thanks for inclusiveness

Chubby body appreciation post tho???

Soft bodies are so?? GOOD??
Big tummies are good pillows and good kissing surfaces.
Tummies with stretch marks?? GOSH, YES??? It’s like nature itself is putting down a trail of lightning that says “KISS HERE PLEASE”

And chubby/fat arms though? Can we JUST? Thighs and stomachs get a lot of love (and rightfully deserved) but can we talk about ARMS??
That cute arm chub that I just want to be wrapped up in a hug and a snuggle in? SO PRECIOUS?? 
People with such soft, cuddly arms that there’s lil bumps and stretches from cellulite?? CUTE??

And soft necks? Necks with some squish on them? Very extra kissable?? And squishy cheeks GODDD I WANNA SMOOSH YOUR CUTE CHEEKS KISS ALL OVER YOUR FACE!!! And when people have chubby cheeks and lil dimples?? Or when they have high cheekbones so when their cheeks are chubby they’re VERY prominently chubby?? THIS IS GOOD AND FANTASTIC??

And THIGHS. My god. Thick thighs are never praised enough no matter how hard one tries. Big, soft laps are so perfect for laying your head on! And stretch marks on big thighs? Cute lightning patterns to trail your fingers over or gently kiss when you’re already laying in their lap?? YES!!
Cellulite on thighs is also so so good and cute!! Dimples in cheeks are wonderful and so are dimples in thighs and butts?? CUTE!!!

Hips with squish over them?? GAH!! I CANNOT HANDLE!!! Please be more confident with your hips (if you feel comfortable) because when you are you give me LIFE!!!

Back rolls?? CUTE and very fun to trace hands over and hold onto during snuggles!! Looks very cute all the time! 

Chubby/fat bodies in crop tops and short shorts?? YES!!! CUTE!!!

Chubby/fat bodies in sweat pants and a tshirt? EXTRA SOFTNESS TO THE SOFT CUTIE!!!

Chubby/fat bodies in swimsuits?? VERY CUTE?? Swim trunks and soft belly is very very good!!
One pieces that cling tight to your stomach or ride up your thighs are still cute no matter what anyone says!!
Two pieces? GOOD!!! You look so cute! Don’t feel obligated to cover that adorableness if you don’t wanna!! 

Chubby/fat bodies in lingerie?? SO IMPORTANT TO ME!!! When stomach is tucked into cute underwear it is very very adorable and when there’s chub over low rise underwear it’s also very very cute and endearing!! THIGH HIGHS?? UGH, MY HEART. I KNOW THAT THEY PROBABLY ARE FALLING DOWN CONSTANTLY BUT THANK YOU FOR WEARING THEM YOU’RE DOING US ALL AN AMAZING SERVICE.

In conclusion:
Softness is good
I will kiss you all over
Holding you and feeling handfuls of squish is amazing
I love you

@miracusims

Can we just talk about the bee? Bee-cuz I love her :^)

I’m watching “Love Between the Covers”

 A documentary that I hadn’t watched before because I just found out it existed, and apart from all of those brilliant authors talking about their experiences writing romance, the most remarkable thing for me is when all the writers and readers speak about the community. It is something that as a newbie shocked me from the very beginning; how inclusive the community is, how there is no judgement (because they are judged by the rest of the world and therefore know how it feels)… you know, when one joins a new community, at least in my case and being the webtrovert that I am, at the beginning one is afraid or shy thinking that one won’t be welcome or that it will be a struggle to try to fit in, I mean try, past and present experiences throughout life teach you that when a group has been around for ages and you’re new, you will have to work hard to get in, they won’t make room for you, you have to earn it. And it’s even harder when you’re uncool. However, the romance community is a completely different story, I concluded and this documentary is full of women and the odd man saying that I’m right. There is room for everyone, no matter where you are from, the level of education you have, the gender you are,your sexuality,  the colour of your skin, the abilities or disabilities, your body shape, your past, your present or what you want in your future… none of that matters, you are welcome, you are included and you are treated with kindness.

