Open letter/wtv to this ignorant girl in Fem class talking about how skinny girls are shamed more than any other women
skinny girls like “they told me to eat a hamburger!”
fat girls like “i only fit into clothing at 2 stores in my entire city i didnt get the job because im not esthetically pleasing enough i can never be a model and unless im only 20 pounds overweight with perfect curves i cant even be a plus-sized model i’ve tried 13 diets since i was 13 i’ve never been in a relationship in 7th grade someone asked me out and when i said yes their friends joined in and they all laughed and said “in ur dreams fat pig” I can’t eat in public because if i eat healthy ppl are like “a salad? Who is she kidding? A pizza? Thats why shes so undesirable and disgusting” skinny is associated with words like health beauty fashion thin dainty lovely small ideal and fat is associated with pig disgusting gross slob dirty lumpy undesirable ugly. If i date someone more conventionally attractive than me im the luckiest girl in the world because someone took pity on me and if i date someone conventionally less attractive theyre like ya probs all she can get. !!!!!!!! If a skinny girl is single its her choice and she’s picky and waiting for the right person and maybe is only looking for fun. If i’m single its because no one wants me and maybe someone will once i lose the weight. !!!!!!!!!! It’s a lot of “youd be pretty if you lost weight”. Why can’t someone be pretty and fat? Are those just such mutually exclusive ideas that i cant be both? It’s having a 10 year old sister who stole your yoga videos and ab cruncher and started living off of celery and water when she was actually underweight but felt fat. It’s having a 15 year old sister get told by boys in her high school “lucky you have big boobs because youre chubby”. Yes. Lucky. It’s being ashamed of who i am and what i eat. It’s wearing the same outfit as a thinner girl but shes praised for her fashion sense and im “that’d be a nice outfit… if you lost weight”. Or no one notices at all. It means no bikinis no bathing suits no crop tops no short shorts no skirts because i dont deserve to wear them. Because your eyes would be offended. It’s called being at a societal disadvantage in every way possible. Sitting in the back of class or the bus or anywhere so no one has to stare at my fat rolls. It’s “well i hope youre smart or funny because u sure as hell arent hot so what good are you to me”. It’s i probably cant work in retail or media etc unless im putting makeup on the pretty girl or getting the white male bosses some coffees (and even then, picture female retail workers, interns, and makeup artists: pretty and thin right?) Its not being able to speak up about skinny privilege in my feminism class because “obviously u think that !! ur fat”. It’s about every girl on tv being generally thin unless it’s a character whose storyline specifically revolves around being fat. Why can’t a female protagonist have the exact same personality and hobbies and storyline as any other but just hey she’s chubby and its not pointed out over and over. You dont see everyone going “wow that girl is so SKINNY” in every episode of every show where the main female character is thin. BECAUSE HER CHARACTER DOESN’T REVOLVE AROUND THAT ONE TRAIT and her storyline doesnt get directed by how thin she is. If we’re overweight, we have one storyline. If we’re thin, we can be any woman we want. And MOST IMPORTANTLY, Because i have been taught that i have to love myself before others can love me. And that to love myself, i have to lose weight. I guess nobody will love me until then. Not even me, because, as much as I try: you will never let me.