly, I find to be flattering? Anyway, here’s a crappy, unedited clip from my phone that I took for a friend of me messing around at midnight last night (in pjs with crazy hair and day-old makeup). The phone was just sitting on the keyboard so video and sound quality are equally awful. I hope that’s unedited enough! Lmao. Yay for showing your flaws, too. ;)

anonymous asked:

Do you think the start of connors new video with Lilly was a very subtle tronnor mention? It just seemed very specific to be talking about avocado whatever it was and guacamoles,, Idk if I'm reading into it too much but that's what it sounded like to me

That’s honestly just a thing within the fandom, I doubt they associate it with their relationship.

Alright, come on now Bioware. No reason to kill my Inquisitor. Just let them live and then retire, in peace, to live with Josie in Antiva. That doesn’t sound like too much to ask, right? … please. 

All I ever want for my characters, is for them to live in peace and happiness with their loved ones. No fame, no glory, no power, just love and peace (and little blue children, in Shepard’s case).

rubber-sex-mogar asked:

O-okay um well as you can probably tell, I'm not a very confident person, but I really want to be a writer and I've written several short stories and poems but every time I try to show it to someone whose opinion I value (my dad, brother, mom, aunt, etc) they either shoot it down or not even read it. I know it shouldn't bother me, but unfortunately I'm really sensitive :/ basically I'm asking how I can become more confident as a writer?

Hello there, understandably-shy writerly friend~ ♥︎

I absolutely understand where you’re coming from. Writing is hard, and even more so if you live in an environment that may hinder your craft :c

Thankfully for you, this is something that I’ve touched on in the past. Here are a few helpful links:

If you’re going to read ONE of the links, read the last one. It is seriously my best reply (to date) about gaining confidence. Seriously, I could go on and on repeating everything I said— but this is not the place for that.

Because there’s something else I want to talk about.

You need to develop a thick skin if you want to be a writer, because (just like you have no control over how people will react to your work) you don’t have any control over what people will say or do. There are nasty people out there in the world, and eventually someone will look at your art and tell you things like…

  • It sucks (or YOU suck)
  • It’s bad (or YOU are a bad writer)

And so on. You have no control over this. Great writers, and awful writers alike, have all had to deal with this. What I want you to understand is that you’re not alone in this struggle— this is something that all writers have to deal with. The successful ones (and the ones we remember) are those who can overcome this.

Let me explain…

Do you like RPGs? I love RPGs. I grew up playing them— and sometimes I find my logic to be broken down into RPG terminology. So, let me explain to you why I think a thick skin is important.

If life was a video-game (particularly an RPG) and your ‘class’ was that of a writer, the way in which you succeed in life is by improving your ability to write (your writing skill). Everyone focuses on this, on their craft. It makes sense. It’s like upgrading your attack attribute. People forget about defense, though. Your ‘thick skin’ (or the ‘confidence’ skill if we continue with the analogy). I have seen tons of people who are great at their craft, but as soon as they get their first 1-star review (and trust me, it’s coming, It’s going to happen sometime) they give up. They literally have to step away from what makes them happy because they can’t handle it. They are practically Glass Canons, they write good stuff (really good stuff) but they have no defense whatsoever.

I am the #1 person to tell you to write all the time, because I truly believe that the only way you will get better is by writing. But, even so, I have to admit that while buffing up your attack stat may seem like the cool thing to do… you need to buff up your defense too. It’s a killing field out there, and if you want to survive you are going to need a thick skin.

Now, how can you go about doing that? Read my article on confidence. You need to understand that your work is not an extension of your persona. And…

Learn to break down the information that is given to you. When people say things like “This book sucks” what they are really saying is “I didn’t like this book, but I don’t want to be held responsible for my opinion so I will claim that my words are objective and ultimate.”

Seriously. Learn to break down what people say. I keep saying this about characters, but it also applies to real life: what people say is a DIRECT reflection of how they view the world, and a reflection of their own most intimate persona.

I can tell you, with confidence, that most of the time people are not effectively trying to be mean you (or your writing). Everyone is wrapped up in their own lives, and (sadly) most people don’t know how to step out of their problems and instead go about mistreating other people as a way to combat the problems they’re not actively working on.

