Hiii, thirsty hoseok anon dropping by to say i'm in love with yr blog rn. I mean i'm always in love with it cuz like yr funny & i love reading yr tags & i love yr writing & i love yr iris rambles & i love you but like those HOSEOK reblogs 😩🔥 this is some quality content™ that i'm not getting from hobi blogs i follow-- & i'm super thankful for it!! & for you! & for yr existence!!! Also I actually already have a tag but havent used it since 1st thirsty ask cuz i wanted to b even /more/ anonymous
Also– i hope you can get some rest and apply for that promotion and get that extra monayyy :DD 😎💴💸💵💸💷💸💶💸
Hi, Thirsty Hoseok Anon! Thanks for stopping by to remind me of all the weird, thirsty tags that I overshare for Hoseok, my bias wrecker who has been out to get me and won’t calm tf down! *fans self* All that quality content™ is really just him glaring and thrusting while sweaty and looking like a full-course meal, and I can’t NOT reblog that…I mean, if it physically hurts to look at or I made a noise when I saw it, then I share it. I’m a simple gal.
I’m still working on this damn application process, which is going into the third hour. I told myself that I’m not allowed to work on Call Me Mistress series until it’s done. I stopped writing at a really messed up place too; I’ve basically left myself hanging in the worst way imaginable to stay motivated.
Do me a huge favour and REBLOG IF YOU DON’T CONDONE SHIP SHAME/SHIP WARS
We all have ships we don’t like. A lot of us even have ships we hate- but that doesn’t make it okay to tell someone not to ship something, and it certainly doesn’t make it alright to send someone hate/shame them for what they ship!
Ship wars can really hurt people, and leave lasting issues with fandom/shipping as a whole, or even drive people out of fandoms entirely! Tag blockers exist for a reason- so please reblog this to let folks know your blog is a safe space, and you’ll use them instead of sending hate!
This is gonna be rambling and out of sorts but like. I want to put out my stance as a trans sga ace person and I’m sure there’s been plenty of people who have said this more eloquently than me but:
If you aren’t trans or sga you aren’t part of the LGBT community. Like, plain and simple as that.
I’m going to start by saying that when I was 14 I thought I was aroace and I came out to my mom and told her I probably wasnt ever going to want to have a relationship. She reacted bad. Like legit screaming fight and calling me a sinner bad. It was some of the most ridiculous bullshit I’d ever been exposed to. And it sucked and it hurt that she didn’t understand and even tho I’ve moved away from that identity, it still sucks to remember that moment. And this is serious shit that needs to be addressed, aroace people do have a lot of interpersonal stigma that needs to be talked about and remedied.
But see. That’s the key difference. Aroace issues are interpersonal, not societal. And the aroace community has very different goals from LGBT people as a result.
Aroace community initiatives are all about Visibility and Education. And those are noble goals, giving people access to this knowledge is great, but for LGBT people the kind of laser focus on Visibility isn’t great.
LGBT people are hypervisible. Trans women get mocked in media constantly, gay men and lesbians are stereotyped and demonized out the wazoo, everyone Knows we’re here. We don’t have a visibility issue.
We’re busy focusing on fighting the societal laws that literally restrict our freedoms. Because at the end of the day if you’re not an sga ace person, you’re not going to walk into an apartment complex with your spouse and be denied a home by a homophobic leasing agent. You’re not going to propose to the person you love and then have a baker refuse to make you a wedding cake because they believe you’re such an abomination that they think getting money from you is a sin. You’re not going to walk down the street holding your partner’s hand and have to fear for your life. You’re not going to tell your co-workers about your spouse and face social isolation, harassment, possibly being fired. You’re not going to be sent to conversion therapy specifically for your orientation and tortured until you’re too afraid to express your love anymore. You’re not going to be refused the right to donate blood.
If youre not a trans ace person, you’re not going to be stopped on your way to the bathroom and sexually harassed about your “real gender.” You’re not going to be denied work. You’re not going to be forced against your will to identify as a gender you are not.
There are no anti-ace laws. Theres no mandate to have sex or be in relationships. There are social pressures, YES, and I’m not denying that. And social pressures suck. But what you’re dealing with is fundamentally different from sga & trans experiences.
