i mean, theres a difference between the isolation an ace person might feel and the fact that an lgbt persons life is constantly in danger. thats not me playing oppression olympics, its just the reality of it. in my opinion it makes much more sense to have an lgbt community, but also a separate aro/ace community. cuz really, at the end of it all, the lgbt community was formed on the basis of having similar oppressions between the involved groups- whereas aces' experience is different than that
Ace people do not face all the oppression and dangers that other queer people face, but they do face many of them. We are sexually abused by people trying to “fix” us. We are ostracized by our families who want us to have “normal” relationships. We are demonized by religious institutions for not participating in procreative culture. We are rejected by people we date once they realize we truly aren’t sexually attracted to them, called slurs and assaulted. Asexual men in particular are often assumed to be gay by homophones and experience much abuse from them. There’s much more negativity, of course, those are just the first examples that come to my mind. But even if an ace person has been so fortunate to not be victimized in these ways, they still need a queer community.
I have never in my life met another ace person except through the internet. Even after I understood my orientation (which wasn’t until adulthood because I was so alone). I’ve been open about it for several years now and still have not met another. If I want a community that’s not only online, the LGBT community is there for me in person.
Ace people are so rare that when I was young, I didn’t even know it was a thing I could be, and I spent most of my life feeling and being treated as “broken.” I have been raped, and I have been suicidal directly because of my orientation.
My sexuality is a queer sexuality. Any sexuality that is not heterosexuality is a queer sexuality. And being a part of the LGBT community has literally saved my life. I cringe in terror for what may happen to ace people who are rejected from it.