What I am getting to is that… the world is full of people with problems. Some of those people are nasty. Most of the nasty people would rather say mean things than dealing with their problems (because it’s easier to not fix problems than fixing them). You, though, have NO control over this. So, the best thing to do is to work on your defense stat. Gain a thicker skin. As you level up in life the struggles only get harder. If you want to be successful (at ANYTHING in life) you need to be able to take punches.

I hope this helps! Be strong, writerly friend. I know you can overcome this~ ♥︎

you say here is a casual reminder that i adore you

and i say be not-casual about it, adore me un-casually,
pretend it’s really as big as it feels

sometimes i sound too much like a poet.

if there is going to be a sweaty body panting over top of mine,
i want it to be yours. cup my breast and call me sugar,
think about remembering to buy coffee when you’re inside of me.
this is a love poem.

we forget to put out the garbage on the right nights
and the milk goes sour in the fridge
because i’m trying that vegan thing again
and you’re never home to drink it. i buy it anyway.
this is a love poem.

i know it’s never really as big as it feels.
someone looking in from the outside will always see something
unremarkable. i’m okay with that. watch me
misplace my metaphors.

watch me put down my pen long enough to
slide into bed with you and press my cold feet up against
your warm legs.

this is still a love poem.
—  Trista Mateer

cyndercrys asked:

Hi! I was just wondering if you had any tips for fleshing out relationships (namely romantic ones) in writing? I've run out of ideas for a couple in one of my stories and feel as if their relationship is very 2D and not developed. Thank you very much!

Hello there!

You pose a very interesting question, and I think the answer for it can be found in real-life relationships~ Have you ever looked at couple and thought to yourself: “Why are they still together?”

Now, some people may look at this question and jump to conclusions. I think that simply to answer this question would generate for us nothing but a 2-Dimensional relationship. Take the graphic below:

Pretty bland, right? I don’t think this actually reflects a meaningful relationship. Do you really think that Tai is in love with Matt only because he finds him attractive? Really? If Tai found another, more attractive person, would they still be together?

This is why I think we should go beyond ‘what’ and ask ‘why’.

Consider the following questions (by the way, I’ll continue using the same names because it’s my OTP and I can cry if I want to):

  • What does Tai get from being in a relationship with Matt?
  • Why is this getting X so important to Tai?

Yeah, when we look at relationships like that it can become pretty depressing. But it’s kind of true. As selfish creatures we often strive to get what we want. Looking at it from that point of view, aren’t most real-life relationships 2-Dimensional? I think they tend to be, but I’m not the person to say if that is good or bad. After all, a relationship that’s basically a time-bomb makes for a great story.

But I think there’s more to it than that. I think that a truly meaningful relationship, where both parties long not only for their own benefit but the benefit of the other, are hard to come by, both in fiction and in real life.

I will leave you with the following:

Look at your characters, consider what they get from the relationship, why do they choose to be with this partner (of all the people in the universe), and — above all — what does this character bring into the relationship?

I think (personally) that the best of all relationships are those where both parties long to make their partner happy. It’s like taking care of a fruit-bearing tree. You can find fruit anywhere you go, but if you care and love for that tree, you will together gain something that could’ve have never existed otherwise c;

I think they call that ‘love.’

I hope this helps! If you, or any of my dear followers, has any more questions, please send them my way :D

Keep Writing~

anonymous asked:

hello! your blog is amazing and your answers have motivated me to write, so thank you. here's the thing: i've been wanting to be a writer since i was little, but when i told my parents in the first place, they said i couldn't do it as job, that i couldn't earn enough money by writing alone, unless i wrote a huge bestseller or something. writing is a hobby to them, and so, i don't feel like i can say that this is what i want to do with my life. i do, but i want them to be proud of me, you know?

Hello, dear anon~ ♥︎

Congratulations! You have unlocked an achievement :D

I have actually answered an ask similar to yours in the past. I recommend you give it a looksie c;

Now, as an added bonus, I’m going to tell you something else. You’re probably young (and that’s good!) so take my advice because this will save you a lot of worrying in the years to come, okay?

