Denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance.
Regardless of facts if one should categorize the 5 stages under grief/loss or acceptance. We can learn a lot as we reflect on our life,
Suffering from alcoholism or any addiction.
As we embarked on our journey in recovery and work the 12 Steps we experience change in ourselves. The wonderful miracle the 12 Steps offer of self discovery, unveiling our new spirit, a new found freedom we have never known before, allows us to reflect back noticing we experienced the same 5 stages.
We can further understand why it states in the Big Book, we suffered from a spiritual malady.
Through closely examining our Big Book, along with much experience and practice with our Twelve Steps, as well as vigorous work with other alcoholics, the “missing piece” of Step 1 appears to be what is referred to on page 64 as the “spiritual malady.”
The unmanageability that the 1st Step is pointing to is the INWARD unmanageability of our lives -
There are many names for this “inward unmanageability”.
Page 64 simply refers to this “inward unmanageability” as “the spiritual malady.”
Our book promises us that “When the spiritual malady is overcome, we straighten out mentally and physically.” The mental and physical factors of alcoholism are put into remission AFTER the “spiritual malady” is overcome -
which means I’m still in danger of drinking until I have a spiritual awakening -
“THE FOURTH DIMENSION”
This “fourth dimension”, which we find out in the 10th Step is the “world of the Spirit”, takes us beyond the physically, mental, and emotional dimensions of life - and eliminates the selfishness (ego) of the “spiritual malady.”
The term “spiritual malady” does not mean that our “spirit” is sick. It simply means we are spiritually blocked off from the Power of God, which enables us to remain sober, happy, joyous, and free.
Unless this malady is recognized, and a course of action (the Twelve Steps) is taken to enable God to remove it, the root of our alcoholic (addiction) illness can lie dormant and burn us when we least expect it.
Thank God we have been blessed with the Promise in Step 2, restored to sanity; in order to realize we traveled through the 5 stages in order to get to THE STAGE.