it’s! arospec awareness week so guess who’s gonna be spammy and do the challenge, it’s me
i’m a day late to the party, so i’m gonna do days 1 and 2 here. sorry it gets kind of long ‘~’
personal prompt, day 1
write about what your aromantic / aro spec identity means to you
my aromanticism is kinda weird for me because a lot of it is influenced by my last relationship? like i’ve stopped really considering myself demiromantic because of it, and i’ve started just using the aro label. and i’m okay with that, because i love that part of myself and who i am even though it’s so unusual to the majority of people.
i still struggle with accepting it fully, and i’m still dealing with the aftermath of a relationship that was abusive primarily due to my orientation, but i’m trying to learn to love myself for who i am even with an entire world against me.
for me, my aromanticism is both a “fuck you” to an allonormative and sexualized society, and a huge insecurity in my life, because i still struggle with feeling incomplete and broken. i have a lot of external pressure around me to conform to heteronormative society, and it’s impossible for me to do so, which leaves me feeling like i’ve let people down. i carry a lot of guilt around with me because of it, but i’m trying to learn how to let that guilt go and be happy with who i am ^^
fandom prompt, day 1
a character you headcanon as aromantic and on the asexual spectrum
pidge!!! i love the aroace headcanon for her, and since i relate to her in so many ways, it makes even more sense to me for her to be aspec :) and her love for technology and robots is so much purer than any allo headcanon could dream of, lbr
personal prompt, day 2
write about some of the complications you’ve come across as identifiying or existing on the aromantic spectrum
the obvious problem i’ve had is trying to explain the SAM to people. it’s amazing how much people can’t seem to understand the difference between romantic and sexual feelings and behaviors lol.
the other complications i’ve had is when people want to get romantically involved with me. at least once a semester, i have some guy try something on me, and i don’t know how to deal with it. i’m incredibly romance-repulsed, to the point that even hugs or other semi-platonic affections make me super uncomfortable, and yet very few people actually take this into account and continually overstep their boundaries with me. and since allos i guess find it hard to believe there are people without romantic attraction, they just can’t fathom that i wouldn’t want to engage in this kind of behavior, or that i wouldn’t want to date people, etc. it’s…. very frustrating and uncomfortable.
fandom prompt, day 2
a character you headcanon as aromantic and allosexual
i know the tales series isn’t too popular, but i’m convinced that vesperia’s yuri lowell is totally aromantic and bisexual! his lack of interest in anything romantic, but his deep care for his friends (
flynn), really makes this headcanon work for me.