Perhaps I’m wrong, but, this is how I feel right now and it’s you who gave me this feeling. AND I THANK YOU ALL FOR IT

ps. @diehard-fangirl I also saw that you have a review of this doc on youtube, I shall watch it when I’m done watching this ;)

(this post may contain typos, oops)

likestarstrewnskies-deactivated  asked:

Take care of yourself <3 I love your blog and answers to your asks. Thanks for being so inclusive to all ships and everything. I was wondering, if there was a message you could give to each of the 104th and vets, what would it be? i.e advice/encouragement/lecturing Thank you for reading (and answering if you're up to it) 🌻

Thank you, little seedling!

Mikasa: Love yourself
Reiner: Please, get therapy, you have a lot of stuff to work on
Bertholdt: I’m not sure if I would want to talk to him?!
Annie: You’re perfect, please come out of that crystal, I’ll treat you to donuts
Eren: Please get some anger management
Jean: Sometimes, please, just think before you talk 
Marco: I’m very sure I don’t wanna talk to him
Sasha: I love you and you’re beautiful!
Connie: You’re a perfect, round bean and you don’t deserve all this shit
Historia: I’d want to tell her something cool, but probably end up noticing how short she is
Armin: You’re brilliant and dark and that’s beautiful!
Ymir: I know you don’t want to hear this, but you’re good

Levi: just go on doing whatever you think you’re doing
Hanji: Try Yoga
Erwin: Nope, definitely don’t wanna talk to him
Nanaba: I love you and you’re an inspiration, even though you only appeared for like six chapters!
Mike: Marry me.
Moblit: I’d probably just hand him a coupon for a week of spa

Bonding With Your Dragon Spirit

**These methods are pretty broad spectrum and can also be used outside of dragon spirits.  These are just techniques and things I have done and this post is by no means all inclusive.  Thank you**

Bonding with your dragon spirit is an important thing to do, I think.  It helps you get closer with them and that opens the way to a good friendship and partnership!  Regardless of what kind of relationship you have with them (provided it’s a healthy one), doing these activities to feel closer is a great way to continue with your practice!

Sharing your passions!

Doing some sort of activity along side your dragon spirit that you love is a good one.  You are sharing something that you love with them and they are being included in it!  Do you like going for a walk?  Great, invite your dragon with you!  Like crafts?  Great!  work with them so you both can create something awesome!  How about cooking?  Also good, you can share the results when everything is finished!  The dragon spirit I currently work with actually likes to play games with me.  I found out through playing some Skyrim music and he was curious where it came from and now I actually have a Dragon age and Assassins Creed save file with his name on it.

Spells

I’ve always felt that spells are a great offering for your dragon.  But casting a spell with their help not only is good for working with your dragon, it’s also a great way to feel closer.  Even if it’s something small, like setting a circle!  I personally love to ask my dragon spirits to help me set a circle and it was always so nice because he would use his wings to do it so it was like I was in a tent.  It was so wonderful!  This is a great way to further your dragon magic and really get close and I strongly encourage it!  Of course this is only if the dragon in question is ok with it.  

Music

This technically could fall under the passions section but I kept it on its own since some people may not really know how to make music or be musically inclined.  But you can listen to music with them, look for songs that they like and have it playing just for the two of you.  I have a playlist on youtube for Rivaz and sometimes I listen to it when I’m going to sleep or I’ll play it when I’m trying to communicate with him.  I also like to sing for him and that is another thing you can do!

Divination

I think this is a big one.  Using the cards or pendulum or whatever medium you use is a great way to bond with them!  I have a reading in my shop available for purchase in which I speak with whatever dragon spirit I’m working with (currently Rivaz) and they will give you a message or advice!

Communication

This kind of ties in with divination but can stand on its own.  Talking with your dragon spirit is a great way you can get to know them, ask them questions and grow together.  Plus, dragon spirits can have some great advice even if its not always what you want to hear.

Sharing meals

So, this can also be considered an offering but I think it is a great one!  Sharing your meals, I think, is a very personal thing.  Think about how many times you’ve gone out to eat with friends?  This can be a similar thing!  I also think its a good thing to share some of your favorite foods with them!  I like to share my coffee and tea!

Astral Projecting/Lucid Dreaming

This is a great one and together you can go on adventures!  I have a post about one of my own experience here.  This is a fun way to see more things and grow closer.  There’s something to be said about discovering such places that you cannot normally see.