The thing about being ace is that it really is more of an interpersonal than professional disclosure. If someone irl asked me about my partners I’d have to talk about my boyfriends. I wouldn’t mention my level of sexual attraction or engagement because that’s not what was asked or what is socially appropriate to disclose. My boyfriends know I’m acespec because it’s relevant to our relationship, my boss would not.
Aromanticism is a mildly different story, because this is when you would reveal, “oh, I’m not in a relationship, I’m not really interested in them.” This could be met mostly with confusion, misunderstanding, disbelief, jokes, or “it’s a phase"s. Which all suck! They do and they’re issues that need to be addressed and dealt with, but once more they’re fundamentally different from the concerns sga people have to deal with when bringing their orientations into the professional realm.
Aro/ace people are perfectly valid, memeatic as that term has become. These are legitimate identities with definitely legitimate issues. But the facts are that the aroace community has vastly different priorities from the LGBT community and this is why they are fundamentally separate.
LGBT spaces and resources shouldn’t be expended in a direction that takes focus away from actual LGBT issues like the ones discussed above. Aroace people need to rally together and get their own resources in shape so they can create a more focused and targeted attempt to do what they want to accomplish. Because tugging at LGBT resources and insisting on including cishet aces, whose experiences are so fundamentally different from trans sga folks’, in LGBT spaces is detrimental to all of us in the long run.
And all the sitting around flinging insults at LGBT people and comparing them to bigots or their oppressors and being disgusted by LGBT people empowering themselves through displays of affection that they’re demonized for in every other circle just kinda proves the rift that exists between these communities and how much their priorities differ.
Exclusionists are prescriptivists not descriptivists; and that matters
I just came from a conference for LGBTQ+ folks and there was widespread support for aro/ace people. There were entire panels centered around being ace/aro. There were ace/aro flags being sold alongside other LGBTQ+ flags. The language used was inclusive to a spec folks. In the panel on lateral oppression, there was no mention of exclusionist or TERF ideologies (rightfully so). Panelists who were specifically invited to speak spoke freely about them being a spec or about how great they thought the split attraction model was.
If you’re a spec and reading this, just know the exclusionists are not the majority in LGBTQ+ spaces. This is the space that actually exists, not the exclusionary space they misguidedly advocate for.
Hi! Some of you might know me from @vvakarians (my main blog) or from @dragonageaspecweek as Mod Mal! I decided that this fandom needed a little more positivity in the trans department, so I’m hosting a Trans Positivity week!
It will run from August 21st to the 27th
This is for BOTH Dragon Age and Mass Effect series
It is open to ALL people with trans characters and trans headcanons
During this week it is encouraged to make anything you would like about your oc’s or send in things about pre-existing characters that you headcanon as trans!
My ask box will be open for general questions, if you want to introduce your character, or just talk about trans stuff
I will track the tag #transbioware, feel free to @ me as well!!
There will be absolutely no hate on this blog, if anyone sends it in they will be blocked and reported
I just really wanted to spread more positivity in this fandom during a time that a lot of people are coming out and spreading hate. I myself am trans and know what it’s like to feel like shit when someone does that. I’m hoping that this week and this blog will help people feel safe in sharing their experiences and characters/headcanons!!
Anti antis: antis don’t call eachother out and when they do it done delicately and soft
Also anti antis when someone is a map, transphobe, homophobe, or just a piece of shit: YOU JUST DONT LIKE THEM CUZ THEY SHIP SOMETHING BAD….YOU GUYS ARE RUDE INFACT REMEMBER WHEN U DID SOMETHING TOTALLY UNREALTED TO THIS DISCOURSE AND THIS OTHER SUPER OLD THING!!! WE RESPECT EVERY ONE ANTIS ARE JUST ABUSIVE AND THEY HURT PEOPLES FEELINGS !!! *tags or mentions 20 other anti antis in the post to garner sympathy*
hey so it’s disgusting that fans are being targeted and all and im disgusted with the cowards who hide behind anon but
calling jake or drake a “garbage white man” will NEVER be the same compared to what people of color and women face everyday. don’t you dare compare one person on anon calling your beloved character “an overrated white man” to years of dehumanization, racism, discrimination, and more that poc have faced.
so, no, “insulting people for liking a white male LI is just as sexist as hating on female characters” isn’t true and will never be the same in our day and age. they will never be the same because the most a white man will have to face (specifically based on the fact they are white/a man) is maybe one or two messages online. women and poc have to live every day of their life being treated like shit but!!