You don’t have any control over anyone’s feelings.

  • You can’t make your parents feel proud of you.
  • You can’t make anyone like you.
  • You can’t make anyone love you.

You can make it easier for them, by sacrificing your time and energy, but you cannot MAKE THEM, you can only make it easier for them– and yet again, what have you gained? Nothing. You’re gambling. Putting trust coins into a slot machine hoping that love comes out.

Sadly, that’s not how life works. You don’t have control over the people around you. You can influence them– but you can’t make them do anything they don’t want to do.

And most importantly– you should not have your happiness be dependent on things you have no control over.

Dear Anon, write. Enjoy the act of writing. Let it be the one thing that makes you happy above the rest– and never waste a second worrying what people will think of you. Some will love you. Some will hate you. Some may… in time, be proud of you. But you have no control over it.

So, focus on what you have control over. Your writing. Your craft. Your time. Spend it wisely, and… be happy, always be happy. Life is too darn short to be worrying about people’s opinions.

I hope this helps~ ♥︎

This was answered as part of M. Kirin’s Writing Advice Blitz! For writerly advice, prompts, and more, follow!

I don’t mean to anger any Sherlolly shippers or anything, but

there was something in TRF that I really think is extremely important and notorious, something that concerns how much (or little) the show is investing in Sherlock and Molly’s relationship. It also demonstrates to what extent Sherlock’s concern for Molly is perceived by others.

Upon rewatching the episode (again) I realized something that should be bloody obvious but the momentum didn’t allow me to see at first. 

You know when Sherlock is talking to Moriarty on the roof of St. Barts, and Moriarty reveals his plan of killing all his friends if Sherlock doesn’t commite suicide? (rethoric question, of course you all know this scene from hell because it’s intense as fuck).

All of us Johnlock shippers squee’d a little when Sherlock’s first reaction to that was to immediately think about “John?”. And Moriarty’s answer was: “Not just John. Everyone.” Mrs. Hudson, Lestrade. “Everyone.” At first I thought that ‘everyone’ was meant as a broad term: Just because he didn’t name each of Sherlock’s acquaintances, doesn’t mean Jim Meticulous Moriarty had forgotten about them.

But what does Moriarty add then? “Three bullets, three gunmen, three victims.”

Waitwaitwaitwai— three? Only three? I thought Sherlock had more friends than that, more people that cared about him. Like, I don’t know, Molly.

Now, we all know that Sherlock and Molly are (one-time character appearances aside) probably the two characters that share less screen time throughout the show. This means that they are rarely seen together by other characters. If you had to choose the three people closest to Sherlock’s heart, the show has all but told us she will not be among them. Sherlock might come to her for help on counted occasions, and he may trust her (I mean, if it’s obvious for us that she’s a good person, it must be clear as daylight for him), but she’s not as important as any of those three people. It’s right there, before our eyes.

But that’s what the show tells us. That’s as far as how much the show is actually investing in a Sherlock/Molly relationship (which is not very much, if you ask me). We could probably read a little farther into this:

These lines, while obviously produced by the writers, are all the more important because of who delivers them: Moriarty. Moriarty, the spider. The man who’s so obsessed with Sherlock that he’s made of his disgrace, of his demise, his sole, main purpose. This man, who’s even let himself be tortured in order to gather as much information as possible about the detective. Who has always been one step ahead and made him dance. The man who pretty much outwitted him (or so he thought) ‘till the bitter end. The man that couldn’t stand to leave a story unfinishedEven if it meant getting rid of the last loose end: himself. 

And what are his words of choice? 

“Your only three friends in the world will die”.

Word by word. Moriarty, who has even dated Molly for the sake of getting closer to Sherlock, who has seen the two interact and is most certainly aware of the love Molly feels for the detective, this Moriarty, has been witness to all of that and has decided it wasn’t good enough. That it wasn’t enough to trigger Sherlock’s alarm and make him jump to his death in order to save her. To the point where he doesn’t even consider her a friend of Sherlock’s. 

If the man who’s most willing to hurt Sherlock by killing the people he loves doesn’t deem Molly worthy of his attention, I don’t know what else needs to be said.

