May I please ask a question? I definitely have mental illnesses. Diagnosed depression & anxiety, suspected bipolar. I also have an astral husband of 5 years' relationship who i adore. I find it really hard to hear and reach him now my illnesses have developed heavily. I'm 33, and i work, so am often exhausted too. Have you any strategies or tips at all to help be with him clearly and easily again? Thank you so much in advance.
So I wanted to start this off with mentioning that there is definitely not one singular way to approach this, and that my advice (inasmuch as it can be called advice) is based purely off of my experiences–for better or worse. And that obvs, other people may have other ideas, which may or may not work better for you than what I am about to write below, etc.
My experience with mental health (and chronic health issues in general, tbh) and astral work is the following:
In order to maintain any semblance of sanity, you should come to expect your time to be one part figuring out a way to manage your health so that you can better access the astral and one part getting used to the fact that your astral work may not look the same ever again.
That sounds harsh to say, but I don’t like sugar coating the possibility that your ability to travel may be limited for a long ass time while you work to get a better grip on your health. Speaking as someone whose life was put into a blender a few years ago, I can tell you that my astral work has dropped a lot in that time, and that no amount of beating my head against the walls changed that. All it did was give me a headache. As such, I’d rather be honest with you about what might be what you’re forced to deal with so that you can prepare for that possibility now.
All of that being said. Figuring out a way to manage your health is key (in my experience) to being able to travel astrally. For some people, that means getting on medications. For others, that might mean handling stress better or cutting stress out of your life. For others, that might mean taking more time for self-care. For others, that might mean making a schedule and sticking to it. It really all depends upon what works best for managing your mental health, and then doing those things daily to keep yourself more stable.
Ofc, when I say that, a lot of the time I get the response of “I’m doing all that I can, and its still not working/improving!” and that’s where the other half of the equation comes in. The getting used to the fact that you might be MIA for a while while you get your life back together. While it sucks to have to basically have a long distance relationship for months-to-years, I have yet to find a way that forces the astral to cooperate on command. Sometimes life is shit, and you just have ot do what you have to do to get by. And sometimes that means taking a leave of absence from astral work/life, etc.
In my situation, my household knows that my health and my life took a shit, and as such, they’ve been patient while waiting for me to figure out a way to manage everything. No one is happy about it, but we knew that there were no alternatives, and at the very least, I know that I can exist here in the physical while knowing they’re minding my p’s and q’s while I’m away. I think that having that piece of mind while you recover/improve/work on things is helpful, because its one less thing for your mental illness to latch onto. It also creates an expectation for everyone involved, so that way everyone can prepare for it as needed.
From there, I still send check-ins to them. I have no clue if they get them, but I send them all the same. I still do things that make me think of them. I still find ways to keep them close to me physically, even though I can’t go over there with any amount of regularity at this point. You may find that these small actions help you to feel less isolated, and it may help to keep you close to them, even if you can’t directly access them.
Beyond this, you may find the “importance of stability” post and the “worshiping the unknown” post helpful for ideas on ways to maintain/strengthen your relationship with them during this period in your life. Keep in mind that nothing will keep you away forever, and that while this period may suck hard, odds are once your mental health or life situations improves, you’ll be able to go back to your partner/astral life and pick up where you left off, etc.
I wish I had more useful advice/things to say, but this is honestly what I’ve been dredging through for the past two years, and yeahhhhhhh.
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