Reading

Reading and sharing stories is a fun one.  And every dragon may have their own preference!  Lore, myths, short stories all kinds of things can be used!  You can even share your favorite works with them!  Or even more so you can read them your own work if you write!

Writing

I like writing poetry and coming up with spells to work with dragons and it’s a good way.  You could also work with them to make your own story!  This section could fit in with a few other places on this list but I still felt like I could warrant it’s own spot!

Carrying offerings with you

This is one that I really like doing if my dragon spirit gives me permission. I often leave stones and crystals as an offering or even jewelry and I love to be able to carry those items with me when I leave the house.  It’s like a little extra reassurance that they are with me and it really makes me feel more connected, especially since they were ok with me taking a piece of their hoard with me.

Sleeping 

This may seem silly but if your dragon is ok with it, sleeping with them is a good way to bond.  My current dragon spirit is not really big on cuddles so I don’t really get to do it anymore but the previous dragon spirits I had loved it and it was so nice!  I highly recommend this method if you can!

Happy bonding!

Safe Travels

Researching Indigenous Cultures

thementalwayfarer said: Hello! I plan to include different mythological creatures in my story, but I’m stuck on including thunderbirds indirectly in my story. I can’t find a solid source of how they are viewed by the Oglala Lakota (religiously or otherwise; physical or intangible, etc.). Could someone give me a starting point? I ask this because I would like to have my Oglala Lakota character descended from one, but I don’t want to cause any sort of offense with both my character AND their forced inclusion. Thank you!

little-fuzzy-dude said: The main character for an apocalyptic novel I’m planning is Navajo. She comes from the Navajo Nation, and therefore would have a strong background in the traditions of the Navajo people. However, as a white teenager from the suburbs, I have little first hand knowledge of the Navajo, nor do I have the resources to be able to find out about the culture first-hand. I have been researching, but I’m not sure what sources to trust. Would it be possible for you to point me in the right direction?

Books-wise, look up ethnographies on the people you’re researching. These are very dense anthropological documents that took note of as many things as possible about the society, from the start of assimilation to modern times, and often detail absolutely everything about the culture, from spirituality to food to sacred objects; if they’re modern, they can also include how the population relates to the state, activism, internal politics, and what modern technology they’ve incorporated. You might need to look up several, seeing as not all were respectful of the culture or detailed enough, but when you’re looking to research a very specific people like that then there are usually books that exist. Large, well-known tribes have dozens. 

If you’re going historical, my personal preference is students of Franz Boas; he was a little preservation happy, but he genuinely loved the cultures he studied and was incredibly respectful, which he passed on to his (dozens of) students. Regardless of period, avoid historical revisionists or those who subscribe to the theory of cultural evolutionism like the plague I cannot stress this enough. They will be extremely disrespectful. Ways to spot them: using words like “savage”, trying to establish that Natives had less complex societies than “civilized” Europeans, and generally trying to set the Western world at the “top” of cultural refinement. 

The best ethnographies have Native authors or contributors listed somewhere, but watch that they’re actually still living in the tribe, especially if you’re going to historical sources; contributors should be bridges between the tribe and the anthropologist, them still identifying as part of their tribe but willing to help the outside world understand their culture. 

University libraries are your friends. You can walk in there without having an account at the library (most of the time), and many universities have their system searchable without a university card. The only thing you’re blocked from (in my old university anyway) is articles or the on-site computers. Just look up the system database where you have internet, write the code/name of the book down down, and go hunting. You can’t check it out without a student card, but you can read it in the library. If you don’t have a local university (or yours doesn’t have any ethnographies), you can look up one of the larger ones and see their collection, then try to find the books elsewhere.

If you’re lucky, the ethnography in question is available online for free or in google books with the right keywords. If you’re not, you might have to wrangle things but it should be possible. You could ask anthropology professors to look up data for you— many are happy to spread knowledge in their spare time, even if you’re not a student at their university (Although, as always, watch out for historical revisionists/those who dismiss your desire to learn about Natives on their own terms). Professors (and some students) are often very willing to help you out, especially if they have ties to the Native community. 

Unfortunately, ethnographies are often made by university presses, aren’t printed often, and are expensive, so I wouldn’t encourage buying one unless you were really planning on relying on it for a long period of time. As I alluded to above, many are available for free (I have been lucky enough to find full text with no paywall, but I was looking for very old books).