He doesn’t consider her one of Sherlock’s weaknesses. Even if she believes in Sherlock, Moriarty must have come to the conclusion that the detective doesn’t reciprocate her feelings at all (not in vain has Sherlock ALWAYS been oblivious to any of her advances, no matter how NOT subtle they were). Like I said, Sherlock trusts her, because it’s extremely evident that she is a good person, and that her infatuation for him means she’d do anything to help, but Moriarty has decided she’s not one of the people that can make Sherlock jump (bad pun, sorry) into action and dance to the spider’s song (which is undoubtedly BeeGee’s Staying Alive, in case anyone was wondering —Why would you?).

So, what we are basically told here, twice at the same time (indirectly by the writers, directly from Moriarty’s lips), is that Molly will never be such an integral part of Sherlock’s life as these three other people are, the first of which is John

It always has been John, and it’s always gonna be John. We still have been shown no indication that this pattern could change in the foreseeable future of the show. In fact, it’s only intensifying with every passing season. So far, there is not a thing Sherlock hasn’t done for John. Whatever it was.

And with all this I just wanna say that we, as Johnlock shippers, have it bad, but boy, would I hate to be on the Sherlolly ship with all that water rushing in through so many holes.

Edit: since it’s been like two years since I last watched the whole 3 seasons, I forgot some important stuff related to this that happened after The Reichenbach Fall. I wrote another (shorter) post about that to correct myself.

williamholkko-deactivated201504 asked:

I need a hug actually. I've been working on this story for years probably, but unfortunately the story has taken a turn where it is simply not what I love to write about anymore. Nor is the depressing subject matter really worth my mental health. I looked at the reasons why I started and it isn't enough. It has come to a point now where I have to say "This isn't going to work anymore." I just feel like such a failure now. :( Have you ever just had to let a project go?

Hello there, writerly friend~

I’m sorry to hear about your situation :c I totally understand why it would feel so disheartening to realize, after years of working on a story, that it has become something that no longer makes you happy. I have known people in your same situation, people who spent years upon years on a project and they arrived at a point where they realized they weren’t doing it because they liked it— but because they didn’t want to waste all of the ‘work’ they had put in to it.

I learned from their mistakes. I have always made sure to work on the things that excite me, and I always focus on one project at time so that I don’t ever see the flame flicker… but, what about you? What about your situation?

I may not have had to let go of a book, but I have had to let go of many other things that were not making me happy anymore. Jobs, money, people, even ‘love.’

The thing is this:

We have limited time on this planet.

The most foolish way to live is to spend one’s time doing the things that do not make us happy. I have talked in the past about the mentality that writing may be a waste of time, and some of you already know my feelings— but I will reprise of them now.

If you feel like it’s time to let go of that book, then let go of it. You do not owe anyone your time, and your passion. Yes, I am the one person in the world who will tell you to write regardless of everything— but I am not about to force you to write something that doesn’t make you happy.

Life is far too short to spend it being miserable by choice.

As for the ‘work’ you put into that book… it was by no means a ‘waste.’ Runners who lose a race do not look at all their training as a ‘waste.’ Everything you do to improve your writing — every word, every paragraph, every page — has helped you become a better writer.

You are better now because you worked on that book. Let go of it. Maybe some day you will revisit it. Maybe you will never look at it again. What matters is not the years you spent, or the years that are coming, but what you do with the time you have now.

Today is a new day, writerly friend. Go off and start a new story. You have the entire universe at your command— find a story that excites you, and let it set you aflame~ ♥︎

Oh, and I almost forgot… *hugs*

I am always willing to give a writerly friend a hug c;

Today is a new day, so let’s write!


I have a really good idea for taylorswift but unfortunately she doesn’t follow me so idk how she can ever see this, but if she follows you please reblog this or ask her this!! 

How about for the surprise song, she sings an unreleased song that didn’t make it onto 1989. I remember listening somewhere she said she had really good songs that didn’t make it because it sounded too much like it would fit Red. But we have to hear at least one of those somewhere, someday, somehow!

a thing i dont like is when people who you dont like borrows ur clothes then it smells like them