The best option is finding out if you can contact the tribe, somehow, and ask them about themselves. Many tribes/nations have websites, which could have contact information and what types of queries they accept. There is always a chance they will not respond (as a general rule, ask if you can ask before you actually ask unless they explicitly say “this is okay to ask” somewhere, and proceed to ask how/who you should ask if you get a “yes you can ask”), but it would be getting the information directly from the source without traveling.

There might be some local Aboriginal centres that could help you, as well; resources centres are often a little more open to educating others depending on their purpose (check if they’re community only or open to the public, first!) and they usually have resources on a fair number of tribes in one location. Of course, if you live pretty far away from the tribe in question they might not have information right there, but they could either help you get it or you might find a different tribe to use.

Only approach a tribe on their terms, which means going into spaces they’ve opened to the public and asking there. Do not try to break into a closed off tribe; they’re closed off for a reason. Speak with activists/public figures but respect their time.

I would honestly start with ethnographies (and browsing tribal sites) first, just so you can get a sense of the culture and not make a large blunder at first reach out. Once you’ve gotten a general feel for the culture before asking the tribe, you’re less likely to come across as somebody fetishizing or trying to appropriate. It really helps when you can speak of specifics at least a little.

Hope this helps! If any Lakota or Navajo followers have any input, feel free to chime in.

~Mod Lesya

anonymous asked:

Looking at Cas and Dean's relationship I imagined for a second that if Cas were female, it would be considered a slow burn romance.But because Cas is a guy we need 1564 essays to show antis thatthis is a romance. Amara forced herself on Dean and people immediately thought there was something romantic between them, but not wit the angel who considers Dean his whole world just because it's two guys and this is sad to watch. People are even willing to ship Charlie with Cas over Destiel. I hate this

Helloo!

Yeah, I get your frustration. :p It’s obviously unfair how straight relationships are treated compared to anything not straight, for sure. And how it’s the perfect fuel to people who dislike the ship to claim that others are ‘delusional’, merely because all of the tropes used aren’t being used between a heterosexual couple.

You mentioned slow burn, and I think it’s also interesting to consider how slow burn relationships are handled when it’s about a straight couple because; actually I love slow burn, I don’t mind if a romantic relationship on a TV show that I watch takes like five seasons or more to develop, but the thing is, with straight couples there’s always some kind of reassurance along the way. Something that says; yes, this will take a while, but we know that you’re viewing them in a romantic light, and we’ll get there eventually. Something that says, ‘hold on, their time will come’

Whether you’re talking about Brennan and Booth on Bones, or Styles and Lydia on Teen Wolf, or hell even Mr Sheffield and Fran Fine on The Nanny (I don’t care whether you ship any of these or not, I’m just giving some examples of straight relationships that fit the profile); way before the actual canon there’s often that scene with undeniable romantic intent that says; not yet, but we’ll get there. Usually involving a kiss, just saying; yes, this is a thing, even if it’s not the time/place/season right now and they haven’t sorted their feelings out just yet, this romantic vibe between them is intentional. A message saying; there’s at least a 95% chance that we’ll get there in the end, just give us time.

Whereas with a lot of relationships that aren’t straight (especially when it comes to main characters) if it goes explicitly canon at all, it’s something they’ll save until the very end, the goal being to not ‘offend’ anyone with it, or chase away fans who aren’t ‘here for that’.

Which, in this day and age, is deeply disturbing and sad, although a lot of ‘newer’ shows these days do step up and try to be more inclusive, thank god.

Still, it’s annoying when a m/m or f/f ship that has as many (or more) romantic tropes going for it than any other f/m ship on the same show, is being disregarded or even mocked by fellow fans or even creators for the sole reason that it ‘isn’t straight’. 

And as much as antis love to claim that ‘they’re not hating it because it’s gay’, that doesn’t change the fact that if it were straight they’d claim that ‘the ship sucks’ or that ‘their chemistry is non-existent, bleh’ whereas when it’s not a straight ship, their first go-to is always ‘you’re crazy and delusional for even seeing it in the first place, they’re just bros/gal-pals’

And WOW, I wonder why this is the case? :p

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On this day in music history: April 26, 1961 - “Stand By Me” by Ben E. King is released. Written by Benjamin Earl Nelson, Jerry Leiber and Mike Stoller, it is the sixth solo single for the R&B and pop vocal legend. In spite of recording several classics as the lead singer of The Drifters including the classics “There Goes My Baby”, “This Magic Moment” and “Save The Last Dance For Me”, a contractual dispute with manager George Treadwell drives Ben E. King out of the group in mid 1960. Continuing to work with the songwriting and production team of Leiber and Stoller, King begins recording on his own. After his initial solo releases “Brace Yourself” and “A Help-Each-Other Romance” (duet with LaVern Baker) fail to make an impression on the charts. On October 27, 1960, King is recording at Atlantic Studios in New York City, working on the song “Spanish Harlem” (#10 Pop, #15 R&B) which becomes his first major solo hit. With time still left in the session, Leiber and Stoller ask King if he has any more songs. The singer plays them an unfinished song he had originally intended to record with The Drifters. Inspired by the song “Stand By Me Father”, written by Sam Cooke during his days as lead singer of The Soul Stirrers, Leiber and Stoller re-work the initial melody and Ben and Jerry write the lyrics. Calling the musicians back, the song now titled “Stand By Me” is quickly recorded. Before the session concludes, all involved know that they have created something special. Released in the Spring of 1961, “Stand By Me” makes its impact felt immediately. An instant classic, it quickly rises up the R&B and pop singles charts, spending four weeks at #1 on the Billboard R&B singles chart beginning on May 29, 1961, and peaking at #4 on the Hot 100 on June 12, 1961. Following its release, “Stand By Me” is covered numerous times over the years, including versions by John Lennon, Spyder Turner, Mickey Gilley and Maurice White. Ben E. King’s original recording has a long life after its initial run on the charts. In 1986, director Rob Reiner uses the song as the theme to his film “Stand By Me”, based on the Stephen King short story “The Body”. Featured prominently on the oldies dominated soundtrack, Atlantic Records reissues the song as a single. Driven by the popularity of the film, “Stand By Me” re-enters the Billboard Hot 100, and returns to the top ten, peaking at #9 in December of 1986, over twenty five years after it had originally charted. The song becomes a smash in the UK a second time, thanks to its inclusion in the film, and being featured in a popular commercial for Levi’s jeans, sending the single to #1. In 1998, “Stand By Me” is inducted into the Grammy Hall Of Fame, in 2012 receives the Towering Song Award by the Songwriters Hall Of Fame, and in 2015, King’s original recording is selected for inclusion into the National Recording Registry by The Library Of Congress, just five weeks before the singer’s passing.

anonymous asked:

o ye there's a yamato from fukurodani so u should probs add him to ur yamayamayamayamayamayamayamayamaymayaanhfjwncjw squad

oh yoooo!! well, see, about that!! I’m not saying ‘no’, but…

… he’s … actually.. not a yama ( 山 )! (゜▽゜;)  

breathinginthefallout-deactivat  asked:

Not a react- just wanted to say THANK YOU FOR BEING INCLUSIVE OF TRANS PPL AND USING GENDER NEUTRAL LANGUAGE (unless a certain romance requires a specific gender, like sera's or dorian's, etc). There has been so many react blogs that always box in and make assumptions on things like that, so this blog is so refreshing to read through. Thank you all for your work and I love this blog to pieces!!!!

For future reference this should have been sent as fanmail.

We’re glad you appreciate our hard work! We try very hard to be as inclusive as possible. The mods understand what it is to feel alone in a group and we hope that our readers never feel that with us! After all, we’re in no position to judge!

We always appreciate feedback that helps us to be more inclusive, as well.

~Mod Katalyna

Dear Rhett,
Thank you.
Thank you for not being afraid to change.
Thank you for having the courage to be open-minded and to not be stuck in the mind set you grew up with.
Thank you for being a good example.
Thank you for acknowledging your past and how it has affected you, but allowing new experiences and situations to change your perspective and world view.
Thank you for using your platform for good, educating your followers while showing you are an ally.
Thank you for being inclusive.
Thank you for showing us that change can be a positive thing.
Thank you for striving to be a kinder human.
Thank you.
Alisyn